90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days (2017–…): Season 5, Episode 6 - Burns and Betrayals - full transcript

Previously on
Before the 90 Days...

This is, I think,
maybe a great conversation,

but something that
we should be talking about.

But tonight
we just are having fun.

Feels like weird
we haven't done this before.

Is it like a date?

I do feel like this was a
setup with Badmus and Slam T

to sabotage my relationship
with Usman,

and I don't deal well
with shady.

It's up to you if you
are going to be a good man to me.

No.



I feel terrible for not telling him
about taking the birth control pills,

but having another kid can wait.

You're so sweet.

Huh, you know, the toothbrush.

Yeah.

What do you have to tell me?

She knows it's always been a
dream of mine to have kids someday.

This is really big news.

I really don't know where
we're going to go from here.

Well, good morning.

Hi.

How's my little angel?

Just chilling.

- Just chilling.
- Waiting for you.



Come over here, get all cuddly.

Mmm.

So nice that we had last night.

Mmm.

So what do you think, like,
just, I don't know, in general?

I think it was a lot of fun.

You know, you can, you can
do a lot of stuff for your size.

After 13 years of
friendship and meeting in person,

only a couple of days ago,
we finally had sex.

Um, it was not exactly
what I've always imagined.

There was some awkward moments,

I guess, because
I'm a little person

and Caleb is not used to
have sex with little people.

And it just was the matter of
kind of holding me and the position

was not too great
but it was still nice.

Were you ever nervous
about doing that with me?

I wouldn't say nervous, no.

I mean, it's a new thing.

I mean, you might be really...

You could be really used to sex
and good at it, but then this is...

- Something new.
- Something new.

It's like, it's a monkey
wrench of sorts,

you don't know what to expect.

- Monkey what?
- So it could get in someone's head.

That was an expression,
monkey wrench.

Okay.

I don't know where
that comes from,

but it's like a curve ball
or a surprise,

something
you can't really predict.

Ah, okay, okay, okay.

Oh, well.

Being with a little
person, to some degree,

feels almost like
being a virgin.

There's a lot you don't
think of in terms of position,

size, what's acceptable.

Like, I want to treat
Alina well,

but I'm trying to also navigate
what might feel demeaning

because of our size difference.

Like, is it okay
if I throw her around a lot?

Does she want more autonomy?

And then having sex, some
positions don't work the way

you would expect
with a tall person.

Her own legs being bent...

changed some of the options when you
have to figure out new ways of doing things

but it was a lot of fun
and we definitely need to do

it more to make
it natural to us.

I didn't hurt you, did I?

No, I liked it.

It was enjoyable.

Enjoyable, that's like what
you say when you're like,

"Oh, that person is nice."

No, it was really amazing.

Are you trying to keep
me on my toes?

- Mm-hmm.
- You got some game.

I got... I want to... like,
I want to make you work.

I'm just like...

I mean, I was nervous,
that's for sure,

because I really thought maybe
something would go wrong and then

we can't be friends like
we were any more.

That never occurred for me.

Oh.

Being intimate, I feel like
only opened us up further.

Yeah.

I'll tell you what...

What?

We've been here a while.

What do you say we get up
and we do some sightseeing?

Oh, yeah.
We got to.

Although, it's nice to be
in bed with you.

All right.

I feel that the chemistry is
there, and I'm very happy about it,

but it still bothers me that
he won't talk about our future

and we don't have
a lot of time together,

so I need some
certainty from him.

It goes both ways.

Stinky.

Okay, which Sojaboy
shirt am I going to wear today?

A couple of days ago, I
met Usman for the first time

after talking online
for almost a year now.

But since I've been here
with Usman in Tanzania,

we really haven't had
that much time to, like,

spend one on one time together.

He still hasn't kissed me and
he still hasn't stayed in my room.

It is me, Sojaboy's,
USB entertainment.

I could be one
of his dancers in his video.

My butt is bigger
than theirs, I'm sure.

Today is Usman's video shoot for
the song Zara, and I'm so excited.

Seeing Usman in action
today and his video shoot

is one of the reasons
I came here.

Yeah.

I just want to be like
his support system

and his little cheering system.

Like, if he gets tired,
I'll be like,

"You got this,
you can do this."

I want to be
that support for him today.

He's not here.

How are you late
for your own video shoot?

But I'm ready.

We got to hurry, we
got to hurry, we don't have time.

This is going too, right?

- Which one?
- The red?

Yes.

All of them are going.

Yay.

All right. Yeah, let's go.
Let's go. Let's go. Let's go.

No time.

You know?

Hi. You're going to be
late for your own shoot.

- Hello. Good morning.
- Good morning.

Good morning.

Thank you.

But it is strange because
the song is about my ex-girlfriend Zara,

and Kimberly doesn't know
anything about her.

I had strong feelings for her, but
she could not handle my female fans,

so she broke up with me.

- Are we here?
- Yes.

Yay.

It's going to be beautiful.

- Hello.
- Bro...

Good.
Welcome on the set, bro.

Okay, bro.

There's no power.

- Where?
- Here.

No.
He didn't.

You can't say he is
good if he is not good.

He didn't get it right here, like
right here and right there, it's crazy.

He's not done at all.

Can we, like, plug that in in
here, like over here somewhere?

Come here for a sec.

It's stupid. You deserve
way better than this.

Yeah, just take this off.

Don't get your hair all over me.

So I'm confused.

Don't you all plan better like,

this stuff
should've been done like

two days ago, his outfit
choices and all that.

Or am I wrong?

Because this just seems like really
unorganized, this is terrible.

I'm embarrassed for him.

It doesn't seem handled.

It seems very, very flustered.

I came to Tanzania
because I know

how much this video
means to him,

and I want to prove to Usman that I
can be there for him if he needs me.

But if this team doesn't
get it together soon,

they're going to see
another side of me.

Boss lady Kim is going
to come out

and they don't want to see that.

But the clothing
and like looking for stuff,

we don't know
where things are at.

Like, that's crazy.

No, I don't, I don't need
to listen because I know

what I'm seeing right now.

I am not going to put up
with their bull.

This is ridiculous.

I haven't told
Hamza about my past because

I don't know
how he's going to react.

Um, she had a problem
with the drugs.

Your ex-wife.

Are you still her?

No.

Yes, you are.

Just call the bitch,
stay with her.

Jasmine's behavior is
totally unwarranted and a little scary.

You always made me look crazy.

- I never...
- Yes, you do.

You are always defending
that goddamn bitch!

I'm in Tunisia
with my fiancee and his family.

I've been here for a few days
now and it's really nice to finally get

some alone time together.

Things between Hamza's
mom and I have been a little bit rocky.

Sit down.

But after last night, I feel like
she's really trying to find a way

to accept me and get to know me.

I have a problem.

I got a problem.

I have to poop.

Well...
Poop.

I have to poop,
my stomach hurts.

Can we go poop?

- Uh...
- Is there a bathroom?

Right, maybe one.

Yes.

Yes, I'm still pooping.

No, not yet.

Almost.

Me done.

That was a long.

My body is not reacting
the best way to Tunisia.

But I mean, what can I do?

You know,
this is what I signed up for.

Thank you.

What is this?

Okay.

Yeah.

What about my past
do you want to know?

Before, yeah what?

Oh, are you talking about
like when I was a kid?

Oh.

I haven't told Hamza about
my past before I came to Tunisia

because I would rather
talk to him in person

because it is a sensitive topic
for me, so it was hard to open up.

But him knowing my past
before we get married is important.

It's just I don't know
how he's going to react.

I don't know, she used
to not be a good mother.

She had a problem
with the drugs.

Drugs, you know,
smoke drugs, bad drugs.

Yeah.

But she's better now.

On drugs.

Yes, sell drugs.

Lock... locked up.

Long time, years,
till I was like 30.

So abandonment, like, you
leaving me is a, is a hard thing.

It's a lot, huh?

Lots.

Now that I've opened
up about my past to Hamza,

I feel a lot more vulnerable.

But seeing how emotional
Hamza got really touched my heart

and it really makes me feel
like it's okay to be open with him

and I hope he can be just as
open with me before we get married.

Okay.

I've been in Panama with my
girlfriend, Jasmine, for a few days now.

Show me how you do it.

Yesterday was Christmas, and
Jasmine is upset because she gave me

some custom, very well
thoughtful gifts, and she feels like,

you know, I should have
got her more than

just the power toothbrush
I gave her.

It definitely put a damper
on the rest of Christmas.

And even this morning, I can
tell that she's still a little upset.

And so I decided to tag
along with Jasmine to the gym,

hoping that it would cheer
her up a bit.

Is that considered a set?

Is that one set, or what
are you working on today?

I don't like anyone
telling me anything.

Okay?

Mm-hmm.
Yeah.

Yeah, I understand.

Baby, I wasn't happy about

And the best way
for you to make it up...

How much is this going
to cost, do you know?

Hmm.

He made a mistake
about not giving me any Christmas gift.

Now I'm going to give
myself a Christmas gift

and I'm going to pick up
something expensive.

Yeah, I just...
you know.

I wish we... we could have
spoke about the cost part of it.

That's cheaper than any
other trip that you have taken

before with other women.

You're worth it to me,
so I'll do it.

That's how I like it.

I think it's a little bit
unreasonable for her to book

this expensive trip to the island
because it cost me a lot of money

just to travel to Panama, the
flight, hotel, and food cost for us,

entertainment and all that jazz.

I deserve it, right?

Yeah, you do, absolutely.

But when I think about it, it's like
Jasmine, you know, it means more to me

than how much money I'm
going to spend on this trip.

So the money really
shouldn't even matter.

How do you feel?

Awesome and happy.

And especially because
we're going to the island.

Let's do it.

I want to take you
somewhere really,

and that's going to knock
your socks off.

But what I really want...

What's the purpose for that?

Because you still
have that in your house.

Talking about his exes just
make me think about all the stuff

that he has in his house...

And I don't like it.

Who's going to combine
red and baby blue?

What was she thinking?

Um, the colors
look good in that, I believe.

That's my opinion, but...
I don't know.

Who picked the colors?

It was kind of like
a combination...

between us.

And you want me to be there?

You're sitting and having breakfast
looking at those colors and it's like,

"Oh, this is so lovely"?

Is that what you want me to do?

I deserve to pick up the goddamn
colors, because in a few days

I have you more
than she did in seven years.

You don't need to say
bad things like...

I'm not saying anything bad.

Isn't it real, you told me that.

Yeah, just, you know, you don't
have to say nasty stuff like that.

Why do you defend her so much?

I'm not defending her, I'm
just saying there's no reason

to talk bad about her.

You're her lawyer or what?

And I just don't care.

Tell me the truth.

No.

This is the same Gino, you.

Just call that
bitch, stay with her.

You got me sick.

It's always the same.

It's always the same.

You always make me look crazy.

- I never said...
- Yes, you do.

You're always defending
that Goddamn bitch

and you're comparing me
to her all the time.

This was the most
upset I've seen Jasmine.

So, uh, it's kind of new for
me, and I... it's a little scary.

It shocks me how, uh,
Jasmine can get really upset

at a moment's notice.

To be honest, her emotional
instability gives me concern

about our future, and I really
don't know where we go from here.

That's so...

I've been like talking to someone
online, but we haven't met yet.

Have you guys video
chatted at all?

Uh, no.

I think Ben
is so desperate to find love,

he's willing to believe
anything.

Let's check what
the caliper has to say.

About 24% body fat.

So how much do you
think I weigh?

205?

I wish 205.

My name is Benjamin.

I'm 52 years old and I'm
from Frazier, Michigan.

I would describe myself as... it is
going to take a little time, hold on.

I never even really
thought about it.

I am optimistic, hard worker
and I love taking care of my body.

All right, here we go.

Wow!

203.

That is good news.

That is good news.

Recently, I got into fitness
modeling after a coworker

said, "Hey, you want
to make an easy $400 an hour?

They're looking for old
dudes that have abs,"

and I'm like, I can do that.

I like modeling.

But sometimes it feels super weird
because when I was growing up,

I was taught that our bodies
were sinful and almost evil because

I grew up in a fringe religion of a
mainstream Baptist denomination

that was very much like a cult.

The church, not only
controlled me, but my family.

I wasn't allowed
to watch television.

We weren't allowed
to go to the movies.

You couldn't even really have
friends outside of the church.

You could not step
out of place, if you did,

you were castigated and shunned.

I faced life with just fear.

But I definitely wanted to go to
heaven, so I decided to be a pastor.

And I married my church
children's ministry partner.

We had four children,
but we had problems.

And of course, in our belief
system, it was either stay together

or go to an eternal
lake of fire, forever.

So about seven years ago, we left
that religious cult in an attempt to save

the marriage,
and we did seek counseling,

but by the time
we did that, it was too late.

It was 24 years of neglect,
so I filed for divorce.

Uh, so this is about a
month old now, got it online.

Most people are going to say that
I am going through a midlife crisis,

but I swear that's not true.

After I left my wife and the
church, I was completely lost.

I did a lot of,
like, soul searching.

I never lost my faith but it
was very difficult at times,

and I was really, really lonely.

So I got on three
or four dating sites,

but because of my religious
background, I was very inexperienced.

I didn't understand
how to navigate that world.

After several failed
relationships,

I purposefully took about a
year and a half off of dating.

But then a couple of
months ago, I met the most

remarkable woman
I've ever met in my life.

I had started putting some of my
modeling pictures on social media.

I started getting just a ton of
friend requests and then I looked

and saw that one of my friends
was just like, this gorgeous girl,

so I just did a little hand
wave and I got a response.

We started DMing back and
forth, and that has not stopped

in the last 115 days.

My girlfriend's name
is Mahogany.

She is 24 years old and
she is from San Bartolo, Peru.

Mahogany, on the surface, is just
this unbelievably beautiful woman

but when you get to know her, you
find out that that beauty is matched

only by her wisdom,
her maturity.

And despite
the 28 year age difference,

it honestly feels like
Mahogany is my soul mate.

Recently, when I talk to a
woman, as soon as I talk about

Jesus as my savior and I'm not
interested in a sexual relationship

until after marriage, uh, that usually
is something that will turn them off.

And for me to talk freely to
Mahogany about those things

and for her to agree
was just very unusual.

She has a love
for the Lord, as do I.

She has known Jesus for years and
has given us so much to talk about.

So, I just want to see
you face to face.

This is hard, but God always gives
us strength and patience for anything.

And she says life and things
that are worth it are not easy.

Believe me, if I was there,
I would be saying this

with a sweet smile on my face.

She's trying to give me like
the picture of how she's texting.

It's just, it's so sweet.

Mahogany and I text several
times every day and even though her

English isn't perfect, our
communication is still great.

I remember a moment
texting with her late at night,

and one thing she said,
I'll never forget, "Benjamin,

you deserve to be loved
and I want to be that person,"

and, like, I can't describe
for you how that felt.

I think growing up, I didn't
feel like I deserved love,

so she hit a nerve that
no one else ever has,

and it was just, like, magical.

So now in a week, I'm going to
be going to Peru to meet Mahogany

for the very first time
in person.

And I feel like when I see her,

I'm going to be looking
at my future wife.

Hey, guys.

Hi, Ben.
What's up?

What's going on?
How are you?

- Nice to see you.
- Good to see you.

Mahogany is my world right
now, but for the past three months,

I've kept my relationship
a secret from my friends.

Charlie and Jessica are good friends
of mine, and Jason actually used

to be in my youth group back in
the 90s when I was a youth pastor.

Thank you.

And we are really close, so
I really care about what they think.

Jason, you're not going
to finish that whole thing.

Okay, I'm a little jealous.

I probably won't.

Yeah, I'm actually
looking forward to this.

I'm a little hungry,
not gonna lie.

I'm actually counting calories.

Are you cutting or bulking,
right now?

- I am cutting.
- Oh, okay.

Yeah. I just want to look really
good for something that's coming up.

Okay.
What is it?

Pease tell...
it's modeling.

No, it's not that.

Actually, I've been like talking to
someone online, but we haven't met yet.

Where's she from?

She's from Peru.

There is a plan for me
to go and see her.

How long
has this been going on for?

- Yeah.
- I guess it's three months now.

But I mean, the level that
I'm at with her right now,

I've never been
with anyone before.

She's a little younger
than I am.

How much is a little?

She just turned 24.

- She's young, Ben.
- I know.

I know myself when I
was that young, there's no way

that I had that level of
emotional maturity to pursue

this type of relationship.

But I think Ben is so
desperate to find love and to find

this connection that he's
never found before that

he's willing to believe
anything.

Have you talked to her
on the phone yet?

Yeah, twice.

- Twice?
- Yeah.

What about video chat?

No, there's a good
reason for that.

Like, so she's just very shy and
she just doesn't like video chatting,

and I understand that but I insisted
that she send me like a video,

at least a video.

Can we see it?

- Yes.
- All right, let's see this video.

- Yeah, we need to see this video.
- Okay.

Ben,
that's a little bit sketchy.

Well, just to let me know
that she's real and so I believe it.

Has she ever asked
for any money?

Okay.

- Oh, no.
- Oh, no.

Yes, she asked for a loan,
which is different.

A loan is money.

She...
She asked you for a loan?

So did you give it to her?

- Yeah, I did.
- Oh, no.

Ben, I think
you're being scammed.

I really haven't told anyone.

I have been catfished before, and it
took me several weeks to figure out

the person I was talking to,
who was actually a man

that was texting me from Africa.

Yeah.

It really hurt me, actually,
but I know that's not the case

with Mahogany because we just
keep connecting every single day

deeper and deeper,
and you can't fake that.

You don't even know
that she's a real person

or that she's anything
who she says she is.

Listen, if I have to spend
$1000 to find out if she's real...

Was it $1000?

It was... Yeah.

But I want to marry
this girl, I do.

- You love her?
- Yes.

- You're already there?
- I'm already there.

From three months of texting?

Yes.
Yes.

My first marriage was a
very artificial construct,

and we didn't know each other
on that level, and I never got that.

And so I'm getting
that right now.

Given how my friends took
the news about Mahogany,

I'm feeling really stressed out
because tomorrow I'm telling my kids

and I'm really concerned
about how it's going to go.

But what I found with
mahogany is like no one else

and God is in charge of this,
he's led us together

and he's given us
this opportunity,

that love that I just
don't want to pass up.

If you knew that I wanted
to have kids someday

and you not being able
to have kids,

how did you think
this is going to work?

At this point in time,
I'm trying to figure out

if me and Ximena
still have a future together.

Do you
regret having come to Colombia?

Just don't know.

He had told me
that he just turned 28.

You're 26.

So you lied?

I flew all the way
over here and he is full of.

I wanted show
you around the coffee growing area.

After a few days of being in
Colombia, me and Ximena, finally,

are able to get some alone
time, but we really need to talk.

Ximena dropped a really big
bomb on me and told me that

she got surgery to not
have any more kids.

It's a lot to process because
I've always pictured myself

having kids someday.

So at this point in time,
I'm trying to figure out

if me and Ximena
still have a future together.

Yes.
Yes.

Sorry, but I'm still upset about
what happened at the hot springs

and that you kept
that secret from me.

I did it
because I suffered a lot.

I suffered a lot
with the pain and the contractions.

I was scared.

Is there a way that
you can ever have children?

Because I've heard about
people who had their tubes tied,

they could just untie
them and have kids again.

Is it true?

My tubes were cut and burned,

so I would definitely
not have any more children.

So if you knew that I
wanted to have kids someday

and you not being able
to have kids,

how did you think
this is going to work?

I don't know
what could happen to us.

Do you
regret having come to Colombia?

Just don't know.

I love Harold
and Juan as my own.

They are amazing children.

And I wouldn't
want to hurt them.

Forgive me for
not being able to give you a child.

It's okay.

We can raise Harold
and Juan together.

I would like that.

I know that her life was a little
bit rough before she met me,

so I'm not going
to fault her for that.

But giving up the ability of having
my own kids someday and it's just,

um, just really, really,
really hard to process.

So from now on,
no more secrets, ever?

Okay.

I love you very much.

My gut feeling is telling me
that we're meant to be together.

I still love her.

She has two beautiful
children now,

so I can help raise them
as if they're my own.

And she's going to have
to win back my trust.

Twenty-six?

He told me 28.

No, you're not 27.

You lied.

She said, you're... you're 26.

Earlier, Hamza's sister
and I are having a conversation,

and she happened to say, "Yeah,
Hamza is three years older than me,"

so I said,
"How old are you?"

She's like 23 and Hamza is 26.

I thought that Hamza
recently turned 28.

Now I'm now only six years
older than him,

now I'm eight years
older than him

and I feel like he kind
of betrayed me in a way,

because who wants to be lied to?

No, he told me that last year
that he just turned 28.

So, he lied.

What else is he not
telling the truth about?

Is this funny to you?

You think it's good to lie
or not tell the truth?

- So you lied?
- Yeah.

And we had plans to,
what, go to the embassy tomorrow

and do marriage papers,
and now I don't know

how I feel about that
because you lied, okay?

So I need time.

The actual lying is more
devastating to me than the age gap.

Especially, since I just
opened up to him about my past,

I just felt a lot more vulnerable,
and it makes me wonder

what else is he lying about?

I'm feeling
very upset... and betrayed.

Yeah, I flew all the way
over here and it could be

a possibility that he is.

I thought that I knew more about
him than what I really do know.

And in my past, I've had
rough, rough, rough relationships.

Basically, my whole life, I've had
rough relationships, from being a child

to being a grown adult, it's been
rough and, I'm tired of being betrayed,

and I'm tired of being hurt, and
I'm tired of being taken advantage of,

and I feel like I'm just
a genuine person that

all I wanted is just to be good.

Literally.

Yes, girl.

Hi.

Good morning, dude.

How was the night without us?

It's the Americans speak.

Today, we are going to a
Grand Bazaar in Istanbul,

and all I know is Grand Bazaar
is very big market and very old.

This is a workout.

So you don't need your gym.

The gym of Alina.

You have me, yeah.

It was nice to have an alone
time with Caleb yesterday.

You are going to help me?

Um, yeah.

But Elijah is leaving
in two days, so I thought

we should all go together to
connect a little more, especially since

there's still some tension
between Caleb and Elijah,

and I'm very hopeful
that they can get along well.

So how was your sleep?

Not so much of sleep.

We're here, guys.

So come on,
Grand Bazaar, let's get grand.

- Wanna smell?
- All right. Okay.

Ahhh.

Oh, Caleb, we need this.

The Grand Bazaar is very
energetic, it's colorful, it's loud.

The blackberry
one looks really good.

The people are charismatic,
trying to sell you on their foods.

They want you
to have a good time.

Apple, Nougat, Pomegranate.

Yeah, pomegranate.

Right?

This is hectic.

I feel like we're walking
through like a fair or something.

Oh, wow.

You guys want tea?

- Yeah. We want.
- Yes.

Well, tell you what?
Grab me one.

So I wanted to look
around down here real quick,

so do you want to take
her for a few minutes?

- Okay.
- Okay.

- Cool.
- See you.

I will see you in a bit.

Two teas or three, for Caleb.

Yeah.

So, one, two, three.

Yeah, yeah, thank you.

- You are welcome.
- Thank you.

Well, we like had a kiss,
actually.

- Really?
- I was so spicy, like...

Oh, wow.

Tabasco level.

Yeah, Tabasco level.

- Yes.
- Jesus.

Is there only
a kiss moment or maybe...

you go deeper?

Literally.

- Yes, girl.
- Yeah.

So now I'm like,
I'm getting even more

attached to him now, obviously.

Hmm, yeah, yeah.

I really want him to tell me
something, you know,

which would indicate
more serious.

And he was just being very
vague just, "Uh, well, later we'll...

can...
we can talk about it."

But, like later, when?

Why you asking me this question?

Ask him.
Ask him.

But do you think
I have a right to ask him?

I still didn't tell him about
living with my ex.

My ex and I, we were
still together at the time

when things were getting
serious with Caleb and I.

We actually lived together
and I hid this fact from Caleb.

I didn't tell Caleb because
I didn't want him to back off,

so I just ended up
not telling him at all.

I don't know.
I'm just not brave enough.

I don't know how to like
it start talking about it.

Okay, I can talk to him instead.

You?
No.

It's better that
it comes from me.

Yes.

So get your
together and talk to him.

I have to come clean to
Caleb about my past because

I don't feel comfortable pushing
him for answers about our future

while I'm still holding
onto this secret.

He is a guy who always
tries to tell the truth.

So I really don't know how he's going
to react to hearing that I lied to him.

So I'm just hope it's not
going to screw all the things up.

I should really be honest with
him and just ask whatever I want.

Yes, you do.

Yes, you do.

I've fallen in love
with the woman.

She's 24 years old.

I realize this is,
this is weird.

But it is not the first time.

I can guarantee you God is not
leading you in that relationship

with that 28-year-old.

And you, Pedro, are
you riding a bicycle today?

Oh, God.

No idea.

In a week, I'm hopping on a plane
going to Peru to see my girlfriend

Mahogany for the first time.

Mahogany doesn't
understand a lot of English,

so I'm trying to learn as
much Spanish as possible

before I leave for Peru.

But the main thing
that I'm focused on today

is much more important.

I'm going to be telling my kids
about Mahogany for the first time.

So, family is headed over here.

I am trying to get
everything ready for them.

Hopefully, they take the news
I'm about to give them good but,

uh, man, I just...

I'm a little worried about this.

The divorce was really
hard on my kids

and I felt incredibly
guilty about it.

I wanted to give them a
traditional nuclear family,

and I destroyed that
for my kids.

But they're navigating
through it and they know

that I'm trying my best
to be there for them.

They're my everything.

They're my first responsibility.

So if my kids don't accept this,
I'm not sure what I'm going to do.

- Come on in, guys.
- Dad.

Hey.

All right, I've got
almost everything ready.

Um, let's take
you guys out back.

My ex and I are sharing custody,
so she is also here because

she has the right to know who
is coming into my children's lives.

But the relationship
with my ex-wife is cold.

I don't believe
she's over the divorce,

and she still has feelings
of resentment towards me.

So I'm worried that her being
here today is going to make

everything a lot more difficult.

Mustard.

You did not just
put mustard on your hot dog?

It goes with hot dog.

No, it does not.

- I... I'll say grace.
- Okay.

Dear Father, we thank you for
all things, including this meal.

Help us to understand
your will in Jesus name.

- Amen.
- Amen.

All right.

So, um, this family, it has
definitely had its ups and downs

in the last six years or so, and it is a
little awkward to have mom and dad

at the same table as you kids,
um, but I did like want you guys to be

here on purpose for a purpose.

So, the last three months or so,

I've fallen in love with a
woman, her name is Mahogany.

She is in Peru.

Does she speak English?

She speaks a little English.

She speaks better
English than I speak Spanish.

Uh, and she is 24 years old.

We have kind of connected
on a very spiritual level

where we're planning
a future together.

How did you even meet her?

I met her on social media.

So I'm going down there
for three weeks

and I'm going to just explore who
she is in person rather than just online.

Mm-hmm.

I realize this is,
you know, this is weird,

but the decisions I'm making
now are based

on what I think
is God's plan for me.

I mean, do you think I would want
to have this reputation, you know,

fall in love
with someone that young?

Like that is not...

Oh, it's not the first time.

One year after my
divorce, I began dating my ex,

who is 18 years younger than
me and we eventually got engaged.

But she did not want me to spend as
much time as I wanted with my kids.

They needed me a lot more
than the time that I gave them.

It ended badly.

And I promised my kids that I
would not make that mistake again.

I know my relationship with
Mahogany could be seen as history

repeating itself, but nothing
could be further from the truth.

Mahogany knows all of you.

She says that she loves you
kids without ever meeting you.

She prays for you every day
and she loves family.

If she loves family so
much, is she willing to come back

to America or are you going
to go to Peru?

Because I don't want
you going to Peru.

No, the plan would
be for her to come here.

I think it's a little
strange, a little weird that

you would go that far that soon
to someone that it appears you

haven't really spent
that much time with.

My biggest concern is, honestly,
just leaving us and just completely

forgetting about us because
in previous relationships,

he has just kind of gotten
disconnected from us

when he's with this
other person.

Do you have a picture of her?

Yes.

This is Mahogany.

That is so fake.

That is the fakest picture I've
ever seen in my whole entire life.

That is so fake.

It could be filtered, maybe
she has a really good camera.

It's just not genuine.

Well, um, I think everyone
deserves a chance at love

and what I would like to do with Mahogany
is model what you kids would one day

want to do with your
future partners.

You know what...

Well, you never know what
God is going to lead in your life.

When did you decide you wanted to
start caring what God was leading you?

Because I can guarantee you
God was not leading you in that

relationship with that
28-year-old.

I'm not proud of a lot of the
decisions I've made in the past

but I am proud of the
progress I've made in the future.

I do want to put you guys
first and that's what I'm doing.

I wouldn't make this trip
if I didn't know for sure

that this is the path that
God wants me to take.

I've broken trust
with my kids in the past,

so I completely understand why
they're having a hard time with this.

I've got a lot to prove.

I love my kids so much and
I want them to trust their dad.

So I just hope that
I can show them the love

that Mahogany
and I have is real.

Can you tell me about
some of those people?

Are you absolutely sure that he's not
going to come back and hurt any of us?

Ximena?

Okay.

Ah, si.

After Ximena telling me about
not being able to have kids,

these past couple of days, uh, it's been a
lot between me and Ximena, emotionally.

Ciao.

So I booked a romantic
getaway up in Salento for a few days,

and I really want to get to
know Ximena better on this trip.

I plan on marrying this woman,

so I want to know everything
about her, about her life, everything.

It's going to be great sharing
time together, just me and you.

Salento is beautiful.

Gracias.

Wow.

The room is...
absolutely stunning.

The balcony overlooks
the Columbian mountainside.

Wow.

Up until today,
we've been in Ximena's house.

Her dad's downstairs,
Harold is coming into the bed,

so I just want to be
with Ximena, just me and her.

I am not going
to waste any time.

Mmm.

Mm-mm.

No.

This trip is for both of us to
get to know each other better,

to ask us anything
we want and to be honest,

just so we can reassure ourselves
that we both love each other

and want to spend the
rest of our lives together.

What exactly happened with
Harold and Juan's fathers?

Can you tell me about some of
those people that were in your life?

That makes me scared for not
only me, but you and the children.

Are you absolutely sure that he's not
going to come back and hurt any of us?

Almost two years
that happened and ever since I separated,

I do not know anything
about him.

I really don't know why Ximena
allowed herself to get involved in men

like that, but it's just one
thing after another after another.

And I'm worried right now
what else I might learn,

what else might come to light.

You're doing really good.

Your team, however,
is just crazy to me.

He's really upset right now.

- Me?
- Yeah.

You lied to me.

How can I trust you?

Did you go to college, huh?

Get your sister, I want to know.

Now!

I don't want to go
out there, not like this.

I just found out that my fiancee of eight
months has been lying about his age.

I thought he was 28,
but actually he is 26.

Hamza, can you come here?

I'm mad.

I'm angry.

Yeah, you don't care.

You don't care.

Why did you lie to me
about how old you were?

How can I trust you?

Do you, do you
do heating and cooling energy?

Get your sister, I want to know.

Get your sister.

Get your sister!

Now!

Hamza told me that he went to
college and that he got a degree

in heating and cooling.

So I want to know, is he lying?

Like, do you have
a career, like,

if he's lying about that,
I'm done.

If he doesn't have
a career path,

I'm not bringing him to
America with me and my kids.

That's like taking care
of another child.

Okay.

So does he have
heating and energy?

Did he go to school for
heating and cooling energy?

Did he go to college?

And he got a certificate?

I want to see it.

Where is the paper?

For school?

Uh...

This is it?

I can't read this.

Oh, '14 to '16.

Okay.

Okay.

Okay.

Does he understand
that he cannot lie to me anymore?

The fact that he has
lied to me is definitely alarming

because it made me feel
like I don't know if I know him

as well as I thought I did.

And now I'm wondering, can I
really trust everything that he says?

Ready?

Reflector.

Yeah.

I am watching Usman
with this model and I am like, "Ew."

He doesn't touch me like that.

And also, I'm thinking, "Zara,
that's a weird name for a song."

But when I asked Usman,
"Oh, who is Zara?"

And he's like, "Oh, Zara is just
a name for all the girls names

Zara across the world,"

and I'm like, "What the
, what does that mean?"

But I am going to hold
it together because

I am here to support him today.

I will be wanting a lot more...

I will be wanting
a lot more, yeah, yeah.

I will be wanting
a lot more, yeah, yeah.

Usman. Usman, get
your energy up, just... For me.

Do it for me.
Okay?

You look good.

You're doing really good.

Your team, however,
this is crazy to me.

No, don't lose your energy.

That's why I came here
for you doing...

just picture like
you're doing this for me.

You invited me down
here to do this.

- Yeah.
- Seriously, I'm going to cry if you don't.

Promise me.

There you go.

Excuse me,
are you going to pay me?

Are you going to pay me later?

You better pay me later then.

Yes.

Overall, I think the music
shoot went very well.

I think that Usman
does a great job.

I think he's very
professional when he's on set.

I can't help but think of Michael
Jackson because Michael Jackson

was a perfectionist to his
art, just as well as Usman is.

Are you tired?

I know you are.

But without me here today,
I really don't know

how his video shoot would
have gone.

And I really hope that
Usman really sees that now

and that he's thinking
about the relationship more.

Hey, I wanted to talk
to you guys for a minute.

I'm really sorry
for the way I acted in there,

in the room with his clothes
and all that stuff, okay?

But he's really upset right now.

I mean, nobody makes sure he's
straight, like he's the star of this,

and I feel like
he's just neglected.

I feel bad for him.

Y'all should have been
on top of him today.

On top of him.

But I know...
What?

- Because of me?
- Yeah.

Oh.
So, it is my fault.

We should slow down.

Jasmine and I just had
the biggest fight since we've met,

and all because of her insecurities
about my ex-wife from Brazil.

Even though she was the one that brought
the topic up, she went totally ballistic.

I should have seen the warning signs
flashing that she's about to explode.

That was scary.

So what's going on?

I'm sad, Gino.

I'm very sad.

You know what I mean.

You know what I mean, Gino.

I've been here before
profoundly, and because of that...

when it comes to relationships.

Deep inside,
I'm just like a scared animal.

I don't want my heart
to be broken again.

We should slow down
just, like...

Jasmine is...

definitely the most sensitive
girl that I've ever been with.

Okay, we're good.

That's how, that's how
I'm supposed to answer.

No, I don't like the colors on
the wall and then the whole thing,

it never would have blown up
in... in the first place.

What can we do
to get through this?

It's too late.

I'm not important in your life.

I'm trying to work
out with you, let's work it out.

I'm not the one saying I'm going
to leave, like you are.

I want to talk about what it is
that we have to do to work this out.

Don't tell me about
trips that you took.

You're not allowed to say
anything good about your exes ever.

Yes or no?

Yes.

It's the only thing that
matters to me is us.

I want to be with you.

I want marriage and having
a baby like we talked about.

Because, um...

Because what?

Hmm.

I've been taking them... because
I was afraid of getting pregnant.

Are you disappointed?

Yeah.

I mean, why did you start taking
them... I just don't understand.

Do you really...
I mean, how do you feel now?

Do you think
you really need them?

Not even close.

It is disappointing to know
that she was keeping the secret from me

for a while because we both agreed
that she got pregnant on this trip,

it would be a good thing.

I wish she would have told me,
just been honest with me.

At some point down the road,
you might change your mind?

Okay.

Today, Jasmine showed me a
side of her that worries me a little bit.

I'm happy that we can, you
know, talk through these issues

and get through this,
but I just hope that, um, tsk.

Next time on Before the 90 Days.

But I came in
for another reason too.

I want to see the big picture,
you know, the kissing,

I want to see him
sleeping in my bed.

I really want you
to stay with me.

Yeah.

Been trying to get him over
here, one thing after another

of delay, delay, delay.

It sounds like there's something
he's like not telling you.

You going back and forth every single
day has taken emotional trauma on myself.

Ay-aye-aye!

No, no.

Did you have a good time?

What the hell?
Who is this guy?

It's like she doesn't
even care how I feel.

I think he means you.

I don't really know what Alina
might be hiding, but I don't know,

it's making me question a lot.

My ex, it was actually
more serious than you thought.

Why didn't you plan better, like, we're
not going to make it to the consulate?

We don't have a lot of time to
get married here and I am not going

to continue just dating him
for the rest of my life.

If we do not get married, I
don't want to go back to the US

and be in a relationship
with you.

She's willing to throw
away the relationship.

It makes me wonder if there's something
deeper that I don't know about yet.

Today's the day I'll be meeting

my incredible girlfriend,
Mahogany.