90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days (2017–…): Season 4, Episode 1 - Love Can't Wait - full transcript

I HADN’T BEEN IN
A RELATIONSHIP IN 28 YEARS.

I WANT TO FEEL THAT AGAIN.

I WAS IN
A REALLY DARK PLACE,

BUT EVERYTHING CHANGED AFTER
I MET MY SOUL MATE ON INSTAGRAM.

I HAVE NEVER MET VARYA
IN PERSON.

SO I’VE DECIDED TO GO TO RUSSIA.

YOU WANT TO SAY HI?

I’M IN LOVE WITH SOMEBODY
FROM ACROSS THE WORLD,

AND THAT SOMEBODY IS A GIRL.

I’M TRAVELING 7,000 MILES
TO MEET THE MAN OF MY DREAMS.

HE’S A CELEBRITY IN NIGERIA,
AND HE WROTE A SONG FOR ME.



HOLY.

I DID NOT THINK I WOULD
FIND LOVE ON SOCIAL MEDIA.

WILLIAMS, HE JUST SAID, "HI."

HE PUT A ROSE BESIDE MY NAME.

I MEAN HOW CAN YOU NOT
FALL IN LOVE

WITH SOMEBODY
THAT DO THAT TO YOU EVERYDAY?

FINALLY!

IF THINGS GO WELL
WITH VARYA,

I’M GOING TO PROPOSE TO HER.

I HAVEN’T BEEN EXACTLY HONEST
WITH ROSE ABOUT MY APPEARANCE.

DO YOU LIKE?
NO.

ASH IS A RELATIONSHIP
COACH, AND I QUESTION

HOW HE CONDUCTS
HIS TIME WITH WOMEN.

I SAW YOUR PHONE
HAD 68 TEXT MESSAGES.



YOU’VE NEVER EVEN SEEN
THIS MAN,

SO HOW DO WE EVEN KNOW
HE’S REAL?

HE SAID THE CAMERA’S
BROKEN, SO HE CAN SEE ME,

BUT I CAN’T SEE HIM.

OHH!

MM!

NO, THAT’S OKAY.

YOU DON’T FEEL COMFORTABLE?
OKAY.

I DON’T TRUST TOM.

I FEEL LIKE
HE’S HIDING SOMETHING.

ISN’T THERE SOMETHING
YOU HAVE TO TELL ME?

I’M WORRIED ABOUT YOU.

I DON’T THINK
IT’S SAFE TO GO.

WITH MY HEALTH CONDITION,
A COMMON COLD CAN KILL ME.

IT’S SUCH A RISK.

WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS?

I CANNOT DEAL
WITH HIS FEMALE FANS.

GET RID OF THESE
TWO‐BIT WHORES.

GET IT STRAIGHT.

YOU WANT
TO THROW IT ALL AWAY?

OKAY.

I DO NOT BELIEVE IN LOVE.

YOU LIED TO ME.
I’M DONE.

THIS IS BULL

I SHOULD HAVE BEEN SMARTER
THAN THIS.

CAPTIONS PAID FOR BY
DISCOVERY COMMUNICATIONS

SHAKE IT OUT.
PERFECT.

OKAY, LET’S GO.

HELLO. STOP IT.
OH, MY GOD.

OOCH.
OUCH.

NICE.

I’M ED.
I’M 54 YEARS OLD.

PEOPLE KNOW ME AS BIG ED.

I’M FROM SAN DIEGO, CALIFORNIA,

AND I AM
A PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHER.

OH, MY GOD.
RIGHT THERE.

BEAUTIFUL,
THAT’S PERFECT.

OH, MY GOD.

NICE, NICE.

NICE, HOLD ON.

I ACTUALLY GAVE MYSELF
THE NAME BIG ED...

PERFECT.

BECAUSE I HAVE
A HUGE PERSONALITY

AND IT MAKES ME FEEL TALL.

THAT’S THE MONEY. NICE.

ALSO, IT’S FUNNY
BECAUSE I’M NOT TALL.

GOOD JOB.

RAIN.
I’M ACTUALLY 4’11".

NOT IN HEELS.

I’M KIDDING.

NO.

MY HEIGHT IS SOMETHING
THAT I’M VERY SELF‐CONSCIOUS OF,

BUT IT’S SOMETHING THAT
I’VE BEEN ABLE TO OVERCOME

BECAUSE I’M BIG ED.

YOU GUYS ARE GREAT.
THANKS AGAIN.

THANKS AGAIN.
YOU’RE WELCOME.

YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME.

TEDDY,
THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU.

TEDDY IS MY BEST FRIEND.

GOOD BOY.

I CANNOT THINK ABOUT MY LIFE
WITHOUT TEDDY.

LOVE YOU, BUDDY.

HE’S SOMEBODY
THAT I CAN TALK TO.

HE’S SOMEBODY THAT LISTENS.

I’LL ALWAYS HAVE YOU.

I’LL ALWAYS HAVE MY TEDDY.

HE’S A GOOD BOY.

MY TRACK RECORD WITH
RELATIONSHIPS IS NOT VERY GOOD.

I WAS MARRIED FOR TWO YEARS,
AND IT DIDN’T WORK OUT

BECAUSE I WAS UNFAITHFUL.

DRINK SOME MORE WATER.

COME ON.

IT WAS JUST A STUPID MISTAKE,

BUT I DID GET A BEAUTIFUL
DAUGHTER OUT OF THAT MARRIAGE.

TIFFANY.

SHE’S 29 YEARS OLD.

WE ARE PRETTY MUCH TWO PEAS
IN A POD.

SHE IS JUST LIKE HER FATHER ‐‐
STUBBORN.

AND SHE IS THE BEST THING THAT
I HAVE CREATED ON THIS EARTH.

YOU MY BUDDY?

YOU MY BUDDY, TEDDY, ALWAYS?

COME ON.

AFTER MY DIVORCE, I DIDN’T THINK
ABOUT HAVING A GIRLFRIEND

BECAUSE OF MY DAUGHTER.

MY DAUGHTER WAS MY LIFE.

TEDDY, SIT.

SAY YOUR DOGGY PRAYERS.

OKAY.
OKAY.

GOOD JOB.
GOOD BOY.

BY WAITING TO DATE SO LONG,
I SAID TO MYSELF,

"I’M NEVER GOING TO FIND LOVE."

IT’S ME AND TEDDY.

THIS IS GOING TO BE MY LIFE.

SHE’S TEXTING ME RIGHT NOW.

TELLING ME THAT SHE LOVES ME.

BUT WHEN I MET ROSE,
EVERYTHING CHANGED.

MY GIRLFRIEND IS ROSEMARIE.

SHE’S 23 YEARS OLD AND SHE LIVES
IN THE PHILIPPINES.

ONE DAY, I’M ONLINE,
ON SOCIAL MEDIA.

I’M SCROLLING THROUGH, ADDING
FRIENDS, AND I COME ACROSS

ROSEMARIE’S PICTURE,
AND I’M LIKE, "OH, MY GOD."

I SENT HER A FRIEND REQUEST,
SHE ACCEPTED ME,

AND WE BECAME FRIENDS
ABOUT 3 MONTHS AGO.

SHE HAS THE MOST AMAZING,
DEEP, BROWN EYES.

I WAS LIKE, "WOW, I’M IN LOVE."

TALKING TO ROSE HAS BECOME
THE BEST PART OF MY DAY.

OH, COOL.

SO I SAID, "LOOK, WILL YOU BE
MY GIRLFRIEND?"

HER RESPONSE WAS, "SURE.

I’LL BE YOUR QUEEN
AND YOU CAN BE MY KING."

EVERY MORNING, THE FIRST THING
SHE DOES WHEN SHE WAKES UP

IS SHE SENDS ME A PHOTOGRAPH.

I DON’T HAVE A CONNECTION
LIKE THIS WITH ANYONE.

ROSE IS THE WOMAN OF MY DREAMS,

AND I CAN’T WAIT
ANYMORE TO MEET HER.

WHAT UP, MAN?

SO, NEXT WEEK I’M TRAVELING
7,500 MILES

ALL THE WAY
TO THE PHILIPPINES TO MEET

ROSE, THE LOVE OF MY LIFE,
FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME.

I KNOW IN MY HEART
SHE’S THE ONE.

HEY, ED.
HOW’S IT GOING?

HEY.
RYAN, HOW ARE YOU DOING, MAN?

DOING WELL.

HEY, TEDDY.
AWESOME.

WHERE ARE WE SHIPPING
TO TODAY?

WELL, UH,
WHERE DO YOU THINK?

YEAH?
THE PHILIPPINES?

AGAIN?
AGAIN, YEAH.

ROSEMARIE?
ROSEMARIE.

ALL RIGHT.

AFTER ABOUT 4 WEEKS
OF ROSE BEING MY GIRLFRIEND,

I STARTED SENDING
GIFTS EVERY WEEK.

BUT UNFORTUNATELY,
AS FAR AS I KNOW,

ROSE HASN’T RECEIVED ANY OF
THE MANY GIFTS THAT I’VE SENT

BECAUSE SHE LIVES
IN A VERY POOR AND REMOTE AREA.

SO IT TAKES A LONG TIME.

BUT ON GIFTS AND SHIPPING,

I’VE PROBABLY SPENT
OVER $5,000 DOLLARS.

WHAT ARE YOU SENDING HER?
THIS TIME, THIS IS MUCH SMALLER.

WHAT DID YOU SEND HER
LAST TIME?

OH, MY GOD.
SHEETS, SHOES, PILLOWS.

I BOUGHT HER DAD
A GRILL.

LIKE, EVERYTHING.
LIKE, EVERYTHING.

YEAH, WOW.

YEAH.
LUCKY GIRL.

YEAH, ACTUALLY, I’VE SPENT MORE
IN SHIPPING

THAN WHAT I’M SENDING.

ED COMES IN HERE
ALL THE TIME

SENDING STUFF INTERNATIONALLY.

IT’S HIS ONLINE GIRLFRIEND.

I KNOW HE HASN’T MET HER BEFORE.
I THINK IT’S A LITTLE CRAZY,

BUT IT MUST BE LOVE IF HE’S
WILLING TO SHIP ALL THESE GIFTS.

ARE YOU EXCITED?

I’M VERY EXCITED.
YEAH.

YEAH.

WHAT AM I DOING?

I AM NERVOUS.

I’M GETTING A LOT OF PUSHBACK
FROM MY FRIENDS.

MY MOM.

FOLLOWING YOUR HEART.

I’M FOLLOWING MY HEART.

PEOPLE THAT I’VE TOLD
ABOUT ROSEMARIE,

THEY’RE VERY SKEPTICAL AND SOME
OF THEM WERE VERY WORRIED.

GOOD LUCK.

DUDE, I APPRECIATE IT, MAN.
BEST OF LUCK.

THANKS. ALL RIGHT. LATER.
BYE.

BUT I HAVE NOT BEEN
IN A RELATIONSHIP

SINCE MY DIVORCE 28 YEARS AGO.

ALL RIGHT.
IT’S BEEN DIFFICULT.

IT’S BEEN LONELY.

BUT I WAS TOO AFRAID
TO LET ANYBODY GET

THAT CLOSE TO ME AGAIN.

BUT WITH ROSE, NO ONE’S EVER
TOUCHED MY HEART

OR OWNED MY HEART
THE WAY SHE DOES,

SO I’M WILLING TO TAKE
A CHANCE AT LOVE AGAIN.

I JUST REALLY, TRULY HOPE
THAT IT IS REAL LOVE.

I’M AVERY.
I’M 32 YEARS OLD,

AND I LIVE IN
SEATTLE, WASHINGTON.

I AM VERY MUCH INTO HEALTH
AND WELLNESS.

EXERCISING HELPS ME
FEEL MORE CONFIDENT.

IT DEFINITELY HAS HELPED
WITH TRULY LOVING MYSELF,

AND MAKES ME FEEL
MORE BEAUTIFUL AS A WOMAN.

OOH, THAT ONION.

CURRENTLY, I AM MAKING A LIVING
AS A DENTAL ASSISTANT,

BUT MY TRUE PASSION
IS CREATING HEALTHY DISHES

AND SHOWCASING
MY RECIPES ONLINE.

BUT I AM NOT A TRADITIONAL GIRL.

OH, YEAH, THIS IS GOOD.

I LIKE TO INFUSE MY RECIPES
WITH CANNABIS.

THERE’S SO MANY
HEALTH BENEFITS TO MARIJUANA.

YOU SAY POT AND YOU THINK
OF, LIKE, THE TYPICAL STONER

WHO SITS ON THE COUCH,
EATS CHEETOS ALL DAY.

DOESN’T WORK,
DOESN’T DO ANYTHING,

BUT THAT’S COMPLETELY
NOT WHO I AM.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING FOR ME

IS TO BE A REALLY GREAT
ROLE MODEL FOR MY KIDS.

WHERE’S MAMA?

HI, BABY!

OH, SILLY GIRL!

I’M A MOM OF TWO
BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS.

SCARLETT, WHO IS 10 YEARS OLD,
AND SILVER, WHO IS 2 YEARS OLD.

MY 10‐YEAR‐OLD DAUGHTER
IS FROM MY FIRST MARRIAGE,

AND MY 2‐YEAR‐OLD
IS FROM MY LAST RELATIONSHIP.

I GOT PREGNANT 2 MONTHS IN
WITH AN IUD.

YOU CANNOT TRUST THOSE

OH.

WANT ANOTHER ONE?

CAN MOMMY HAVE SOME OF THIS?

WHEN I ENDED UP
GETTING PREGNANT,

I SOLD EVERYTHING THAT I HAD
AND MOVED TWO STATES AWAY TO BE

WITH SILVER’S DAD,
BUT IT FELL APART

AND I HAD TO RELOCATE
BACK TO WASHINGTON

WITH ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

LET’S CLEAN THIS UP
REALLY QUICK, OKAY?

THANK YOU.

AND I WAS IN
A REALLY DARK PLACE...

BUT EVERYTHING CHANGED
AFTER I MET MY SOUL MATE.

ASH IS 38 YEARS OLD, AND HE
LIVES IN MELBOURNE, AUSTRALIA,

BUT HE’S ACTUALLY
ORIGINALLY FROM MAURITIUS,

A SMALL ISLAND
OFF THE COAST OF AFRICA.

I LOVE YOU, BABY.
YOU LOOK REALLY FREAKING SEXY.

I LOVE YOU, BABY.

HE REACHED OUT TO ME
ON INSTAGRAM ABOUT 9 MONTHS AGO

AND IT WAS ACTUALLY
JUST TO TELL ME,

"YOUR FOOD LOOKS AMAZING."

AND I WAS LIKE, "HUH,
HE’S ACTUALLY PRETTY CUTE."

I CALL HIM McSTEAMY
AND McDREAMY.

I THINK HE’S PRETTY ‐‐
HE’S HOT.

WE STARTED TALKING, AND THEN
EVENTUALLY, IT MOVED

TO VIDEO CHAT,

AND IT WAS JUST
A STRAIGHT CONNECTION.

GOOD MORNING, MY LOVE.

I’M UP, I’M ABOUT TO MEDITATE.

AND HE LOVES ME TO BITS.

YEAH.

THE BIGGEST THING THAT REALLY
KIND OF CONCERNS ME ABOUT

ASH IS HIS JOB.

ASH IS A RELATIONSHIP COACH.

CONNECTION EQUALS POTENTIAL.

IT’S GOING TO START SOMETHING,
IGNITE SOMETHING.

AND HE HELPS WOMEN
FIND MR. RIGHT.

IN THAT STATE, IN THAT FLOW
OF THE FEMININE ENERGY,

ALLOW YOURSELF
TO EXPERIENCE PLEASURE.

SO SOMETIMES I WONDER MAYBE
I FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM

BECAUSE HE DOES KNOW
ALL THE RIGHT THINGS TO SAY.

SO I’M GOING TO GO TO AUSTRALIA
TO MEET ASH IN PERSON.

HEY.

WHAT’S UP?
WHAT’S UP?

‐HOW ARE YOU?
‐GOOD.

LONG TIME, NO SEE.

DON’T MIND THE LAUNDRY.

JARED IS AN EX OF MINE.

WE DATED FOR A YEAR AND A HALF,

BUT EVER SINCE WE BROKE UP,

WE’VE STAYED
REALLY GOOD FRIENDS.

AND JARED’S A PRETTY BIG DEAL
IN THE CANNABIS INDUSTRY.

OH, DANG.

DIG IN, GIRL.

OOH, THAT IS BEAUTIFUL.

YOU’LL HAVE TO LET ME KNOW
HOW IT TASTES.

I WILL.

I’VE NEVER ACTUALLY EATEN
ANY BEFORE.

SO WHAT’S UP WITH
THE AUSTRALIAN DUDE?

I JUST BOOKED A PLANE TICKET
TO GO SEE HIM IN A WEEK.

WE’RE GETTING SERIOUS.

CAN YOU GET SERIOUS WITH
SOMEONE YOU’VE NEVER MET BEFORE?

I AM JUST TRYING
TO UNDERSTAND THAT.

THAT’S WHAT
I’M TRYING TO DO.

I NEED TO GO OVER THERE
AND ACTUALLY, LIKE,

MEET HIM AND SEE HOW THAT
WHOLE DYNAMIC’S GOING TO WORK.

AVERY AND I DATED
FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS.

SHE DROVE ME ABSOLUTELY
CRAZY,

BUT SHE’S A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN
TO THE CORE.

I CARE ABOUT HER A LOT, AND I
DON’T WANT HER TO GET HURT.

I MEAN, THE ONE THING THAT JUST
KIND OF CONCERNS ME

IS THAT
HE’S A RELATIONSHIP COACH,

AND HE ONLY COACHES
SINGLE WOMEN.

SO HE’S AROUND SINGLE WOMEN
ALL THE TIME?

ALL THE TIME.

AND IT’S LIKE, AM I GOING TO BE
ABLE TO HANDLE THE FACT

THAT HE’S CONSTANTLY
WITH SINGLE WOMEN

ALL THE TIME,
COACHING THEM?

IN THE BEGINNING OF OUR
RELATIONSHIP, I NOTICED THAT

ASH WAS ONLINE AT ALL HOURS
OF THE DAY AND NIGHT,

AND I CONFRONTED HIM
ABOUT IT.

HE SAID THAT HE HAD
TO TALK TO CLIENTS.

IT BECAME A CONCERN FOR ME

BECAUSE I FELT
VERY INSIGNIFICANT

TO THE AMOUNT OF WOMEN

THAT HE WAS GIVING
HIS TIME AND ATTENTION TO.

SO I BROKE UP WITH HIM.

IN FACT, IN THE 9 MONTHS
THAT WE’VE BEEN DATING,

I’VE BROKEN UP WITH
ASH THREE TIMES.

IT’S HARD TO TELL, LIKE,
FROM AN ONLINE RELATIONSHIP,

HOW HE TRULY IS IN PERSON.

LIKE, THE WAY THAT HE IS WITH ME
IS VERY, LIKE,

IT’S ALMOST LIKE
HE’S THE PERFECT COACH.

I AM TRAVELING TO THE OTHER SIDE
OF THE WORLD TO EXPERIENCE LOVE

AND I’M RISKING A LOT
TO EXPERIENCE LOVE.

I’M A SINGLE MOM AND I DON’T
HAVE A LOT OF MONEY TO TRAVEL.

SO IT WOULD BE DEVASTATING

IF THIS WASN’T
WHAT I THOUGHT IT WAS.

SO MANY FAILED MARRIAGES

HAS MADE IT REALLY HARD
TO TRUST PEOPLE AGAIN,

UNTIL I MET VARYA.

SO I’VE DECIDED TO GO
TO RUSSIA.

I REALLY DON’T KNOW WHAT’S GOING
TO HAPPEN,

BUT I MAY ASK HER
TO MARRY ME.

MARY ANN?
WHO IS SHE?

THE HARDEST PART OF BEING
WITH A NIGERIAN CELEBRITY

IS HIS FOLLOWERS.

THEY’RE THIRSTY WOMEN,
DYING FOR HIS ATTENTION.

LET’S TIGHTEN UP YOUR FACEBOOK
A LITTLE BIT.

I’M GEOFFREY.
I’M 41 YEARS OLD,

AND I LIVE JUST OUTSIDE
OF KNOXVILLE, TENNESSEE.

I’M A COUNTRY BOY.

I LOVE TO BE OUTSIDE,

AND I AM A HANDS‐ON MAN.

I LIKE TO CHANGE TIRES,
I LIKE TO FIX HOUSES.

I LIKE TO DO ANYTHING THAT I CAN
GET OUT THERE

AND GET MY HANDS DIRTY.

COME ON!
HAVOC.

COME ON, COME ON.

I’M A LANDLORD AND I OWN
SEVERAL PROPERTIES

THROUGHOUT THE KNOXVILLE AREA.

COME HERE.
HEY, HEY!

COME ON.

COME ON.

GROWING UP, I WAS A BAD BOY,

BUT, UH...

ALL THAT CHANGED
WHEN I BECAME A FATHER.

YOU GOING TO DO MY CAR
NEXT?

WHY ARE YOU WASHING
YOUR CAR?

ARE YOU TRYING TO IMPRESS
SOMEBODY?

YEAH, YOU.

I’VE BEEN MARRIED
A FEW TIMES,

AND I’M RAISING THREE CHILDREN

FROM TWO DIFFERENT
RELATIONSHIPS.

PAXTON AND DAKOTA ARE MY KIDS

FROM A RELATIONSHIP
20 YEARS AGO.

I ALSO HAVE A
4‐YEAR‐OLD‐SON KAYVEN,

BUT MY MARRIAGE WITH KAYVEN’S
MOTHER DIDN’T WORK OUT.

IT’S DEVASTATING TO ME.

SO MANY FAILED MARRIAGES
MADE IT REALLY HARD

TO TRUST PEOPLE AGAIN.

YOU KNOW, I WAS STRUGGLING
TO FIND THAT ‐‐

THAT RIGHT PERSON
SO I WANTED TO CHANGE IT UP.

SO I WAS ON MY COMPUTER
AND THERE WAS AN AD

THAT POPPED UP FOR
AN INTERNATIONAL DATING SITE.

I SAID, "WHY NOT?"

AND I MADE A PROFILE, AND AT
THAT TIME, I TRULY BELIEVED

THERE IS NO PERFECT PACKAGE,
UNTIL I MET VARYA.

VARYA IS 30 YEARS OLD,
AND SHE’S FROM RUSSIA.

SHE’S A RADIO PERSONALITY,

AND ONCE I STARTED TALKING
TO VARYA,

THERE WAS NO STOPPING.

YOU KNOW, IT STARTED OFF, I WAS
ABLE TO GIVE HER MY NUMBER.

NEXT THING I KNOW,
I GOT A MESSAGE,

"HEY. I’M VARYA.
NICE TO MEET YOU."

FROM THERE, IT JUST GREW
EXPONENTIALLY.

THE COOL THING ABOUT VARYA
IS THAT SHE IS A CAREER WOMAN

AND THAT IN ITSELF
IS SUPER ATTRACTIVE.

VARYA AND I HAVE SO MUCH
IN COMMON.

SHE’S GOAL‐ORIENTED.
I’M GOAL‐ORIENTED.

YOU KNOW, SHE’S ADVENTUROUS.

I LOVE ADVENTURE!

WHOO!

YOU KNOW, RIGHT NOW

SHE’S CHECKING
EVERYTHING OFF THE LIST.

SO I’VE DECIDED TO GO TO RUSSIA
TO MEET VARYA

FOR THE FIRST TIME,
AND I LEAVE IN A WEEK.

SO WHAT? I’M CRAZY,

BUT I TRULY BELIEVE
THAT VARYA AND I

ARE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER.

HEY, GUYS, BROUGHT
SOME LEFTOVERS.

WHAT’S BEEN GOING ON?

I GOT OFF WORK
A LITTLE BIT AGO.

I’VE TOLD MY SONS,
PAXTON AND DAKOTA,

A LITTLE BIT ABOUT VARYA
AND OUR SITUATION,

BUT THEY’RE REALLY HESITANT
ABOUT ME GOING TO MEET HER.

WELL, YOU GUYS KNOW
I’M GOING TO BE LEAVING HERE

SOON FOR RUSSIA.

OH.
MEET SOME WOMEN?

NOT SOME WOMEN.

ONE SPECIFIC WOMAN.

I REALLY DON’T KNOW WHAT’S GOING
TO HAPPEN,

BUT IF WE MESH THE WAY
THAT I PERCEIVE

THAT WE WILL IN MY HEAD,
I MAY ASK HER TO MARRY ME.

IT’S...

IT’S A LITTLE WEIRD
TO ME.

YEAH.

WE FOUND OUT ABOUT VARYA
BECAUSE OUR DAD TOLD US

JUST KIND OF OUT
OF THE BLUE ONE DAY.

IT IS WAY TOO SOON
FOR MARRIAGE.

YOU’RE ALREADY TALKING
ABOUT MARRIAGE.

YOU’VE ONLY KNOW HER FOR, LIKE,
A COUPLE MONTHS.

I’M REALLY LOOKING FORWARD
TO YOUR SUPPORT, HONESTLY.

WE REALLY JUST DON’T WANT
TO SEE YOU HURT,

BECAUSE IT HAS BEEN
A LITTLE HARD

THE LAST FEW YEARS,
OBVIOUSLY...

BUT JUST DON’T TRY AND FULFILL
THAT KIND OF STUFF

WITH JUST JUMPING
INTO SOMETHING.

I’VE HAD A LOT OF HEARTBREAK
IN MY LIFE,

BUT BY FAR, THE ABSOLUTE WORST
IS WHAT HAPPENED TO KAZHEM.

I ACTUALLY HAD TWO KIDS
WITH MY RECENT EX.

KAYVEN HAD A YOUNGER BROTHER
NAMED KAZHEM,

AND IN MARCH OF LAST YEAR,
MY SON, KAZHEM,

ACTUALLY PASSED AWAY.

HE WAS A YEAR AND A MONTH OLD.

HE WAS AT THE HOUSE
AND HE HAD A SEIZURE.

WHILE IN THE HOSPITAL,
THEY PUT HIM IN A COMA.

SEVERAL DAYS LATER,
THEY HAD HIM ON LIFE‐SUPPORT

AND I HELD HIM
AS THEY PULLED THE PLUG.

LOSING A CHILD IS THE ABSOLUTE
WORST THING

THAT COULD EVER
HAPPEN TO YOU.

THERE’S GOING TO BE A HOLE
IN MY HEART

FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE,

BUT I KNOW KAZHEM’S
ALL AROUND ME

AND THAT GIVES ME PEACE
IN MY HEART TO KNOW THAT.

YOU KNOW, AND MAYBE I AM
A LITTLE MORE OPENHEARTED

BECAUSE OF THE LOSS,
BUT WHAT I’M FEELING

IS TRUE AND ME NOT...
YEAH.

JUST TRYING TO MAKE UP
FOR WHAT I’VE LOST.

JUST TRY TO BE CAUTIOUS,
YEAH?

GOING TO RUSSIA,
THERE’S A RISK

THAT I’M GOING TO BE
HEARTBROKEN.

THAT REALLY SCARES ME

BECAUSE I DON’T THINK MY HEART
CAN TAKE ANOTHER LETDOWN.

SO TODAY WE’RE HERE
FOR BODY WAXING AND...

I’M HOME.

YOU’RE GOING TO BE
RIGHT IN HERE.

GREAT.
OKAY.

LOOK HOW NICE THIS IS.

SO HOW BALD
ARE WE GOING TODAY?

LET’S TAKE IT ALL OFF.

NOW I’M DOING IT
FOR THE SAKE OF LOVE, OKAY?

I’M LISA.
I’M 52 YEARS OLD.

I’M FROM YORK, PENNSYLVANIA.

SO IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU GUYS
ARE GETTING ALL

DOLLED UP FOR SOMETHING.

WELL, I’M GETTING READY
TO TRAVEL.

WHERE ARE YOU TRAVELING?

TO NIGERIA.

WHY ARE YOU GOING
TO NIGERIA?

FOR TWO YEARS, I’VE BEEN TALKING
TO THIS MAN OVER THERE,

AND FINALLY I’M GOING
TO MEET HIM IN PERSON.

SO THIS WILL BE
YOUR FIRST TRIP

TO MEET THIS GUY
THAT YOU HAVE YET...

FIRST TIME EVER COMING
OUT OF THE USA.

TO MEET.
OH, MY GOSH, THAT’S TERRIFYING.

AHH!

I WANT TO RECAPTURE MY YOUTH
FOR MY TRIP TO NIGERIA,

BUT I NEVER THOUGHT
I WOULD DO A FULL BODY WAX.

NO, NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS.

I’M GOING TO FEEL THIS ONE,
AIN’T I, JENNA?

YOU KNOW YOU ARE.

OH!

MOTHER OF GOD.

IT FREAKING HURTS.

WOW.
NIKKI, THIS IS COOL.

BUT THIS TRIP IS DEFINITELY
WELL WORTH IT.

I WAS DIVORCED 4 YEARS AGO.

I MARRIED A MAN WHO I THOUGHT
WAS A GOOD PERSON,

BUT I WAS CHEATED ON
AND VERBALLY ABUSED FOR YEARS.

WHEN I FINALLY LEFT, IT WAS
THE BEST THING

FOR MY DAUGHTER AND I.

SHE IS NOW 15,
AND NOW I WORK LONG,

HARD HOURS TO TAKE CARE
OF MY DAUGHTER

AND I WOULDN’T CHANGE IT
FOR NOTHING.

I AM A HOSPICE CAREGIVER
AND BECAUSE OF THE SHIFT

THAT I WORK, MY SOCIAL ACTIVITY
BECAME SOCIAL MEDIA,

GLOBALLY FROM ALL
OVER THE WORLD.

I WASN’T THINKING
I’D FIND LOVE AGAIN,

BUT THEN I MET USMAN.

USMAN AND I HAVE BEEN
TALKING FOR TWO YEARS.

HE IS 30 YEARS OLD.

HE IS FROM NIGERIA,
AND HE’S ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS.

HE SENT ME A MESSAGE
THROUGH MESSENGER ON FACEBOOK.

I DIDN’T TRUST HIM IN
THE BEGINNING, I’LL BE HONEST.

BUT HE CALLED ME IMMEDIATELY
ON VIDEO CHAT

AND SHOWED THAT, YOU KNOW,
THIS IS HIS TRUE IDENTITY.

IT WAS EXCITING BECAUSE
I’VE NEVER SPOKE TO ANYONE

THAT WAS SO YOUNG.

I’M 52.
HE’S 30.

SO IT WAS LIKE,
"WHAT AM I DOING?" YOU KNOW?

BUT USMAN WAS FLIRTATIOUS
FROM THE BEGINNING.

OH, MY GOODNESS.

I WAS KIND OF SHOCKED
WHEN HE SAID, "I LOVE YOU."

AT FIRST, I THOUGHT, "OH. WHOA.
WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN?"

NIGERIANS ARE KNOWN
FOR SCAMMING,

BUT USMAN LOOKED
VERY TRUSTWORTHY

AND I THOUGHT,
"I’LL GIVE HIM A CHANCE."

AND WITHIN A MONTH’S TIME,
WE WERE TALKING

ON VIDEO CHAT EVERY DAY.

AND THEN THE VIDEO CHATS
BECAME MORE SENSUAL.

USMAN HAS SEEN ME
COMPLETELY NAKED,

AND DID HE GET TURNED ON?
MOST DEFINITELY.

MWAH! BABY!

HI, BABY GIRL, LISA.

I MISS YOU SO MUCH.

I’M EXCITED BECAUSE
YOU’RE COMING DOWN

TO MEET ME HERE VERY SOON,
SO I’M HAPPY.

I LOVE YOU, BABY GIRL, LISA.

I’M READY TO FLY TO NIGERIA.

IT HAS BEEN TWO YEARS
TALKING ONLINE.

HE IS HALF OF MY HEART,
MY MIND, MY SOUL.

THE ONLY PART HE DOESN’T HAVE
IS THE BODY, BUT THAT IS COMING.

WHEN WE FIRST MET, USMAN TOLD ME
THAT HE WAS AN ENTERTAINER,

RAPPER, AND CELEBRITY
IN HIS HOME STATE,

AND HE GOES BY THE NAME
SOJA BOY.

AND I CHECKED ON HIS IG,
AND I SAW OVER 20,000 FOLLOWERS.

I’M LIKE, "WOW, OKAY."

AS USMAN AND I GOT CLOSER,
I HAD A LITTLE BIT OF DIFFICULTY

TO ACCEPT THAT THIS NIGERIAN
CELEBRITY HAD FEELINGS FOR ME,

BUT THIS PAST VALENTINE’S DAY,

USMAN PROVED WHY I’M THE ONE
WHEN HE WROTE A SONG FOR ME.

IT IS THE MOST ROMANTIC THING
I HAVE RECEIVED IN MY

52 YEARS OF LIFE
FROM ANY MAN.

AND I PLAY THAT SONG
SEVERAL TIMES DURING THE DAY.

SOMEBODY BRING ME A FAN,
PLEASE.

HOLY.

MM.

OUR RELATIONSHIP IS BUILT
ON TRUST,

BUT THE HARDEST PART OF BEING
WITH A NIGERIAN CELEBRITY

IS HIS FOLLOWERS.

THE FEMALES.

THEY’RE THIRSTY WOMEN
DYING FOR HIS ATTENTION.

THE WOMEN DO MAKE COMMENTS LIKE,
"THIS IS MY HUSBAND."

"I WANT YOU."
"I LOVE YOU."

NAH, NO.

THAT
IS NOT FLYING WITH ME.

SO, SEVERAL TIMES DURING
THE DAY, YOU WILL SEE ME

GOING THROUGH
SOJA BOY’S SOCIAL MEDIA,

CHECKING TO SEE
WHAT THESE FEMALES DO POST.

DUDE, DUDE, GUY, GUY.

MARY ANN.
WHO IS SHE?

WE’RE GOING TO SNAP THIS
AND I’M GOING TO SEND IT TO HIM.

I WANT TO KNOW WHO SHE IS.

HMM.

WHO IS SHE?

JUST BECAUSE SHE’S A COLLEAGUE
DOESN’T MEAN

SHE NEEDS TO PUT A LOVE EMOJI
ON YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA.

I STILL FIND IT DISRESPECTFUL.

DO YOU SEE MALE COLLEAGUES
ON MY FACEBOOK

PUTTING HEART EMOJIS,
LOVE EMOJIS?

NO, YOU DO NOT.

LET’S TIGHTEN UP YOUR FACEBOOK
A LITTLE BIT.

I AM MUCH MORE DIFFICULT
ON USMAN

BECAUSE OF WHAT HAS HAPPENED
TO ME WITH MY EX‐HUSBAND.

I DON’T WANT TO BE HURT AGAIN.

SO, I DO HAVE DOUBTS ABOUT USMAN

BECAUSE OF THE WAY THESE WOMEN
ARE WRITING TO HIM.

IT MAKES ME WONDER, "IS THIS
MAN ACTUALLY WHO HE SAYS HE IS?"

IS HE FAITHFUL TO ME?

I’M HOPING HE IS.

GOING TO FIND MY MAN.

MY BOYFRIEND IS FROM
MANCHESTER, ENGLAND,

AND HE’S JUST SIMPLY GORGEOUS.

HE TOLD ME,
"I DON’T HAVE A CAMERA."

I BELIEVE HIM.

YOU SOUND DELUSIONAL.

KEEP SLAMMING IT HARD.

BRING IT ALL THE WAY UP
OVER YOUR HEAD.

SLAM IT DOWN LIKE YOU’RE ANGRY.
THERE WE GO.

PRETEND LIKE THERE’S SOMEONE
YOU DON’T LIKE ON THE GROUND.

AND SLAM.
THERE WE GO.

I’M YOLANDA, AND I LIVE IN
LAS VEGAS, NEVADA,

AND I’M 51 YEARS OLD.

KEEP YOUR CORE TIGHT.
PERFECT! YOU’RE GOOD AT THIS.

OH, GOOD.

I’M A GO‐GETTER.

I SEE WHAT I WANT,

I JUST GO FOR IT.

I’VE OVERCOME A LOT
OF STRUGGLES IN MY LIFE,

BUT THE BIGGEST HURDLE
WAS MY WEIGHT.

I WAS OVER 300 POUNDS,
AND IT WAS A LOT OF SHAME.

I WAS AN INTROVERT
FOR THE LONGEST TIME,

BUT I WENT THROUGH
A HUGE CHANGE IN MY LIFE

AND I LOST OVER 150 POUNDS.

I THINK I’M CUTE NOW.

IT WAS HARD FOR ME
TO LOSE WEIGHT,

BUT I KNEW I HAD TO START...

WHEN DUANE GOT SICK.

I CAN COUNT THE AMOUNT OF MEN
I HAVE DATED ON ONE HAND,

BUT I ONLY HAD ONE LOVE,
WHICH WAS DUANE.

I WAS WITH HIM FOR 30 YEARS,

BUT DUANE SUFFERED
FROM KIDNEY DISEASE.

THAT DISEASE RAVAGED YOUR BODY

AND IT TAKES YOU OUT SOONER
THAN, YOU KNOW, EXPECTED.

DUANE PASSED AWAY.

WHEN HE PASSED AWAY,
IT WOKE ME UP.

I KNEW IT WAS TIME TO TURN MY
LIFE AROUND AND GET HEALTHY.

NOT JUST FOR MYSELF,
BUT ESPECIALLY FOR MY CHILDREN.

GOT DINNER.
‐HOW WAS YOUR DAY TODAY?

OH, IT WAS GOOD!

MALEEK, TAREEK, COME ON DOWN.

I NEED Y’ALL TO SET THE TABLE.

I HAVE SIX KIDS.

THREE GIRLS, THREE BOYS,

AGES FROM 17 TO 29.

THERE IS KYLA, KEANA, KARRA,
MALEEK, TAREEK, AND DAMANTE.

IT’S NEVER A DULL MOMENT,
BUT I LOVE THEM ALL

AND I WOULDN’T CHANGE IT
FOR ANYTHING.

SO, KYLA.
HMM?

HOW WAS DANCE?
IT WAS GOOD.

‐OH, MY BABY!
‐YEAH.

OHH!

YOU GOT TO SHOW US
THE AUDITION DANCE.

OKAY.

YEAH, THERE YOU GO.
YOU GOT IT.

I GOT IT.
THERE YOU GO.

I DID IT.

I WOULD DESCRIBE MY MOM
AS BEAUTIFUL, KIND.

SHE’S, LIKE, STUBBORN
A LITTLE BIT.

HER SOCIAL LIFE IS
KIND OF AT A STANDSTILL.

ALL OF US, WE’RE ALL, LIKE,
HER BEST FRIENDS SO...

‐FRIENDS.
‐WE’RE A LOT OF WORK, SO...

YEAH, SO.

TODAY I WENT
SPEED WALKING.

‐WHAT’S THIS?
‐SPEED WHAT?!

I’M FEELING GOOD.

I’M LOOKING GOOD.

I’M DOING ME.
ALL RIGHT.

WELL, AS LONG AS YOU HAPPY, MA,
WE HAPPY.

SINCE THEIR FATHER PASSED AWAY,
MY KIDS HAVE BEEN MY LIFE.

THEY’VE BEEN EVERYTHING TO ME.

LET’S EAT.

BUT THERE IS SOMETHING
I’M HIDING FROM MOST OF THEM

BECAUSE I’M AFRAID
OF HOW THEY’LL REACT,

AND RIGHT NOW
THEY ACTUALLY THINK

THAT I’M FILMING A SHOW
FOR WEIGHT LOSS,

MY WEIGHT‐LOSS JOURNEY.

BUT THE TRUTH IS, I MET
SOMEONE ONLINE, AND I’M IN LOVE.

MY BOYFRIEND, WILLIAMS,
IS FROM MANCHESTER, ENGLAND,

AND HE’S 40 YEARS OLD.

HE’S A RESTAURANT MANAGER,
AND HE’S JUST SIMPLY GORGEOUS.

BEAUTIFUL EYES AND, OH,
HE GOT MUSCLES EVERYWHERE.

WILLIAMS MAKES ME FEEL GOOD.

HE KNOW EXACTLY
WHAT TO SAY TO ME.

I DID NOT THINK I WOULD
FIND LOVE ON SOCIAL MEDIA,

BUT I STARTED MY INSTAGRAM,
AND WILLIAMS, HE JUST SAID,

"HI. HOW ARE YOU?"

AT FIRST, I DIDN’T THINK
ANYTHING ROMANTIC OF IT,

BUT HE WAS SO SWEET
AND HE QUICKLY WOOED ME IN.

TO HAVE ANOTHER MAN JUST LIKE
ME, IT WAS A GOOD FEELING.

AND NOW WE TALK ON THE PHONE,
LIKE, THREE AND FOUR,

SOMETIMES FIVE TIMES A DAY.

HE KNOWS EVERYTHING ABOUT ME.

HE JUST SENT ME
ALL OF THESE EMOJIS

AND HE PUT A ROSE
BESIDE MY NAME.

I MEAN, HOW CAN YOU NOT FALL
IN LOVE

WITH SOMEBODY THAT DO THAT
TO YOU EVERY DAY?

WILLIAMS IS YOUNGER.

THAT MAKES ME A COOL GIRL.

I WAS FINE WITH IT,
BUT I DID TELL HIM

I WAS 45 WHEN I’M REALLY 51,
AND HE SAID,

"I DIDN’T KNOW
YOU WERE THAT OLD."

SO I DEFINITELY WASN’T TELLING
HIM MY REAL AGE AFTER THAT.

IN MY PHOTOS, I JUST MAKE SURE
MY MAKEUP IS DONE

AND I PUT ON YOUNGER‐LOOKING
OUTFITS SO HE WON’T,

YOU KNOW, GUESS MY REAL AGE
UNTIL I TELL HIM IN PERSON.

BECAUSE IN ONE WEEK, I’M LEAVING
FOR ENGLAND TO MEET WILLIAMS,

THE MAN OF MY DREAMS,

AND IF ALL GOES WELL, HOPEFULLY
A PROPOSAL WILL COME OUT OF IT.

I’M SO EXCITED, KARRA.

ENGLAND IS GOING TO BE
A WONDERFUL TRIP.

OH, MAN.

MY DAUGHTER, KARRA,
IS MY OLDEST,

AND WE HAVE AN ONLINE
BUSINESS TOGETHER

SELLING THINGS THAT WE FIND
IN THRIFT SHOPS,

AND SHE’S THE ONLY ONE
I’VE TOLD ABOUT WILLIAMS.

YES, I’M READY.
GOING TO FIND MY MAN.

MOM.

MY MOM TOLD ME ABOUT WILLIAMS
TWO MONTHS AGO.

I’M HAPPY FOR MY MOM,
BUT I JUST WANT TO PROTECT HER

AND KNOW IF THIS GUY
IS REALLY TRUTHFUL.

SEE? THEY GOT SOME NICE SHOES
HERE THOUGH.

OH, WAIT A MINUTE.
I SEE WEDDING SHOES.

I’M THINKING ABOUT WEDDING.

MOM, COME ON.

I LOVE HIM SO MUCH,
KARRA.

HE TOLD ME, "YOLANDA,
I DON’T HAVE A CAMERA."

WILLIAMS DOES
COMMUNICATE WITH ME

WITH HIS PHONE,

BUT HE SAID
THE CAMERA’S BROKEN

SO HE CAN SEE ME,
BUT I CAN’T SEE HIM,

AND HE’S NEVER SENT ME
A VIDEO OF HIS SELF.

WE’VE BEEN TALKING FOR SO LONG,
SO I BELIEVE HIM.

I KNOW HIM.
MOM, YOU SOUND DELUSIONAL.

I FEEL LIKE MY MOM IS
BEING VERY NAIVE RIGHT NOW,

AND THAT SCARES ME,

SO I’M COMING TO ENGLAND
WITH HER TO HAVE HER BACK.

YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW IF HE’S
REALLY WHO HE SAYS HE IS.

YOU’LL SEE.

WHEN YOU MEET HIM,
YOU’LL UNDERSTAND.

YEAH, I WILL SEE.

YOU REALLY DON’T TRUST
THIS SITUATION?

NO.
YOU’RE NOT GOING BY YOURSELF

TO A FOREIGN COUNTRY
WE DON’T KNOW.

KARRA,
I AM A GROWN WOMAN.

YOU DON’T KNOW THIS MAN.

YOU’VE NEVER MET HIM.

I’M GOING WITH YOU.

WOW.

IF THAT’S HOW YOU FEEL.

OKAY, BUT I WANT YOU
TO HAVE MY BACK

WHEN I TELL YOUR SISTERS
AND BROTHERS.

MY KIDS ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT
THINGS TO ME IN MY LIFE.

I WAS WITH THEIR FATHER
FOR SO LONG,

AND I’M VERY AFRAID OF HOW
THEY’LL REACT WHEN THEY FIND OUT

THAT I’VE FALLEN IN LOVE
WITH ANOTHER MAN.

YOU’VE GOT TO GIVE ME A CHANCE
TO SHOW Y’ALL THAT HE’S REAL

AND THAT OUR LOVE
IS REAL.

WE SHALL SEE.

HAVE YOU SPOKEN TO TIFFANY
ABOUT THIS SITUATION?

WHEN I TOLD MY DAUGHTER,
TIFFANY,

ABOUT ROSEMARIE,
SHE STOPPED TALKING TO ME.

I THINK SHE’S EMBARRASSED THAT
I WANT TO MARRY SOMEBODY

THAT IS YOUNGER
THAN SHE IS.

WENT OVER TO HIS INSTAGRAM

WHERE HE HAD POSTED, LIKE,
PHOTOS OF ME,

AND ONLY MY PHOTOS
WERE DELETED.

THAT’S A BIG RED FLAG.

IF I DID THAT, I’M HIDING
SOMETHING FOR SURE.

HOLD ON.

YOU EXCITED TO SEE GRANNY?

HOLD ON, LITTLE MONKEY.

I’M LEAVING IN SIX DAYS
FOR THE PHILIPPINES

TO MEET THE GIRL
OF MY DREAMS.

I CAN’T WAIT TO BE FACE‐TO‐FACE
WITH ROSE.

I CAN’T WAIT, BUT I DO FEEL
SOMEWHAT CONFLICTED

BECAUSE I’M GETTING
A LOT OF PUSHBACK

FROM MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY.

OH, HEY, MOM.

HOW ARE YOU DOING?

HOW ARE YOU?
GOOD.

HOW ARE YOU DOING?

OH, MAN.

I KNOW.

I’M NOT GOING TO CUT
MY HAIR.

YOU LOOK MORE HANDSOME
WITH YOUR HAIR SHORT.

SO, MOM, I NEEDED TO ASK YOU
IF YOU CAN WATCH

TEDDY WHILE I’M GONE
TO THE PHILIPPINES.

WHY ARE YOU GOING?

ARE YOU SERIOUS ABOUT ROSE,
OR WHAT?

OH, I’M VERY SERIOUS
ABOUT ROSE.

I’M CONCERNED FOR YOU BECAUSE
YOU DON’T REALLY,

REALLY KNOW HER.

THIS IS NOT THE TIME TO GO
AND HAVE A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP

RIGHT AWAY OR STAY IN HER HOUSE
OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT.

YOU’RE NOT GOING TO STAY AT HER
HOUSE, OR YOU ARE GOING TO STAY?

NO, I AM GOING TO STAY
IN HER HOUSE.

YOU’RE STAYING
IN HER HOUSE?

I BOUGHT PILLOWS,
BECAUSE YOU KNOW MY ‐‐

BECAUSE MY SKIN IS SOFT,
SO I BOUGHT SHEETS.

I HAVE A SENSITIVE
SKIN CONDITION,

WHICH MEANS I HAVE
TO HAVE SPECIAL SHEETS.

THREAD COUNT, I’LL BE TOTALLY
HONEST,

THEY HAVE TO BE OVER 1,000.

I CAN’T USE ANY TYPE OF
HIGH‐CHEMICAL DETERGENTS

OR COSMETICS

BECAUSE I CAN BREAK OUT
IN A RASH.

YOU’RE GOING TO SLEEP
IN A DIFFERENT BED.

THEY ONLY HAVE ONE BED.

I DON’T THINK
IT’S A GOOD IDEA.

THAT THIS GIRL IS JUST
INTERESTED IN HIS MONEY,

SO I DON’T WANT
TO SEE HIM HURT.

MOM,
I HEAR WHAT YOU’RE SAYING,

BUT I LOVE HER AND I
HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER.

I’VE NEVER FELT LIKE THIS
FOR ANYBODY.

SO, I ALREADY BOUGHT
A RING.

NO!

NO, NO, NO!

TAKE IT BACK.

YOU DON’T KNOW IF THIS IS
GOING TO WORK OUT, PONY.

HAVE YOU SPOKEN TO TIFFANY

ABOUT HOW SHE FEELS
ABOUT ALL THIS SITUATION?

I CAN’T,
SHE WON’T TALK TO ME.

TIFFANY IS MY DAUGHTER,

AND WE’VE BEEN SO CLOSE
ALL OF HER LIFE.

WHEN I TOLD MY DAUGHTER
ABOUT ROSEMARIE,

IT WAS DOWNHILL FROM THERE.

SHE STOPPED TALKING TO ME,
AND IT’S BEEN, LIKE, 4 WEEKS

SINCE I’VE HEARD FROM HER.

I THINK SHE’S SOMEWHAT
EMBARRASSED THAT I’M,

WANT TO MARRY SOMEBODY
THAT IS YOUNGER THAN SHE IS.

I REALLY THINK THAT SHE’S
GENUINELY CONCERNED

ABOUT YOU GOING OUT THERE.

I’M SO WRAPPED UP IN BEING
IN LOVE AND EXCITED

THAT I FINALLY MET
SOMEBODY AFTER 28 YEARS,

THAT I HAVEN’T THOUGHT
ABOUT HOW THIS IS,

YOU KNOW,
AFFECTING TIFFANY.

MAYBE IT’S A GOOD IDEA
FOR YOU TO STOP

AND THINK
ABOUT THOSE THINGS.

I KNOW.

WOW.

MOM, I JUST WANT TO BE
HAPPY FOR ONCE.

I JUST, FOR ONCE,
I WANT IT TO WORK OUT.

YOU ARE DETERMINED TO GO
AND MEET THIS GIRL.

DO IT.

DO IT, BUT MY ADVICE
TO YOU IS,

"REESTABLISH YOUR RELATIONSHIP
WITH TIFFANY

THAT YOU’VE ALWAYS HAD."

AT THIS POINT, I DON’T THINK
ROSE IS WORTH THE RISK,

THE BIG RISK HE’S TAKING.

I’M GOING TO KEEP CALLING
TIFFANY,

I’M NOT GOING TO GIVE UP.
I LOVE HER, MOM.

SHE’S MY DAUGHTER.

I GOT TO GIVE YOU
A BIG HUG.

WELL, THANKS, MOM.

I LOVE YOU.

MY MOM IS FROM MEXICO,
AND SHE MET MY DAD

WHEN HE WAS IN THE AIR FORCE.

GOT MARRIED IN MEXICO
AND THEN MOVED TO THE U. S.

IT WAS PROBABLY A STRUGGLE
FOR HER,

SO SHE IS SKEPTICAL ABOUT
MY RELATIONSHIP WITH ROSE.

DON’T GO THERE
WITH A WEDDING RING.

BUT MY MOM HAS REALLY
MADE ME THINK.

MY DAUGHTER IS THE MOST
IMPORTANT PERSON IN MY LIFE,

AND MY HOPE IS
THAT I CAN CHANGE

TIFFANY’S MIND BY HER SEEING
HOW HAPPY I AM,

AND HER KNOWING
THAT THIS IS REAL.

AT THE TONE, PLEASE RECORD
YOUR VOICE MESSAGE.

IT’S YOUR DAD.
LISTEN...

UM...

I JUST ‐‐ I JUST
TALKED TO GRANNY.

WE JUST HAD A REALLY
LONG DISCUSSION,

AND I’M REALLY REALIZING
HOW THIS IS IMPACTING YOU,

AND CALL ME BACK.
I LOVE YOU.

I LOVE YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING.
CALL ME.

IN A COUPLE OF DAYS,

I’M GOING TO AUSTRALIA
TO MEET MY BOYFRIEND,

ASH, FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME,

AND I CANNOT WAIT TO BE WITH
ASH IN PERSON.

HI, MY LOVE.

HEY.
HOW ARE YOU?

‐GOOD.
‐I HAVEN’T SEEN YOU IN FOREVER.

I KNOW.

JOSH.
LONG TIME, NO SEE.

HOW’S IT GOING?
GOOD.

I’VE KNOWN JEN FOR 18 YEARS,

AND JEN KNOWS A LOT
ABOUT ASH,

BUT I DON’T THINK SHE FULLY
UNDERSTANDS THE EXTENT OF IT

BECAUSE I’VE KEPT
A COUPLE THINGS FROM HER.

I FEEL LIKE I HAVEN’T
CAUGHT UP WITH YOU.

I KNOW.

SO, I’M ACTUALLY GOING TO GO SEE
ASH IN AUSTRALIA.

I’M GOING TO BE THERE FOR 2
AND A HALF WEEKS.

WOW.

ARE YOU HESITANT ABOUT IT,
OR...

WELL, THE THING IS,
LIKE,

ASH IS SO DIFFERENT
THAN ANYONE I’VE DATED BEFORE.

I KNOW THAT.

AND SO I REALLY WANT
TO FIGURE OUT

IF I NEED TO KEEP
PUTTING MY TIME INTO THIS.

AVERY
IS PRETTY IMPULSIVE.

I WOULD NOT GO FLY ACROSS
THE WORLD

TO GO STAY WITH SOMEBODY
THAT I DON’T REALLY KNOW.

DID YOU EVEN PUT THAT
ON THE TABLE

TO WHERE HE COULD
COME VISIT HERE?

YEAH, I ASKED HIM A LONG
TIME AGO TO GET HIS VISA

AND HE KEPT GIVING ME,
LIKE, CERTAIN EXCUSES.

HE’S LIKE, "UM, I DIDN’T WANT
TO TELL YOU THIS

BECAUSE I DIDN’T WANT TO, LIKE,
STIR THE POT

OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT,
BUT BECAUSE I HAD A BANKRUPTCY

IN MY PAST,
MY VISA WAS GETTING DENIED."

THAT DOESN’T SCARE YOU?

IT KIND OF GAVE ME
A LITTLE BIT OF A CONCERN.

IT MADE ME THINK LIKE,
"IS THERE SOMETHING ELSE?"

SOMETHING ELSE THAT HE WAS
TRYING TO HIDE?

YEAH,
BUT THEN I ALSO WAS LIKE,

"WELL, IF YOU’RE
SO TRUSTING OF ME,

WHY CAN’T YOU
JUST BE OPEN?"

SO I HAVE A COUPLE TRUST ISSUES
IN OUR RELATIONSHIP.

I DIDN’T KNOW ANYTHING
ABOUT THE BANKRUPTCY THING

TILL HE COULDN’T GET A VISA
TO COME OVER HERE.

HE EVENTUALLY EXPLAINED TO ME
THAT HIS PAST BUSINESS PARTNER

HAD TAKEN A LOT OF MONEY
FROM HIM

AND IT JUST KIND OF PUT HIM
IN A HOLE THAT FORCED HIM

TO HAVE TO GO INTO BANKRUPTCY.

‐THANK YOU.
‐YOU’RE WELCOME.

BUT I AM STILL BOTHERED ABOUT
THE FACT THAT ASH FELT LIKE

HE HAD TO LIE TO ME ABOUT IT.

I DON’T KNOW,
WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

I MEAN, YOU KNOW WHAT HE TELLS
YOU ABOUT HIMSELF, RIGHT?

YOU DON’T KNOW ANYTHING
FOR CERTAIN.

WHAT DOES HE DO
FOR WORK?

ASH IS A RELATIONSHIP COACH,
AND MAYBE THAT’S WHY I’M SO,

LIKE, INFATUATED WITH HIM,
YOU KNOW?

DO YOU FEEL LIKE HE KNOWS
THE RIGHT THING TO SAY TO YOU?

ALL THE TIME.

BUT THEN WE’VE HAD,
LIKE, SOME UPS

AND DOWNS
THAT HAVE CONCERNED ME.

I MEAN, YOU WERE THERE WITH ME
THE VERY FIRST TIME

THAT THERE WAS, LIKE,

SOME RED FLAGS
THAT WERE GOING OFF.

JOSH DOESN’T REALLY KNOW
ABOUT THAT.

OKAY, SO...
WE WERE AT DINNER.

AND JEN’S LIKE,

"IT DOESN’T SHOW ON FACEBOOK
THAT HE’S IN A RELATIONSHIP."

SO THEN WE, LIKE, WENT OVER
TO HIS INSTAGRAM

WHERE HE HAD POSTED, LIKE,
PHOTOS OF ME

AND ONLY MY PHOTOS
WERE DELETED.

THAT WAS OUT OF THE BLUE?
NO FIGHT?

NO NOTHING BEFORE THAT?
NO, NO FIGHT.

NO, LIKE, WE’D NEVER HAD,
LIKE, ANY, LIKE,

THIS WAS WHEN, LIKE,
WE’RE IN PURE BLISS.

SO THEN WE STARTED
MESSAGING HIM.

HE EVEN SAID, LIKE,

"SOMEBODY MUST HAVE HACKED
INTO MY ACCOUNT."

I HAD A HARD TIME BELIEVING
THAT ASH’S

SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNT
GOT HACKED.

I THOUGHT MAYBE HE WAS GETTING
MESSAGES FROM OTHER WOMEN

AND HE JUST DIDN’T WANT THEM TO
KNOW THAT I WAS HIS GIRLFRIEND.

BUT HE SHOWED ME A SCREENSHOT
OF HIS E‐MAILS

SAYING THAT HE HAD BEEN HACKED.

SO I CHOSE TO BELIEVE HIM,
BUT IT’S BEEN A LITTLE HARD

TO GAIN THAT TRUST BACK.

THAT’S A BIG RED FLAG.

REALLY?

YOU CAN’T DENY THAT.

I’M A GUY, LIKE, THAT ‐‐

IF I DID THAT, I’M HIDING
SOMETHING FOR SURE.

MY BIGGEST FEAR WITH YOU

IS I SAW WHAT YOU WENT
THROUGH BEFORE.

I JUST DON’T WANT YOU TO MAKE
ANOTHER MISTAKE

TO WHERE YOU’RE GOING
TO BE UNHAPPY AGAIN.

YES.

I DON’T WANT TO CONTINUE
TO MAKE MISTAKES.

THERE’S ALWAYS THE POSSIBILITY
THAT ASH

IS NOT THE PERSON THAT
HE’S PORTRAYING HIMSELF AS,

BUT I TRULY BELIEVE THAT I HAVE
A CONNECTION WITH ASH

THAT I’VE NEVER
EXPERIENCED BEFORE.

SO IT’S TIME FOR ME TO MEET HIM
AND I JUST HOPE

THAT I’M NOT LET DOWN
IN ANY WAY.

THINK ABOUT ALL THE STUFF
THAT YOU GUYS HAVEN’T DONE YET.

WHAT IF YOU GET THERE
AND THE SEX IS WHACK?

I HAVE A SECRET WEAPON.

HE’S BEEN HAVING NOTHING
BUT SAFE SEX.

WHEN I GET THERE,
THERE’LL BE NO CONDOM USE.

IT’S LIKE
I’M TAKING A VIRGIN.

LET’S SEE
WHAT THEY GOT IN HERE.

HI. WELCOME.

HOW ARE YOU TODAY?

WONDERFUL.

I’M LEAVING IN A FEW DAYS
TO MEET THE MAN

THAT I’VE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH,
USMAN, AKA SojaBoy,

FOR THE FIRST TIME
IN PERSON.

HE IS MY BEST FRIEND,
MY CONFIDANT.

WE COMPLETE EACH OTHER.

HE IS MY BABY LOVE.

WE’LL DO
THE OREO COOKIE.

OKAY.

I’M COOL.

MY FRIENDS ARE VERY SKEPTICAL
BECAUSE HE IS FROM NIGERIA,

BUT I’M VERY SURE,
BECAUSE OUR LOVE IS VERY REAL.

SO, YOU HAVE A DATE YET
TO LEAVE?

I’M GONNA BE LEAVING
IN A COUPLE DAYS.

SO, WHAT ARE Y’ALL GONNA DO
OVER THERE?

WELL...

WE WILL BE MARRIED
OVER THERE IN NIGERIA.

GOD HELP US ALL.

ABOUT 9 MONTHS
INTO THE RELATIONSHIP,

USMAN HAD CALLED ME ON VIDEO,
AND HE SAID,

"BABY LOVE,
WILL YOU MARRY ME?"

I WAS LIKE, "WHAT DID YOU
JUST SAY?"

HE SAID, "WILL YOU MARRY ME?"

I SAID, "I’M ACCEPTING
YOUR PROPOSAL

UNDER THE STIPULATION
THAT IT’S TEMPORARY

BECAUSE I WANT IT
TO BE IN PERSON."

I KNOW IT’S CRAZY
TO MARRY SOMEONE

THAT I HAVE NOT PHYSICALLY MET,

BUT I HAVE NEVER FELT
LIKE THIS IN MY LIFE.

THINK ABOUT ALL THE STUFF
THAT YOU GUYS HAVEN’T DONE YET.

YOU HAVEN’T PHYSICALLY
TOUCHED HIM.

YOU HAVEN’T HELD HIS HAND.
YOU HAVEN’T SLEPT WITH HIM.

THIS MAN FULFILLS
EVERY DESIRE THAT I WANT.

THE ONLY THING HE HAS
NOT FULFILLED

IS THE ACTUAL
PHYSICAL TOUCH,

AND YOU CANNOT BASE
A RELATIONSHIP ON THAT.

NO, YOU CAN’T, BUT IT COULD
RUIN THE RELATIONSHIP.

WHAT IF YOU GET THERE
AND THE SEX IS WACK?

I HAVE A SECRET WEAPON.

AND WHAT’S THAT?

FROM DAY 1, HE’S BEEN HAVING
NOTHING BUT SAFE SEX

WHEN HE WAS
IN A RELATIONSHIP.

WHEN I GET THERE,
THERE WILL BE NO CONDOM USE.

YOU LOST YOUR MIND.

IT’S LIKE
I’M TAKING A VIRGIN.

USMAN AND I WILL HAVE
UNPROTECTED SEX,

AND IT WILL BE OFF THE HOOK.

WE BOTH LOVE ANOTHER,
AND WE BOTH TRUST EACH OTHER,

AND IT’S SOMETHING HE’S
NEVER EXPERIENCED IN A LIFETIME.

HE WILL TEACH ME
THE NIGERIAN WAY,

AND I WILL TEACH HIM
THE AMERICAN WAY.

I FEEL SAFE WITH THIS MAN,
AND MY PERSONAL OPINION ‐‐

I DON’T NEED A CONDOM.

I JUST HAD HIM TESTED
FOR AIDS.

ANY TYPE OF SEXUAL TRANSMITTED
DISEASES, HE’S CLEAN.

I’M TRAVELING 7,000 MILES.
LET ME DO MY THING AND ENJOY IT.

WHAT IS HE ‐‐ A RAPPER,
SINGER, WHATEVER?

MM‐HMM.
HE’S THIS CELEBRITY,

BUT HE’S BEEN FAITHFUL
FOR TWO YEARS?

MM‐HMM.

HE’S A MAN, AT THE END
OF THE DAY.

OH, OH.
A CELEBRITY MAN.

I’LL GIVE YOU THAT,
ALL RIGHT?

BUT HE’S NOT
AN AMERICAN MAN.

THERE IS A DIFFERENCE.

A MAN IS A MAN...
NO, NO, NO.

NO MATTER WHAT REGION
THAT THEY ARE FROM.

NO, NO, YOU’RE WRONG.
HMM!

DID YOU NOT HEAR THE SONG
THAT HE WROTE FOR ME?

YES, I HEARD THE SONG.

DO YOU NOT HEAR
THE WORDS?

YES, YES, YES.

OKAY?

THAT SONG IS AS REAL
AS IT CAN GET.

I DO THINK LISA’S
A LITTLE BIT DELUSIONAL.

HE’S 22 YEARS YOUNGER THAN HER.

WITH ALL THE GIRLS ON HIS PAGE,

IT DOES SEEM A LITTLE BIT CRAZY
TO ME

THAT HE WOULD PICK LISA.

NOT SAYING ANYTHING’S WRONG
WITH LISA,

BUT IT’S KIND OF LIKE
HE WANTS TO COME HERE

JUST TO FURTHER
HIS MUSIC CAREER.

WHAT IF HE WAS JUST PRETENDING
THIS WHOLE TIME?

HOW MANY MEN DO YOU KNOW CALL
YOU AT LEAST 25 TIMES A DAY?

IT SOUNDS LIKE A MAN
TRYING TO GET A GREEN CARD.

NO.
TRYING TO BUTTER YOU ON UP.

NO.
HE COULD TELL YOU ANYTHING!

HE CAN TELL YOU WHATEVER
HE FEELS LIKE YOU NEED TO HEAR.

DO YOU REALIZE
WHAT PEOPLE WILL GO THROUGH?

THAT THEY’LL GO
THROUGH ANYTHING

JUST TO BE
AN AMERICAN CITIZEN?

LIKE, LOOK WHERE
HE’S COMING FROM.

HIS LOYALTY
IS UNLIKE ANYTHING

YOU’VE EVER SEEN
IN YOUR LIFE.

I JUST WANT YOU
TO GO INTO IT BEING SMART.

I MEAN, YOU’RE GOING
OVER THERE WITH THE INTENTIONS

OF GETTING MARRIED
WHILE YOU’RE THERE.

LIKE, DON’T YOU THINK
THIS SHOULD BE A TRIP

FOR FEEL IT OUT,
SEE WHAT’S IT’S LIKE ONE ON ONE,

RATHER THAN GOING OVER
AND BE LIKE,

"BAM. WHAT’S UP? HOW YOU DOING?
WE’RE MARRIED. IT’S OVER"?

LIKE...

I’LL SEE HOW IT GOES.

WITH MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS,

I’VE NEVER BEEN TREATED AS A
WOMAN WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED,

AND WITH USMAN,

HE GIVES ME MUCH RESPECT,
MUCH LOVE,

AND I FEEL LIKE
THIS IS AN OPPORTUNITY

FOR ME TO HAVE A LOVE

THAT I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED
IN MY LIFE.

BUT THE ONE THING
I’M WORRIED ABOUT

ARE HIS FEMALE FANS,

AND I DO NEED TO MAKE SURE
HE HAS BEEN FAITHFUL TO ME.

BUT I WON’T KNOW
UNTIL I TRAVEL TO NIGERIA

TO SEE HIM FACE‐TO‐FACE.

I AM SO EXCITED TO MEET
WILLIAMS FOR THE FIRST TIME.

I LOVE HEARING HIS VOICE.

THE BRITISH ACCENT IS THE
SEXIEST ACCENT IN THE WORLD.

I’M DOING GOOD.
HOW ARE YOU?

AH, I’M ON CLOUD NINE.

SHE SPEAKS REALLY GOOD
ENGLISH, ACTUALLY.

WHEW.

OKAY.

WHEN I GET A TEXT FROM WILLIAMS,
I MEAN, IT MAKES MY DAY.

I’M LEAVING IN A WEEK TO GO
TO ENGLAND

TO MEET MY BOYFRIEND, WILLIAMS,
FOR THE FIRST TIME.

WILLIAMS IS 40 YEARS OLD.

HE’S YOUNG AND HANDSOME.

I LOVE ALL OF THAT ABOUT HIM.

PEOPLE MAY THINK I’M CRAZY,
BUT I SAY,

"LOVE MAKES YOU DO
CRAZY THINGS,"

AND I’M GOING.

I’M CALLING HIM NOW.

HELLO?

I’M DOING GOOD.
HOW ARE YOU?

OH, THEY GOOD.
THE KIDS ARE GOOD.

THANK YOU FOR ASKING.

I LOVE HEARING HIS VOICE.

THE BRITISH ACCENT IS THE
SEXIEST ACCENT IN THE WORLD.

AND FOR ME TO HAVE
A MAN WITH IT?

AH, I’M ON CLOUD NINE.

OH, I LOVE YOU, TOO.

WE’VE BEEN TOGETHER, TALKING,
FOR, LIKE, CLOSE TO 7 MONTHS.

THE FIRST FEW MONTHS HE NEVER
ASKED ME FOR ANYTHING

BUT,
YOU KNOW, MY LOVE.

I CAN’T WAIT TO SEE YOU.

YOU READY TO SEE ME?

BUT RECENTLY HE SAID, YOU KNOW,
"WE HAVE TO SEE EACH OTHER.

I’M TIRED OF TALKING
ON THE PHONE AND TEXTING,

SO I REALLY WANT
TO SEE YOU,

SO I JUST NEED YOU
TO HELP ME WITH THE TICKET."

IT UPSET ME A LITTLE
BECAUSE I DIDN’T EXPECT HIM

TO ASK ME FOR MONEY.

I DIDN’T GIVE HIM THE MONEY,
AND I TOLD HIM IT’D BE BETTER

IF I COME THERE TO SEE HIM

’CAUSE I’M CURIOUS TO SEE
HOW HE LIVES IN ENGLAND.

I WANT YOU TO PICK ME UP
AT THE AIRPORT.

YOU GONNA PICK ME UP?

OH, YOU ARE?

- OKAY.
- Yeah, babe.

OKAY. I’MMA HOLD YOU
TO THAT, OKAY?

OKAY.
NOW, CAN WE TALK TOMORROW?

CAN I CALL YOU TOMORROW?

I LOVE YOU, TOO.

GET SOME REST, OKAY?

OKAY. ALL RIGHT.
BYE‐BYE.

OKAY. BYE.

OOH, I’M HAPPY!

OHH!

YAY!
I’M SO HAPPY.

HE GONNA PICK ME UP
FROM THE AIRPORT.

HE MADE MY WHOLE DAY.

I LOVE WILLIAMS, AND I KNOW
WILLIAMS LOVE ME,

BUT THIS IS A HUGE CHANGE
IN MY LIFE,

AND I HAVEN’T BEEN ABLE
TO TELL MY KIDS YET.

I’M VERY AFRAID OF HOW
THEY’LL REACT,

BUT I KNOW I HAVE TO
BEFORE I LEAVE.

I MET MY RUSSIAN
GIRLFRIEND, VARYA,

ONLINE ROUGHLY 5 MONTHS AGO,
AND IN 5 DAYS,

I’LL BE GOING TO RUSSIA
TO FINALLY MEET HER

FOR THE FIRST TIME.

BUT I HONESTLY DON’T KNOW IF I
CAN TAKE ANOTHER HIT ON MY HEART

IF THINGS DO GO AWRY.

HEY! HEY.

HOW ARE YOU?

OH.

LONG TIME.

WHAT DO YOU GOT COOKING?

I ACTUALLY HAVE A RUSSIAN FRIEND
NAMED OLGA

THAT I MET THROUGH WORK.

SHE’S PROBABLY THE ONLY
RUSSIAN IN RURAL TENNESSEE,

AND WE HIT IT OFF REALLY WELL.

AND SHE’S REALLY
BEEN THERE FOR ME

THROUGH SOME OF
MY HARDEST TIMES.

YEAH, YEAH.
LET’S GO SIT BY THE POOL.

WHAT DO YOU NEED ME
TO CARRY?

THIS?

SO, HOW’S WORK?
WHAT’S BEEN GOING ON?

YEAH?

IT’S GREAT TO BE BUSY,
THOUGH, RIGHT?

YEP.

SO, THINGS HAVE ESCALATED,

AND I’M ACTUALLY
GOING TO SEE HER.

NO.

I THINK
THIS MAY BE THE ONE.

AND I WAS ACTUALLY THINKING

ABOUT TAKING
A RING THERE, TOO.

YEAH?

SO YOU THINK THAT POSSIBLY
SHE’S ONLY DOING THIS

JUST TO GET TO AMERICA?

I DON’T KNOW.

FAR AS I KNOW,
I’M THE ONLY AMERICAN

THAT SHE’S EVEN SPOKEN TO.

YEAH, SHE SPEAKS REALLY GOOD
ENGLISH, ACTUALLY.

YEAH.

WELL, ORIGINALLY SHE’S FROM
A LITTLE‐BITTY TOWN IN SIBERIA,

AND NOW SHE LIVES
IN A LITTLE CITY OUTSIDE MOSCOW.

YEAH.

I THINK THAT IF SHE POTENTIALLY
COMES TO THE COUNTRY

AND SEES THE BEAUTY
OF THE COUNTRY,

AND SHE CAN SAY,
"HEY, THIS IS MINE."

I JUST ‐‐ I HAVE...

I JUST HAVE
A POSITIVE OUTLOOK.

I HAVE A POSITIVE FEELING
ABOUT THE SITUATION.

OKAY. YEAH.

I UNDERSTAND OLGA’S CONCERNS,

BUT I DON’T THINK
IT’S GONNA SWAY MY MIND.

THE ONLY REAL WAY
THAT I’M GONNA KNOW

IF SHE HAS GOOD INTENTIONS
OR NOT

IS TO GO ALL THE WAY TO RUSSIA
AND MEET VARYA MYSELF.

I HAVE BEEN DYEING MY HAIR,

AND MAYONNAISE
MAKES IT SMOOTHER.

I JUST WANT TO LOOK YOUNG
FOR ROSE.

I SMELL LIKE
AN EGG SALAD SANDWICH.

COME ON, TEDDY.

COME HERE, BUDDY.

IN A FEW DAYS, I’M GETTING READY

TO GET ON A PLANE AND GO MEET
ROSE, THE LOVE OF MY LIFE,

FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME.

I’M SUPER‐EXCITED BECAUSE
I ALSO BOUGHT A RING,

AND I PLAN TO ASK
ROSE TO MARRY ME.

SINCE I MET ROSE,
I WANT TO LOOK YOUNG FOR HER,

SO I HAVE BEEN DYEING MY HAIR,

AND IT IRRITATES MY SCALP.

SO, I FOUND OUT THAT MAYONNAISE

MAKES IT SMOOTHER AND LESS DRY.

I’M SELF‐CONSCIOUS OF MY
PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

BECAUSE ROSE IS 31 YEARS
YOUNGER THAN ME.

I SMELL LIKE
AN EGG SALAD SANDWICH,

BUT IT REALLY, REALLY WORKS.

I JUST WANT TO LOOK YOUNG
FOR ROSE.

I LOOK GOOD.
I’M GOOD.

HI, MY QUEEN.

HELLO.
HI, MY QUEEN.

I’M GONNA BE THERE
IN A WEEK.

I’M FLYING 6,000 MILES.

THREE PLANES.

OH, MY GOD. SO FAR.

HEY.
IS PRINCE THERE?

CAN I SAY HI TO PRINCE?

SAY "HI."

HI, PRINCE.

"HI, DADDY."
SAY "HI."

OH!

ROSEMARIE IS A SINGLE MOM OF
A 4‐YEAR‐OLD BOY NAMED PRINCE.

IT FEELS TOO SOON FOR PRINCE
TO BE CALLING ME "DADDY,"

BUT AT THE SAME TIME, YOU KNOW,
PRINCE IS PART OF THE PACKAGE.

AND IF WE DON’T BOND,
I’M AFRAID THAT IT COULD

JEOPARDIZE MY RELATIONSHIP
WITH ROSE.

BYE, PRINCE.
SAY "BYE," PRINCE.

I’M EXCITED
TO COME AND SEE YOU.

DON’T BE NERVOUS.

I’M MORE NERVOUS
THAN YOU ARE.

WHAT IF YOU SEE ME
AND YOU RUN AWAY?

WHAT DO YOU MEAN,
YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU THINK?

I HAVE NOT BEEN EXACTLY HONEST
WITH ROSE.

SHE’S TOLD ME SHE’S 5’2",
SO I SAID,

"YEAH, I’M 5’2", TOO,"
YOU KNOW, AND I’M NOT.

I’M 4’11",

BUT I PRAY TO GOD
THAT SHE’LL LOVE ME

AND ACCEPT ME FOR WHO I AM.

HOW DO YOU KNOW
I’M RIGHT FOR YOU?

HOW DO I KNOW?

BUT WHY ME? WHY ME?

WHY DO YOU LOVE ME?

YOU HAVE 4,000 FRIENDS
ON FACEBOOK.

EVEN THOUGH I’M VERY PLAYFUL
WITH ROSE,

IT MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE THAT
ROSE HAS SO MANY FRIENDS ONLINE.

I HAVE MAYBE 1,000 FRIENDS,

AND SHE HAS ALMOST 4,000.

AND THAT GIVES ME
A LOT OF CONCERN.

I’M JUST ‐‐ I WORRY.

I MEAN, YOU KNOW,
WHY DO YOU HAVE

SO MANY FRIENDS
ON FACEBOOK?

I WONDER IF YOU TALK TO THEM
LIKE YOU TALK TO ME.

AND I’M ALSO WORRIED
ABOUT YOUR EX‐BOYFRIEND.

IS HE THERE?

CAN YOU HEAR ME OKAY?

OH.

OH, YOUR SCREEN FROZE.

SHE’S NOT ANSWERING.

SO, I KIND OF STARTED
TO ASK ROSEMARIE

ABOUT WHY SHE HAS
SO MANY FRIENDS ONLINE,

THEN THE EX‐BOYFRIEND,

AND THEN I SUDDENLY LOSE,
YOU KNOW, INTERNET CONNECTION,

SO I DON’T KNOW
IF THAT’S A COINCIDENCE.

IT MAKES ME QUESTION ‐‐
THE MINUTE, YOU KNOW,

I START TALKING ABOUT THOSE
THINGS, SHE KIND OF DISAPPEARS.

ROSE IS VERY EVASIVE
WHEN I TALK ABOUT HER PAST.

SHE SHUTS DOWN.

SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK
ABOUT IT, AND THAT BOTHERS ME.

BASED ON THIS CONVERSATION
TONIGHT, YOU KNOW,

I’M GONNA ASK
THAT SHE TAKE AN STD TEST.

IF I’M GOING TO MAKE
THIS LEVEL OF COMMITMENT,

I NEED TO KNOW
THAT SHE IS BEING HONEST.

I HAVEN’T BEEN INTIMATE
WITH A WOMAN IN YEARS,

AND I’M HAVING
A HARD TIME TRUSTING ROSE.

I AM SOMEWHAT OF A GERMAPHOBE,
AND I WANT TO STAY AWAY FROM,

YOU KNOW, BACTERIA,
BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY,

I DON’T KNOW ANYTHING
ABOUT HER PAST,

SO THIS TEST NEEDS TO HAPPEN

BEFORE I CAN BE COMMITTED
TO ROSE IN ANY WAY.

I HAVE SOME NEWS
TO TELL YOU ALL.

I MET SOMEBODY...

ONLINE.

‐ONLINE?!
‐ONLINE?!

‐MALEEK! DAMANTE!
‐YEAH?

BRING THE DOGS DOWN
FOR A WALK!

IN 1 WEEK, I’M LEAVING
FOR ENGLAND TO MEET WILLIAMS,

THE MAN OF MY DREAMS,

BUT OTHER THAN
MY OLDEST DAUGHTER, KARRA,

MY OTHER CHILDREN
DO NOT KNOW ABOUT WILLIAMS.

I’M A LITTLE SCARED TO TELL THEM

BECAUSE I KNOW
THEY’RE STILL MOURNING

THE LOSS OF THEIR FATHER,
AND THEY WANT ME JUST ‐‐

YOU KNOW, LET DADDY BE
MY FIRST AND LAST LOVE,

SO I THINK
IT’LL BE HARD FOR THEM.

DUANE WAS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE,

BUT HE HAD ISSUES,
YOU KNOW, WITH THE LAW.

ABOUT 6 YEARS AGO, DUANE,
HE WAS LOCKED UP.

IT WAS A SHOCK TO US.

IT WAS THE LAST TIME I SAW HIM

BECAUSE HE NEVER WANTED US
TO VISIT HIM IN PRISON,

SO WE, YOU KNOW,
JUST HONORED HIS WISHES.

I FELT ALONE, BUT I STAYED
OBLIGATED TO DUANE.

OKAY, KIDS.

Y’ALL COME ON DOWN!

READY TO EAT?

I NEVER LOOKED AT A MAN,
NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT ANOTHER MAN.

HE WAS MY EVERYTHING.

SO, YOU KNOW, AFTER DUANE DIED,
MY HEART WAS BROKEN.

BUT WHEN WILLIAMS
CAME INTO MY D. M., IT FELT GOOD.

IT FELT LIKE SOMEONE
CARED AGAIN.

SO I HOPE THE KIDS UNDERSTAND
THAT I’M READY TO FIND NEW LOVE.

OKAY. LET’S EAT.

SO, DAMANTE, HOW WAS WORK?

OH, IT WAS FINE.

‐IT WAS GOOD?
‐YEAH.

GUYS...

I HAVE SOME NEWS
TO TELL YOU ALL.

YOUR OLDER SISTER, KARRA,
KNOWS,

AND I WANT Y’ALL
TO KEEP A OPEN MIND.

UM...

YOU KNOW, YOUR MOM’S BEEN
SINGLE SINCE,

YOU KNOW, DADDY DIED,

AND, UM...

I MET SOMEBODY.

HMM?

I MET SOMEBODY...

ONLINE.

‐ONLINE?!
‐ONLINE?!

ONLINE. INSTAGRAM.

‐INSTAGRAM?
‐INSTAGRAM.

INSTAGRAM? REALLY?

ISN’T THAT WHAT EVERYBODY
DOING THESE DAYS?

‐NO.
‐NO.

PEOPLE NOT MEETING
OTHER PEOPLE ONLINE

ON INSTAGRAM?

I KNOW Y’ALL HEARD
ABOUT SLIDING IN THE D. M.

WELL, HE SLID IN MY D. M.
‐OH, MY GOD.

‐PLEASE DON’T SAY THAT.
‐MM‐HMM.

DOESN’T MAKE ANY SENSE
AT ALL.

YEAH.

NOT A GOOD LOOK.

WE’VE BEEN TALKING FOR CLOSE
TO 7 MONTHS NOW,

AND I’M ACTUALLY
IN LOVE WITH HIM.

WELL...

I REALLY DON’T.

WHERE IS HE LOCATED?
LIKE, WHERE’S HE LIVE?

ENGLAND.
ENGLAND?!

‐WHAT THE HECK?
‐ON INSTAGRAM?

AND I’M GOING TO SEE HIM.

I’M GOING TO ENGLAND.

‐MM.
‐OH, MY GOSH.

YOU HAVEN’T FaceTime’d HIM?

NO, I HAVEN’T. I’M GONNA BE
HONEST WITH Y’ALL.

I HAVEN’T SEEN HIM YET.

‐HIS PHONE IS BROKE, GUYS.
‐DID YOU EVEN ASK HIM?

‐WAIT. HOLD UP.
‐THAT DOESN’T MAKE ANY SENSE.

HOLD UP.

I MEAN,
PEOPLE PHONES BREAK.

IT’S JUST TOO FISHY TO ME.
MM‐HMM.

TO BE HONEST.
VERY.

PEOPLE COULD BE UP
TO ANYTHING,

AND, YOU KNOW,
ME BEING THE ELDEST SON,

I’M JUST GONNA BE
PROTECTIVE OVER HER.

YEAH, NOT TRYING TO LET HER
GET INTO ANYTHING CRAZY.

WILLIAMS.

WILLIAMS?
WITH A "S."

‐NOT WILLIAM?
‐HIS FIRST NAME IS A LAST NAME.

I’MMA GO OVER THERE,
AND I’MMA SEE WHAT’S WHAT.

I WANT TO SEE HIM, AND I THINK
WHEN WE TALK FACE‐TO‐FACE

HE CAN EXPLAIN
A LOT OF THINGS TO ME.

‐EXACTLY.
‐MM‐HMM.

MY SIBLINGS AND I,
WE’RE ALL JUST VERY CONCERNED.

MY MOM IS STILL GRIEVING
MY DAD’S DEATH,

AND THAT COULD BE AFFECTING
DECISIONS THAT SHE’S MAKING.

SHE CANNOT SEE
STRAIGHT RIGHT NOW.

I’M CONCERNED THAT THIS GUY
IS ACTUALLY CATFISHING HER.

YEAH.

I FELL FOR HIM.

I DON’T WANT TO FIND
ANYBODY ELSE.

YOU NEVER EVEN SEEN
THIS MAN...

EVER,

SO HOW DO WE EVEN KNOW
HE’S REAL?

I JUST WANT
Y’ALL TO BE HAPPY FOR ME.

MM‐HMM.

I WAS FAITHFUL TO Y’ALL FATHER
FOR 30 YEARS.

I’VE BEEN WITH Y’ALL AND HIM
ALL MY LIFE, ALL MY LIFE.

AND I MAY BE RUSHING
THIS THING

BECAUSE I DON’T WANT
TO BE ALONE,

AND I KNOW FOR A FACT THAT
I’M GONNA BE ALONE ONE DAY!

THAT’S SOMETHING I CAN’T FACE.

YOU KNOW, I HAD A PARTNER
FOR 30 YEARS.

‐YOU GOT ALL OF US.
‐IT’S NOT THE SAME.

I LOVE Y’ALL.
Y’ALL ARE MY CHILDREN.

BUT I DON’T HAVE
A PARTNER ANYMORE.

I JUST ASK Y’ALL,
LET ME GO THROUGH THIS.

OKAY. THANK YOU.

CLEARLY YOU EMOTIONALLY
INVESTED AT THIS POINT.

‐YEAH, I AM.
‐MM‐HMM.

MY KIDS ARE EVERYTHING,

AND EVEN THOUGH THEY’RE AGAINST
MY RELATIONSHIP WITH WILLIAMS,

I JUST REALLY BELIEVE THAT
I DESERVE TO FIND LOVE AGAIN,

AND I WANT
TO FIND LOVE AGAIN.

I’VE INVESTED 7 MONTHS
IN THIS RELATIONSHIP,

AND I’M READY
TO TAKE THE TRIP.

I’M JUST PRAYING THAT
MY CHILDREN UNDERSTAND.

OKAY?
OKAY.

I JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND.
WHY RUSSIA?

I KNOW. JUST...
YOU ARE A GOOD‐LOOKING GUY.

WHY ARE YOU EVEN GOING THERE

INSTEAD OF HERE,
2 FEET FROM YOU?

WHY AM
I NOT GOOD ENOUGH?

I LEAVE FOR RUSSIA TOMORROW
TO MEET MY GIRLFRIEND, VARYA,

FOR THE FIRST TIME.

I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO BRING.

THE LAST FEW YEARS
HAVE BEEN EXTREMELY HARD,

AND I JUST WANT
TO FIND HAPPINESS AGAIN.

HEY, HEY, HEY.

HI.

HOW ARE YOU?

OH, YEAH.
SO, I GOT A HAIRCUT.

AH‐AH!

YOU LOOK GREAT!
YOU LOOK FANTASTIC!

I’M EXCITED!

I CAN’T SLEEP
LAST NIGHT.

I HAVE A LOT
OF NIGHTMARES.

WHAT WAS GOING ON?

IN MY DREAM, YOU LOOKED
LIKE QUASIMODO.

MY MIDDLE NAME
IS ACTUALLY QUASIMODO.

OH!

AND MINE IS ESMERALDA.

YOU’RE SO GORGEOUS.

I CANNOT WAIT
TO SEE YOU.

ME, TOO!
ALL RIGHT.

I’M GONNA LET YOU GO,
SWEETHEART.

SWEET DREAMS.

SEE YOU SOON.

BYE.

I WON’T KNOW UNTIL I ACTUALLY
MEET VARYA

IF SHE’S EVERYTHING THAT I’VE
BUILT HER UP TO BE IN MY HEAD.

AND THERE’S A LOT THAT SHE
DOESN’T KNOW ABOUT ME.

I’M DONE, PACKED MY BAGS,
AND I’M READY TO GO.

SO I’M GONNA GO MEET UP
WITH MY FRIENDS, MARK AND MARY.

I HAVEN’T TOLD MARK AND MARY
ABOUT VARYA,

BUT I THINK IT’S TIME
FOR ME TO TELL THEM.

HEY, HEY, HEY.
I DON’T KNOW.

HEY.
WHAT’S UP?

WHAT’S GOING ON, BUDDY?
HOW ARE YOU?

HEY, BROTHER.
HOW YOU DOING?

MARK HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR YEARS,

AND HE’S ALWAYS
GIVING GOOD ADVICE.

MARY IS SINGLE.

HOW ARE YOU?
I’M WELL. HOW ARE YOU?

BUT WE’VE DATED IN THE PAST.

ALL RIGHT.
OKAY.

THAT DIDN’T WORK OUT,

AND WE’VE BEEN REALLY
GOOD FRIENDS EVER SINCE.

SO WHAT’S GOING ON?
YOU ALREADY DRUNK?

YEAH, YOU KNOW ME, MAN.
I’M A CHEAP DATE.

WHAT’S NEW?

WELL, I’M ACTUALLY GOING
OUT OF THE COUNTRY.

I’M GONNA BE GOING TO RUSSIA.

I’VE BEEN ACTUALLY SPEAKING
TO SOMEBODY ONLINE.

HER NAME IS ‐‐
DON’T EVEN LAUGH.

DON’T LAUGH.
LET ME SEE HER.

YEAH.
WHERE’S PICTURES?

DO WE HAVE PICTURES?

LET’S SEE.
THAT’S HER.

NAH, SHE’S A PRETTY GIRL.
LET ME SEE.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

SHE’S ATTRACTIVE.

HOW LONG HAS THIS
BEEN GOING ON?

WELL, SEVERAL MONTHS.

I REALLY AM EXCITED
ABOUT THE SITUATION.

I DON’T KNOW HOW QUICKLY THINGS
ARE GONNA GO THERE,

BUT, I MEAN, THERE IS A CHANCE
THAT, YOU KNOW,

WE DO GET ENGAGED
OR SOMETHING.

GEOFFREY IS EXTREMELY IMPULSIVE,

AND THIS IS A PERFECT
EXAMPLE OF THAT.

IT’S ALWAYS 100 MILES AN HOUR
STRAIGHT AT THE WALL.

I JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND.

WHY SUCH THE DRASTIC CHANGE
OF COUNTRIES?

I KNOW. JUST ‐‐
YOU ARE A GOOD‐LOOKING GUY.

YOU CAN HAVE
ANYONE YOU WANT.

DO YOU KNOW THAT?

WHY RUSSIA?

WHY ARE YOU EVEN GOING THERE
INSTEAD OF HERE 2 FEET FROM YOU?

WHY AM I NOT
GOOD ENOUGH?

GEOFFREY HAS NEVER HAD
THE RIGHT GIRL FOR HIM.

IN THE PAST, HE AND I TALKED
OF TRYING TO BE A COUPLE.

I HAD HOPES THAT MAYBE ONE DAY,
BUT I DON’T KNOW.

I THINK HE’S A LITTLE BLIND.
YEAH.

I MEAN,
I KIND OF ALWAYS...

PICTURED ME BEING
WITH MARY.

YEAH.
YEAH. SHE KNOWS

EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU.

YEAH.

I DON’T HAVE THE ANSWER
FOR THAT.

I LIKE MARY A LOT,

AND I’M OBVIOUSLY
ATTRACTED TO HER BEAUTY.

BUT MARY AND I HAVE TRIED
MULTIPLE TIMES

TO BE WITH EACH OTHER
IN THE PAST,

AND I THINK WE MAKE BETTER
FRIENDS THAN LOVERS ACTUALLY.

THIS GIRL IS NOT LIKE THE REST
OF THE GIRLS THAT I’VE...

IS SHE ‐‐ REALLY?
DATED.

DOES SHE KNOW EVERYTHING
ABOUT YOU,

YOUR PAST,
MORE SPECIFICALLY?

UM.

WELL, NO.

I ABSOLUTELY HATE TALKING
ABOUT MY PAST.

AND IF SHE ACCEPTS IT,
THAT’S GREAT,

AND IF SHE DOESN’T,
THEN SHE’S NOT THE ONE.

FOR THIS TO HAVE A TRUE CHANCE,
I HAVE TO LAY IT ON THE TABLE,

AND THAT’S SCARY IN A SENSE.

YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS.

I JUST DON’T WANT THIS TO BE
ANOTHER DEAD END FOR YOU.

I HOPE IT WORKS OUT.

THIS SEASON ON
"BEFORE THE 90 DAYS"...

NICE! NICE!

OH, MY GOD.

I’M REALLY IN LOVE WITH HER,
AND I CAN’T WAIT TO SEE HER.

HI!

BUT I’M NOT SURE IF I
REALLY KNOW THE REAL ERIKA.

THIS WOMAN HAS
EVERYTHING THAT I WANT,

BUT I’M NERVOUS THAT I’M JUMPING
IN WAY TOO FAST.

WHOO!

I AM A ROMANTIC,
AND I’LL TAKE A RISK FOR LOVE.

YOU HAVE TO KEEP YOUR EYE
ON THE PRIZE

UNTIL YOU ACHIEVE WHAT YOU WANT.

IT’S UNBELIEVABLE.

LANA LIVES IN UKRAINE,

AND OUR COMMUNICATION
HAS ONLY BEEN THROUGH CHAT.

SHE WRITES, "SEE YOU SOON,
SO EXCITED,"

AND I’M WRITING BACK,
"YES, MMMM."

DO YOU KNOW THE NAME
OF THE AIRPORT?

LONDON? WHY’D HE TELL ME
HE LIVED IN MANCHESTER?

EXACTLY.

DO I ACTUALLY MAKE YOU FEEL
LIKE YOU’RE A WOMAN?

EVERY TIME I START TO TRY
AND ASK YOU HARD QUESTIONS,

THIS IS HOW YOU RESPOND.

ALL I’VE BEEN DOING IS AVOIDING
THOSE HARD QUESTIONS.

ARE YOU TALKING TO
ANOTHER AMERICAN RIGHT NOW?

I THINK THIS IS ALL
A JOKE TO YOU.

I AM YOUR FREE RIDE
TO AMERICA.

SO I NEED TO FIND OUT
WHAT TRACK.

ON THREE EARLIER OCCASIONS,
SHE STOOD ME UP.

THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT.

YOU HAVE TO STICK UP
FOR YOURSELF.

AND I DO,
BUT IT’S LIKE I ‐‐

NOT OVER THE PHONE,
DARCEY.

I FEEL SCARED IT’S GONNA END

THE SAME WAY THAT
IT DID WITH JESSE.

OH, WOW.

I’M NOT MARRYING YOU
FOR MONEY.

I’M MARRYING YOU FOR
WHAT’S IN YOUR HEART,

AND I PRAY THAT YOU’RE
MARRYING ME FOR THE SAME REASON.

IF YOU’RE NOT GONNA TALK
ABOUT YOUR PAST,

I CAN’T TRUST YOU.
I’M SORRY.

EVERY DAY I’M
LEARNING SOMETHING NEW ABOUT HER

BECAUSE SHE KEPT IT FROM ME.

HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO KNOW THAT
THAT PERSON STANDING FRONT OF ME

IS THE PERSON THAT YOU
HAD SEX WITH?

IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL!
IT’S AN EX!

GET THE OUT OF HERE!

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