90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days (2017–…): Season 5, Episode 3 - First Date, Second Thoughts - full transcript

Previously on 90
Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days.

- We're going to Tunisia!
- We're going to Tunisia!

- Bye.
- Bye.

I am a 1000% invested

in marrying a man
that I've never met before.

Because I believe he is
who he says he is.

I just hope that he does not
disappoint me.

I'm not too outgoing,

so I kind of keep to myself
most of the time,

until I met Ximena.

She's the first person that I
truly feel like I fell in love with.



How much money
have you been spending?

I do help her out with like
rent and things like that.

She could have all these guys
all over just...

This chick is milking you.

Oh, my God!

Jasmine?

Yeah?

Muah!

Jasmine can be a jealous
and controlling person.

What's the password?

Do you want to see something?

I can check

But it's only day one, and I
hope this stuff kinda goes away.

I'm upset that Caleb book
in this hotel.



Oh, my God!

I feel very nervous.

He doesn't understand
my abilities.

I really do not
know how this is gonna go.

And it just makes me very,
very, very nervous.

Yes. You like it?

I love it.

Oh, it's got ocean view.

I arrived a few
hours ago in Panama

to spend Christmas and New
Years with my girlfriend Jasmine.

I feel a lot of love from her.

Um, right off the bat.

Let me take care of it.

Okay.

But over the last nine months,

I have seen a side of Jasmine

that likes to be in control.

And so I'm curious to see

if that will get better
or worse overtime.

Ready to order?

- Oh, yes.
- Gracias.

So I'm gonna go
for the vegetarian wrap.

Okay.

And, sir?

Is the burger...
Is that a good one here?

Yes.

Yes?

Oh, so can I get a mayonnaise...

Uh-huh.
Tomatoes and bacon?

Can I get American cheese?

Yes. American cheese.

Por favor.

- Okay. Gracias.
- Thank you.

Gracias.

Awesome.

My first Panama food.

I don't like it.

More wine,
yes! They're superfast.

- You're the best.
- Panamanian service.

So thank you for the wine.

What?

Who's Paul?

Ah, you wanna know.

Oh...

I can show you.

Gonna open it in front of you.

So Paul is a friend.

Paulina.

Oh, okay.

- I trust you.
- So, what I want you to do right now

is do the same
with your messages.

Huh?

Uh...

Oh, you have a friend request?

I do?

Who's this bitch?

No idea actually.

- I have no idea.
- Delete.

- And block.
- Deleted.

Good.

Sometimes I don't know if
she's joking, or she's serious.

Like when she asked
to see my phone...

You're a good boy.

Turns out she was,
yes, serious about it.

Sorry for getting crazy.

It's just that...

Yeah, but you know

that you're all I need.
I told you that.

Oh! Oh, there.

Um...

Yeah.

I know you like that.
I know.

Um...

Oh, baby, I don't give
any tips in Panama.

But normally, we tip.

You know,
if it's a good waitress,

you would tip about 15%
let's say, maybe 20%.

She was good.

I'm just saying, um...

Do you have something
with the waitress?

It has nothing to do...

Do you have something
with the waitress?

No, no. I'm just nice.

They work really hard and they...

I stopped listening to you like five
minutes ago. Do whatever you want.

It was so good until now.

This is the first time I've seen

Jasmine's jealousy in person,
and it kind of

makes me feel a little awkward.

It's kind of an awkward feeling.

All right, ready?

I made that sacrifice to come

and spend this money in Panama
and be with her,

because I want to spend
the rest of my life with Jasmine

and propose to her on this trip.

Let's go.

But she really has to start
building trust in me,

or this is not going to work.

Whoo! My luggage
is here. Thank God.

After 30 hours of traveling,

I'm finally in Zanzibar,

which is an island
off Tanzania, Africa.

And tomorrow, I'm gonna meet
Usman aka Sojaboy.

He's flying here
from his hometown in Nigeria

to shoot his music video.

When I finally get to meet him,

I'm going to lose my mind,

because this is like
a dream come true for me.

Hi.

Yes, please.

I'm good.

Are you a taxi driver?

Are you a safe taxi driver?

I have to ask.
I'm here by myself.

- Oh, okay.
- Okay.

Usman is not coming
until tomorrow.

So I was a little stressed
on the way here,

because I'm like, oh, I don't
have anybody to meet me.

But, I mean, I trust my own
instincts. I was in the military,

so touch me if you want to.

I can kill you
with my bare hands.

You know we do that, right?
Okay.

So you know.

I'm meeting somebody here
tomorrow from Nigeria.

I came all the way across
the world to see him.

He's not a boyfriend yet.

Usman still considers me
his "potential girlfriend."

I'm hoping that on this trip,

I can convince him to be
in a relationship with me,

because I want a future
with Usman in America.

Thank you.

Asante? Okay. Karibu.

I hope so, too.

Oh, it's beautiful here.

This is my first time
anywhere, really.

Except for when I was
in the military.

I cannot believe I am here
in Africa.

The only other time
that I travelled overseas

is when I was 19 years old.

I was the secretary
in the United States Army.

And I was traveling to Saudi
Arabia to fight in Desert Storm.

This trip is entirely
different from that.

I was going to fight in a war.

This trip
I'm going to find love.

Oh, my!
Look how these people...

That guy looks like
he's gonna hit...

Oh, my God! Okay, I'm gonna
have a nervous breakdown.

Is this the hotel?

So excited to see it.

Ah, thank you.

Usman and his team
chose this beautiful resort.

So I decided to go a
little bit above my means,

and booked the honeymoon suite,
because I have intentions here.

Usman is staying
in his own room,

because he wants
to take things slow.

But I think after we spend
some time together,

by the end of this trip,
he'll be in my room.

Okay.

Oh, my gosh!
This is beautiful!

Oh, my God!

Tomorrow night he will be
on that balcony with me.

I think champagne is
in order, right? I think so.

Ooh.

Okay, Kim.

All right, girl.

Okay.

Today I'm going to pick
Usman up from the airport.

I'm wearing my Usman T-shirt.

I'm so excited, I'm shaking.

Hi. Can you take me
to the airport?

Oh, it's hot back here.

If a lady gave you roses,
would you feel weird about that?

Really?

Now I'm nervous
to give him the roses.

I am putting everything
on the line to meet Usman.

I spent some of my savings,

I left my mom, I traveled
halfway across the world,

because I believe
we're meant to be.

Oh, my God.
Are we at the airport now?

Yes.

Oh, my God!

Oh, my God! Oh, my God!
Oh, my God! Oh, my God!

Thank you so much.
Thank you so, so, so much.

This is it. This is the day that
could change my whole life.

I'm shaking, I'm about to cry.

I feel like I'm gonna pass out.

And I'm just waiting to see
his face come through that door.

Oh, my God.

It's like any minute now,
any minute now.

I'm gonna have a heart attack.

It's gonna happen.

I'm shaking.

Car service is
gonna be here any minute.

Stay out of trouble.

You know,
it's a foreign country.

After 12 long months,

it's going to be incredible
seeing Ximena in person.

I just hope that she's
the same person

that she says she is
on the phone.

Because if not,
my heart would be broken.

I'm feeling so nervous.

What is there is
no chemistry between us?

I'm feeling so nervous.

My heart probably
will jump off my chest.

But I really don't know how
this is gonna go.

What if there is no chemistry
between us?

I didn't recognize you.

Hi.

Hi.
I'm just gonna hug you.

Oh, hi.

Well, it's so good to see you.

So good to see you, too.

I can't believe you're real.

Yeah.

We'll talk eye to eye.

Okay. Eye
to eye.

Eye to eye.

Show me your face

to make sure it's really you.

- Hi. It's really you.
- Hey.

It's really me.

Let's see your face.

Oh, I'm scared.

Okay. Hold on.

Hold on.

Hi.

- Hey.
- What's up?

Well, you look great.

- Thank you.
- And beautiful.

Thank you.
Oh, my gosh.

It's kind of surreal
seeing you in person.

I've known you for a long time.

I think you look great.

But you are smaller
than I thought.

Oh, is it weird for you?

It's different.

Ya.

Do you feel weird pushing me?

I feel tired.
My left arm is about to die.

I can give you
my wheelchair to sit.

Yeah, you can push me around.

Let's put that anywhere.

You're gonna do this a
lot during these couple of weeks.

You got it.

I feel a bit bad.

Stuff falls down,
my wheelchair is spinning.

And I'm just thinking, "Oh, my
God. Maybe he's gonna think

"that it's always going to be so difficult
and hard with me and my wheelchair."

This is not the best
first impression.

Okay. Now I'm gonna teach you
how to fold my wheelchair.

Hold on.

So, look.

Like this.

And then you just put it in.

- Like that?
- Yeah. Kind of.

- And then, it goes in the back?
- Yeah.

Can you?

When I've talked to Alina
in the past online,

it's mainly just her waist up.

So it's really jarring to see her
in comparison to my own size.

Easy.

- So talented.
- Come on.

But I feel like
I just need some time

to adjust being
with a little person.

And then chemistry
will fly back.

- Hold on.
- Can you?

Okay. Good job.

You comfortable?

- Yeah, I'm good.
- Cool.

You can drive, right?

Maybe you can push the peddles.

Yeah, I'll do the peddles,
you drive.

Or we'll just put you
down there.

You push the peddles
and I'll do the driving.

Yeah.

Hmm.

I'm finally seeing
Caleb in person after 13 years,

and I'm disappointed

we didn't have a kiss.

Maybe he just
doesn't find me attractive.

So I'm kinda hoping
for cuddling,

or kissing when we
get back to the hotel,

for at least a little bit of
confirmation that he likes me.

Just gonna start packing.

Finally get to wear some shorts.

Today I'm leaving for Columbia
for almost two weeks

to meet my girlfriend Ximena
for the first time.

We met on a dating app
about a year ago.

She's amazing. She's
everything that I wanted.

And she's the first person that
I truly feel like I fell in love with.

I just hope that she's everything
she has shown me so far.

Um, and then some.

Coloring book for the kids.

Oh! Can't forget the ring.

My biggest hope for this trip

is everything goes well.

I propose, she says yes.

And Ximena and I
start our lives together.

Car service is gonna
be here any minute.

Mike's car service is on the way

to take him to the airport.

I'll let you guys know
when I'm there,

when I'm at the airport
and things like that.

Stay out of trouble.

- I know.
- Don't go where you're not supposed to be.

You know, it's a foreign
country. It's not like New York.

Yeah, I know.

- It's called Google.
- Oh, okay.

If I don't know something,
I'm gonna translate.

So Mike, when you come back,

what's the plan gonna be if
everything works out on the trip?

My plan is, we'll start
the K-1 visa process

to make sure her and
her kids can come here.

Three and seven.

There won't be quiet
here anymore.

Oh, they're like five minutes
out, so I gotta get going.

All right.

- I know.
- Go ahead.

Have a safe trip. Enjoy.

- Stay out of trouble, please.
- I will.

Just be good and listen
to what you're told.

- I will.
- And you'll be fine.

- Okay, Mike?
- Thanks, Pop.

Do you think Michael's
making a good decision, or...

Going there?

No, I don't think he should.

Because you could think
you're in love with a girl,

but if it doesn't work
both ways,

you're not gonna have
a good marriage.

There we go.

After 12 long months,

it's gonna be incredible
to see Ximena in person.

Running up to her,
hugging her, kissing her.

I can't believe this day
is finally here.

Final destination,
I'm going to Pereira.

Yeah.

There's no really going back.

It's like I'm really just...
I'm taking a leap.

I'm ready.

There's a lot going
through my mind.

I'm 34 years old.

I've never been in love.

But with Ximena
I've found that happiness.

And I can't wait to spend
the rest of my life with her.

It's been like a fantasy
seeing her beautiful face,

beautiful eyes, beautiful body

on my phone screen.

But when I'm in Columbia,

I'm gonna be like
right in front of her,

right in front of the kids,

and just right
in the middle of her life.

I just hope that she's
the same person

that she says she is
on the phone.

Because if I get to Columbia

and I find out

she's been using me
this whole time,

my heart would be broken.

Give me the crystal.
I know you have it.

Ha! Ya!

My obsession with Asian culture

is so much more
than just cosplay.

Hey, baby.
I miss you a lot.

Oh, my God!
I just hit the jackpot.

Oh, my...

Oh, my God! It's you.
It's you! Oh, my God!

Do I look like me?

Oh, my God!

All right.

My name is Ella.

I'm 29 years old and I live
in Idaho Falls, Idaho.

Give me the crystal.
I know you have it.

Ha! Ha!

Can block you
at every turn. Hey!

Hai-yah!

Ha! Ya!

I'm super into everything
Asian culture.

I've been into cosplay
for a long time.

You know, getting all dressed up

and embodying my characters.

Today I am a soul reaper

and I'm here to reap your soul.

You had enough?

You were a worthy opponent.

But my obsession
with Asian culture

is so much more
than just cosplay.

I love fantasy.

Welcome to my purple kingdom.

The whole house outside
is painted purple.

My dragons...

they're little Easter eggs.
They're kind of all over the house.

And all my anime posters.

I think the reason why I just
always gravitate towards fantasy

is because I wanted
to escape my real life.

I've struggled with being
overweight since I was in kindergarten.

Growing up, I never
felt like I was different.

But other people...
Damn it.

Other people
made me feel different.

My classmates always
made me feel unwanted.

I hated going to school.

No. It's my doggy hats.

Ooh, these are gonna look great.

I did not date in high school,

but I have been
in a lot of relationships

where I was not treated the
way that I should have been.

Hachi.

Come here, baby.

Which one do you want?

You want the cowboy one?

Okay.

It's just they weren't
the ones giving me attention,

and I wasn't used to getting
attention from any... any male.

Yeah. Come here.

So because I've not had a
lot of luck with Idaho dating,

I decided to stop looking
for men in Idaho.

Good boy.

And start looking
for my fantasy.

Come here, baby girl.

Come here.

My ideal man,

it would probably be an exact
blueprint of my favorite anime crush.

Go get it.

He has red hair, green eyes

and a fox demon inside him.

Come here.

But in real life,

of course, he's gotta be Asian.

I think Japanese movies

were really a big inspiration,
like the Samurai movies.

I love just how they looked
in their Samurai outfits

with their long luscious hair.

Their eyes, their face,
their skin tone.

I love everything about them.

Go get it.

So I found a social media page
called "Asian men, White women.

And that is where I found
my Asian prince.

Hey, baby.
I miss you a lot.

Uh, love you.

Johnny is from China.

He is 34 years old.

He has an amazing smile.

And his eyes are just perfect.

When I first started talking
to Johnny, I was like,

Oh, my God!
I just hit the jackpot.

Hey, Ella. It's Johnny.
I hope you have a great day.

Johnny and I have surprisingly
a lot in common.

I'm like this Western girl
who has this Asian obsession.

He's kind of like an Asian man
who has a Western culture obsession.

And we both love anime.

Johnny and I officially became

boyfriend and girlfriend
about six months ago.

But we have been talking
for a year and a half

and we talk every single day.

And I really think that Johnny
is going to be the one

that I spend my life with.

I love when he talks about
when we're going to have kids.

Like this one says, "Wanna
buy a big house, ready for kids."

I love getting stuff like this.

If it wasn't for the pandemic,

I would definitely be willing
to go see Johnny in China.

But due to Covid restrictions,

I literally cannot go.

So Johnny is applying for a
travel visa to visit me in Idaho.

I am so excited.

I mean, I am crying right now,

but I am so freaking excited
for us to meet in person.

I really want it.

Whoo!

I grew up on a ranch in Mackay,
Idaho that has been in my family

for four generations.

Whoo!

Hey!

I spend most
of my weekends there.

And I'm hoping that one day,

Johnny and I can get married

and take over the ranch
together.

Are the horses ready?

Yeah.
Horses are all done.

Watered.

Everybody is happy.

Let's sit in the shade.

When is Johnny
trying to get here?

Hopefully in a month and a half.

Has Johnny ever ridden
a horse, or seen a cow?

No.

He has no experience
on anything like this.

But he likes that we have
so much in common.

And he likes that I'm hard
working and stuff like that.

- You know.
- Okay.

He's very supportive.

Like even with the way he said,

"I will help and support you
to lose weight."

We've talked about
healthier meals

and he's gonna do the cooking.

I mean, he's Asian,
so it's like freaking healthy.

Just a lot of vegetables
and stuff.

I know you're not happy
with how you look.

I know that.

I just wanna make sure that he
doesn't take advantage of that.

Because it will be a struggle
for you to lose the weight.

Oh, I know.

When he gets here and he sees...

Is he gonna stick with it?

Well, you know, I am a
catch, but I am not the catch.

That's what I'm worried about.

The thing that Ella struggles with
the most is her self-confidence.

She doesn't like how she looks.

And I think the men in
her life take advantage of it.

They take advantage
of it financially.

They take advantage
of it emotionally.

I don't know Johnny. I don't
know whether I can trust him or not.

And if he really is caring
towards Ella.

And I'm just afraid that Johnny wants
a green card just to get here someday.

And then, once he gets here and
he knows he cannot be deported,

that he leaves her.

It's not a fairytale and I know
you want the fairytale, but it's just...

Fairytales don't exist.

Exactly.

And there's been
a lot of American women

that have been
taken advantage of

from men from
out of the country.

And I don't wanna see you
get your heart broken again.

I've lived through quite
a few of them,

that's why it's real hard

to trust that this is
the real thing for you.

I have been burned by
online boyfriends in the past.

And my mom has always been
there and helped me emotionally

when relationships
have gone bad.

But I believe Johnny wants
to come over here for me,

not to just be a US citizen.

I've never had somebody
so protective and nice.

And the way
that I feel right now

is definitely something
I've never felt before.

I know that I made mistakes
in the past.

But I feel with this one,
it's going to be different.

It's going to be the one.

I know it's crazy.

But I hope this is the one,

because I'm tired of trying.

I know. I support you.

And I will be here if it fails.

- And I'm always here.
- I know.

I know and I love you.

- Don't cry.
- I'm sorry.

I'm in Paris.

I have a... about
a three hour layover.

I'm currently
on my way to Tunisia.

To meet and marry
my fiance Hamza.

Hamza and I have only been
talking for eight months on the phone.

And I cannot wait to
meet him in person.

I've survived a lot of ups and
downs and disappointments in my life.

When I was a child,

I was thrown into
the foster care system.

I've only been able to rely
on myself.

So excited.

I want to be with someone
that me and my kids can trust

and count on
for the rest of my life.

And I hope
that Hamza is that person.

I have six hours and 28 minutes

until I get to Tunisia
to see my boo.

As nervous about it,
but I'm very excited.

Hamza?

Hamza?

Don't call me that.

Super fan. No.

How... How
are you feeling now?

I was excited to be intimate
with Jasmine.

But at this point,
I'm not so sure

if Jasmine would even be
in the mood.

It's my first night in Panama,

and Jasmine and I had
our first argument

at dinner tonight.

All because I tried to tip
the waitress.

You know, why are you upset
because I tipped the waitress?

This is a very normal thing
to do.

It doesn't mean I wanna be
romantically involved with the waitress.

That's nuts. It's crazy.

How are you feeling now?

I was excited
to be intimate with Jasmine.

Our first night together.

And now would be
the time to take

one of the little blue pills
that I brought for the trip.

Because they take
some time to work.

Ah!

But at this point, I'm not so sure
Jasmine would even be in the mood tonight.

- Oh, just a charger.
- Give me just some space

I need to pull out
something from here.

Are you gonna take a shower?

Huh?

Are you gonna take a shower?

Not at this moment.

Yeah.

Just give me one second.
I just wanna charge my phone.

It's almost dead.

You look hot.

I like sex.
A lot.

- Oh you've got this charger, kinda like mine.
- Yeah.

So... he has to know
how to deal with the...

All right.

- Take off your shoes.
- My shoes, yes.

Okay, um...
All right. I'm good.

You're nervous?

Oh, wow.
You're so hot and sexy.

- I mean, having me...
- I'm sorry, my arm's starting, my shoulder is hurting.

- Oh, yes.
- I hurt my shoulder. So...

- Um, sorry.
- So, you want it?

Yeah, of course.

Kiss me.

Okay...

Yeah, I've been excited
for this night to happen.

But, I'm a little bit nervous.

The last time I was
intimate with someone...

Uh... It's been
a while, yeah.

And I know that tonight could set
the tone for the rest of our relationship.

So... it's kind of a big deal.

Maybe I should've taken one
of those little blue pills.

- Baby.
- Uh-huh?

All right.

My God.

I'm gonna cry.

So, I'm at the airport,
waiting to pick up Usman.

And he'll be here like
any minute. Like, any minute!

Oh, my God. I'm so excited.
I'm like, shaking all over.

Oh, my God.

Oh, my God.

Oh, my God.

Oh, my God.

Oh, my God!

Oh, my God.

Oh, my God. It's you!
Look at my hands.

Ah!

- Yeah, yeah. Oh, thank you.
- These are for you.

Oh, my God.

Ah, thank you!

- Oh, my God, it's you. Can I touch your face?
- Yeah.

- It's you. It's you! Oh, my God.
- It's me.

- Do I look like me? Do I look like on the video chat?
- Yeah, you look good.

Thanks.

We're cute together.
Right?

I don't look 50. What!

No? No?

I love him.

Yes.

Kimberly!

I'm kinda nervous about
meeting them, because I don't know them.

Hi.

Don't call me that.

Super Fan.

Hi, Davis.

You too! You too.

I know...

I'm more than a fan now.

You know what I mean?

I'm his potential.

I mean, like, I'm here. He
invited me here to watch the video.

Because I am a fan.
You know what I'm saying?

I did want to
come. I did want to come.

But I'm not gonna argue
about this with you guys.

Listen, listen, listen...

Well...

I really don't care what Badmus
and Slam-T think about me being here,

'cause I'm here.

And the fact that Usman
stood up for me

really shows me
that he does care.

But, we have a limited amount of time
to figure out where Usman and I are at,

and where we're going.

You do know that
I've never been naked

on video chat.
And I have with him.

You did what!

Johnny and I have
an interesting sex life.

Our video chats are basically

me playing with one of my
beautiful big boobs

while he is touching himself.

In just over a month,
I'm going to meet Johnny,

my Asian-Prince-Boyfriend
from China

for the first time.

Johnny has been more supportive

than anyone I've ever
dated in real life.

Hey, baby.
I'm thinking about you.

You are so beautiful.

And, I cannot wait

to cook healthy meals for you.

He's planning
to stay with me in Idaho

for about three months.

And I'm hoping by the end
of his trip, I'll be engaged.

Perfect.
He's going to love this.

I am beyond excited for Johnny
to get here.

It is like my biggest
dream right now.

I'm starving.

Yeah, this place
sounds really good.

Sonia has been my roommate
for about eight months now.

And we get along like sisters.

So, how does your
mom feel about Johnny?

Um, well Mom is just super
worried about me breaking my heart.

And she just doesn't know if he's
gonna be able to adjust to the ranch.

Like, he says that he is super
adaptable, and stuff like that.

But, I mean, it's gonna
take a while.

I don't think he's gonna
get it overnight.

- Of course he won't.
- So, I'm hoping that like,

we'll figure it out.

Hey, girl!

Hey! You're here!

- Hello!
- It's so good to see you. I missed you.

I've known
Korbie since high school

and she is my best friend.

I definitely give a lot of respect and
love to her, because she has been

super-duper supportive
every time I got my heart broke.

We gotta make
some good food for Johnny.

He's going to miss
being in China.

Yeah, you and Pao are going
to be like really awesome for that.

Who's Pao?

Oh, he's my husband.

- Oh!
- He's, um... He was born in Thailand.

So he's Asian.

Korbie, she's not
an Anime person.

She's like not into
any of this Asian stuff

and that's why I gave her
when they got married and stuff.

I was like, "Dude!

Like, what the heck!

You don't like Asians.
That's my thing."

- Salads are ready.
- Thank you.

And I'll bring that water.

So wait, where does Johnny live?

- In Shanghai.
- Johnny lives in Shanghai.

And, Stony, right?

Lives in Jinan?

Gotcha.

Johnny is a single dad
to his five year old son, Stony.

Johnny is divorced.

And Stony lives
with his grandparents,

so that Johnny can travel
for his job.

But he usually sees him
a couple times a month.

I think that my relationship
with Stony is really good,

because he gets very excited when he
sees that I'm on the phone with Johnny.

And he'll try to take
the phone away,

and start speaking
all these Chinese words,

like he's talking to me in English,
but it's not coming out in English.

He has full custody of Stony.

And mom kind of left,
completely.

She already has another family.

- Really? Dang.
- Oh!

I'm like so sad, that like,

he's not bringing him with him,

because I'm actually
excited to be a mom.

But we're just gonna focus
on us for a while.

And then, once we've
established a good foundation,

then hopefully we'll get to
bring Stony over.

The only thing that makes me
suspicious about Johnny,

it's him leaving his son
for months.

At least, in my culture,

you don't leave
your child behind

in another country and go to another
country and be with someone else.

Yeah, that's a big deal.

It's a big deal.

Do you think he's going
to propose while he's here?

I hope he does.

I just, I love being with him.

You do know that I've...
I've never been naked

on video chat,
and I have with him.

You did what?

I was... I've been...

You know, he's a boob guy.

- I'm sure he likes them.
- Oh, he loves them.

He is gonna lose his
when he sees them in person

and gets to touch them.
Oh, my gosh.

Johnny and I actually do
have an interesting sex life.

Our video chats are basically

me playing with one of my
beautiful big boobs,

and I get to watch his face
making all these weird

faces while he is
touching himself.

I've even...

Really?

FYI, it is very hard
to film that.

Yeah.

I'm not surprised to find out
how sexual Ella is with Johnny.

She's a very sexual person.

- I am a little bit.
- Did you know Ella had vibrators?

- No... I... More than one?
- Has vibrators.

Yeah. Just like her
dragon collection.

She's got the same with
like her vibrator collection.

Yeah.

He seems very sweet.

He seems very sweet.

But... I'm worried about
you. Because, I feel like...

You know, with the Indian guy
that you met online...

You know, you thought
he was the one.

And you were really invested,
you know.

When you guys met in person, it was totally
different than what he was even like online.

- Yeah.
- Or on your text messages.

I was in an online relationship

with an Indian guy for about a
year before we met in Thailand.

I was in love with this guy,

but then when we met in person he
refused to do anything sexual with me.

And I really think that it was
because of my weight.

It definitely took a toll
on my self-esteem.

And it's really hard
for me to think about.

He was definitely a mistake,
definitely.

So, what I learnt
after Indian guy

is I'm like, you know what,

until we meet,
I can't fully trust Johnny.

I'm really hoping that
Johnny is different.

But it does creep up
in my mind, that in person,

he may be surprised
by how big I am.

And then not like me anymore.

If that happens, I don't know
if I'm gonna recover from it.

I hope he's
as sweet as he sounds.

- Me too.
- Otherwise, we're gonna kick his butt.

- For sure.
- Just so you know.

I just landed here in Pereira.

The last time I talked
to Ximena was last night.

She said she would be waiting
for me in baggage claim.

So we can meet, um,
for the first time.

I don't see her.

Here I am, in another
country, all alone.

And Ximena's nowhere to be seen.

Did I just get stood up?

So, I just landed here
in Pereira.

I was up since like
5:00 a.m. today

just waiting for this moment.

The last time I talked
to Ximena was last night,

to let her know I was
about to board my flight.

She said she would be waiting
for me in baggage claim,

so we can meet, um,
for the first time.

I'm a little nervous.

But if you don't go after what
you want, you'll never know.

So, I'm just ready to go for it.

I texted her to let her know
that I landed.

But she's not responding.

I don't see her.

Where is she?

Here I am, in another country,
in baggage claim, all alone.

And Ximena's nowhere to be seen.

So I'm thinking to myself,

did I make the right decision?
Is she real?

Is she coming? I'm like, "Oh,
no. Did I just get stood up?"

Oh, my God.

What! No!

- I love it.
- Good.

Good, that makes me so happy.

Sleep with that instead of me?

Have to get
myself like, looking a little bit decent.

This is gonna bring out my lips.

I have such low self esteem
about myself.

I wonder if Hamza's gonna be
attracted to me when he

sees me in person.

Oh! Oh, my God.

Usman arrived in Tanzania

a few hours ago, and we're
getting him settled into his room.

Prior to our trip, Usman had told
me that he wanted a separate room,

'cause he wants
to take things slow.

Why don't you like,
unpack a little bit,

freshen up, and then come
over to my room, so I can...

I want to give you your gifts!

01:06:32,956 --> 01:06:35,056
- Okay.
- Okay?

My face is red. Too hot.

Whatever.
I'll see you later.

Bye.

I'm a persuasive woman.

And I hope that when Usman
sees all the romantic decorations,

that he'll get the hint, and
want to stay in my room tonight.

Believe it
and you'll achieve it.

I met Kimberly today.

Hey! Come in.

What!

- And look at this. Isn't it sweet?
- Yeah.

- They're swans.
- Oh! Oh, oh, oh.

Do you like it?

They did it. This is like, the honeymoon
suite. This is like the best room.

Yeah, I mean, I felt like I
was coming here to meet you.

We don't know
what's gonna happen.

No, no, not...

We're not even... Woah! Let's
not talk about the marriage.

But, I just wanted... I felt
like you invited me here.

It's really special to me, so I'm gonna
get the most expensive room in the hotel.

Hopefully you'll
be here with me.

This will be your side.

That is your side over
there, just so you know.

That's my side.

If you stay...
No, I didn't say that.

Well, I wanna give
you your gifts.

I want you to see, I'm so
excited. I carried them a long way.

Go ahead, go ahead,
go ahead, go ahead.

- One, two...
- Two, three. Go.

Well, you told me your
MacBook broke, so I...

I mean, you told me yours
broke. So, I got it for you.

Oh, Kimberly!

I am for real.

Do you like it?

Look at your other gift.

No!

No, no, no!

- Kimberly!
- Do you like it?

That's like girlfriend status
right there.

You know what I'm saying?

You say almost. What...

Wow.

I'm not gonna sleep tonight.

Do you love it?

I love it!

Good.

Good, that makes me so happy.

You made me so happy
by letting me come here.

Are you gonna sleep... sleep
with that instead of me? That's cool.

Usman is literally hugging
and kissing his gifts,

and I'm sitting here, like,
"Hello, can I get some of that?"

I am sincerely hoping
by the end of this trip,

I get as much action
as those damn gifts did.

- I know.
- But...

I know you do.
But I know you're tired.

- I know you're tired, too.
- Yeah.

- Yeah, thank you so much, Kimberly.
- You're welcome.

Even though I am sad
Usman's going back to his room tonight,

you know, over the next two weeks,
we're gonna be together everyday.

He made that clear.

And that's super important, because I
only have two weeks to convince him

that I am the woman for him.

Okay.

You're so funny.
Okay, I got you.

Okay.

- All right. Bye. See you tomorrow.
- Bye.

But I would be very disappointed
if I don't get some kind of answer

before I leave here.

Have to like, get myself
looking a little bit decent.

You know, put a little bit of water on this
hair and then scrunch a little. Scrunch.

Scrunch.

So it doesn't look
like a wet dog.

My past relationships
have been real rocky.

I never felt appreciated...

Mmm.

Does it bring out my lips?

And so, I have such
low self-esteem about myself,

I wonder if Hamza's gonna be attracted
to me when he sees me in person.

I'm nervous. I'm sweating
like, a frickin' race horse right now.

I am getting married on this
trip to someone I've never met.

Oh!

Oh, my God.

Oh...

Oh, my gosh! Hi!
Hi!

Hi...

Oh, my... Hi! I am happy, too.

Oh, my gosh.

Oh!

Oh, my God.

They're so pretty!

I'm tired, yes.

Oh, my gosh. Oh, thank you.

It feels amazing to see Hamza
for the very first time.

It is nerve-wracking, just 'cause I didn't
know how the chemistry was gonna go.

But...

It seems like he's, you know,
liking what he sees, so...

Is...

Not too sure, huh?

Oh, my gosh, you gonna help me?

- You get this one, I'll get this one.
- Okay.

You got your mask?

Mask?

Yes.

How do we get out of here?
Exit. Where's the exit?

- This way, exit.
- This way, yeah.

Being together with Hamza in person,
I realize that with our language barrier,

it's gonna be a little bit more
difficult to, you know, communicate.

- You've come to the airport, no?
- Yeah.

- Wow, you don't know how to leave?
- It is cold, yeah, baby.

- Cold.
- Cold.

And that's kinda concerning
to me, because we really have to get

to know each other
before we get married.

And we don't have a lot of time.

Hmm.

Oh, my God.

- Let me help. Put you up there right now.
- Yeah.

- See?
- Oh, my gosh.

We know each other for 13 years.

Does he like me or not?

So, when you hug me,
it's like a friend... thing?

You think I came all this way
just because we're friends?

I don't know.

Is this it?

- It's so pretty.
- I've only seen pictures online.

- Look it's so pretty there.
- Oh, that is pretty.

- You like?
- That's awesome.

Okay.

I'm trying. I'm trying.

Oh, my gosh.

Oh, my God. Do I have
to do it myself?

- I mean. I'll help you.
- Okay, I'll do it. I'll do it.

I'll just like...

Yeah, I did it.

I just landed in Turkey to meet
Alina face to face for the first time.

And it's been great, but it's
more challenging than I thought.

- What can you carry?
- My purse.

We have two weeks
to experience Turkey together.

And I'm really hoping in that time,
I can feel like this is gonna work,

And I can be the person
Alina needs me to be.

Where we going?
Down this way?

Yeah, we're going here.

Oye, are you okay?

- Down, down or up?
- Up.

I've always loved that
Alina does so much.

More than people
who are able-bodied.

But it's just hitting
me all on the face

that I'm taking
care of everything.

Okay, and now we
gotta go to the second floor.

- There's no elevator?
- No.

We can leave the wheelchair
here. But prepare for the worse.

'Cause it's really
a lot of stairs.

Especially for me.

I don't think I have
ever in my life

booked a hotel room and thought,

"Is this
wheelchair assessible?"

I don't know. I feel like
this is something

there's a need to
engage in and learn about.

It's trying to feel
a little overwhelming.

I feel like I just have to just carry
you up these to make it easier for you.

- You wanna?
- Let's try this.

I feel very excited when he picks
me up and carries me upstairs.

I think it's very sweet.

There you go, ma'am.

Thank you.
Welcome home.

- Kind off.
- Give me the tour.

So, this is the living room.

Obviously. And
here is the bedroom.

And we also have a balcony.

Why is this?
What's this chair for?

Uh, so... You know,
like, the bed is so high.

You have to climb into bed.

I can't.

Like...

- Oh, God.
- Like, I can't.

Yeah, and so I asked them
maybe they have something higher,

and they brought this chair.

- So yeah.
- Huh. Okay.

I mean, I'll help you into it like.
I'll put you up there right now.

Really?

- See.
- Oh, my gosh.

- It's easy.
- For you.

I'm glad Elijah was here
to help you out at least.

I mean, I would feel
really bad otherwise.

And he actually stayed
over the night with me, too.

Where did he sleep, which side?

This one.

What are you looking for?

- You know, it's...
- Baby, you should smell it.

So, you don't mind that
he slept in your part?

I mean, I think it's a little bit
weird he sleeping in my bed.

Like is he gonna have a nightmare
and cuddle between us tonight?

You can go
cuddle on his bed, you know.

He cuddled you. You can
go there if you want.

So, you don't mind
if I cuddle with Elijah?

- You don't mind?
- You probably do that back in

- Russia all the time.
- No, we don't do that. We don't cuddle.

I cuddle my friends.

- It's not... It's not a weird thing.
- Really? But how?

- So, if you're my friend...
- Petting?

It'd be like, you know,
might just hang out and...

Maybe you make out with
them too, or something?

- No.
- No?

No.

Like so, when you hug me,

it's like a friend thing?

You think I came all this way
just because we're friends?

I don't know. I mean...

Americans are weird.

We need to take
some time, like...

You know I'm excited to see you,

but I have no mental energy, my
brain is like falling apart as we talk.

You understand what I mean?

Kinda.

- I'm gonna go clean up, so...
- Yeah, okay.

I'm here.
Where else can I be?

I don't think that the
meeting went how I wanted it to go.

We know each other for 13 years.

And it was building up
all this time,

and now you say you're tired
and you wanna go to bed?

I was hoping that he would
show at least some affection.

Does he like me or not?

Next time on Before the 90 Days.

Hi!

I'll flip the table
and I'll walk out.

I don't deal well with shady.

What?

I am irritated.

He's already lying to me.

You make me smile everyday.
And I want that for real.

I wasn't expecting to meet
her entire extended family.

It's nice to meet everybody
for the first time.

I've had mixed
feelings about Elijah coming.

And it's like, is this what he's going to
be bringing to the table the entire time?

Like some tension between you.

Stupid?

I worry about what Jasmine
would do if she find out that

I'm still friends with
one of my exes.