The Real Housewives of New Jersey (2009–…): Season 9, Episode 10 - From Turkey with Love - full transcript

As Jennifer departs for Turkey to celebrate her brother's engagement, Danielle sends Margaret a text that could end their forever friendship. Dolores hosts a charity event for women in ...

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- Thank you for coming!

Let's get this party started!

- My brother's getting engaged.

- Oh, my god.
- So we're going to turkey.

- You know, daddy never told me
when he got disbarred.

- Wow. He told me.

- You talk to me like
I'm the ----ing worst.

I just can't ----ing do that
anymore.

- "does giving too many gifts
create spoiled children?"

written by jackie.



- She's talking about jennifer.

- Why would you write
an article that references

my kids to being spoiled?

- I didn't say one negative
thing about your children.

- It's not that simple.

This is not done.
It's not done, all right?

- You feel like your husband
would be in jail

if you could control
what he did?

I hope at some point we can
get together and talk.

So, if I call you,
you'll answer?

[bright music]

- I can make you laugh

or make you cry.

Your choice.



- Don't try to bully me.

Go free!

'cause I'm a boss.

- I have four kids,
two degrees,

and one kick-ass life.

- I may put up a tough front,

but I'll never
leave you behind.

- I'm obsessed with family,
traditions,

and chanel.

- These days,
I don't throw punches.

I roll with them.

♪ ♪

[upbeat music]

♪ ♪

[playful screaming]

- what's up with your face?

- I'm thanos.

- You're who?

- You wouldn't understand.

- [scoffs]

- do you remember justin has
his induction on Wednesday

for the bergen academy?

- I don't.
- I knew you didn't.

And then there's a mandatory
picnic that he has to go,

but I'll write
all these things down.

I'm just really excited.

I mean, the last time I was
in turkey

was, like, six years ago.

- Yeah.
- My mom's already there.

My brother should be coming
tomorrow.

I'm sad that
you're not coming, though.

- I know.

Sort of a short notice,

it's hard for me
to schedule it.

- I know.

It's disappointing to me

that bill is not going
to turkey

for the
promise-of-engagement party.

I would love it if you could

spend some quality time
with the kids.

Do you know I get nervous
when I'm not around,

'cause then I'm not here
to, like, remind you?

My husband works really hard,
but sometimes I feel like

he allows that to be
his hall pass.

I mean, I'm not
a single parent here.

You know, I didn't get
into this mess by myself.

Olivia's gonna be really sad
when I'm not here at night--

- I know, she's the one
who'll be heartbroken.

- So just make sure you
can coddle her a little bit.

Oh, don't do that, baby,
please.

There's something I kind of
have to tell you,

but I've been avoiding
telling you.

- What is it?

- One of my friends, jackie,
she's a writer.

She wrote this article--
let me just get an ipad.

- Okay.

- Whoa, mom!

- Want me to lift you up
by your neck?

- Mom!

- Justin, stop that.

That day that we had
the kids' party...

- Right.

- I was renting, like,
a bouncy castle

for them and stuff.

- Can we just talk about this,
like, bouncy house

inside your indoor
basketball court?

- Why don't you just read it?

- Wow.

"when kids come here,
they never want to leave."

you do use that a lot,
don't you?

[chuckles]

it's absolutely correct.

Nothing wrong with the article.

She makes valid points.

- But she's referencing
our kids.

I know bill says I spoil
the kids.

I got presents.

- Don't we need
special occasions for presents?

- But here we have someone
who wrote an article

attacking how we're raising
our kids.

And I think he should have
my back on this one.

How could you say she made
valid points?

If you want to come at me,
I'm ready.

But you can't touch my kids.

- I can see how
you're emotional

about that aspect of it.

- I just feel it's so below
the belt.

But, um, I'm not gonna think
about that right now.

My brother's getting engaged.

I'm gonna think about
good things.

And I'll deal with it
when I get back.

- I bet you will.

[exciting music]

♪ ♪

- so how's it feel
to be home, frank?

- It feels nice.

- Frankie, it felt like you
were gone forever.

- Yeah.

- Are you excited to see
the house we're flipping?

- How's she look?
- You're gonna be impressed.

- Guys, let me just
set it straight.

You're home, frankie,
you know I'm gonna be on ya.

Getting ready for the show,
so, mom, do me a favor,

please let me have my way
with frankie for a month.

- Right, coming from the former
mr. New jersey,

who's living vicariously
through you right now, frank.

- Wait, what the (bleep)
are you talking about?

Oh, my god.

- Frank's a little bit
of a control freak.

So, when he's training frankie
for this fitness competition,

it's either his way
or the highway.

- Mom, do me a favor--

- frank, do me a favor,

don't get carried away
with yourself.

- Me?
- Yeah.

- How am I getting carried away
with myself?

- Don't be too hard on him.

- [laughs]

- jesus, she's in one of these
----ing moods today.

Oh, my god,
listen, frankie,

you're gonna
do fine, all right?

- We're here.
- All right.

[bright music]

♪ ♪

- all right, guys.

- It looks amazing.

I like the color of the house,
dad, it's nice.

- It looks good, right?
- It's gonna sell quick, frank.

- I know it is.

- And then you're gonna
appreciate me as a partner.

- Here you go,
here's your master bedroom

with a his-and-hers
walk-in closet.

- This whole house was down
to the studs.

This is gonna be beautiful.

- Master bath.
- This is great.

- Did we get the pebble tile,
or did you stiff me on that?

- This is what I would
normally use.

- I don't want that.
I like the flat stone.

- All right, you got it.

Didn't go with the pebble tile.

I said, "do me a favor,
I need to go

finalize the tile right now."

- and you told me to be there
at 3:00.

At 3:00, I would have
been there,

and then you switched it
till 12:00.

You don't think I know
his tricks by now?

I can get past the fact

that he didn't tell me
about his disbarment,

but belittling my decisions
in a so-called

"equal business" partnership
is not gonna fly with me.

But I should have called
your bluff

and switched my lunch.

But you know what? It was an
important lunch to me.

So I couldn't.
It was for a charity.

For the past two weeks,
I've been planning

an event for the shelter.

I wanted to have, like,
a little beauty event

for you guys.

Thinking, like, you know,
nails, massages.

What do you think?

- That sounds fun.
I haven't done that in forever.

The event is in two days,
and frank is telling me

I haven't done this,
I haven't done that.

You know what, frank?

You sound like an asshole,
so just shut up.

- All right, listen,
we got 30 days to finish,

on the market.

- I'm on it.
I'm on it.

- Yeah, I know, you're on it.

The problem is getting it
from mommy's head

to her hands.

- I can't stand that he talks
like this.

You know, just 'cause people
do things differently

than the way you do them

doesn't mean that they're
not efficient.

- Yeah.
You're doing an amazing job.

I would love to flip houses
one day like you guys.

- Don't make the mistakes
I made.

Don't buy boats, all right?

Don't spend your money
on whores, all right?

And everything else.

That's why we make mistakes--

- did you have fun though,
frank?

'cause you looked--
- absolutely.

- While I was sitting back
raising this,

as I saw you driving
up and down the bay

with all the whores hanging off
the boat.

When frank and I aren't
getting along,

we bicker over the past almost
like an old married couple.

It's really just not good.

- So how did you, like, stay
close with him

and put all these other people
behind dad,

even though he did
all of the to you?

- Let me ask you a question.

- No.
- Never.

- But even in the moment
that happened,

she always put you first.

- Because of you
and your sister.

- You and gabby are happy,
that's our biggest thing.

- Yeah.
- Okay?

- But mom really deserves
to come first now.

- Aw, little frankie.

All right?
- That's fine.

Love you guys.

- Don't--don't give him
a hard time, frank.

- I know, here we go,
back to the "hard time."

let's go.
Come on, I got to go.

Careful down the stairs,
'cause honestly,

you're not gonna sue me.

- Wouldn't be the first time.
[laughs]

[easygoing music]

♪ ♪

- can I have iced coffee?

Do you have an skim milk?
- Yeah, we do.

- Can I have just a drop?

Thank you.

I'm definitely not intimidated
by teresa,

but I just hope that it's not
another scream-fest.

- How ----ing dare you?

- Okay, relax with the cursing,
all right?

- No, I ----ing curse.

You don't ----ing like it,
too ----ing bad.

- I want her to know
that she can never speak to me

the way that she spoke to me.

[dramatic music]

♪ ♪

hi.
- Hi.

- Do you--
do you want coffee or...?

- Yeah, yeah.
- Okay.

- Hold on, I'll put this down.

Um, I'll just have a coffee,
thank you.

- So, um, I wanted you
to, um...

Meet me so I can talk to you.

Like, all of this needs to be
settled out.

I think that...
- Thank you.

- What you did to me
at margaret's house

is--is not excusable.

I don't get spoken to
like that.

I'm a grown woman,
I have a lot of self-respect.

I was like, "what the (bleep)?"

- because, listen, you came
at me first.

Is she ----ing delusional?

I didn't start with her.

Everyone knows my situation,

and no one would throw that
in my face.

- But is that the way you argue
with people?

- If they piss me off, yeah.

- This is the problem,
because if you didn't intend

to be disrespectful
by screaming in my face,

why would you say, "you've been
here for five minutes.

"if you want to make it
to ten minutes,

I'd watch your mouth."?

Which, to me, sounded like
a threat.

♪ ♪

- well, it's not a threat.

I felt like you were being
insensitive.

Like, that's not something
you should bring up.

- Can I explain something
to you?

I was saying that you
are such a strong woman,

that if a woman was capable
of controlling

her husband's actions,
there is no way

you would have let that happen.

- It didn't come off that way,
but--

- can you just agree that maybe
I disrespected you,

but you also disrespected me?

- But if you didn't make
that comment...

You should have just used
a different analogy.

- Maybe my viewpoint on it

might be a little bit
different,

because my parents had
their own issues with the irs,

and my dad went away
for six months.

And both my parents
were on house arrest.

Like, when my mom
had an ankle bracelet on,

like, we used to laugh
about it.

- I'm living it right now.

My kids live with it every day,
and it really hurts them

that their father's not here.

- I did not mean to hurt you.
For that, I am sorry.

We may have a beef again
in the future,

because we are both
very strong, type-a women,

but I will never bring up
that situation again.

- I hear what she's saying,

but this is strike two
for jackie.

I'll give her a second chance
for now,

and we'll see how this game's
gonna play out.

Believe me, I've gotten
more namaste.

I used to be
a little bit crazier.

- All right, all right.
- So...

- All right.

- That was calm for me
when I'm pissed.

- Coming up...

- Tonia, you better look
at the prices,

because you got to see what
you can afford

owning a boutique.

- You're insulting me,
that's not cool.

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♪ ♪

- hi, how are you?
- Hi.

- Take a step forward.

I want it straight up and down.

- [grunts]
- hi.

- How are you, teresa?
- How are you doing? Good.

- Good.
- Hi.

- What's up?
- How are you?

- What are we going,
to a disco?

- No, it's--it's my jacket.

- All right.

- Frankie, when's
your competition?

- Same day.
- I mean, it's great.

Is he ready?

- No, he's not ready. No.

- No?
- No.

- I still got another, like,
ten pounds I got to dry out.

- Really?
- Yeah.

- Worse thing you can have
is your father as a coach.

I never lost my weight class,

so my son's not going into
his fist show

and not winning, all right?

- I have to say thank you
to you.

Tara, she was a great coach.

- Keep your chest up.
- Okay.

- Perfect.

- It's hard, she lives
far away.

I have to drive a lot.
It's really time consuming.

But now I'm working out
with the powerhouse.

- And don't forget--exactly.

- I ran into frank
at my nephew's communion.

I'm freaking out.

- You can't freak out,

'cause then your cortisol
levels raise.

That stops you
from getting defined.

- Really?
- Yes.

- Oh, my god, okay.
- So, you got to chill.

- He's just so knowledgeable
about everything,

and my one trainer lives
so far way.

So I asked frank to help me
get over the homestretch.

- I'm gonna do triceps
real quick, all right?

- Bye, honey.
- Bye.

Good luck.
- Thank you, you too.

- If you hear teresa crying,
don't call anybody.

All right?
- Yeah.

- I want to do legs today.
- You're gonna regret that.

Know how to do up-downs?
- Yeah.

Let's go.

The quicker we go,
the more that you burn.

- I have three weeks left
before

the bikini fitness competition.

- Squeeze, squeeze your ass.

- All the hard work that
I'm putting in...

Oh, my god, I never did legs
like this before.

- I want you to wake up
tomorrow morning and say,

"damn that frank."

- I'm finally seeing
the results.

[grunts]
- no pain, no gain.

Don't you quit on me.

Don't you--
- I'm not.

Hold it there.
Don't let it down.

Don't let it down.

Ah, look it--we're shaking.
It hurts good.

Down slow.
Excellent.

All right, stand up.
- Oh, mercy.

Stand up, shake it out.

Going over by dumbbells now.

Come on, squeeze the ass.

Like yoga.

- Yogi's don't believe
in lifting weights.

- I know they don't,
I know they don't.

- But I incorporate it,

'cause it's a great
stress-relief for me.

- It's got to help you
with joe being away.

- It really does.

- So did you tell joe
that I was training you?

- No, but I think he would be
fine with it 'cause it's you.

If it was another guy,

I don't think we would
have liked it.

- Are you serious?
- Yeah.

One more.

Squeeze your ass when you
come up.

Now, listen, let's talk
about where we're going.

- Okay.

- This ain't no joke,
we got three weeks.

- Yes.
- All right.

Looking at you, we probably
got about another 12 pounds.

- I got to lose 12 more pounds?

- Yes.
- How do I do this?

He wants me to lose 10 more
pounds--12 more pounds.

- It's my reputation,
all right?

So, when I go up there,
I need you to look good.

- So, yeah, I mean,
I'm nervous.

Like, what happens
if it doesn't happen?

- I'll turn around
and say,

"teresa, I don't think you're
ready to step onstage," okay?

Right now
what my intentions are--

you're gonna be ready,
and we're going to the show.

- Oh, my god, if I get my ass
to where it's supposed to be,

I'll be so happy.

[laughs]

[exciting music]

♪ ♪

- I love being back in turkey.

We used to go back
every summer

when I was little.

And being here,
my heart is filled with--

we call it sherif.

It's like your pride.

I was born in queens,
new york.

My mother and father came here
from turkey

to try to give their children
a better life.

But, you know, we still
grew up

in a strong culture
and community

with turkish traditions
and values

that I hope to instill
in my own children.

[doorbell rings]
- oh!

- Hi.

Hi.
Hi, baby.

- You're squishing me!
- Hi, baby.

- Where's olivia?

- I didn't bring olivia,
just me.

[all speaking turkish]

seeing my family in turkey

just really
makes me appreciate my roots.

Like culture, respect,
tradition.

I'm here, mom.

I wouldn't miss this
for the world.

And everybody's so welcoming,
and there's just so much love.

- Oh, my god.

- Yeah.

No?

Well, we need them to get
married soon

so she can come to america.

In a traditional
turkish culture,

we like to close the deal fast.

The engagement party happens,
and then we plan a wedding.

And, you know, technically,
there's no sex till marriage,

so they want to get
on that bandwagon.

- This is the casting.

It's 18-karat gold.
These are the diamonds.

[laughter]

[upbeat music]

- wait till you see this place,
my little birthday boy.

♪ ♪

- unbelievable.

♪ ♪

- oh, perfect, thank you.

That's joey's seat,
he's the birthday boy.

- Look how sweet that is,
mother and daughter.

- I love to spend time
with my daughter

when she doesn't have
her cell phone in her hand.

- Hi, guys.

Can I get you guys started
with anything to drink?

- Yes, the kids know
what they want--

- the ocean-blue one.
- I want this one.

- You want that one, too?

- Did you say "please"?
- I'll have the ocean blue.

- And I'll have a tito's
on the rocks.

- Okay.

- I think I'm gonna do
the banana-chunk martini.

- Okay.
- Thank you.

So, joey, you're eight years
old now.

We have to decide what you
want to be when you grow up.

- You're gonna own
daddy's buildings, right?

That's what he's gonna do.

Tonia, what are you gonna do?

The other day you were like,
you want to go own a boutique.

So what do you want to do,
antonia?

- I'm gonna do the same thing
mom's doing.

- What, is your mother
brainwashing you?

Do you want to build buildings,
make some big money?

Or you want to sell a shirt?

- That's--no.
- No, that's not nice.

- Oh.
- Whoo!

- Did you guys get a chance
to look at the menu?

- Tonia, you better look
at the prices,

you got to see what you can
afford owning a boutique.

- You're insult--joe.

- See, I don't look
at the price.

- Hello, joe,
you're insulting me.

Like, I'm sitting right here.

- I'm not insulting you.
- No, it's kind of rude.

It's your son's birthday.
Don't be rude.

- [chuckles]
I'm just--

- stop, dad.

- I want to order pancakes,
two chocolate chip pancakes.

- I'm gonna do
the new york strip.

- Okay.
- All right, I'll try that.

- Thank you.
- Thank you.

- Tonia, I'm just saying
I'm working so hard

to build a company so you guys
make money.

- Joe, stop.

- In retail, you only make
enough money to wear clothes.

- Listen to me, nothing irks
my skin

more than what you just did.

It gets me very upset when he
talks like that

in front of my daughter.

I want her to be strong.

I want her to be independent.

And I'm trying to be
an example of the for her,

and I don't like when he comes
and pisses all over it.

- What, honey?
I'm only busting her chops.

- She's watching her mother,
she's proud of her mother.

Leave her alone.

- Joey is the birthday king!

All:
Hey, hey, hey, hey,

hey, hey, hey...

- Smile! Blow it out, joey!
Make a wish!

Make a wish.

- Happy birthday
to the hot man.

- Are you kidding?

- Coming up...

- Danielle was a lot
at the wedding.

- Look at these text messages.

"you bulldoze your way
through everything

and take people down."

- wow.
- And then I wrote--

"I wish you a happy life,
never speak to me again."

- oh.

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[upbeat music]

♪ ♪

[doorbell rings]

- ah.
- Guess who it is.

- Hi!
- Hello!

Baby!

I haven't been to turkey
in six years.

I mean, the last time I went
was for my cousin's wedding

where my brother and I actually
ended up meeting melda.

- I miss you so much.
- I miss you, too.

Oh, english, then?
You can speak.

- Eh, a little, sometimes.
- Okay, good.

- I'm gonna help you practice

since you're gonna come
to new jersey soon.

We are sisters now.

- In a culture like ours,

when melda marries into
my family,

she's instantaneously
going to become my sister.

You know, unlike some families
in jersey.

Young love.

- Let's go.
- Let's go.

[upbeat music]

♪ ♪

- okay.
- Okay.

Let's go.

♪ ♪

are you nervous that you
have to move to america?

- No, I am so excited.

- You're excited?
- Yes.

[cell phone ringing]

- that's probably my brother.

Yes, it is--michael.

Hey, we're pulling up.

I think it's gonna be
a little bit difficult

for melda to adapt
when she gets to america,

'cause in turkey,
melda's used to

the traditional role of women.

Let's go.

But when she comes to america,
she's going to see

a whole new world,

and that can change a person.

- [ululating]

- and I know my brother
definitely wants

a traditional wife.

So I'm hoping that when
she comes here,

if she wants to branch out
and explore different options

that he's gonna be supportive,

because you do what you must
to make a marriage work,

no matter what.

[laughter]

[exciting music]

- could you guys grab the sh--?

Let's start getting
the goodie bags moving.

Because, you know, dolores
is putting together

this beautiful charity event
tomorrow

for a homeless shelter.

So we're donating things.

- I can use some help.

- Anything, we could do
little gift baskets.

- Awesome, thank you.

- Melissa and jackie
are gonna help

pack the goodie bags,

and they're gonna
donate stuff also.

- That's really nice, though.
- Okay, you're gonna help me?

- Yes.
- What are you doing?

You got to put the other--
- oh, I forgot.

I forgot, sorry.
Sorry, my darling.

- I think you have short-term
memory loss.

[chuckles]

okay, seriously?

W-w-wait, wait, wait, stop.

It's upside down.

- No?
- Yes, it's upside down.

- Oh, marleny.
- Make it beautiful.

[laughing]
I mean, what are you--

look.
- Oh, oh, oh, I forgot.

- Yeah, this might not be
your specialty,

making goodie bags--
fyi, lexi.

- [laughing]

- so all the cosmetic bags
are good.

I'll make 30, just in case.
- Yeah.

- Look how fabulous.
[doorbell rings]

ooh.

- Hi, babe.
- Hi.

- Oh, you look so cute.

- Mwah. Good to see you.
- You look beautiful.

- Thank you.

Oh, I'm very casual 'cause
we're stuffing the goodie bags.

- All right.
I love coming to your house.

- Oh, my god, please.

My house has not been finished,

because super-slow joe
has no sense of speed

when it comes
to our house renovations.

[scoffs]

- hi.
- Hi, jackie.

What's going on?

How are you?
- This is jackie.

- Jackie, oh, my god.

Nice to meet you. Marleny.
- It's a pleasure.

- Ooh, melissa's here.

- Oh, thank you, sweetheart.

- Come in!
You look adorable.

- Hi.
- How you doing?

- You look so cute.

So what do you got
going here?

- We're packing goodie bags.
It looks really good.

- Hi, melissa.
- Hello, gorgeous.

How are you, beautiful?

- You are beautiful.
- Thank you.

- What about the sushi, though?

The girls are hungry.
- Okay.

- Okay.
- Okay.

- She's like,
"back off, bitch."

- I know, right?
I know.

I told her about jennifer.

I was like,
"um, just so you know,

one of my other girlfriends
checks the bag."

- my nannies,
before they leave,

I do random bag check.
- Oh, my god.

- She goes, "I tell her,
(bleep) you."

I was like,
"all right, that's right."

- jennifer's not coming,
is she?

- No, no, no, no, no, no.
- Oh, okay, good.

[exhales deeply] I don't think
we left off so great.

- Really?
- At the communion?

- Yeah, jennifer was already
pissy at me.

So I was like,
"you know what?

Let me try to put out
one fire."

right?
- Right.

- So I knew teresa
was leaving,

and so I said, "would you ever
be up for getting together?"

and, like, she was nice.
She was like, "yeah, call me."

you know, so I called her,

and we actually ended up
meeting for coffee.

- That's amazing.
I can't believe you--

- wait a second.
So how did it go?

- It was really...

- I'm gonna start putting
things in little stacks.

- Okay.

So I actually think
both of us

were a little bit upset
by the way that

we acted toward
the other person.

And I think both of us really
wanted to put this behind us.

- Thank god, I'm so happy,

because I'm like, it's--it
was stressing me out.

I am ,like, so happy that
teresa and jackie made up.

But I do love how jackie's
not afraid

to voice her opinion.

I mean, I respect a strong
woman that has an opinion.

And that's who jackie is.

- Okay, excuse me, girls.

The sushi's done.
- Oh, nice.

And I have to fill you in
on all my danielle bullsh--.

But let's do it over food.
- All right, all right.

- Okay, baby girls.
- Okay, thanks you, marleny.

- Okay.
- That looks so good.

- They look crazy.
- Perfect.

- Danielle was a lot
at the wedding.

She showed me a side to her
that I never saw.

- I thought it was supposed
to be about me.

Seriously?
What the (bleep)?

- That side was--whoo.

And the way she treated
someone's children--

you know, the man
she's supposedly in love with.

- His kids don't like me.

If you're not going to
respect me,

stay out of my space.

- I chose you at the detriment
of my relationship with them.

- I would never get between
someone and their kids

in a million ----ing years.

- Do you think it was just
anxiety about the wedding?

- No, she's wacko.
Look at these text messages.

"I'm very confused to what
I've ever done to you.

"you have nothing nice to say
about me to anyone.

"you bulldoze your way
through everything

and take people down."

- wow.
- You know, and then I wrote--

"I wish you a happy life,
never speak to me again."

- oh.
- And she goes--

"I can't believe you're this
person, shame on you."

p.S., next day,
"happy mother's day,

have a wonderful day."

but I didn't answer,
because we're done.

We're never having
this fight again.

You know,
denial's a real thing,

and she ----ing is cleopatra.

[laughter]

- coming up...

- Jennifer thought that
her brother

was never gonna get married.

- Okay, so this was, like,
last licks?

Like, she could be mail-order.

[upbeat music]

■■■■■■■■■■■■■■ ♪ ♪■■■■■■■■■■■■■■

- ooh.
[laughs]

oh, my god, eileen,
it looks amazing.

- [laughs]
thank you.

- This is so nice.

This looks delicious.
It's just beautiful.

Oh, hi.

I'll show you where to set up

the stations for nails
and massage.

I want the women to know what
it feels like to be pampered.

Everyone show know that.

I want a massage from you.

- Hello.
- Hi.

What's your name?
- Dexter.

Can I?
[giggles]

oh, my goodness, you don't look
like a dexter to me.

[laughter]

oh, hello, teresa.
- Hi.

- Thank you for coming.

- Oh, my god, it's so pretty.
- It looks cute, right?

Isn't it pretty here?
- Yeah.

I have margaret bringing
all her macbeth goodie bags.

- That's so nice.
Is jackie coming?

- Yeah, jackie's coming, yeah.

- Okay, 'cause, um,
I talked to her.

- Oh.
- So...

- How'd that go?
- No, we're good.

She apologized.
- Good, okay, good.

- We made up.

- You know,
after our little talk,

I didn't know that jackie
would be able to

swallow her pride
and apologize.

But I'm still not convinced
that she really understands.

- You know, we had
a normal conversation.

I'm like, "see, I can have
a normal conversation."

- well, listen, let me check on
what we're doing here,

because they
should be here soon.

[exciting music]

um, we'll set up water
for them...

- Sure.
- Over there.

♪ ♪

oh, hello, everybody.
Hi.

Hi.
Hi.

How are you?

I love to see you smiling.

Get over here.
- Hi, precious.

- When I was little,
we were taught

give of yourself,
give of your time.

In my time at the shelter,

I've really gotten to know
all these women.

You built yourself a business
once and a home once,

you could do it again.

And I realized that something
they're never able to do

is just to sit back
and take a deep breath.

Hi.
Hi.

And I wanted to give that
to them,

even if it was just
for this one day.

You guys can sit anywhere.
You can start eating.

And then you could sit down

and get your massages
and your nails, okay?

- What?

[indistinct chatter]

- oh, hi. How you doing?
- Hi.

- Good.
- How you doing?

- All right.
You smell good.

I'm really happy that, like,
there's no--

are you feeling okay about us?

- Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Yeah?

All right, good.
- Jackie, thank you for coming.

- Hi.
Oh, you look so nice.

- Thank you.
- This is so thoughtful

and really kind.
- Oh, thank you.

Well, I work with them a lot,
and I see that

nobody does anything for them.

So I want them to have
a nice day.

- Yeah.

- This little boy, jeremiah,

he goes from shelter to shelter
because his grandmother

can't get permanent housing.

- I have a lot of
responsibility of him.

He keeps me going.

- Jeremiah, hi.

So, jeremiah, this is
my friend jackie.

- Hi.
- This is my friend teresa.

- Hi, nice to meet you.

- We've been friends since
we were little.

He calls me aunt dolores.

Can I have a hug?
That's not a hug.

- I think there's two sides
to dolores.

One part of her is a really
tough broad.

You don't (bleep) with dolores.

- I think you should eat
something, no?

What, you ate already?

- Why did you have chips
for breakfast?

- Chips?
That's not a--

- yeah, so...
- Okay, so you need to eat.

Let's go, come on.

- Just a little something,
jeremiah.

They don't get a hot meal,
and they're always hungry.

- But I think the other side
of her

is really soft
and really compassionate.

- Enjoy yourselves.
I want everybody--hello.

- When someone is vulnerable
or needs anything,

she tries to help them,

and I think we relate
to each other over that.

Jeremiah, do you like reading?

My kids complain
when I make them read.

[upbeat music]

♪ ♪

- hi.

- You look stunning. Hi.
- Hi.

- But I just have
so much stuff.

- Look, chocolate chip cookie.

- You want to put it on a cart,
and I can make it look nice?

- Yeah, yeah, let's do that.
- I'll make it look good.

- Oh, those are cute.

Both: Hi. Mwah.

- What's going on?
Hi, teresa.

- How are you?
- Good.

That's nice that you gave
the gift baskets.

- Yeah, it's good
for the ladies, right?

[funky music]

- oh, you guys made it.

- Hi.
- Hi.

I went and got
all, like, toiletries.

- That's really nice.

- Hi.
- Hi.

♪ ♪

- okay, I want
to introduce you.

This is rosie.
- Hi, I'm margaret.

Nice to meet you.

- These two
are very good friends.

Both of them are victims
of domestic violence.

- Oh.

- Yeah, this one,
she's been through a lot.

- You know, I was on my own
since I was 16.

You know, I had a boyfriend
put his hands on me.

I didn't want my daughter
to see me that way.

So I got into a shelter,
and that's when I met rosie.

And rosie helped me
through a lot.

- [voice breaking]
you did the right thing.

But you're so strong,

and you're making
a better way for your kids.

You guys are amazing moms...
And amazing women.

You know, as a mom,
to do whatever they had to do

to protect their children

is so inspirational
and amazing.

I just have such respect
for them

and every woman in this room.

- But I see you both looking
and go,

because they reason I have
these people here

are because of you.

- I was.
- I know, jahnee, I know.

[laughter]

♪ ♪

- how are you?
What's your name?

Hi, I'm melissa.
Nice to meet you, sweetie.

Hi, honey.
What's your name?

You're joseph?
Will you let me hold him?

Hi, cutie pie.

- Are you gonna get any
of the treatments done?

- Yeah.
- I know.

Why don't you get something?

Go ahead,
I'll watch the baby for you.

[squealing]

you little cutie.
[laughs]

♪ ♪

- who's this man-boy?
- Oh, this is joseph.

- Oh, my goodness, you have
the prettiest little hands

I've ever seen.

- So jennifer
couldn't come today

because she's in turkey, huh?

- Yeah, she's in turkey.

- So she went out there
for her brother's engagement?

- Yeah. You know, I guess
it's their culture.

They knew each other two weeks,

and now they're getting
engaged.

- Okay, that's a little crazy.

- But you know what
the culture is--

they don't sleep
with each other,

and you get to know each other
when you marry them.

- What happens if was a dud
the night of their, you know?

- You're right--
if she's old school,

she would stay with him.

- That's a life of torture.

Getting engaged
after two weeks

when you've never, ever
had sex.

That's a little crazy, no?

- But you kind of know.
- Teresa...

- I mean, my father said when
he met my mom, he knew.

My parents got married
after three months.

I think jennifer thought that
he was never gonna get married,

'cause he's 45.

- Okay, so this was like,
last licks?

Like, you know,
marry this guy now,

or it's ----ing over.

- But they did fall
for each other.

She's leaving her whole family
and moving here from turkey.

- Oh, come on, he met her
in turkey?

She could be mail-order.

[laughing]
- I don't know. No.

Margaret's definitely being
judgmental.

You don't know her brother,
you don't know his fiancée.

It's not right to talk about
people's family like that.

- [laughing]
just kidding.

- Coming up...

[all cheering and ululating]

- by this time next year, we
could have a baby on the way.

Maybe, just saying.

No pressure.

[exciting music]

- let me see.
Did you get your nails done?

- Yeah.
- Yeah.

- Nice.

- Good boy.

Good boy.

- I'm gonna hang here
with jeremiah.

Can I hang here with you?

Cool, buddy.

- Hi, everybody--is everyone
enjoying themselves?

All: Yes.

- I'm so happy,
'cause that's what I wanted

for everyone today.

I'm so proud of everybody
for taking strives

to get out of your situation
and better yourselves.

- See, look at all them heads.
Look, they all nodding.

- And I said,
"you know what?

Each and every one of you
are ready

to just let it all pass
and move on.

And that's probably
one of the hardest things

for someone to do.

When you're in a shelter,
you've hit rock bottom.

And my heart goes out to them
for that.

You are enough.

You were enough before,
and you're enough now.

I come from a family
of five children,

parents, 28 first cousins,
friends,

and I know if I needed them,
in a second, they were there.

These women don't have that.

But still, they pick
themselves up

and move on and try to get

to the next chapter
of their lives.

These women are brave.
They're inspirational.

They have more strength
than most people I meet.

So you don't need anybody
to help you build it.

You'll build it again.

So everybody enjoy yourselves,
and thank you.

My friends here
all got together

and made you
these beautiful gift bags.

- Here you go.

Open it up, I'm gonna give you
some makeup.

It's got, like, some
toiletries and stuff, too.

You want some of this stuff?

- Dolores, it's so kind of you
to make an event like this.

This is amazing.
- It's so nice all my friends--

- yeah, no, it is nice.

- That you all came.
I really appreciate it.

- Thank you for having us.

- But anyway,
we were--dolores and I

were facetiming
with jen earlier.

You know she's in turkey?

- Yeah, she's in turkey
for her brother's engagement...

- Engagement party, yep.

- Hi, jen.

- Is today
the engagement party?

Give us the down-low--

if she's gonna be
a good sister-in-law.

Well, trust me,
all sister-in-laws are nice

in the beginning,
then they turn on you.

- [laughs]

- I don't think
she's so happy with me.

- Jennifer's mad at you
about the article.

- She's still upset.

- It can look like you're
judgmental on her parenting.

Maybe if you would have
explained it to her

before it came out...

- No way, because I set
that up as--

here's a woman who gives
her children everything,

and her kids turned out great.

"'when kids come here,
they never want to leave,'

my friend proudly announced."

- beautiful,
that's a compliment.

- "which, I'm also guilty
of buying

"my kids a lot of gifts,
so I'm not faulting

"my friend for her generosity.

"I just hope that
her children remain

the sweet kids that I met
at the door."

that's it, there was nothing
bad in there.

- Well, I'm sure you'll have
the chance to tell her.

- When is she coming back?
'cause then I could--

- I think she might
come home tomorrow.

- I think I'll call her.
Maybe I'll text her.

- Yeah, that would be nice.

- I feel like I just had
these conversations about you.

[laughter]

[upbeat music]

♪ ♪

[indistinct chatter]

♪ ♪

- [speaking turkish]

hi. [giggling]

hi. Hi.

The promise of engagement
is actually a lot different

than what we have here
in america,

which is, like, the groom
getting down

on one knee and proposing.

In our tradition,
there's only one person

in the relationship
that be going on knees.

Anyway...

For our culture,
when you get married,

the families marry each other.

And, like, we get as many
family members as we can

to go to the party,
because it shows

the "unitedness"
of the family bond.

- I love your earrings.
- I love my earrings, too.

[laughs]

♪ ♪

since my uncle is the oldest
from our side,

we have to give respect
to the older community,

and he's the one that's gonna
do the official

asking for the girl's hand
in marriage.

Melda and my brother have
already chosen to be together.

So this is just more
of a fun tradition.

You know, sometimes
the bride's family

will play a little, like,
you know, hard to get.

And be like, "well..."

and it's all a joke,
and everybody gets it.

It's just a lot of fun.

[applause]

different to american culture,
where the bride

would accept her proposal,

in our culture,
it's the bride's father.

[applause]

[all cheering and ululating]

traditionally,
for celebration,

we do the chanting--
[ululating]

it's only middle eastern
culture that has it,

and we love it.

Like, the more kid-di-dis,
the better.

[laughter]

[cork pops]
oh, "champaña"!

Let's party!

[all ululating]

[upbeat dance music]

♪ ♪

maybe by this time next year,

we could have a baby
on the way.

Maybe, just saying.

Fingers crossed.
No pressure.

You can't touch her
till you're married.

No, baby, you got to buy
the cow, sweetheart.

[laughing]

- coming up...

The other day,
we were at dolores's event,

and then margaret's like,
"oh, my god.

"how do you get engaged
like that?

She's like a mail-order bride."

[dramatic music]

[easygoing music]

- girls, start getting ready
for dance!

And then nonno will take you!

- Mommy!
- Yeah, let me see.

Oh, my god, I wish I could
do that.

Wait, can you not do that
right here,

please, please, please, please?

Please don't do that!

Okay, good.

That scares me.

I don't want you to break
your beautiful nose.

- [laughing]

- dolores and jennifer's
coming over.

Oh, you know what I should do?

I want them to try
our homemade eggplant.

- You met jennifer
at the communion, remember?

- Yeah.

[knocking at door]

- uh-oh, she's here.

[dog barks]

okay, coming.

All right.

- Hi.
- Hi, sweetie.

- How are you, honey?
- How are you?

- How you doing?
- Hi.

It's so nice to see you.
I miss you guys.

- This is bella.
Hi, bella.

- I got you something
from turkey.

- Thank you.
- A little souvenir.

- Oh, my god,
this is so pretty.

It matches my house.
Look at it.

- It does.
It matches your house.

Your house is beautiful.
- Thank you.

- Papa, say hi to jennifer.

- Hi.
He's very cute.

He reminds me of my father.

- So he's gonna take
audriana to dance.

- That's great.

- Yes, and gia
will pick her up.

[knock at door]
dolores is here.

Hi.
- Hi.

How are you?
- Well, hello.

Hi, bella.
You're so cute.

- Bella likes to greet
everybody at the door.

- Hi. How are you?
Skinny, look at you.

- No, I actually gained--
- wow.

- Oh, look, me and my dad
made homemade

sausage and peppers.

- Oh, nice.

- Do you eat it?
- No.

- You don't even taste it?
- No.

- Like, how do you not even
just taste a little bit?

When I was in turkey,
I ate everything in sight.

- You look great.

- I know, I can't wait to hear
all about

the engagement party.

She was texting me at, like,
3:00 in the morning.

- That was the night
of the party, though.

It was so great.

So, basically, we did
a promise of an engagement.

They rented out a private room
in a restaurant.

Really delicious food.

And my brother's fiancée
decorated it really nice.

Everything was black and white.

- That's beautiful.
- Really nice.

- Like, it sounds
like it's so much arranged.

- It's not arranged,
it's more like setting up,

but as in for marriage.

- Right.

- You don't force anybody
to get married.

- And if you don't like
each other, then it's a no.

- No, if you don't like
each other, then it's a no.

- The other day,
we were at dolores's event.

And then margaret's like,
"oh my god.

How do you get engaged
like that?"

what's that one?

"she's like
a mail-order bride."

- "mail-order bride."
that's very insensitive.

Margaret is just
a sh-- talker.

She's the one calling me out
on something in oklahoma.

Country music?
What a ----ing snore.

- Seriously? You have the worst
manners I think I've ever seen.

- She's the one
who's offensive,

but, you know, that just goes
to show you

how ignorant she is.

Listen, margaret is obviously
very liberal.

She puts it all out there
about her cheating scandal.

If I ever lived anything
like that,

I would not be proud of it.

- You know, people are very
judgmental.

- [scoffs]
in this group?

Hell, yeah.

Jackie put an article
saying--

"can we spoil our children?"

and then using me
as the example.

- But I feel bad, 'cause she
was so good at my event.

- She apologized to me.

- Okay, so that's
a step forward.

- She was like,
"I'm so sorry, I didn't think

it was gonna hurt you
in any way."

but you know what?

Jackie was a little
out of line.

She should have never said
what she said.

I mean, in this group,
kids and husbands

are off-limits.

- Well, I think it's safe
to say that

the three of us here understand
a lot of old-school values.

And the other side of the group
maybe doesn't.

- Right.

- It's not easy to find women

with the same old-school values
and thinking that you have.

So, when you
kind of find that,

you gravitate more towards it,
and you want to hang on to it.

Did you get a text
from her yesterday

to go to a wine tasting?

- I did, I got the text
last night.

I was coming back from turkey,
so I didn't respond right away.

But I'm definitely gonna come
to the wine tasting,

because there's no way I'm not
going to address this with her.

I'm gonna let her understand
where I'm coming from,

because I think
at the end of the day,

this is not done.

Jackie thinks she's got
a way with words,

well, I got a few choice words
for her.

She'll think twice before
she messes with me

or anyone in my family
ever again.

Trust me on that.

- So, anyway, this was so nice.

Thank you so much.
- This was delicious.

- Thank you guys for coming.
- This was so great.

This is such a nice
welcome-home for me.

- And wait, when you
leave my house,

make sure you don't write
a story about me.

[laughter]
- you know better than that.

- Next time on "the real
housewives of new jersey"...

- Oh, my god.

- ♪ I can't wait to grow up ♪

♪ mama said it ain't easy ♪

♪ but I don't care, so what? ♪

[cheering]

- who the (bleep) are you
to come into my home

and use that as content
for an article

about spoiled children?

- I'm not gonna apologize

for you being paranoid,
jennifer!

- I can't relate to people

who have affairs
with married people.

- Wow.
Wow.

- Danielle said margaret
told her

that we shouldn't be trusted.

- Did she say that?
- No, I didn't say that.

- You did say that.

- No, you have a way
of twisting things,

and that's why I can't
associate with you.

[dramatic music]

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