Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry (2010–…): Season 2, Episode 9 - Strange Bedfellows - full transcript

Narrator:
DINA MATOS AND JIM McGREEVEY

SEEMED LIKE A MATCH MADE
IN POLITICAL HEAVEN.

McKinney: JIM McGREEVEY WAS NEW
JERSEY'S KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR.

AND DINA McGREEVEY WAS
THE PERFECT FIRST LADY.

I THOUGHT, YOU KNOW,

THIS WAS OUR OPPORTUNITY
TO CHANGE THE WORLD.

THANK YOU!

Narrator: BUT POLITICS MAKES
FOR STRANGE BEDFELLOWS...

HE WAS SOMEONE WHO WAS
LEADING A DOUBLE LIFE.

Narrator: ...WHEN SECRETS
BECOME SCANDALS...

IT WAS WRONG.



IT WAS FOOLISH.

IT WAS INEXCUSABLE.

Narrator: ...AND ETHICS
ARE CALLED INTO QUESTION.

IT'S ONE OF THOSE MOMENTS
THAT YOU NEVER FORGET.

IN THE MEANTIME, I'M JUST
SITTING THERE IN SHOCK.

MY RESIGNATION WILL BE EFFECTIVE
ON NOVEMBER 15th OF THIS YEAR.

Narrator: WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE
AND MARRIAGE,

THINGS AREN'T ALWAYS
AS THEY SEEM.

THEY SAY THAT POLITICS
IS THE ART OF THE POSSIBLE,

AN ADAGE DINA MATOS TOOK
TO HEART FROM A YOUNG AGE.

I THOUGHT, YOU KNOW,
VERY EARLY ON

THAT IF YOU BECOME AN ACTIVIST,

IF YOU BECOME INVOLVED,
THAT YOU CAN EFFECT CHANGE.

Narrator: IN THE FALL OF 1995,
29-YEAR-OLD DINA



WAS TRYING TO FOLLOW THROUGH
ON HER DREAMS,

WORKING IN P.R.
FOR A LOCAL HOSPITAL

AND MAKING HERSELF KNOWN
IN POLITICAL CIRCLES.

SO WHEN SHE MET JIM McGREEVEY,

THE HANDSOME AND NEWLY SINGLE
MAYOR OF WOODBRIDGE, NEW JERSEY,

NO ONE WAS SURPRISED THAT
A MUTUAL INTEREST SPARKED.

Dina: I THOUGHT HE WAS
VERY CHARISMATIC,

CERTAINLY ENERGETIC,

AND HAD THIS WAY ABOUT HIM
THAT ATTRACTED PEOPLE TO HIM.

THEY WERE AMBITIOUS,
BOTH OF THEM.

SMART, BOTH OF THEM.
THEY GOT ALONG VERY WELL.

I DEFINITELY THINK
THAT IMMEDIATELY THERE WAS

SOME SORT OF CHEMISTRY
BETWEEN US.

Narrator:
DINA QUICKLY FOUND HERSELF

ENTRANCED
BY THE DASHING POLITICIAN.

HE WAS TALKING ABOUT
THE HOSPITAL WHERE I WORKED.

HE OFFERED, YOU KNOW, ASSISTANCE
IF I EVER NEEDED ANYTHING.

I FELT AS IF I HAD
KNOWN HIM FOREVER.

Narrator: BUT THERE WAS REASON
TO PROCEED WITH CAUTION.

JIM'S PERSONAL LIFE
WAS IN TURMOIL.

Dina:
SHORTLY AFTER I MET JIM,

I HAD HEARD THAT HIS WIFE
HAD LEFT HIM ABRUPTLY.

THEY HAVE A SMALL CHILD,

AND SHE JUST TOOK OFF

AND WENT BACK TO HER NATIVE
BRITISH COLUMBIA.

I FELT REALLY BAD FOR HIM.

Narrator: OVER THE NEXT YEAR,
DINA CONTINUED TO SEE JIM

AT POLITICAL FUNCTIONS
AROUND TOWN.

THEN, ONE DAY, AN AIDE
FROM HIS OFFICE CALLED

TO SCHEDULE A ONE-ON-ONE DINNER.

THE FOUR OR FIVE HOURS WE SPENT
TOGETHER SEEMED LIKE TWO HOURS.

WE WERE VERY COMFORTABLE
WITH EACH OTHER.

AND I GUESS
THAT WAS OUR FIRST DATE.

Narrator: BEFORE LONG,

JIM AND DINA
WERE DATING EXCLUSIVELY,

BUT THE ROMANCE WAS FAR
FROM TYPICAL.

BY 1997, JIM HAD DECIDED TO RUN
FOR GOVERNOR OF NEW JERSEY.

Dina: IT WAS LIKE I WAS ON
THE CAMPAIGN TRAIL FROM DAY ONE.

SO OUR DATES CONSISTED
OF PICNICS AND RALLIES

AND, YOU KNOW, DINNERS...

SOMETIMES TWO OR THREE DINNERS
IN ONE NIGHT.

SHE SAID TO ME, "YOU KNOW,
HE'S LIKE ABRAHAM LINCOLN.

HE'S EVERYTHING
I'VE EVER IMAGINED."

Narrator:
AS ELECTION DAY APPROACHED,

IT ACTUALLY LOOKED LIKE JIM
COULD PULL OFF AN UPSET,

BUT IN THE END, HE LOST
BY LESS THAN 1% OF THE VOTE.

AFTER CAMPAIGNING TIRELESSLY
BY JIM'S SIDE,

DINA WAS DEVASTATED.

BUT SHE DUSTED HERSELF OFF
AND STOOD BY HER MAN,

WHO WAS ALREADY PLANNING
HIS NEXT RUN

FOR THE GOVERNOR'S MANSION.

Paul: DINA AND JIM WERE
A GOOD TEAM. THEY REALLY WERE.

YOU SAW THE PRESIDENT OR SOMEONE
LIKE THAT TAKE OVER A ROOM.

THAT'S WHAT THEY DID.

THEY COMPLIMENTED EACH OTHER
PRETTY WELL THAT WAY.

Narrator:
JIM SEEMED TO THINK SO, TOO,

AND IN JANUARY OF 2000,

HE SLIPPED AN ENGAGEMENT RING
ON DINA'S FINGER.

EIGHT MONTHS LATER,
THE COUPLE TIED THE KNOT

IN A WASHINGTON, D.C., WEDDING.

IT WAS AT THE HAY-ADAMS,

AND IT HAS A ROOFTOP TERRACE
THAT OVERLOOKS THE WHITE HOUSE.

Paul: DINA WAS GLOWING.

TALK ABOUT A GLOWING BRIDE...
SHE WAS GLOWING.

I DON'T THINK I'VE EVER SEEN
DINA THAT HAPPY.

Dina: EVERYONE THAT WE WANTED
THERE WAS THERE,

AND IT WAS
JUST MY DREAM WEDDING.

Narrator: JUST SIX MONTHS LATER,
DINA LEARNED SHE WAS PREGNANT.

IT SEEMED THE YOUNG COUPLE

WAS ON THE FAST TRACK
TO HAVING IT ALL.

BUT DINA COULD NEVER
HAVE GUESSED

HOW DRASTICALLY THE TIDES WOULD
TURN IN JUST FOUR SHORT YEARS.

ON AUGUST 9, 2004,

DINA WAS RUNNING ERRANDS
AFTER WORK

WHEN SHE GOT A CALL
FROM HER HUSBAND.

Dina: JIM ASKED WHAT TIME
I WAS GONNA BE HOME.

THIS WAS UNCHARACTERISTIC
FOR HIM,

BECAUSE IT WAS EARLY IN THE DAY
AND HE WAS ALWAYS OUT LATE.

I FELT A KNOT IN MY STOMACH.

I'M LIKE,
"SOMETHING'S NOT RIGHT HERE."

Narrator: DINA IMMEDIATELY RACED
HOME, AND WHEN SHE ARRIVED,

SHE WAS CERTAIN
THINGS WERE HORRIBLY WRONG.

JIM AND I BOTH SAT ON THE COUCH
IN THE LIVING ROOM,

AND HE SAID, "THIS IS
VERY DIFFICULT FOR ME.

I WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW
THAT I'M BEING BLACKMAILED."

Narrator:
THE NEWS WAS TERRIBLE,

BUT WHAT JIM McGREEVEY SAID NEXT
WAS LIKE A KNIFE IN DINA'S BACK.

Dina: I HAD AN ANXIETY ATTACK.

AND I THOUGHT,
"THIS IS THE END OF MY LIFE."

I TOOK ONE LOOK AT DINA,
AND I SAID,

"OH, MY GOD.
THIS CANNOT BE GOOD."

I DID NOT RECOGNIZE HER.

Narrator:
IN THE FALL OF 2001,

THREE YEARS
BEFORE THE CONVERSATION

THAT WOULD CHANGE HER LIFE,

DINA MATOS WAS
ON TOP OF THE WORLD.

ALL SIGNS SUGGESTED
THAT HER HUSBAND, JIM McGREEVEY,

WOULD BE
NEW JERSEY'S NEXT GOVERNOR.

HE WAS RUNNING FOR GOVERNOR,
AND SHE WAS AT HIS SIDE,

AND YOU WOULD SEE HER
ON THE NEWS ON TV...

NOT DINA MY SISTER,

BUT DINA THE PROPOSED FIRST LADY
OF NEW JERSEY.

IT WAS THE HAPPIEST TIME
OF MY LIFE.

Narrator: BUT ON NOVEMBER 3rd,

THE DAY OF JIM'S LAST BIG RALLY
BEFORE THE ELECTION,

DINA REALIZED SOMETHING
WAS WRONG.

ONLY SEVEN MONTHS PREGNANT,
SHE'D STARTED BLEEDING.

SO INSTEAD OF GOING
TO THE RALLY,

SHE RUSHED TO THE HOSPITAL.

Dina: AS SOON AS I GOT THERE,

THEY STARTED HOOKING ME UP
TO EVERYTHING,

PUT ME IN A HOSPITAL BED,
PUT ME IN A GOWN,

AND I'M THINKING, "OKAY,
THIS IS NOT A GOOD THING."

Narrator:
DINA WAS IN PREMATURE LABOR,

SO JIM IMMEDIATELY SUSPENDED
HIS CAMPAIGN

AND RUSHED TO HER SIDE.

THE HOSPITAL BECAME, YOU KNOW,

CAMPAIGN HEADQUARTERS
FOR AWHILE.

Narrator: THE DOCTORS INSISTED
SHE REMAIN ON BED REST.

MEANWHILE, ON NOVEMBER 7th,

JIM McGREEVEY WON THE ELECTION
BY A LANDSLIDE.

DINA WATCHED THE COVERAGE
FROM HER HOSPITAL BED.

MORE THAN ANYONE,

SHE SACRIFICED AND WORKED HARD
MORE THAN ANYONE.

DINA, I LOVE YOU.

[ CHEERS AND APPLAUSE ]

Paul:
IT WAS A "WOW" MOMENT.

IT WAS LIKE, "OH, MY GOD,
MY SISTER'S THE FIRST LADY.

DO I STILL TREAT HER
LIKE DINA?"

OH, YOU KNOW,
"GET OUT OF MY WAY,"

OR IS IT, "DINA, THE FIRST LADY,
HOW ARE YOU?"

Narrator: ON DECEMBER 7th,

DINA AND JIM WELCOMED
THEIR DAUGHTER INTO THE WORLD.

NEW JERSEY'S NEW FIRST FAMILY
WAS OFF TO A GREAT START.

I THOUGHT, "WE'RE GOING
TO CHANGE THIS STATE,

"AND WE'RE GOING
TO DO EVERYTHING

THAT WE PROMISED PEOPLE
WE WOULD DO."

Narrator: FOR JIM,
THE FIRST ORDER OF BUSINESS

WAS TO STAFF UP
HIS NEW ADMINISTRATION.

AND HE SEEMED TO HAVE
SOME INTERESTING PROSPECTS.

ONE IN PARTICULAR WAS
A YOUNG ISRAELI MAN

WHO HAD WORKED
ON JIM'S CAMPAIGN.

HIS NAME WAS GOLAN CIPEL.

IN JANUARY 2002,

JIM McGREEVEY NAMED CIPEL
HIS NATIONAL SECURITY ADVISER,

A MOVE THAT RAISED
SOME EYEBROWS.

WHILE GOLAN CIPEL HAD HAD LOTS
OF PUBLIC-RELATIONS EXPERIENCE,

IT WASN'T REALLY CLEAR
WHAT HIS EXPERIENCE WAS

IN HOMELAND SECURITY.

ONE OF THE THINGS THAT
THE PEOPLE HAD CONCERNS ABOUT

IS THE FACT
THAT HE WASN'T AN AMERICAN,

AND SO, THEREFORE, IT WOULD BE
DIFFICULT FOR HIM

TO GET THE PROPER
SECURITY CLEARANCES,

AND ALSO PEOPLE WONDERED,
YOU KNOW,

WHY WOULD YOU MAKE
A POLITICAL APPOINTMENT

TO SUCH AN IMPORTANT POST
RIGHT AFTER 9/11?

Narrator:
BACK IN THE GOVERNOR'S MANSION,

DINA WASN'T DWELLING ON
HER HUSBAND'S STAFFING CHOICES.

THERE WERE OTHER THINGS
OCCUPYING HER MIND,

THINGS THAT SEEMED
THREATENING TO HER MARRIAGE.

BY 2002, DINA NOTICED THAT JIM
HAD A TROUBLING SECRETIVE SIDE,

ESPECIALLY WHEN IT CAME

TO HIS EX-WIFE
AND THEIR YOUNG DAUGHTER.

I ALWAYS WANTED TO HAVE
A RELATIONSHIP

WITH JIM'S DAUGHTER.

I OFTEN ASKED HIM TO HAVE HER
COME AND SPEND HOLIDAYS WITH US,

AND HE ALWAYS SAID NO BECAUSE
HER MOTHER WOULD HAVE TO COME,

IT WOULD COMPLICATE THINGS.

Narrator: EVEN MORE UPSETTING,
WHEN JIM'S EX-WIFE CALLED,

DINA NOTICED
HE WOULD TAKE THE CALL

AS FAR AWAY FROM HER
AS POSSIBLE.

Dina: WE RARELY ARGUED,
BUT WHEN WE DID ARGUE,

IT WAS ABOUT SOMETHING
WITH HIS EX-WIFE.

I HAD SUSPICIONS THAT THERE WAS
POSSIBLY SOMETHING GOING ON.

Narrator: AT THE SAME TIME,
JIM SEEMED TO BE GOING TO GREAT LENGTHS

TO KEEP DINA
FROM SEEING HIS SCHEDULE.

I THINK JIM WAS DEFINITELY
HIDING THE SCHEDULE FROM ME,

SO I DIDN'T KNOW WHERE HE WAS
OR WHERE HE WAS SUPPOSED TO BE.

Narrator:
DINA COULDN'T HELP BUT WONDER

IF JIM AND HIS EX HAD SECRETLY
REKINDLED THEIR ROMANCE.

AND JUST TWO MONTHS LATER,

IT SEEMED HER SUSPICIONS
WERE SPOT-ON.

ONE DAY OUT OF THE BLUE,
JIM SAYS TO ME,

"WELL, MY EX-WIFE AND DAUGHTER

ARE COMING NEXT WEEK
FOR A VISIT."

AND I WAS JUST SHOCKED.

ALL OF A SUDDEN, HE HAD MADE
THE DECISION WITHOUT TELLING ME.

Narrator: THE NEWS WAS STUNNING
ENOUGH, BUT THE VISIT WAS EVEN WORSE.

Dina: JIM'S BEHAVIOR WAS
VERY ODD AND BIZARRE.

HE HAD PLANNED THE ENTIRE TRIP
WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE.

SHE WAS ALSO WEARING
HER WEDDING RING,

WHICH I THOUGHT WAS
VERY BIZARRE.

DINA THOUGHT
MAYBE HE WAS REGRETTING

BREAKING UP WITH HIS FIRST WIFE,
THAT HE THOUGHT,

"OH, IF I HAD JUST HANDLED
THINGS DIFFERENTLY

WITH MY FIRST WIFE, PERHAPS I'D
STILL BE IN THAT RELATIONSHIP."

Narrator:
DINA COULDN'T HELP BUT THINK

THE MAN SHE LOVED
WAS HIDING SOMETHING.

OBVIOUSLY,
THERE'S SOMETHING GOING ON.

Narrator:
BUT NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS

COULD SHE HAVE GUESSED
WHAT HIS SECRET REALLY WAS.

I WAS
JUST COMPLETELY INCREDULOUS.

I COULDN'T BELIEVE IT.

I WAS JUST IN
A COMPLETE STATE OF SHOCK.

Narrator:
BY THE SUMMER OF 2004,

TWO YEARS
INTO HER HUSBAND'S GOVERNORSHIP,

DINA MATOS-McGREEVEY
HAD HIT HER STRIDE

AS NEW JERSEY'S FIRST LADY.

I REALLY ENJOYED
HAVING THE ABILITY

TO GET INVOLVED IN CAUSES
THAT WERE IMPORTANT TO ME.

Narrator: BUT BEING MARRIED TO
THE GOVERNOR WAS NO CAKE WALK.

SO ONE EVENING THAT JULY,

WHEN JIM ASKED DINA
WHAT SHE WOULD THINK

IF HE DIDN'T RUN
FOR A SECOND TERM,

SHE COULDN'T HELP
BUT FEEL RELIEVED.

Dina: JIM SAID IT WAS BECAUSE IT
WAS NOT WHAT HE HAD EXPECTED,

PEOPLE WERE FIGHTING,

AND THERE WERE
ALSO A NUMBER OF SCANDALS

INVOLVING SOME OF HIS STAFFERS.

I DIDN'T WANT HIM TO GIVE UP,

BUT ON THE OTHER HAND,
I THOUGHT,

"THIS IS OUR OPPORTUNITY

TO FINALLY HAVE OUR OWN LIFE
OUT OF THE PUBLIC EYE."

Narrator:
BUT DINA DIDN'T KNOW

THERE WAS MUCH MORE
TO THE STORY.

THE EVENING OF AUGUST 9th,

DINA WAS RUNNING ERRANDS
AFTER WORK

WHEN JIM CALLED AND ASKED HER
TO COME HOME RIGHT AWAY.

Dina:
WHEN I ARRIVED AT HOME,

HE WAS ALREADY HOME,
WHICH WAS EARLY FOR HIM.

I THOUGHT, "OKAY, HE'S GOING
TO FINALLY ADMIT

THAT THERE'S SOMETHING GOING ON
WITH HIS EX-WIFE."

Narrator:
BUT DINA WAS ABOUT TO FIND OUT

HER HUSBAND WAS STRUGGLING
WITH SOMETHING ELSE ENTIRELY.

Dina: HE PROCEEDED TO TELL ME
THAT HE WAS BEING BLACKMAILED,

AND I ASKED BY WHOM.

AND HE SAID BY GOLAN CIPEL,

AND HE WANTS $50 MILLION.

Narrator:
JIM CLAIMED GOLAN CIPEL

WAS THREATENING HIM WITH
A SEXUAL-HARASSMENT LAWSUIT.

THE $50 MILLION WOULD
BUY CIPEL'S SILENCE.

AND I ASKED WHY, AND HE SAID,

"WELL, WE HAD A RELATIONSHIP.

IT WAS SEXUAL, BUT NONSEXUAL."

AND I JUST STARTED CRYING.

THAT WAS A COMPLETE SHOCK.

IF I SUSPECTED ANYTHING,

IT WAS THAT HE WAS HAVING
AN AFFAIR WITH HIS EX-WIFE,

NOT ANYONE ELSE,
AND CERTAINLY NOT ANOTHER MAN.

Narrator:
DINA WAS DEVASTATED,

BUT RATHER
THAN CONSOLE HIS WIFE,

JIM GOT RIGHT DOWN TO BUSINESS.

Dina: IMMEDIATELY,
HIS CONVERSATION TURNED

TO, "HOW AM I GOING
TO RESOLVE THIS?

"THIS GUY WANTS $50 MILLION.

WHERE AM I GONNA GET
THE MONEY FROM?"

JIM WAS OBLIVIOUS
TO MY FEELINGS.

Narrator: THE NEXT MORNING,

DINA TRIED TO MAKE SENSE
OF HER MARRIAGE AND HER LIFE.

I STILL WASN'T QUESTIONING
WHETHER HE WAS GAY OR NOT.

THE FIRST QUESTION WAS,
"WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN TO US?"

YOU KNOW, "WHAT'S OUR DAUGHTER'S
LIFE GONNA BE LIKE AFTER THIS?"

Narrator: DINA KNEW JIM DIDN'T
HAVE THE ANSWERS,

SO SHE CALLED HER FAMILY
AND SHARED THE NEWS.

HEY. HOW ARE YOU?
HEY. HOW ARE YOU?

Paul: I WAS SHOCKED.
JUST, MY HEART WENT OUT TO HER.

AND SHE WAS JUST A MESS, AND
I JUST TRIED TO COMFORT HER,

BUT HOW DO YOU COMFORT SOMEBODY
IN THAT SITUATION?

WHAT DO YOU TELL THEM?
WHAT DO YOU TELL THEM?

Narrator: BY AUGUST 11th,

TWO DAYS AFTER HIS CONFESSION
TO DINA,

JIM AND HIS ADVISERS HAD DECIDED

THE BEST PLAN OF ATTACK
WAS TO HOLD A PRESS CONFERENCE.

HE THOUGHT
BY GOING PUBLIC WITH THIS,

HE COULD TAKE AWAY
ANY THREAT OF BLACKMAIL

AND POTENTIALLY ANY LAWSUIT.

THAT'S THE REASON
THAT THE GOVERNOR GAVE.

Narrator: THE NIGHT
BEFORE THE PRESS CONFERENCE,

JIM AND DINA SAT
AT THE KITCHEN TABLE

AND HAD ONE FINAL,
EYE-OPENING CONVERSATION.

HE SAID HE WAS CONFUSED
ABOUT WHO HE WAS,

ABOUT HIS SEXUALITY,

AND THAT HE THOUGHT
HE MIGHT BE GAY.

Narrator: BUT FOR DINA, THIS WASN'T
ABOUT WHETHER HER HUSBAND WAS GAY.

THIS WAS ABOUT BETRAYAL.

Dina: SO I ASKED HIM
WHY HE MARRIED ME.

AND HE SAID THAT HE LOVED ME

AND HE WANTED US
TO BUILD A LIFE TOGETHER,

AND THAT WAS, YOU KNOW,
ANOTHER... ANOTHER BLOW.

HOW CAN HE BE TELLING ME
THAT HE LOVED ME

WHEN, YOU KNOW, HE HAD DONE
ALL THESE OTHER THINGS?

DID HE LOVE ME EVER,
AND WHY DID HE MARRY ME?

Narrator: IT SEEMED LIKE THINGS
COULDN'T POSSIBLY GET ANY WORSE.

IT FELT LIKE THIS WAS
NOT THE MAN THAT I MARRIED.

THIS WAS AN IMPOSTER.

Narrator: BUT THERE WAS
MORE TO JIM'S STORY,

AND THE NEXT MORNING, DINA WOULD
GET THE SHOCK OF HER LIFE.

I FLIPPED THE TV ON.
IT WAS SCARY, HOW SHE LOOKED.

IT FELT LIKE AN OUT-OF-BODY
EXPERIENCE FOR ME.

MY RESIGNATION WILL BE EFFECTIVE
ON NOVEMBER 15th OF THIS YEAR.

Narrator: ON AUGUST 12, 2004,
DINA MATOS WAS REELING.

HER HUSBAND, NEW JERSEY GOVERNOR
JIM McGREEVEY,

WAS ABOUT TO GIVE
A PRESS CONFERENCE

ADMITTING TO AN AFFAIR
WITH A MALE STAFFER.

Dina: HERE I AM, THINKING
THAT THE PRESS CONFERENCE

IS GOING TO BE ABOUT HIM
NOT SEEKING ANOTHER TERM,

AND THAT WAS IT.

Narrator:
BUT DINA WAS ABOUT TO GET

ANOTHER UNWELCOME SURPRISE.

HE HAD BEEN IN MEETINGS
WITH HIS ADVISERS ALL DAY

ON THE FIRST FLOOR
OF THE GOVERNOR'S MANSION.

AND HE CAME UP
WITH ONE OF HIS ADVISERS

AND HANDED ME
A COPY OF HIS SPEECH.

AND I STARTED READING IT,

AND I READ THE PHRASE
"I AM A GAY AMERICAN."

AND...

I JUST COULDN'T BELIEVE
WHAT I WAS READING,

BECAUSE HE HAD NOT ADMITTED
TO BEING GAY.

I THOUGHT, "HOW DID HE RESOLVE
THAT ISSUE OVERNIGHT?"

HE WAS CONFUSED,

AND NOW ALL OF A SUDDEN,

HE KNOWS THAT HE'S
A GAY AMERICAN.

THERE WERE POINTS IN MY LIFE

WHEN I BEGAN TO QUESTION

WHAT AN ACCEPTABLE REALITY
REALLY MEANT FOR ME.

Narrator: THAT AFTERNOON,
THE WORLD WATCHED IN SHOCK

AS JIM McGREEVEY
DELIVERED HIS SPEECH,

HIS BLINDSIDED WIFE
BY HIS SIDE.

AND SO MY TRUTH IS
THAT I AM A GAY AMERICAN.

MY RESIGNATION WILL BE EFFECTIVE
ON NOVEMBER 15th OF THIS YEAR.

I FLIPPED THE TV ON,
AND I TOOK ONE LOOK AT DINA.

I DID NOT RECOGNIZE HER.
IT WAS SCARY HOW SHE LOOKED.

Dina:
HE'S AT THE PODIUM SPEAKING,

AND I'M STANDING NEXT TO HIM

WITH SOME SORT OF SMILE
PLASTERED ON MY FACE.

AND IT FELT LIKE AN OUT-OF-BODY
EXPERIENCE FOR ME.

I ENGAGED
IN AN ADULT, CONSENSUAL AFFAIR

WITH ANOTHER MAN,

WHICH VIOLATES
MY BONDS OF MATRIMONY.

IT WAS WRONG.

IT WAS FOOLISH.

IT WAS INEXCUSABLE.

McKinney:
IT WAS JUST HEARTBREAKING,

AND I THOUGHT SHE WAS SO BRAVE
TO BE STANDING THERE WITH HIM,

AND HALF OF ME THOUGHT

SHE WAS SO STUPID TO BE
STANDING THERE WITH HIM.

DINA SAID TO ME LATER,
WHEN WE TALKED ABOUT IT,

SHE WAS SORT OF DETERMINED
TO TAKE THE HIGH ROAD,

BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T WANT HER
DAUGHTER TO LOOK BACK ONE DAY

AND SAY, "YOU WEREN'T THERE
FOR DAD IN HIS HOUR OF NEED."

AND FOR THIS,

I ASK THE FORGIVENESS
AND THE GRACE OF MY WIFE.

Shiffman:
I THINK IT'S FAIR TO SAY

THAT PEOPLE WERE VERY CONCERNED
FOR HER.

WOULD THE MARRIAGE LAST?

THEY HAD A CHILD.
HOW WOULD THIS ALL PLAY OUT?

Dina: I KNOW NOW HE HAD
MARRIED ME FOR POLITICAL GAIN,

AND THAT WAS JUST DEVASTATING.

Narrator: IN NOVEMBER 2004,

DINA AND HER DAUGHTER
LEFT THE GOVERNOR'S MANSION

AND MOVED INTO THEIR OWN HOME
IN THE NEW JERSEY SUBURBS.

MORE THAN TWO YEARS LATER,

DINA AND JIM BEGAN
DIVORCE PROCEEDINGS.

THE FACT THAT ALL THIS WAS GOING
ON IN THE PUBLIC EYE

WAS EXTREMELY HARD,

'CAUSE WHEN THINGS
HAPPEN TO FAMILIES

AND IT'S QUIET, YOU DEAL
WITH IT DIFFERENTLY.

WHEN IT'S IN THE PUBLIC EYE AND
PEOPLE ARE QUESTIONING YOU...

AND PEOPLE ARE NOT
JUST QUESTIONING YOU,

THEY'RE MAKING ASSUMPTIONS,
AND THEY'RE TALKING ABOUT YOU...

THAT'S THE HARD PART.

Narrator: IN AUGUST 2008,

THE COUPLE'S DIVORCE
WAS FINALIZED.

AS FOR GOLAN CIPEL,

HE RETURNED TO HIS NATIVE ISRAEL
WITHOUT FILING A LAWSUIT.

THE CLAIMS OF BLACKMAIL
HAVE NEVER BEEN SUBSTANTIATED.

TODAY, DINA LIVES
IN A SMALL NEW JERSEY TOWN

WITH HER YOUNG DAUGHTER,

AND SHE WORKS
FOR A HEALTHCARE NONPROFIT.

I STILL HAVE MY DIFFICULT DAYS,

AND IT HASN'T BEEN
AN EASY ROAD.

BUT I KNOW
THAT I CAN STAND ON MY OWN

AND CONFRONT
WHATEVER COMES MY WAY.

Narrator:
DINA ALSO WROTE A BESTSELLER

ABOUT HER MARRIAGE
TO JIM McGREEVEY.

I THINK
THAT BY TELLING MY STORY

THAT I CAN GIVE OTHER PEOPLE
COURAGE TO MOVE ON.

McKinney: DINA IS BACK,
AND SHE'S SELF-ASSURED.

IF ANYTHING, I THINK MAYBE SHE'S
A LITTLE MORE WORRIED

ABOUT JUMPING BACK
INTO THE DATING LIFE,

BECAUSE SHE THOUGHT
JIM McGREEVEY WAS THE ONE.

Narrator: THESE DAYS,

DINA HAS VERY LITTLE INTERACTION
WITH JIM,

WHO LEFT POLITICS BEHIND
TO BECOME AN EPISCOPAL PRIEST.

STILL, DESPITE EVERYTHING,

SHE HASN'T GIVEN UP ON
THE PROSPECT OF A NEW MARRIAGE.

MARRIAGE IS VERY IMPORTANT.

I THINK IT COULD BE
VERY POSITIVE,

AND IT COULD BE VERY REWARDING.

AND WHO KNOWS?

MAYBE I'LL EXPERIENCE IT
SOME TIME.