90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days (2017–…): Season 4, Episode 9 - Should've Known Better - full transcript

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"BEFORE THE 90 DAYS"...

IF YOU'RE TRYING TO HIDE
ANYTHING FROM ME,

THAT'S GOING TO OPEN UP
A TON OF PROBLEMS.

ASH HAS TOLD ME THAT HE DOES
WANT TO MOVE TO AMERICA

WITH HIS SON TAJ,

BUT THE SITUATION
IS MORE COMPLICATED

THAN HE WAS LETTING ON.

I'VE COME TO HER HOMETOWN

BECAUSE I STILL HAVEN'T
HEARD ANYTHING FROM LANA.

I GOT A MESSAGE FROM LANA.

"DO YOU STILL WANT
TO MEETING FOR A PHOTO



AND START A RELATIONSHIP
AND VISA?"

OH, GOD, YES.

AT THIS POINT,
OUR RELATIONSHIP COULD BE OVER.

I GOT THIS EMAIL.

IT'S SAYING THAT THEY WILL
RELEASE SOME PRIVATE PICTURES

IF I DID NOT GIVE HIM MONEY.

THESE WERE PROVOCATIVE
NUDE PHOTOS

THAT I SENT WILLIAMS
IN PRIVATE.

I THINK WILLIAMS WAS HACKED.

I DON'T KNOW
WHAT TO SAY ANYMORE.

IF YOU CAN'T BE AFFECTIONATE,

IF YOU DON'T WANT
TO MEET MY FRIENDS,

WHY DID YOU EVEN COME HERE?

I JUST FEEL
REALLY UNCOMFORTABLE



AND I FEEL REALLY ALONE.

I HAVE SOMETHING I NEED
TO TELL YOU.

I WENT TO PRISON...

I NEEDED TO TELL YOU BEFORE
WE GOT TOO DEEP INTO THIS.

YOU ARE NOTHING TO ME
RIGHT NOW.

ENJOY YOUR LIFE.

‐I WILL NOW YOU'RE NOT IN IT.
‐SAME HERE.

WHY THE
DID HE HAVE TO SEE ME IN PERSON

JUST TO
THROW IT IN MY FACE?

CAPTIONS PAID FOR BY
DISCOVERY COMMUNICATIONS

YESTERDAY,
I FINALLY CAME CLEAN TO VARYA

ABOUT THIS SECRET
THAT I'VE BEEN HOLDING BACK.

I AM AN EX‐CONVICT.

I HAD A HARD LIFE GROWING UP,

AND WHEN I SAW THE OPPORTUNITY
TO MAKE FAST MONEY,

I STARTED DEALING DRUGS,

AND I SPENT 30 MONTHS
IN FEDERAL PRISON FOR IT.

WHEN I TOLD VARYA,
SHE WAS OBVIOUSLY UPSET.

YOU KNOW, SHE SAID
SHE NEEDED SOME SPACE,

SO LAST NIGHT,
I STAYED IN A HOTEL.

BUT THIS MORNING
I REACHED OUT TO HER

AND SHE SAID SHE WOULD
BE WILLING TO MEET UP

AND HEAR WHAT I HAVE TO SAY.

I'M HOPING THAT
SHE WILL FORGIVE ME,

BUT SHE HAS EVERY RIGHT
TO BE UPSET.

WHAT'S...

I'M SORRY
I DIDN'T TELL YOU.

I DIDN'T TELL YOU BECAUSE
I'M NOT PROUD OF IT,

AND I DON'T WANT TO
JUST RANDOMLY TELL SOMEBODY

UNLESS I'M REALLY GETTING
CLOSE TO THEM,

AND I FEEL THAT
I'M GETTING CLOSE TO YOU

AND I THOUGHT
THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW.

I REGRET NOT TELLING YOU.

BUT I ALSO REGRET
MY PAST AS WELL.

ALL I KNOW IS THAT MY PAST
IS IN THE PAST.

EVERY DAY I'M TRYING TO WORK
THROUGH IT MYSELF,

MAKE SENSE OF IT.

WHY DID I GO THAT ROUTE?

BUT WHAT MATTERS,
WHAT MATTERS IN THIS MOMENT,

IS THAT IT'S NEVER
GONNA HAPPEN AGAIN. NEVER.

MY ACTIONS HAVE SHOWN THAT.
I'VE SHOWN.

I'VE SHOWN EVERYBODY AROUND ME
THAT THAT'S NOT ME.

THAT REALLY WASN'T ME.

THAT WAS A SNIPPET OF
OF WHAT, I GUESS,

I WANTED TO BE THAT I WASN'T.

YOU KNOW,
I WANTED TO HAVE MONEY.

WE WERE POOR. I WANTED MONEY.

AND I'M SORRY FOR IT.

I'VE BEEN SUCCESSFUL
IN LIFE EVER SINCE.

I'VE PURSUED
A COLLEGE EDUCATION.

I GOT MY GRADUATE DEGREE.
I'VE MOVED FORWARD.

I'VE LIVED A SUCCESSFUL LIFE
THUS FAR.

AND I KNOW THAT I CAN
CONTINUE TO DO THAT,

AND I WILL CONTINUE
TO DO THAT.

YOU KNOW, VARYA,

I'M LOOKING FOR THE PERSON
I'M GONNA BE WITH FOREVER,

AND ALL I KNOW IS
THAT I WANT TO BE WITH YOU.

AND I'M ASKING YOU,
WITH EVERYTHING THAT I AM,

TO PLEASE, PLEASE FORGIVE ME.

I WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY,

AND IN TURN,
I WANT TO BE HAPPY, TOO.

I LIKE THAT.

DO WE REALLY HAVE
TO TELL HER?

LET ME TELL HER.
LET ME BE THE ONE.

HONESTLY, THAT'S PROBABLY
THE ONLY WAY THAT

I WANT HER TO FIND OUT.

THEN I'M GONNA DO IT.

I'VE BEEN IN
AUSTRALIA FOR ABOUT A WEEK

VISITING MY GIRLFRIEND ERIKA.

BUT WE HAVE ARGUED AND FOUGHT
SO MUCH SINCE I GOT HERE.

LAST NIGHT WHEN SHE LEFT,
I FELT SO ALONE

AND I'M IN A COUNTRY
WHERE I DON'T KNOW ANYBODY,

I HAVE NO SUPPORT SYSTEM HERE.

I CAN'T TALK TO MY MOM
ABOUT IT.

SHE DOESN'T KNOW
THAT I'M BISEXUAL

OR THAT I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND.

AFTER ERIKA LEFT LAST NIGHT,
SHE TEXTED ME TO APOLOGIZE,

AND WE AGREED TO MEET
IN THE MORNING AND TALK.

WITH MY HEALTH CONDITION, I TOOK
A HUGE RISK BY COMING HERE.

WE ONLY HAVE TWO MORE WEEKS
TO FIGURE THINGS OUT,

AND I DON'T TRUST HER ENOUGH
TO WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HER.

I'M BEGINNING TO SEE THAT
THIS IS SOMETHING ABOUT US

THAT'S KIND OF INCOMPATIBLE.

‐HEY.
‐HI.

I GOT YOU THESE.

WOW. MY GOSH.

THEY'RE BEAUTIFUL.

YEAH...

YEAH.

‐PUT THEM IN THE SINK.
‐YEAH.

YOU WANT TO GO OUTSIDE?
‐YEAH.

I'VE BROUGHT STEPHANIE
SOME FLOWERS,

BECAUSE IT IS A PEACE OFFERING

AND MY WAY OF TELLING HER THAT
I WANT TO APOLOGIZE TO HER.

I WANT TO SHOW HER
THAT I STILL LOVE HER.

BUT WE'RE NOT ALL GOOD YET.

SO...

I AM SAD THAT I'VE BEEN HERE

FOR A RELATIVELY SHORT TIME,

AND THINGS HAVE
JUST GONE SO AWRY.

YOU KNOW?

I DIDN'T WANT TO STORM OUT
LAST NIGHT AND LEAVE, YOU KNOW,

I'M NOT GENERALLY THE TYPE
TO, LIKE,

RUN AWAY FROM PROBLEMS.

I LIKE TO, LIKE,
TALK THEM OUT.

BUT I FELT LIKE I WAS TRYING
TO TALK THEM OUT

AND WE JUST KEPT COMING BACK

TO THE SAME THING, LIKE,
OVER AND OVER AGAIN.

THERE ARE CLEARLY
UNRESOLVED ISSUES AND PATTERNS

THAT, LIKE,
WE NEED TO FIGURE OUT.

THE AFFECTION THING IS SOMETHING
THAT WE TALKED ABOUT,

BUT INSTEAD OF DEALING WITH IT,
YOU'RE JUST KIND OF BEING LIKE,

"OH, WELL, I GUESS
IT'S ALL MY FAULT, THEN."

AND THEN IT'S CLOSED OFF

AND I DON'T QUITE KNOW, LIKE,
WHAT THE THINGS I'M DOING ARE

THAT ARE MAKING YOU
UNCOMFORTABLE OR, LIKE,

YOU SAY THAT YOU FEEL LIKE
YOU'VE MET A DIFFERENT PERSON

ESSENTIALLY COMING HERE,
YOU'VE SAID THAT SORT OF THING.

WHAT COULD POSSIBLY BE
SO DIFFERENT

THAT WOULD MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE
YOU CAN'T TRUST ME?

IT'S JUST...

I HAVE BEEN LIED TO
BY EXES SO MANY TIMES,

AND THINGS LIKE
THE DATING APP.

YEAH.

I FEEL LIKE WE ARE STILL
IN THE PHASE

OF GETTING TO REALLY KNOW
EACH OTHER,

AND THERE'S CERTAIN THINGS
ABOUT YOUR LIFESTYLE

THAT REALLY SCARE ME.

LIKE THE NATURE OF SOME
OF YOUR FRIENDSHIPS, REALLY,

IT MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE.

SO THE NATURE
OF MY FRIENDSHIPS.

DO YOU MEAN LIKE THAT
I'M VERY CLOSE WITH MY FRIENDS?

NO, IT'S BECAUSE YOU'VE HAD
INTIMATE RELATIONS

WITH SOME OF YOUR FRIENDS.

STEPH'S ALWAYS KNOWN
THAT I'VE BEEN INTIMATE

WITH SOME OF MY FRIENDS
IN THE PAST.

SHE NEVER MENTIONED
THAT SHE WASN'T OKAY WITH IT.

BUT I'M GLAD THAT SHE HAS
DECIDED TO OPEN UP TO ME,

BECAUSE I STILL WANT
TO MAKE THIS WORK.

I KNOW THAT, LIKE, IT MIGHT
MAKE YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE,

BUT I'M NOT THE KIND OF PERSON
THAT'S GONNA DO WRONG BY YOU.

I WOULD LIKE YOU
TO MEET THEM.

I THINK THAT THAT MIGHT
EASE YOUR MIND A LITTLE BIT.

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE
MEETING MY FRIENDS

AFTER HAVING THIS CHAT?

I'M GONNA TRY MY BEST.

I JUST NEED YOU TO KNOW
THAT IT IS STRANGE FOR ME.

MM‐HMM,
I APPRECIATE YOU TRYING,

BECAUSE YOU CAN NOT
ONLY TRUST ME,

BUT YOU CAN TRUST THEM WITH ME.

I DO HAVE THESE, YOU KNOW,
JEALOUSY PROBLEMS.

YEAH, I'LL HAVE TO WORK ON IT.

I HAVE BEEN CHEATED ON.

I'VE BEEN LIED TO.

AND I DON'T HAVE A TRUSTING
NATURE AND I WANT TO,

I WANT TO BE A MORE
TRUSTING PERSON.

SO IT'S GOING TO BE A PROCESS,

BUT I HOPE THAT WE CAN
BEGIN THAT PROCESS TONIGHT.

YEAH.

YEAH.

DO YOU THINK THIS IS
GOING TO WORK?

TONIGHT, WE'RE MEETING
USMAN'S BROTHER, MUHAMMED.

USMAN...

LANA AGREED TO MEET
AT A RESTAURANT TODAY

AT 2:00 P. M.

THIS IS MAKE OR BREAK.
I CAN'T WAIT ANY LONGER.

SO THIS IS IT?

OKAY.

I'VE BEEN IN NIGERIA
FOR A COUPLE OF WEEKS NOW

AND MY TRIP'S ABOUT OVER,

BUT USMAN AND I
ARE STILL NOT MARRIED,

BECAUSE I MET USMAN'S MOM

AND THAT MEETING
DID NOT GO WELL.

I DID EVERYTHING
THAT USMAN SUGGESTED WE DO.

I GAVE HIS MOTHER A GOAT,

AND I WORE THE TRADITIONAL
HAUSA CLOTHING.

BUT SHE DID NOT
GIVE HER BLESSINGS.

TONIGHT WE'RE MOVING
OVER TO PLAN B.

WE'RE MEETING
WITH HIS BROTHER, MUHAMMED.

DO YOU THINK
THIS IS GOING TO WORK?

NO, I KNOW THAT.

USMAN AND I ARE HOPING
THAT MUHAMMED CAN EXPLAIN TO US

WHY WE DID NOT RECEIVE
MOMMY'S BLESSINGS,

AND BE ABLE TO GIVE US
THE TOOLS

TO RECEIVE
THAT BLESSING FROM HER.

IF HE CAN'T HELP,
I DON'T KNOW

IF WE'RE GONNA BE ABLE
TO GET MARRIED.

GOOD EVENING, MUHAMMED.
THANK YOU.

OH, WOW.

UM, MUHAMMED?

YEAH.

YES.

BUT FOR YOUR BROTHER, I WILL
TRAVEL TO ANY PART OF THE EARTH.

YOU KNOW...

I ONLY HAVE A SMALL TIMEFRAME
YET TO PLAY WITH.

THAT'S WHY HE CALLED YOU TO SEE
IF YOU CAN TALK TO THE FAMILY,

HELP THEM UNDERSTAND WE'RE NOT
DOING THIS FOR ANYTHING

EXCEPT FOR THE SAKE
OF OUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER.

I CANNOT IMAGINE
LEAVING NIGERIA,

NOT BEING MARRIED TO MY DESTINY,
MY EVERYTHING.

YOU ARE.

MUHAMMED,
THANK YOU SO MUCH.

YOUR MOTHER, SHE MUST UNDERSTAND
WE ARE VERY MUCH IN LOVE.

AND WE'RE GONNA CONTINUE
TO BE PERSISTENT

UNTIL WE RECEIVE
THAT BLESSING.

NO.

I'M IN UKRAINE TO MEET
MY GIRLFRIEND, LANA,

BECAUSE WE'VE
NEVER MET IN PERSON.

LANA IS BEAUTIFUL.

SHE IS THE GIRL THAT I'VE BEEN
WANTING TO MARRY FOR MANY YEARS

AND I CAN'T GET HER
OUT OF MY MIND.

AFTER LANA DIDN'T
SHOW UP IN ODESSA,

I TRAVELED 400 MILES
TO HER HOMETOWN PAVLOHRAD.

AND LAST NIGHT, SHE FINALLY
REACHED OUT TO ME

FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE BEFORE
I LEFT THE UNITED STATES.

SHE'S ONLINE.

I SAID, "HI." SHE SAYS,
"HI, HI." I SAID, "HI, HONEY."

SO I SAID, "MMM, WOW,"

YOU KNOW, WHAT I USUALLY
SAY WHEN I SEE HER,

AND SHE WRITES,
"GOOD MORNING FOR YOU."

I'M EXCITED.

I FEEL LIKE
SHE'S MY LANA AGAIN.

I AM IN PAVLOHRAD.

CAN YOU MEET ME
FOR DINNER OR LUNCH?

SHE HAS SLOW CONNECTION.

I'M ASKING HER TO MEET ME

IN A RESTAURANT IN PAVLOHRAD
AT 2:00 P. M. TODAY.

SHE WRITES, "OKAY, DEAR,
I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE YOU,"

AND SHE CLOSED THE CHAT.

I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS IS
FINALLY GONNA HAPPEN.

I CAN'T WAIT TO TOUCH HER,
TO HOLD HER, TO KISS HER,

TO FEEL THAT
SHE'S ACTUALLY REAL.

NO? NO?

MM‐HMM.

I THINK LIKE...

YES, DA.

MM‐HMM.

OKAY.

I'M GONNA GIVE THESE ROSES
TO LANA

THE FIRST MOMENT THAT I SEE HER

BECAUSE I WANTED TO BE
AS ROMANTIC AS POSSIBLE.

IT'S BEEN SEVEN YEARS
IN THE MAKING,

THOUSANDS OF HOURS OF CHAT.

SHE'S THE PERSON
I TELL EVERYTHING TO

AND THE FACT THAT WE'RE ABOUT
TO HAVE OUR FIRST DATE

IN PERSON IS INCREDIBLE.

THIS IS
THE LAST CHANCE TO MEET.

DO YOU KNOW WHERE
THE TOILET IS OR...

I'M SO NERVOUS.

I CAN FEEL MYSELF
SWEATING THROUGH MY SHIRT.

OH, MY GOD.

I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT WE ARE
ACTUALLY MEETING EACH OTHER.

I DID BRING A CHANGE OF SHIRTS
JUST IN CASE,

THROW ON SOME COLOGNE,
BRUSH MY HAIR.

I WANT TO LOOK MY BEST WHEN
WE FINALLY MEET FACE‐TO‐FACE.

LANA.

THIS IS EVERYTHING.

LANA MEANS THE WORLD TO ME.

I WANT TO BE WITH HER
THE REST OF MY LIFE.

I'VE BEEN WAITING FOR LANA
TO SHOW UP SINCE 2:00 P. M.

AND I'M STARTING TO GET NERVOUS
THAT ALL OF THIS

WAS FOR NOTHING.

COME ON, LANA. COME ON.

I DON'T HAVE INTERNET ACCESS
IN THE RESTAURANT,

SO I CAN'T SEND HER
INSTANT MESSAGES

TO FIND OUT WHAT'S GOING ON.

IF SHE JUST MEETS ME
FOR FIVE MINUTES,

IT'S FIVE MINUTES LONGER THAN
I'VE EVER SPENT WITH HER BEFORE.

SHE'S NOT GONNA SHOW UP.

IT'S JUST LIKE
AT THE TRAIN STATION.

HOW COULD SHE DO THIS
TO ME AGAIN?

OH. A SPIDER.

OH, MY GOD.

OKAY, CALM DOWN,
CALM DOWN, CALM DOWN.

OH, NO, NO, DON'T TOUCH IT.

‐ OH, MY GOD.
‐ DON'T KILL IT.

KILL IT?

OH, MY GOD. HELL NO, YOU GUYS
HAVE CRAZY SPIDERS.

THIS PLACE IS KILLING ME.

WOW, THAT WAS EPIC.

TODAY'S OUR LAST DAY UP
NORTH IN CAIRNS

BEFORE WE GO BACK TO WHERE
ASH LIVES IN MELBOURNE.

THROUGHOUT THIS TRIP SO FAR,
I HAVE NOTICED THAT

ASH HAS A TENDENCY
TO SUGARCOAT THINGS.

THAT CONCERNS ME BECAUSE
RELATIONSHIPS HAVE CHALLENGES,

THEN IN ORDER TO GET
THROUGH THOSE CHALLENGES,

YOU NEED TO BE ABLE
TO BE REAL AND HONEST

ABOUT WHAT THE SITUATION IS.

WOW, BABE, WE'RE SNORKELING.
I'M EXCITED.

IT'S GONNA BE FUN.
IT'S GONNA BE VERY FUN.

AND I STILL FEEL UNEASY
ABOUT HIS RELATIONSHIP

COACHING BUSINESS.

SOMETHING HAPPENED
EARLIER THIS MORNING

THAT'S MAKING ME QUESTION HOW
HE INTERACTS WITH HIS CLIENTS,

BUT I WANT TO WAIT
FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT

TO BE ABLE TO TALK ABOUT IT.

ARE WE GOING ON THAT ONE?

WE'RE GETTING IN THAT ONE.

THIS IS GONNA BE SO FUN.

I'M TAKING AVERY BECAUSE
DURING THIS TRIP

WE HAD SOME UPS AND DOWNS

AND I THINK
I'M STILL BUILDING TRUST.

YEAH.

OOH, I'M EXCITED.

WHOO.

READY?

THERE'S LITERALLY NOTHING
BETTER THAN BEING ABLE TO SWIM

OVER THE GREAT BARRIER REEF
HAND‐IN‐HAND WITH ASH.

IT'S SUCH
AN AMAZING EXPERIENCE

TO BE HERE,
BUT IF I ACTUALLY

WANT TO BRING HIM BACK
TO AMERICA,

THIS IS MY TIME TO ASK QUESTIONS
BECAUSE I HAVE GENUINE CONCERNS.

MY GOSH, THIS IS AMAZING.

YEAH.

IT'S SO PRETTY.

AH.

YEAH, IT WAS GOOD, BABE.

YOU'RE VERY TIRED.
ARE YOU TIRED?

NO, I JUST...

I WAS GONNA ASK YOU, BABE,

FOR COACHING,

WHAT KIND OF STUFF
WOULD PEOPLE COME TO YOU FOR?

LIKE, WHAT'S YOUR SYSTEM?

BUT I MEAN, LIKE,
DO YOU HAVE SPECIFIC TIMES

THAT YOU MEET UP WITH THEM?

LIKE, BECAUSE I JUST SAW
YOUR PHONE EARLIER,

YOU HAD 68 TEXT MESSAGES.

THIS MORNING, ASH WAS SHOWING ME
SOMETHING IN HIS PHONE

AND I SAW 68 TEXT MESSAGES.

AND THEY ALL APPEAR TO BE
FROM DIFFERENT WOMEN.

IT'S ALARMING
BECAUSE I HAVE NO WAY

OF KNOWING WHO'S A CLIENT
AND WHO ISN'T.

YOU KNOW, I DON'T KNOW IF
I CAN DATE A RELATIONSHIP COACH

WHEN THEY'RE BEING ACCESSIBLE
TO WOMEN ALL THE TIME.

I HAVE ROOM TO TELL YOU THAT.

OKAY, NO, BUT THERE IS OTHER
THINGS 'CAUSE I ‐‐

LIKE, THAT'S NOT FAIR AT ALL.

YOU'RE SINGLE RIGHT NOW?

I'VE JUST TRAVELED ACROSS
THE WORLD FOR THIS MAN.

WHAT THE HELL
IS HE TALKING ABOUT?

A FEW DAYS AGO, I RECEIVED
AN EMAIL THREAT.

FROM HIM?

I DON'T THINK
IT'S FROM WILLIAMS.

THIS MAN SEEMS EVIL.

I MEAN, WHEN A SCAMMER GETS
CAUGHT, PERSONALITIES CHANGE.

RECENTLY, MY DAUGHTER KARRA
DISCOVERED THAT MY BOYFRIEND

WILLIAMS' INSTAGRAM ACCOUNT
WAS CHANGED

TO A NIGERIAN ACCOUNT.

IT TOOK ME BY SURPRISE,

SO I'VE REACHED OUT TO WILLIAMS
TO ASK HIM IF HE WERE NIGERIAN.

HE DIDN'T GET BACK TO ME,

AND THEN I RECEIVED
A THREATENING EMAIL.

IT'S SAYING THAT THEY WILL
RELEASE SOME PRIVATE PICTURES

IF I DID NOT GIVE HIM MONEY.

THE ONLY ONE I GAVE
PRIVATE PICTURES TO IS WILLIAMS.

THIS DOES NOT SOUND
LIKE THE MAN I LOVE AT ALL.

THIS DOES NOT SOUND
LIKE WILLIAMS.

I'M THINKING THAT HE WAS HACKED

AND SOMEONE STOLE THE PRIVATE
PHOTOS THAT I SENT WILLIAMS.

I'M NOT VERSED
ON SOCIAL MEDIA A LOT,

BUT I DO KNOW THAT

A LOT OF ACCOUNTS
GET HACKED NOW AND THEN.

HI. HI, HOW ARE YOU?

GOOD.

THANK YOU.

THANK YOU.

I GOT SOME NEWS AGAIN
ABOUT WILLIAMS.

SO WHAT IS IT THIS TIME?

YOU KNOW, I ASKED HIM,
WAS HE NIGERIAN?

I JUST CAME OUT AND ASKED HIM,
WAS HE NIGERIAN,

AND, YOU KNOW,
THAT MUST'VE UPSET HIM

'CAUSE HE DIDN'T RESPOND TO ME.

I DON'T THINK HE'S GONNA
CONTACT YOU ANYMORE.

HE FOUND OUT WE WERE ONTO HIM,
HE KNOWS HE'S NIGERIAN,

AND HE KNOWS
HE'S SCAMMING YOU.

I DON'T ‐‐ I DON'T ‐‐
STILL IN MY HEART,

I DON'T THINK HE'S NIGERIAN.

MA, SERIOUSLY.

YOU DON'T THINK
IT'S A POSSIBILITY

THAT HE WAS HACKED?

THAT'S A POSSIBILITY,
THAT HE WAS HACKED.

THERE'S SOMETHING ELSE, TOO.

THIS IS KIND OF REALLY BAD.

OH, GOSH, WHAT IS IT?

I'VE RECEIVED AN EMAIL THREAT.

FROM HIM?

I DON'T THINK
IT'S FROM WILLIAMS,

BUT WHOEVER IT WAS THREATENED
THAT HE WOULD SHOW

ALL MY PICTURES ONLINE
THAT I SENT WILLIAMS.

AND WHAT KIND OF PICTURES
DID YOU SEND TO HIM?

JUST REGULAR PICTURES.

MA, COME ON.

I AM VERY UPSET WITH MY MOM.

THAT'S JUST NOT SOMETHING
THAT SHE RAISED US TO DO.

THAT'S VERY SHOCKING
THAT SHE WOULD SEND PICTURES

TO SOMEONE WHO SHE'S NEVER
MET FACE TO FACE.

SO, WHAT'S IN THE EMAIL?

THE EMAIL SAYS SPECIFICALLY
THAT, YOU KNOW,

IF I DIDN'T GIVE THEM
WHAT THEY WANT, MONEY,

HE SAID,
"I WILL COME AND DO HARM."

WHAT?

SOMEONE WHO HACKED HIS ACCOUNT

MUST'VE GOT A HOLD
OF MY ADDRESS.

YOU GAVE AWAY YOUR ADDRESS?

I'M STILL IN LOVE WITH HIM,
YOU KNOW?

WHY DID YOU GIVE HIM
YOUR ADDRESS?

HE WANTED
TO SEND FLOWERS AND ‐‐

DID HE EVER SEND YOU FLOWERS?

NO, HE NEVER SENT ME FLOWERS.

THIS IS CRAZY.
THIS... MNH‐MNH.

I DON'T EVEN KNOW
WHAT I CAN DO ABOUT THIS.

YOU GAVE HIM ALL OF THIS
PERSONAL INFORMATION

WITHOUT EVER MEETING HIM
FACE TO FACE.

‐YEAH.
‐WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO NOW?

I'M NOT SURE,
BUT IT'S JUST SOMETHING

I NEED TO GET
TO THE BOTTOM OF.

I DON'T.

THIS THREATENING EMAIL
DIDN'T COME FROM WILLIAMS.

THIS MAN TONE IS TOTALLY
DIFFERENT FROM WILLIAMS.

THE THREATENING EMAIL
SEEMS LIKE AN EVIL MAN.

I MEAN, WHEN A SCAMMER GETS
CAUGHT, PERSONALITIES CHANGE.

I DEFINITELY THINK WILLIAMS IS
THE ONE WHO SENT THE EMAIL.

HE WAS A SCAMMER
FROM THE BEGINNING.

I TRIED TO TELL MY MOM,
BUT SHE WOULDN'T LISTEN.

I KNOW THE TRUTH AND I'M JUST
HOPING TO CONVINCE MY MOM

THAT THIS GUY
JUST CAN'T BE TRUSTED.

I KNOW I'VE NEVER SEEN HIM,
BUT I FEEL AS THOUGH I KNOW HIM.

YOU KNOW, I HAVE SO MANY TEXTS
TO PROVE OUR LOVE.

YOU KNOW, HE CALLED ME,
WE TALKED FOR HOURS.

THIS GUY IS SCAMMING YOU.
I KNOW HE IS.

THAT'S YOUR OPINION.
I DON'T THINK SO.

I KNOW HE STILL LOVES ME.

I UNDERSTAND KARRA'S CONCERNS,

BUT SHE DOESN'T KNOW
WILLIAMS LIKE I KNOW HIM.

WILLIAMS WILL HAVE
AN EXPLANATION

FOR WHAT'S GOING ON.

SO I HAVE TO KEEP TEXTING HIM.

I'M JUST HOPING HE GETS BACK
TO ME WITH SOME ANSWERS SOON.

‐HEY, SIS.
‐HEY, DARC.

WHAT EXACTLY HAPPENED?

HE SAID HE WAS LOOKING FOR
SOMEONE THAT COULD LOVE HIM

THE WAY HE WANTED TO BE LOVED

AND HE FOUND IT
WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

I DON'T UNDERSTAND
WHY THIS KEEPS HAPPENING.

IT'S A WEIRD FRIENDSHIP.

SHE'S TOLD ME
THAT THEY'VE HOOKED UP.

IT'S TIME TO FIND OUT
WHAT'S REALLY GOING ON

BETWEEN THE BOTH OF THEM.

DO YOU HAVE FEELINGS
FOR ERIKA?

YESTERDAY, I MET TOM
AT A RESTAURANT IN NEW YORK.

I THOUGHT HE WANTED
TO FIX THIS,

BUT HE SAID THAT NOW
HE'S WITH SOMEONE ELSE, IN LOVE.

AND HE HAD SOME PRETTY NASTY
THINGS TO SAY TO ME.

I DECIDED TO WALK
AWAY FOR GOOD.

I COMPLETELY BLOCKED TOM
OUT OF MY LIFE.

HE CAN'T TEXT ME, HE CAN'T
CALL ME, HE CAN'T DM ME.

SO, IT'S DONE.

I STAYED IN A HOTEL
BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT MY KIDS

TO SEE ME EMOTIONAL AND SAD,

BUT I FEEL BETTER NOW.

FEEL LIKE I'M JUST READY
TO GO HOME

AND GET BACK ON WITH MY LIFE.

JUST WANT TO GO HOME.
YEP, JUST WANT TO GO HOME.

SO TODAY I'M HEADED
BACK TO CONNECTICUT

TO MEET UP WITH STACEY.

AFTER THE WAY
TOM MADE ME FEEL,

IT'S GONNA BE GOOD
TO SEE STACEY.

IF ANYONE GETS ME, SHE DOES.

‐HEY, STACE.
‐HEY, DARC.

‐YOU ALL RIGHT?
‐YEP.

OH, BOY.

HOW YOU DOING?

EH, YEAH. DIDN'T GO GOOD.

ARE YOU GLAD YOU WENT?

NOT REALLY.

SO WHAT EXACTLY HAPPENED?

HE WAS THERE AT THE RESTAURANT

WANTING TO BE
A PROPER GENTLEMAN,

I GUESS, AND WANTED TO LEAN IN
FOR A HUG AND A SIDE KISS.

I JUST FELT LIKE
THE ENERGY WAS OFF.

THEN HE KIND OF GOT QUIET.

DID YOU ASK HIM
ABOUT THE GIRL IN THE PICTURE?

YEP, BECAUSE HE DEFINITELY
WASN'T GONNA MENTION IT.

HE SAID HE WAS LOOKING
FOR SOMEONE

THAT COULD LOVE HIM
THE WAY HE WANTED TO BE LOVED

AND HE FOUND IT
WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

WOW.

I REALLY FEEL DEEP DOWN INSIDE
HE JUST FELT GUILTY

FOR ALREADY HAD MOVING ON.

YEAH.

AT THE END, I JUST WAS TIRED
OF HEARING HIM, YOU KNOW,

SAY THESE THINGS

AND I JUST DIDN'T WANT
TO HEAR IT ANYMORE.

I WAS LIKE, "I DON'T EVEN WANT
TO BE YOUR FRIEND ‐‐"

WHY BOTHER?

"I WANT NOTHING TO
DO WITH YOU ANYMORE. GOODBYE."

AND WALKED OFF.

WOW.

I THINK SHE MADE THE RIGHT
CHOICE BY STANDING HER GROUND

AND WALKING OFF
AND KEEPING HER HEAD HELD HIGH.

I KNOW WHAT SHE'S GONE THROUGH
HAS BEEN REALLY TOUGH

AND I'M GLAD SHE WALKED
AWAY ON HER OWN,

AND I'M PROUD OF HER
FOR DOING THAT.

HE ALSO GOT A LITTLE NASTY

AND SAID THAT I GAINED WEIGHT
AS I WALKED OFF.

THAT'S JUST MESSED UP.

LIKE, YOU KNOW,
WANTED TO MAKE ME FEEL,

YOU KNOW, WORTHLESS.

I'M SORRY.

I GAVE HIM MY HEART
AND ONCE AGAIN,

YOU KNOW, IT GETS,
YOU KNOW, BROKEN.

I DON'T UNDERSTAND
WHY THIS KEEPS HAPPENING.

DON'T DESERVE IT.
‐YOU'RE GONNA BE OKAY.

YOU'RE GONNA FIND LOVE.

I'M SORRY YOU HAD
TO GO THROUGH THAT.

YOU DESERVE BETTER,
AND, YOU KNOW,

WHAT'S MEANT TO BE WILL BE.

JUST THINK POSITIVE
AND, YOU KNOW,

YOU'LL GET THROUGH IT.

I'M HERE, THE GIRLS ARE HERE,
YOU'VE GOT US ALL AND, YOU KNOW?

STACEY, I LOVE YOU.

LOVE YOU, TOO.

MM‐HMM.

NO MATTER WHAT ANYBODY SAYS.

IT'S REASSURING TO KNOW
THAT STACEY HAS MY BACK.

BUT YEAH, IT'S SAD WHEN YOU FEEL
A LITTLE LONELY,

YOU DON'T KNOW IF YOU'RE
EVER GONNA GET MARRIED

OR, YOU KNOW, BE IN
THE PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.

THERE'S SOMEONE
OUT THERE FOR ME,

AND IT'S DEFINITELY NOT TOM,
BUT HE'S OUT THERE SOMEWHERE.

I DON'T GIVE UP ON LOVE.

WHAT DO YOU NEED HELP WITH?

I DON'T KNOW WHICH ONES.

SO, WE'VE GOT EARRINGS.

OKAY, I THINK A CHOKER
MIGHT BE TOO MUCH.

MM‐HMM.

I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD ‐‐
‐TOO MUCH?

TOO MUCH.

THIS MORNING, I EXPRESSED
SOME OF MY CONCERNS

WITH ERIKA
ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP,

AND I FEEL MUCH MORE SECURE.

YOU LOOK VERY BEAUTIFUL.

THANK YOU.

BUT TONIGHT WE'RE GOING TO

A PARTY
AT HER FRIEND'S HOUSE

AND I'M REALLY NERVOUS
TO MEET THEM

BECAUSE SHE'S HOOKED UP
WITH SOME OF THEM.

BUT I'M REALLY TRYING
TO PUSH MY BOUNDARIES

IN ORDER TO SHOW HER
THAT I DO LOVE HER.

I THINK THAT
YOU'LL HAVE FUN TONIGHT,

BUT I REALLY DO WANT
TO MAKE SURE THAT I'M TAKING YOU

SOMEWHERE THAT YOU'RE GONNA
ENJOY YOURSELF.

YEAH, I WANT TO HAVE FUN, TOO.

GOOD.

STEPH HAS ISSUES
WITH MY PAST WITH MY FRIENDS,

BUT MY FRIENDS ARE
VERY IMPORTANT TO ME,

SO I JUST HOPE
THAT STEPH CAN SEE

THAT THERE'S NOTHING
FOR HER TO WORRY ABOUT.

‐HELLO.
‐HI.

‐HI.
‐HI, STEPH.

IT'S COLD OUT HERE.

‐WE SHOULD GET A DRINK.
‐YES.

‐'CAUSE THAT'LL WARM US UP.
‐YES, YEAH.

‐LET'S GO.
‐GO FOR IT.

I WANT TO HAVE FUN
AT THIS PARTY,

BUT I CAN'T HELP BUT THINK
THAT SHE'S HOOKED UP

WITH A LOT OF THESE PEOPLE.

HI.

THANKS, BOO.
‐HOW YOU GOING?

HI, NICE TO MEET YOU.

‐ADAM.
‐HOW ARE YOU DOING?

I MISS YOU.

WELL, THIS IS STEPH.
‐HOW ARE YOU?

I AM STEPHANIE.
I'VE HEARD LOTS ABOUT YOU.

PERFECT.

ADAM IS ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS,

SO I'M HOPING THAT HE AND STEPH
CAN GET ALONG,

BUT I'M A LITTLE BIT NERVOUS
BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T LIKE THAT

I'VE KISSED ADAM IN THE PAST.

WE'VE MADE OUT, LIKE, TWICE.

I AM TRYING MY BEST
TO KEEP AN OPEN MIND,

BUT I FEEL A LITTLE BIT
OUT OF PLACE.

ERIKA AND HER FRIENDS
LIVE A VERY DIFFERENT LIFESTYLE

FROM ME.

I MEAN,
THIS IS SO NOT MY SCENE.

‐HERE WE GO.
‐CHUG IT, CHUG IT!

ATTA GIRL.

‐YEAH.
‐WELL DONE.

YES. THAT WAS SO GOOD.

THAT WAS A GOOD BURP.

CAN WE HUG? LET'S HUG.
LOVE YOU.

LIKE ACTUAL LOVE YOU.

OI.

‐STOP IT.
‐LOVE YOU.

STOP IT.

ADAM IS SOMEONE
WHO ERIKA DEEPLY CARES ABOUT.

SHE'S TOLD ME
THAT THEY'VE HOOKED UP

AND SOMETIMES THEY'LL SPEND
THE NIGHT

TOGETHER IN THE SAME BED.

IT'S A WEIRD FRIENDSHIP

AND SEEING HIM ALL
OVER HER RIGHT NOW...

THAT MAKES ME FEEL
REALLY UNCOMFORTABLE.

AND NOW MAYBE IT'S TIME
TO FIND OUT

WHAT'S REALLY GOING ON
BETWEEN THE BOTH OF THEM.

HOW YOU DOING?

SO I'M CURIOUS, YOU HAVE LIKE
A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER.

SO I'M JUST WONDERING, ADAM,
DO YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR ERIKA

IN ANY WAY OTHER
THAN JUST FRIENDS?

NOT AT ALL. I LOVE HER TO DEATH
AND I WILL DO ANYTHING FOR HER.

MM‐HMM.

HER AND I ARE VERY CLOSE
AND VERY SIMILAR PEOPLE.

I GET THAT, BUT FOR ME,

LIKE, I AM A LITTLE BIT
OF A PRUDE

WHEN IT COMES TO, LIKE,
PHYSICAL TOUCH.

SO WHEN I HEAR THAT SOMEBODY
HOOKS UP WITH SOMEBODY ELSE,

LIKE, IT FREAKS ME OUT.

AND I'M TRYING TO, LIKE,
GET PAST IT

AND, LIKE, JUST, LIKE,
REMOVE IT FROM MY MIND.

NO, I GET ALL THAT.
THAT'S FINE.

BUT YOU NEED TO REALIZE
THAT IT'S A LEVEL OF RESPECT

WHERE YOU JUST HAVE TO SIT THERE
AND GO,

I CAN BELIEVE
WHAT SHE'S SAYING.

ERIKA AND I HAVE ALWAYS
HAD CHEMISTRY

AND WE PROBABLY ALWAYS WILL.

AND IT LOOKS LIKE STEPHANIE
HAS A LOT OF JEALOUSY ISSUES.

A LOT.

A LOT OF JEALOUSY ISSUES.
ERIKA AND I HAVE HAD A PAST.

ERIKA AND OTHER GIRLS
IN THE GROUP

HAVE HAD A PAST, LIKE,
SEXUALLY.

AND STEPH CAN'T HANDLE THAT.

ERIKA, WHAT'S GOING ON?

I'M JUST SICK OF THE JEALOUSY
THING COMING UP, LIKE,

OVER AND OVER AGAIN.

I'M TRYING TO BRING YOU HERE
TO HAVE FUN WITH MY FRIENDS

AND INSTANTLY YOU JUST
BRING SOMETHING UP

THAT WE'VE BEEN FIGHTING
ABOUT ALL WEEK.

OH, MY GOD. WHY ARE YOU SO MAD
THAT I ASKED A QUESTION?

BECAUSE EVERY SINGLE DAY
YOU'VE HAD AN ISSUE

WITH SOMETHING I'VE DONE.

YOU SAY
YOU WANT TO WORK WITH ME

THROUGH MY INSECURITIES
AND MY ISSUES,

BUT WHEN I, LIKE,
ASK A SIMPLE QUESTION

TO SOMEBODY TO JUST SORT OF ‐‐

BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT TO WORK
ON ANY OF THOSE ISSUES.

YOU'RE JUST LIKE,
"OH, OH LIKE SELF ‐‐"

I JUST DID. WE JUST TALKED
TO ADAM ABOUT OUR ISSUES.

I FINALLY ‐‐ I'M TRYING
TO FIGURE THIS GUY OUT.

IF YOU MET SOMEBODY
AND THEY TOLD YOU,

"OH, HEY,
THIS IS MY BEST FRIEND,

BUT WE'VE HOOKED UP
A FEW TIMES,"

WOULDN'T YOU BE
WEIRDED OUT BY THAT?

WOULDN'T THAT BE STRANGE?
WOULDN'T YOU ASK QUESTIONS?

I'M HERE FOR THREE WEEKS.

I'M TRYING TO FIGURE
THIS WHOLE THING OUT

BECAUSE THIS IS WEIRD TO ME
AND YOU'RE GETTING UPSET AT ME.

‐YES, I'M UPSET. THIS IS ‐‐
‐I'M TRYING TO GET COMFORTABLE.

I'M TRYING TO FIGURE
THIS ALL OUT, OKAY?

TOMORROW, DON'T SAY THAT
YOU HAVEN'T YELLED AT ME

BECAUSE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW.

WHEN I'M TRYING TO TALK TO YOU
LIKE AN ADULT ABOUT THIS ‐‐

BECAUSE YOU'RE ‐‐ OF COURSE
I'M GONNA GET UPSET.

NO, I'M NOT DEALING WITH
IT ANYMORE. I'M DONE.

THIS IS RIDICULOUS.

ARE YOU JUST GONNA NOT
EVER ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YES,

I DO HAVE SOMEBODY
IN MY LIFE?

YEAH.

BUT NO, EH, EH, EH, EH, EH.

OH, OKAY. WOW, OKAY.

I GOT MIXED UP
WITH A BAD CROWD

AND STARTED SELLING DRUGS.

YOU'RE SINGLE RIGHT NOW?

I... I...

IT'S REALLY SHOCKING TO
HEAR ASH SAY THAT HE'S SINGLE.

ESPECIALLY AFTER RISKING
EVERYTHING TO TRAVEL

ACROSS THE WORLD TO MEET HIM.

IT'S LIKE AN INSTANT, LIKE,
PUNCH TO THE GUT.

YOU DO ACKNOWLEDGE THE FACT
THAT YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

LIKE, I MEAN,
DO YOU NOT THINK THAT?

OKAY.

I'M WORRIED HE'S HIDING
SOMETHING FROM ME.

BECAUSE WHEN I'M ASKING
HIM QUESTIONS

ABOUT HOW HE CONDUCTS
HIS COACHING,

I FEEL LIKE HE GETS FLUSTERED.

LIKE, HE GOES INTO
A DEFENSE MODE.

DO YOU THINK I'VE BEEN TRYING
TO ATTACK YOU RIGHT NOW?

NO, WHY?

SOMETIMES YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
TOWARDS ME

WHEN I START ASKING
A BUNCH OF QUESTIONS IS,

LIKE, DEFENSIVE.

EARLY IN OUR RELATIONSHIP,
ASH SENT A TEXT EXCHANGE

THAT HE HAD WITH A CLIENT
THAT WAS HITTING ON HIM,

TO PROVE THAT HE IGNORES
ANY FLIRTATIOUS ADVANCES

FROM HIS CLIENTS.

BUT WHAT I FIND MOST DISTURBING
IS THAT HE DID NOT ACTUALLY SAY

THAT HE WAS EVEN
IN A RELATIONSHIP.

AND IT DID LEAD
TO ONE OF OUR BREAKUPS.

THANK YOU
FOR MESSAGING ME THAT.

BUT ARE YOU JUST GONNA
NOT EVER ACKNOWLEDGE

THE FACT THAT YES,
I DO HAVE SOMEBODY IN MY LIFE

SO YOU DON'T NEED TO BE
TALKING TO ME LIKE THAT?

BUT NO, EH, EH, EH, EH, EH.

OH, OKAY. WOW, OKAY.

I UNDERSTAND THAT YOU HAVE ME

ON YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA
AND STUFF LIKE THAT,

BUT YOUR CLIENTS MIGHT NOT
HAVE EVER EVEN SEEN THAT.

SO IF THEY'RE TALKING
TO YOU PERSONALLY

AND THEY'RE SAYING
STUFF LIKE THAT,

THAT'S A GREAT OPPORTUNITY
TO JUST PUT IT OUT THERE.

I'VE BEEN ALWAYS
VERY HONEST WITH HER,

BUT SHE DECIDES TO THINK
WHAT SHE WANTS TO THINK.

AND IN MY MIND I THOUGHT, WELL,
WE HAVE ALREADY TALKED ABOUT IT.

SO NO ACTUALLY IF YOU TELL ME
THAT WE DIDN'T GO DEEP,

I HAVE TO BE MINDFUL OF THAT.

OKAY.

IT DOES WORRY ME A LOT
TO NOT KNOW

WHAT HE ACTUALLY
DOES TELL HIS CLIENTS.

I JUST HOPE THAT
HE'S BEING TRUE TO ME.

ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT
YOUR MOM TO KNOW?

VARYA WANTS ME TO TELL
HER MOM ABOUT MY PAST,

BUT HER BROTHER JUST TEXTED
AND SAID THAT HE'S COMING OVER

TO THE HOUSE TODAY
TO COME HANG OUT,

WHICH I WAS TOTALLY
NOT EXPECTING.

WE'VE NEVER SPOKEN
TO EACH OTHER.

AND NOW I'M ABOUT
TO TELL HIM EVERYTHING.

HE'S NOT GONNA TRY TO
FIGHT ME OR SOMETHING, IS HE?

‐NO.
‐NO. WHAT'D HE SAY?

I JUST HOPE THAT
HER FAMILY WILL SEE

THAT I'M A COMPLETELY
DIFFERENT PERSON NOW

BECAUSE IF VARYA'S
FAMILY ACCEPTS ME,

THERE'S A HUGE CHANCE THAT
I'M GONNA PROPOSE TO HER.

VARYA?

HI, NICE TO MEET YOU, SERGEY.

I ACTUALLY, I HAVE SOME HOUSES,
SOME RENTAL HOUSES,

AND THEN PUT RENTERS IN THEM.

‐YEAH, YEAH, BUSINESSMAN.
‐SOUND GOOD.

TELL THEM, TELL YOUR BROTHER
THAT I'M HAPPY HE CAME.

I'M HAPPY THAT I MET HIM,

BUT I WANT TO TELL THEM
WHAT'S GOING ON.

IT'S HARD FOR ME
TO EVEN SAY THESE THINGS

BECAUSE I AM ASHAMED.

BUT WHEN I WAS YOUNGER,

I GOT MIXED UP WITH,

I GUESS A BAD CROWD,

AND STARTED SELLING DRUGS.

AND I WENT TO PRISON.

I DON'T SPEAK RUSSIAN,

SO I HAVE NO IDEA
WHAT THEY'RE TALKING ABOUT,

BUT I CAN TELL THAT, YOU KNOW,
THEY ARE NOT HAPPY.

I WANT YOU TO ACCEPT ME
FOR WHO I AM NOW

BECAUSE I AM
A DIFFERENT PERSON.

I HAVE A FEELING
THIS ISN'T GOOD STUFF.

IS EVERY ‐‐ I MEAN,
IS EVERYTHING OKAY?

I DID FIND HER ADDRESS

AND THINKING
ABOUT DRIVING OUT THERE.

I FEEL LIKE LANA'S
GIVEN ME NO CHOICE.

I NEED HER TO TELL ME
FACE TO FACE

WHAT WE ARE DOING
WITH THIS RELATIONSHIP.

I CAME INTO TONIGHT
WITH, LIKE, A MOTIVE.

ABSOLUTELY, I NEED TO FIGURE
OUT WHO THESE PEOPLE ‐‐

I HAVE THREE WEEKS AND NOW
I'M YELLING AT YOU

AND NOW YOU'RE GONNA
BE UPSET.

THERE'S NO
WINNING HERE.

I'M JUST GONNA BE
THE BAD GUY.

I'M NOT EVEN SURE IF I WANT
THIS RELATIONSHIP ANYMORE.

THIS IS RIDICULOUS.

I ASKED ERIKA'S FRIEND ADAM

ABOUT THE NATURE
OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP

AND NOW SHE'S PRETTY UPSET

BECAUSE SHE THINKS
I'M BEING RUDE TO HER FRIENDS.

I'M JUST ‐‐ I'M DONE.

THAT WASN'T MY INTENTION,

BUT I CAN'T EXPRESS MY FEELINGS

WITHOUT HER STORMING OFF.

I'VE NEVER, EVER,
EVER BEEN INTIMATE

IN ANY WAY
WITH ANY OF MY FRIENDS.

SO I DON'T KNOW YOU,

SO OF COURSE
I'M GONNA ASK QUESTIONS.

I MEAN,
EVERYONE'S GOT A HISTORY,

BUT YOU'VE GOT TO REALIZE

THAT SHE'S NOT USED TO
THAT NOT BEING OKAY.

THIS IS SO ‐‐
THIS IS SO UP.

STEPH'S CAUSED
A LOT OF DRAMA.

AND SHE CAN'T TAKE THE PAST
FOR WHAT IT IS.

AT THIS POINT,
I DON'T LIKE WHAT I SEE.

SHE'S NOT INTERESTED
IN BEING OPEN

AND HAPPY AND FUN.

I'M REALLY TRYING, YOU KNOW?

YOU WERE GIVING YOUR ALL TO MAKE
HER FEEL COMFORTABLE AND OKAY,

BUT WHAT SHE'S GIVING YOU
NOTHING AT ALL.

THE THINGS THAT YOU'VE SAID,
LIKE, IT'S NOT OKAY.

IT'S NOT FAIR.

AND I'M SORRY THAT YOU'VE
WALKED INTO THIS CONVERSATION,

BUT I DON'T LIKE
SEEING HER THIS UPSET.

I GET THAT.

THIS IS NOT ERIKA,

ERIKA IS NOT
THIS KIND OF PERSON.

SHE IS NORMALLY BUBBLY,
HAPPY EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME

AND, LIKE, THIS ISN'T HER.

ERIKA IS SO UPSET WITH ME

THAT SHE'S NOT EVEN MAKING
EYE CONTACT WITH ME.

I FEEL LIKE I'VE REALLY
HURT HER FEELINGS,

BUT SHE'S NOT SEEING
MY SIDE OF THE STORY.

SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE MY LIFE
HAS BEEN VERY MUCH

SO OUT OF CONTROL
WITH MY ILLNESS AND EVERYTHING,

SO I TRY TO FIND CONTROL
WHERE I CAN.

IF I CAN CONTROL A SITUATION,

THERE'S LESS LIKELIHOOD
OF ME GETTING HURT.

THERE ARE JUST SOME ASPECTS
OF YOUR LIFE

THAT I NEED TO WRAP
MY HEAD AROUND.

SO I CAME INTO TONIGHT

TRYING TO UNDERSTAND
SOME OF YOUR FRIENDSHIPS.

AND EVERYONE WAS SO NICE TO YOU
AND YOU STILL BROUGHT THAT UP.

YEAH, EVERYBODY WAS NICE TO ME.

BUT, LIKE, I ALSO HERE ‐‐

I'M HERE WITH LIKE A MOTIVE
WHICH IS TO LIKE FIGURE OUT ‐‐

YES.

ABSOLUTELY.

ABSOLUTELY, I CAME HERE
WITH A FRICKING MOTIVE.

I NEED TO FIGURE OUT
WHO THESE PEOPLE ‐‐

I HAVE THREE WEEKS AND NOW
I'M YELLING AT YOU

AND NOW YOU'RE
GONNA BE UPSET.

SO THERE'S NO
WINNING HERE.

I'M JUST GONNA
BE THE BAD GUY SO...

HEY.

I'M JUST AT THIS PARTY,
ONE OF ERIKA'S FRIEND'S HOUSES

AND THINGS ARE JUST
REALLY NOT GOING WELL.

LIKE, SHE'S HAD SEXUAL RELATIONS
WITH SOME OF HER FRIENDS

AND SOME OF THOSE PEOPLE
I'VE MET TONIGHT.

I CAME INTO THIS PARTY
WANTING TO FIND OUT MORE

ABOUT HER FRIENDS AND, LIKE,
ASKING SOME QUESTIONS,

AND IT REALLY UPSET HER

AND SHE'S VERY MAD AT ME
RIGHT NOW.

I JUST ‐‐ I DON'T KNOW.

I FEEL
CONFLICTED AND I FEEL CONFUSED.

I FEEL LIKE A MONSTER,
I DON'T KNOW.

SO I JUST, LIKE, KIND OF WANT TO
JUST REMOVE MYSELF

FROM ALL OF THIS
AND JUST LEAVE HER ALONE.

I JUST WANT TO GO HOME NOW

BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE THIS
HAS GONE SO BADLY.

OKAY, BYE.

Okay, bye.

I CAME HERE THINKING ERIKA
WAS THE PERSON

THAT I WAS GOING TO SPEND
THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH,

THAT SHE WOULD BE THE PERSON
THAT WOULD UNDERSTAND MY ILLNESS

AND MAKE ME FEEL
MORE COMFORTABLE

COMING OUT TO MY FAMILY.

NOW, AFTER ALL OF THIS,

I'M KIND OF REALIZING HOW MUCH
I STILL DON'T KNOW ABOUT HER

AND I DON'T SEE HOW WE ARE GOING
TO MAKE ANY SORT OF COMMITMENT

BY THE END
OF THIS THREE WEEKS.

I'M NOT EVEN SURE IF I WANT
THIS RELATIONSHIP ANYMORE.

I'VE NEVER BEEN TO A MOSQUE.

BUT I AM WILLING TO OPEN MYSELF
UP TO THE ISLAMIC RELIGION

TO RECEIVE MOMMY'S BLESSINGS
FOR OUR MARRIAGE.

‐YOU READY?
‐YEAH.

LET'S GO. YOU HAVE THE KEY?

YEAH, I HAVE IT.

THIS MORNING USMAN'S BROTHER
MOHAMMED CALLED,

AND HE TOLD US THAT HE WAS NOT
ABLE TO CONVINCE HIS MOTHER

TO GIVE HER BLESSINGS.

I'M HEARTBROKEN
BECAUSE THE CLOCK'S RUNNING.

I DON'T HAVE MANY MORE DAYS.

TWO DAYS NOW, RIGHT?

BUT MOHAMMED SUGGESTED
THAT WE GO TO MOSQUE

WITH MOMMY AND PRAY.

HE THINKS THIS WILL HELP
BECAUSE SHE IS A DEVOUT MUSLIM,

SO THAT IS WHERE WE'RE GOING.

BUT I DON'T KNOW
WHAT TO EXPECT.

‐THIS THE ROAD? OKAY.
‐MM‐HMM.

I'M NERVOUS ABOUT SEEING
YOUR MOM,

SHE DIDN'T CARE FOR ME
THE FIRST TIME.

I'M HAVING MY DOUBTS SHE'S
GOING TO LIKE ME A SECOND TIME.

WHERE IS MOMMY?

SHE'S COMING, SHE'S COMING.

OKAY.

‐OKAY.
‐YEAH.

YOU JUST GET THE HOSE
OUT AND TAKE ‐‐

YOU JUST DUMP IT ALL OVER ME.

‐AND THE EAR.
‐YEAH.

OKAY.

‐OKAY.
‐YEAH.

‐MM‐HMM.
‐HERE.

I'VE NEVER BEEN TO A MOSQUE,

AND AS A CHRISTIAN WOMAN,

I HAVE A LOT OF ANXIETY,

BUT I AM WILLING TO OPEN MYSELF
UP TO THE ISLAMIC RELIGION

TO RECEIVE MOMMY'S BLESSINGS
FOR OUR MARRIAGE.

SO, UM...

MM‐HMM.

MOMMY?
‐YEAH.

MM‐HMM.

GOT YOU.

‐YEAH.
‐WE GOT THIS.

UH‐HUH.

IN THE MOSQUE, IT IS COMPLETELY
DIFFERENT FROM ANYTHING

I'VE DONE
IN THE CHRISTIAN RELIGION.

MEN ARE IN THE FRONT,
THE WOMEN ARE IN THE BACK.

SO USMAN CAN'T HELP ME OUT.

ALL I CAN DO IS JUST FOLLOW MOM,
DO EXACTLY WHAT SHE DOES.

MM‐HMM.

YEAH.

IT WAS ACTUALLY
VERY PEACEFUL.

I JUST FOLLOWED MOMMY
LIKE HE SAID,

AND SHE KNEW
I WAS FOLLOWING HER.

SO I THINK IT WENT VERY WELL.

USMAN, CAN YOU ASK MOMMY FOR

HER BLESSINGS FOR OUR MARRIAGE?

TRANSLATE.

MM‐HMM.

THIS WAS A BONDING TIME
WITH MOMMY IN THE MOSQUE

AND I THOUGHT SHE FELT
THE SAME TYPE OF VIBE.

IT'S HEARTBREAKING TO ME
THAT SHE SAID NO AGAIN.

I LOVE USMAN MORE THAN LIFE,
AND I WANT TO MARRY HIM,

BUT IT'S LOOKING GRIM,

AND AT THIS POINT
OUR RELATIONSHIP COULD BE OVER.

OH, MY GOD.

THIS IS THE MOMENT OF TRUTH.

I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT
I'M ACTUALLY GOING UP

TO HER HOUSE
TO KNOCK ON HER DOOR.

HEY, JIM.

Hey, brother.
How are you, man?

WELL, I JUST HAD
MY MEETING WITH LANA.

BUT SHE DIDN'T SHOW UP.

WOW.

YEAH.

AFTER SEVEN YEARS
OF COMMUNICATION,

WHY WOULD SHE JUST
IGNORE ME LIKE THIS?

TWICE IN LESS THAN A WEEK.

I DESERVE HER TO COME FACE
TO FACE WITH ME AND TALK TO ME.

I DID FIND HER ADDRESS

FROM THE CRUISE REGISTRATION
LAST YEAR

AND THINKING ABOUT
DRIVING OUT THERE,

SEEING IF I CAN CONFRONT HER.

YEAH, I THINK IT'S
THE LAST THING I CAN TRY.

THANKS, JIM. BYE‐BYE.

Bye.

WELL, RIGHT NOW...

THERE'S A CHANCE
SHE IS GONNA BE VERY ANGRY,

BUT SHE'S GOT TO UNDERSTAND
THAT SHE LEFT ME NO CHOICE

WHEN SHE STOOD ME UP.

I NEED HER TO TELL ME

WHAT WE ARE DOING
WITH THIS RELATIONSHIP.

WE'RE ABOUT
THREE KILOMETERS OUT.

I FEEL VERY NERVOUS.

APPARENTLY, IT'S RIGHT
ON THIS ROAD RIGHT HERE.

HER APARTMENT BUILDING
IS RIGHT OFF OF THIS ROAD.

COMING UP ON A BUNCH OF
APARTMENT BUILDINGS RIGHT HERE.

AND THIS LOOKS
LIKE IT RIGHT HERE.

HERE WE GO.

THIS IS THE MOMENT OF TRUTH.

I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT
I'M ACTUALLY GOING UP TO

HER HOUSE
TO KNOCK ON HER DOOR.

SHE LIVES IN EIGHT.

11.

OH, MY GOD.

OH, BOY.

NEXT TIME ON
"BEFORE THE 90 DAYS"...

I'M RETHINKING WHO THIS GUY IS.

I CAME OUT HERE FOLLOWING
MY HEART BECAUSE I LOVE YOU.

I'M JUST EXHAUSTED FROM HAVING
THE SAME CONVERSATION

OVER AND OVER AGAIN.

I REALLY HOPE SHE DOESN'T
BREAK UP WITH ME.

I WANT SOMEONE THAT LOVES ME,
THAT WON'T EVER LEAVE ME.

NO?

I LOVE ROSE, BUT THERE'S ONE
THING THAT'S HOLDING ME BACK.

YOUR SISTER MARIA
ASKED ME FOR MONEY.

DID YOU KNOW ABOUT THAT?

THIS IS THE LAST CHANCE
TO GET MOMMY'S BLESSING.

WITHOUT THAT,
THERE WILL BE NO WEDDING.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT SHE'S DOING.
I'M DRAINED.

I'M COMPLETELY DRAINED.

DO YOU KNOW HOW
TO REVERSE IMAGE SEARCH?

I MEAN, I NEVER THOUGHT
ABOUT THAT.

MAYBE THIS WILL GIVE ME A WAY
TO GET IN CONTACT WITH WILLIAMS.

OH, MY GOSH.

I'M HEADING TO CONNECTICUT
THIS MORNING.

I DON'T KNOW
WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN.

OH.