90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days (2017–…): Season 5, Episode 12 - Head Games - full transcript

Previously
on Before the 90 Days.

Well, I don't plan to do that.

When we were starting to date,

I stayed
at my ex-husband's house.

Hamza. I was very depressed,

so my ex stepped up and he made
sure everything was taken care of,

and I laid in bed for four days.

You understand now?

Love knows no age.

Twenty-two?

I thought you were 24.



I am 100% positive
that she told me she was 24

There was definitely more than
a miscommunication on this one.

We've only been boyfriend
and girlfriend for like a day.

- Yeah.
- Thank you.

But the truth is there is
something I've been hiding from her.

Babe, there's something I
really want to talk to you about.

Did you do something
that I need to know about?

I swear to God, Usman.

Are we going to be intimate
at all on this trip?

I'm just confused.

I love you very much.

Do you love me?

I do not love you.

Yeah, I'm fine.



I'm on my way to meet
Jasmine's mom and sister today,

but I'm...
I'm feeling a little nervous.

There's a lot of things I'm not supposed
to say or do around Jasmine's mom.

And Jasmine just told me I
might have to take off my hat.

But my hat is almost
kind of like surrogate hair,

so I'm not really comfortable
with it.

This is already a big moment

And I have a lot on my mind if
I want to propose to Jasmine,

I need to get Jasmine's
mom's blessing tonight.

You know, this can make
or break our relationship.

Just be yourself.

All right.

Mommy!

Take off your mask.

Oh, yeah. Yeah.

So good to finally meet you.

Oh.

For you.

Thank you.

Yeah, she's great.

Huh?

My mom is asking
why you still don't have kids.

I just never... you know,
it just didn't happen for me.

My mom says
that if we have, like,

thought about the age gap.

My sister's age.

So you were
like Liz, my sister...

- Right.
- when I was born.

Wow.

I don't see a problem with it.
I'm not... You know,

there's a lot of couples out
there that have large age gaps.

Mmm-hmm.

Uh-huh.

Jasmine's mom
is literally my age,

maybe one or two years older

so that's a kind of awkward
question.

I might not understand
what she's saying,

but clearly,
she has some concerns.

Okay, the food is ready.

Okay.

And that's making me
feel a little tense.

Okay.

I have some concerns
about Jasmine's mom liking m

but I'm just... I'm just not
comfortable taking my hat off.

I feel that things
are piling up against me,

and I believe it's gonna be hard
to get her mom's blessing tonight.

Hmm.

So what are you saying
right now?

What are you trying to
tell me right now?

But why are you telling me
this right now?

Like, why ruin my day?

Yeah, if there's something
to tell me.

Yeah, I tell you everything.

How dare you keep
a secret from me? Seriously.

It doesn't matter.
Why didn't you tell me?

And I've been loyal
this whole time.

Are you kidding me?

Are you kidding me?

Well, you're telling me now,

but I've been loyal
this whole time.

You're making me
look like a fool, yo.

And I asked you who Zara was, you did not
tell me Zara was somebody you were dating.

But I never knew that you
were dating this girl back then.

When did you end it with her?

Wow, four months ago.

We've been talking for a year.

That's crazy as hell
because I thought

I was the one that was
like repairing his heart,

okay, and his trust.

But during this time that
I was putting this work in,

he's dating
a whole 'nother chick.

Oh, I'm pissed.

I feel stupid.

I feel stupid
I even came down here.

That's how I feel.

So you can keep
your little Zara,

you can keep your little
. I'm ready to go.

Where's the car?

How dare you?

We spent
so much time on the phone,

we spent so much time textin

We spent so much time
video chatting.

And if I would have known that
he was in a full-blown relationship

and fell in love with this woman
enough to write a song about her,

I would have been like,
"Bye." Like, "Bye."

Like, "What are you doing
right now?"

I would have never, ever,

ever in a million years tried to pursue
somebody that was in a relationship.

I was cheated on,

and I would never do
that to anybody else.

I'm worried now that he
might do the same thing to me

that he did to Zara, and I will
not allow myself to be cheated on.

Oh, my God.

It is a wrong thing, Usman.

You told me you love me,

and now you're going to tell me
some about some bitch.

Get the out of here, yo.

I want to go back to the hotel

and then I'm gonna make my
travel arrangements to go home.

So please let's just go.

I don't know
why that just hit me so hard,

like I came down here to watch
you do a video about another bitch.

Like, that's crazy, yo.
That is so crazy.

So why would you bring
that up to me just now?

That's what I don't understand.

Are we?
Are we?

- Yeah, we are.
- Oh, okay.

Yeah.
Get off me.

Maybe we should just like... like just
go our separate ways or something.

No, like in life.

Maybe we should...

I've been through a lot
to get here with Usman.

I left my mom.

I left my...

everything I know to come here
to pursue and see

if I'm gonna be
in a relationship with Usman.

And now it's like,
what was the point,

what truly
was the point of me coming.

And everything
is based on a lie.

I really don't know what can
fix this now with me and Usman.

I have no idea.

- Hey.
- Hey.

Hello.
Hola.

Nice to meet you.

- What?
- Hungry.

Not really.

She's always saying, "I love
you, I love you, I love you."

And now she's changing her mind.

I don't really know what to do.

So I really don't want
to be here, truthfully.

I've been in Per for three days.

And so far, the whole thing just is
really different than what I expected.

Mahogany didn't show up
to the airport

because her parents expresse some
doubts when I was on my way to Peru.

So last night,

I met with them to try to
calm some of their fears.

It was very obvious,
they were very skeptical.

But even more importantly
than that,

I started losing trust
in Mahogany

because she has not been
transparent with me.

Hey.

I told you I was going
to update you in 24 hours,

so a lot's happened.

She's real.

She's real.

She's as sweet as
I thought she was.

But then, like, last night,
I went to her house,

and that's when things
got really weird.

From what I knew,

she was living
with her mom and dad,

and now all of a sudden,
she's living, you know,

independently from them
in this really expensive like

condo that I could tell
was not her house.

Like, there was like
surfboards there,

bunk beds in her spare room.

I saw a tourist pamphlet,
you know.

It was... it was obviously
just a, you know,

weekly rental place.

But she was saying,
that's her home, like,

that's where she lives.

It's just... it was weird.

I got to tell you.

And then a bombshell dropped.

I thought she was 24.
But she just turned 22.

Right.

I did take
a minute this morning.

I got a good swim in, you know,

just trying to process
everything.

But we're not there yet for me
to just like confront her.

We need time together to bond,

and then we'll be able to
talk a little better.

Right.

All right.

I'm going to go see
Mahogany again.

And I'll let you know
what's happening.

All right. Bye.

I know there are some thing
about Mahogany

that are not adding up
right now,

and I'm trying to create
some emotional distance.

But it's really, really hard.

My heart is in this.

So I do want to investigate
who she is further.

I was so happy to hear
from Mahogany

after abruptly leaving
the meeting with her parents

I think Mahogany felt bad about
how awkward things were last night,

so maybe that's why she asked
me to meet with her friends today.

Hey, baby!

Hi.

Good.

What about you?

Very good.

Yes, they're coming.

- Coming. Okay?
- Yes.

Yeah.

So I got a new app.

Okay.

Whatever I say,
it will translate it quickly.

Oh, I like that.

Yeah, so that'll hopefully help.

- Yes. Much better.
- That's better. Yes.

- Hello.
- Hi.

Hi.

Okay, Benjamin, that is
Elizabeth and she is Anghy.

Anghy, Benjamin.

Yeah, nice to meet you.

- What?
- Hungry.

All right.

- I want to eat ice cream.
- Me too.

- Yes.
- My favorite.

Yeah, which one is this?

Can you tell me something about
Mahogany that you love about her?

Just press that button there.

Go ahead.
Go ahead and talk.

That was a lot.

Well, I do know

if a person is very responsible,

and this is the person that you
can always trust and count on.

- Aw, that's...
- It's beautiful.

Can you tell me something that you
want me to know as her new boyfriend?

Okay.

Well, honestly

I didn't think
you were her boyfriend,

but she did tell us
she had a friend

from abroad coming to visit her.

Okay.

Mahogany, am I your boyfriend
or just your friend?

Who am I to you?

Surprise.
Surpedo.

Here we had been planning
a family together,

planning on getting married,

having very intimate
conversations.

I traveled 4,000 miles
to be with her,

and all of a sudden,
I'm not even her boyfriend.

I am so shocked.

I just don't quite understan
where she's coming from.

I'm just really confused
by the whole thing.

I love you very much,

but I just really just
need to know,

do you love me?

I love you,

but I do not love you because we
have not lived together for a long time.

Loving is a very big word.

But you always told me that
you love me and I'm your life.

If I want you
to love the person,

you need a long time
to live together.

Just a couple of months ago,

Ximena was so excited
to marry me.

So when Ximena tells me
she doesn't love me

and love is too big of a word
for the relationship,

that makes me feel devastated
and even more confused.

You changed so much from
the last time we saw each other.

Because I
have many doubts in things.

That's the way it is.

Okay, so.

Let's communicate.
What are those doubts?

Okay.

Not really.

No, it's... Yeah,

it's just the fact
that it's just confusing to me

because she's always saying, "I
love you, I love you, I love you."

And now she's changing her mind.

There's many doubts.

I just want to know
what those doubts are

because I'm trying
to work on things.

She's not perfect either.

A relationship is two sided.

I just can't say, "Hey, I'm gonna
change this, this, this, and this."

And she's not gonna understand
and do anything.

So I don't really know
what to do.

Honestly, tonight,

I really don't want to be
here, truthfully.

I have to have a relationship
with the father of my children.

I wanted to, um, ask something.

Yeah, I wanted to get
your blessing

before I proposed to Jasmine.

Hamza. Hey.

Yes.

You sleep okay?

Yes.

Yeah?

How are you feeling today?

I feel bad.

When I first talked to Hamza
about the reason

why I went to my
ex-husband's house,

he empathized with me
and he understood.

But it's been a couple of days and
things have been a little off between us.

You like problems?

I don't like problems.

And because of our language
barrier,

it's hard for me to explain
everything to him,

so I told Hamza it would be a good
idea for us to meet with a translator

because if we can't communicate,

I don't know how we're gonna
be able to get over this issue.

Okay, well,
today we'll talk about them.

- Okay.
- Okay.

Yes, it's nice out today.

Come up.

Hi, I'm Memphis.

- Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you too.

Oh, great.

It's nice that, you know,

we're going to be able to
conversate and communicate,

Ok, so I will translate
everything.

So what does he have to say?

He's telling you
that one day, maybe,

- when you will be together...
- Mmm-hmm.

If you disagree, it happens...

Yes.

That maybe you will do
this again

and you will go to your ex
for four days or more.

No, I will not go
to my ex-husband.

Period.

Since you are within the
relationship through your messages,

so that means that you keep
this relationship.

Yes. We have to have a
conversation about our children.

"Why you are shouting?"
He says.

Because he does not understand.

"Speak slowly," he says,

I have to have a relationship
with the father of my children.

He says,
"When you speak together,

you react in a way
that I don't appreciate."

So you don't like when I yell,
when I yell, I get angry.

- Is that what it is?
- Yes. Yeah, yeah.

I know that I
have a very strong personality.

I can get angry really easil

And, you know,

I know that I'm gonna have to be a
little bit more understanding and patient.

So, you know, that's something
I'm gonna have to work on.

So, Hamza,

I just want you to understand how
much I have riding on marrying you

and bringing you back
to America.

I want you to know how much
I'm doing for our relationship.

I'm going against family,
some friends,

they don't believe in you.

They don't think
that you're a good person.

They think that you just
want to come to America.

And I'm still marrying you
because I love you

and I... And I feel like
you love me.

Oh, thank you.

I appreciate that.

"You are
a part of me."

It was really eye opening to be
able to clear the air and kind of see

where each other comes from.

I just hope that, over time

we learn how to communicate
ourselves

'cause we're not always
going to have a translator

there for us every time
we have a problem.

Yeah, I'm happy.

- Me too.
- Good.

- Thank you.
- Welcome.

I'm here
at Jasmine's mom's house,

meeting Jasmine's sister
and mom for the first time.

And things are a little
awkward at the moment.

She says that...

Okay, so relax. So, Mommy...

Okay.

I'm not quite sure if
Jasmine's mom likes me or not.

It's hard to tell.

But my future depends
on Jasmine's mom's approval,

so I cannot leave here tonight
without her mom's blessing.

- Amen.
- Amen.

Amen.

Looks good.

Muy, right?

Excuse me.

So, did Jasmine...

did Jasmine have a lot of
boyfriends when she was growing up?

No.

No?

'Cause she's so beautiful, I would
think all the guys are chasing her.

She said, yes, she's like...
she's super strict,

and she didn't let me
have any boyfriend.

Oh, okay.

Oh, my gosh.

Is this Jasmine?

Oh, my God. Wow.

Look at me.
2001, baby.

Cool pictures.
Man, these are classics.

You're beautiful.

Nice.
Oh, my God.

Mom.

Okay, so...

well, I wanted to,
um, ask something.

Yeah.

I love Jasmine.

I wanted to get your blessing
before I...

propose to Jasmine.

She's letting you know
that you're taking, like,

her treasure,

so she wants you
to take care of me.

I will.
I will take care of her.

- Okay.
- Yeah.

I feel so relief now that I know

that my mom approved
my relationship with Gino.

Mommy...

But at the same time,

Gino and I just went through
something very crazy

with Gino texting
his ex-girlfriend.

So it might be too soon
for him to propose.

And it makes me nervous
to think about it.

I'm starting to have
doubts in the relationship.

I've been sleeping
in the kids' bed 'cause...

Why are you sleeping on a kids,

number one, you're on a
trip to see your future wife?

Yeah. She wants to postpone
the wedding ceremony,

and she said that she doesn't
love me anymore.

My man, I'd be out of there.

I've been in Colombi
a few days now,

and a couple of things
that Ximena said

were really kind of disturbing
and upsetting.

And I'm starting to have
doubts in the relationship.

So this morning, I wanted
to call my friend John

'cause he's a good sounding
board for me just to tell me how it is.

He won't sugarcoat anything.

So I do help her out with like
rent and things like that temporarily.

How do you know that there's
not another Mike in Colorado?

- She could have...
- All these guys.

All these guys all over, just...
Chick's milking you.

Hey, what's up, Mike

What's going on?
How are you doing?

How's everything back home?

It is what it is,
a little cold today, rainy.

Yeah, it's been raining
almost every night here.

So as you know, I'm in Colombia

and things aren't really
going as planned.

Ximena said
a couple of things here

in Colombia
that kind of upset me.

Like what?

Basically, she was saying, like,

she needs space and to
not be lovey and attentive.

Bro, she needs
space? How does somebody

who's in a long distance relationship
like literally another country

need space?

Yeah, I know.
I'm just very confused.

And now I've been sleeping
in the kids' bed 'cause...

Why are you sleeping
on a kid's bed,

number one,
when you're on a trip...

- Yeah.
- to see your future wife?

Well, actually, she wants to
postpone, like, the wedding ceremony.

And she said that she
doesn't love me anymore.

My man, I'd be out of there.

You just spent countless
amount of time and energy

and money to make it happen
during a pandemic.

Who's benefiting from
everything that you are doing?

She is.

Yeah, no.

I'm starting to see it
more and more

that the relationship seems
more like one-sided.

She wants me to change
and work on everything,

but she has to be willing
to put in some effort.

I... I'm not getting
that effort from her.

Her true colors
are startin to come out

and usually that happens
after a couple of months

when you're with somebody
and like,

you're looking for a companion.

I don't think she's truly
looking for a companion.

I think she was looking
to get out of there,

but then she realizes
that maybe you're not the on

Maybe there's things about
you that are bothering her,

and these are things that, Mike,

that you... Makes you.

They're not changeable thing

These are all, like,

really great points
that you're saying,

and I'm starting to see
it more and more,

but still slightly hopeful
that we could work it out.

So would it be possible,
like, to maybe have, um,

Nelcy, like,
talk to her and translate

just so I'm not missing
anything in translation

and just trying to get the true,

her true feelings out,

so I know what to do from here?

John's fiancée, Nelcy,
is a good friend of mine,

and she happens to be
fluent in Spanish.

I really need her help
right now because obviously,

there are things that Ximena
is feeling and trying to tell me

that I don't understand.

I know she'll do it for you

but I just, don't know, man

maybe you're looking for the
light at the end of the tunnel.

But the only light
at the end of the tunnel

that you need to see is the door
for the plane back to New York.

That's the only light
that you need to see, bro.

I understand John telling m

how the relationship won't
work, but I love Ximena.

So I'm hoping that if I better
understand her concerns,

we can figure out
a way to fix this.

Thanks, John.

- No problem, bro.
- All right, yeah,

just communicate
with Nelcy maybe later.

- I will.
- All right, thank you.

All right, man.
Love you.

I love you, too.

- Peace.
- All right.

- Hey.
- Hi. Ready to go?

Going on this getaway
with Mahogany,

I am hoping that we can really

go to a deeper level and
just start falling in love again.

I'm looking at some texts
just reminding myself that it was real,

like, I'm not crazy.

Yesterday,
I was really surprised

and shocked to find out

that Mahogany does not
consider me her boyfriend.

It was pretty hurtful.

One says, "But I really lov to
hear you tell me that you love me."

And then she says,
"You know, baby, I love you.

Boom! Right there.

I say "Thank you, baby,

I must say that God
is calling me to you.

He is calling me
to start a family with you,

and I'm so excited to begin.

And she says, "I also wish to
have many children with you, Ben.

You would be
an amazing father."

I'm not sure what's changed.

My brain is telling me
everything's falling apart

and just to throw in the towel,

but my heart demands that
I use every minute of this trip

to make this relationship work.

I didn't want to embarrass
her in front of her friends

but after they left,

I called Mahogany and I
asked her to go on a trip with me.

- Hey.
- Hi. Ready to go?

I feel completely confused,

but I want to give Mahogany
the benefit of the doubt

because she is very young and
this is all very new and it's intimidating.

So going on this getaway
with Mahogany,

I am hoping that we can
really go to a deeper level

really connect and bond and
just start falling in love again.

So we're headed to this beautiful
little tow called Huacachina

that is about
three and a half hours away

It's strange. Uh...

No stop signs?

There's no stop
signs or traffic lights,

like an intersection,

so you just
have to kind of know.

Yes, I know.

Everyone just has to be careful.

Mm-hmm.

I have a question.

Okay.

Here,
I'm going to turn on my app.

Okay, go ahead.

How is it that Jesus could endure
so much suffering in the world?

What do you think
about my question?

I think before
he went to the cross,

he spent several hours
in a garden,

all by himself,
just preparing, like,

you have to prepare
for suffering.

I agree because he's been
through it all.

When we go to him
and ask him for help,

we're able to find, like, peace.

There is some real awkwardne
happening at the beginning of the trip,

but we start talking about God

and our core values
and why we're together

and the tension breaks
and we start talking.

I think we made it.

Yeah.

The pool is pretty.

Yeah, it's, it's beautiful.

- Yeah.
- This is really relaxing.

After the car ride,

I immediately start feeling a
burden lift off my shoulders.

Everything is setting up
for Mahogany to finally relax

and be able to feel
what she felt

when we were texting and
just go back to that Mahogany

that loved me unconditionally.

So tomorrow, sand dunes?

- Yes. Perfect.
- Okay, sounds good.

- Okay, bye.
- All right. Bye.

Tomorrow, I'm going to keep it
light and fun and see how it goes,

and if we can get into some,
you know, deep conversations,

I want to know
where her heart is.

And it's going to be very
telling the next few days,

for sure.

Let's do it.

I'm trying to.

Baby...

Just move.

Gino is the worst dancer ever.

What are you doing?

Do you trust me?

Where are we?

Yeah, what's this place called?

Oh.

Hamama Zibar?

Hamama Zimba.

Ooh, look at that.

This is pretty.

Old house.

- Old house, yes.
- Yeah.

Oh, is that a donkey?

Donkey, donkey, donkey.

Ee-ah, ee-ah!

It's cold.

Hamza, what are you doing?

Oh, my gosh, it's so pretty.

Oh...

How old is this place, like?

Big old?

Is there snakes out here?

Snakes.

I don't... like snakes.
I don't like snakes.

What?

What?

What are you doing?

I'm, kind of,
like looking around, like,

who is going to come out
and, like, get me.

I'm like, in this foreign place

and there's random animals
around,

so I'm like, "Am I going to
someone's dinner tonight?"

Hi.

You look good.
You look nice.

Why, why are you dressed up?

Nothing? Surprise?

You saying I got big booty?

Where are we going?

Come on.

What?

You look so nice.

Thank you.

Yeah.

Okay.

Yes, I understand.

Baby, you are my happiness.

Do I?
Are you... I don't know.

Do I?

Do you trust me?

You trust me about everything?

Okay, I'll marry you.

Oh, and it's blinging.

Okay.
Yes, I will marry you.

Love you, too.

Yes, I like.

Uh-huh.

Thank you.

Love you.

Thank you.

Big butts.

We are engaged again.

He brought me
to this beautiful ruins,

and I really
wasn't expecting anything,

I just thought it was,
you know, sightseeing,

so I was very excited
when he actually got down

and, like, proposed.

I love you.

So I'm very excited.

He doesn't seem too excited.

Are you excited?
Are you excited?

You happy?

Okay.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

- Merengue?
- Yes. Merengue.

After getting Jasmine's
mom's blessing last night,

I feel so good today.

I feel like a huge weight
was lifted off my shoulders.

Ah.

Do your dance with the feet.

Come.

I just feel a lot of
excitement and energy.

Okay, let's do it.

Kill the ants, baby.

Okay, wait, wait.

- I'm trying to.
- Baby...

Just move.

Gino is the worst dancer ever.

Turn around.

Turn around because I'm turning
around and you're like a stick.

It's not working,

but the good thing is it
makes me feel very happy.

I need a shower.

Ooh, let's go.

Jasmine and I
have been through a lot,

and I feel like our bond
is getting stronger,

but now I have just a week
left with Jasmine here

and I want to propose to
Jasmine within the next few days.

It's exciting,
but it's a really big step,

so I'm still trying to work
this out in my head.

- Yo.
- Yo.

Yeah, you like it?

Maybe you can see it
better like that.

Is that what you think?

Tony is like a year older than
me and we are really close.

Oh, yeah, that's a
lot better. You got it.

Is that better?

Yee-haw!

And so it just
wouldn't feel right

not sharing my proposal plans
with him.

I want to get his feedback
about the whole idea.

Yeah.
So the weather's been awesome.

I'm having fun in the sun.

Nice. So...

Yeah, um, we had some problems,

a few arguments and stuff,

but now things have been
going pretty good, you know?

Uh, just I was texting
my ex and stuff.

Yeah, but. Um...

Well, I texted her
a long time ago and,

um, I... I was texting a picture
of Jasmine that I shouldn't have.

She blew up.

She wanted, you know,
to break up with me.

It was bad.

Yeah, but we, you know,

made up to each other and stuff,

so the last couple of days
have been pretty good.

So I... I'm planning
to propose to her,

you know, real soon here.

Yeah.
Do you think...

Yeah. I mean, we're...

we're still in the early
stages of being together,

you know, in person.

But I mean, it's been promising,

and I love her very much.

I don't know.

You know?

I mean, God, you know,
everybody has problems,

no one's relationship's perfect.

We're starting new, no more
talking about the past stuff.

I want to talk about the
present and the future.

We're just concerned That's all.

I can understand why
my brother Tony is questioning me

wanting to propose
to Jasmine so soon.

He doesn't want me to get hurt,

but I love Jasmine
and I want to marry her.

And to me,
this is worth the risk.

Oh, my God.

I've been in Per
for almost a week now,

and there's been a lot of
ups and downs, um,

mostly downs, to be honest.

Hey.

- You all ready?
- Good to see you.

Yeah.

But on our drive
to our little getaway,

I finally feel like
we connected in person.

I'm really excited.

- Let's do this.
- So, yes.

All right.

Oh, my gosh.

Ooh.

Oh, man.

Here we go.

What I have planned today
is going to be spectacular.

Whoa!

Starting off
with a dune buggy ride,

and then top it off with a dinner really
romantic in the middle of the desert.

Huacachina is idyllic.

Oh, wow.

Hang on!

Oh, my God.

It is an oasis in the
middle of the Peruvian desert

with mountain dunes,

and it's absolutely phenomenal.

Oh, wow.
It was incredible.

It's for you.

- Me?
- Yes.

Is it a surprise
or something like that?

It's a surprise.

Oh, that's beautiful.

It is.

- This is beautiful.
- It is.

What do you want to eat?

Whatever they got, it's good.

So tell me about Benjamin.

Okay.

I was just coming out of college

and I was wanting a wife
and children

and to be a pastor at church.

That was the plan, you know,

and then all of a sudden
it did not work out for me.

Why?

When I got married,

we ignored a lot of our problems

and we did not communicate
well because the church we were at

just believed in perfectionism,

like we had to be perfect,
but we weren't,

so we had to hide that.

That's bad.

Um, no, I wouldn't say
we have a good relationship.

Why is it important?

Because you have family,
with... with her.

I have gotten therapy
and a lot of counseling,

which has helped.

I think the real problem
is she has yet to forgive me.

But let's talk
about the present.

Let's talk about now.

What changed from when we
were texting and getting so close?

Because when I found out
that we were just friends

and we were not boyfriend
and girlfriend,

it really hurt.

I'm really sorry,

but I didn't know
that you think...

So I was saying that we were
going to have a family

and that I was in love
with you and like,

the next step is,
maybe we get engaged.

And so I just assumed.

I see that means
something different for you.

Yes.

After my divorce,

I dated someone who was
27 years old for three years

and we were going to get
married,

but when it came down to it,

she did not accept my children.

Yeah.

I feel like I don't have to
defend my past

because it's behind me now.

I don't think it's fair that
she's questioning my past

when I haven't been questioning
all the holes in her stories.

Every single day,

there seems to be
another roadblock,

and I'm starting to question whether
she really wants this relationship.

I'll take the laptop, though.

Kim texted me and she told me

that she can no longer trust
me and she want us to end it.

I'll take the laptop, though.

Do you? Do you?

Do you?

This is... it's too much,
it's like too much stress.

Go back home to my regular life.

There's not anything.
I'm not saying you never have.

Just like I.
Just everything...

It's very frustrating

that he doesn't understand
why I'm upset.

I'm not mad at the fact
that he was in a relationship,

I'm mad at the fact that he did
not tell me he was in a relationship.

And when I told Usman that
I was falling in love with him

and that I wasn't dating
anybody else,

Usman should have made
that very clear to me

that he was in a relationship and
I would have just backed away,

but he did not do that
because he's selfish.

Part of me want
to stay to work things out,

but I can't stop thinking..

I think it's just better
for us to just end it.

That's how I feel.

And there's not...
You can't change that.

But it's sad because I
love him, though, you know.

I don't understand
if somebody could just tell me

he loves me and then just like,

the whole... I feel like everything
was a lie now, you know?

I personally wouldn't want
to be with somebody like that.

Things between Ximen
and I have been really tens

since the conversation
we had last night,

but thankfully my friend,
John's fiancée, Nelcy,

agreed to talk with us
and translate.

I chose to have this
conversation at a restaurant

just to have some privacy
away from the kids,

away from family.

I only have a week left
in Colombia,

so I really need to know
where we stand

and if we have
a future together.

Okay.

Tap.

Hey, Nelcy.

Hi, Mikey.

Ximena is right across
the table from me.

She, uh, she just
kind of doesn't want to talk.

I don't know, but, um,

I just need you
to help translate

because we had a conversation
last night saying that,

like now,
she doesn't love me anymore.

She wants time.
She said...

Nelcy, what was exactly
she was saying?

She wakes up and she feels
like somebody's staring at her.

She wakes up
and it's you staring at her

She doesn't like that.

If you could just explain
to her that I didn't,

like, mean it to, like,
come off that way.

I was just like,
just really just admiring her.

I wasn't like staring like
creepily.

I asked her
what she likes about you

and instead of her saying
something that she likes about you,

she went with something that

naming the things
that she doesn't like, and..

I personally wouldn't want
to be with somebody like that.

What happened?

Yes.

All right.

I'm probably going to see
when the next... next flight out is.

Yeah, I think you should.

All right.
Thanks, Nelcy.

Bye.

I just want to say I'm going to
give you the space that you want.

I just hope we could still
talk and just be friends.

Next time on Before the 90 Days.

Hamza's mother
wanted to speak to a translator.

All these problems
that you lived in your life,

she asks if it will influence
your future life with Hamza?

I'm going to be as respectful
as I possibly can right now,

but you're really
kind of getting to me.

Last night,

I texted Mahogany
all the answers she needed,

and I got nothing back.

I feel like she's checked out
and me pursuing this,

I don't know what I'm doing.

I need physical attention.

I called over a friend and
talked and cuddled with him,

and we ended up having sex.

You could see it on
his face that he's really upset.

Like, I feel really bad now.

Um, I don't think you need
to worry about that.

He's acting like a jerk,

not taking it seriously...

She said I could stay to see if
we could come up with a solution.

All right.

Why would you bring me down here

to shoot a video
about another woman?

Oh, this is funny?

Is this funny, too?

You.