In Treatment (2008–2010): Season 1, Episode 35 - Paul and Gina: Week Seven - full transcript

Paul bristles at Kate and Rosie's secrets, but is surprised that Gina's obligatory therapy exercise proves helpful.

Previously on "In Treatment"...

Kate ran into Laura.

What I saw was this highly-sexual woman

who was wearing stilettos
at 10:00 in the morning.

Isn't it a little
embarrassing for you,

following your dick around like a caveman?

Kate, I fell in love with
you not just because you're, you're

beautiful and sexy,
but because of your strength.

I needed that. I, I think we both needed that.

Not anymore. I don't need you anymore.

You know, you said you married him



because he paid such deep attention to you.

You've outgrown that dependency.

So, she's not my groupie anymore

so I found somebody to, uh, to replace her.

Is that your theory?
You see what she's doing?

She's instructing you
on what you should be feeling.

Game, set and match to you, Gina.

Hello?

Oh... Hi.

So, um...

So, what did the dermatologist say?

Mm-hmm.

Okay, so don't look in the mirror, Sophie.

Yeah, cover the mirror up
with a towel or something.



I'm ordering you not to look at it.

Doctor's orders, okay?

Take it as a challenge.

Mm-hmm. It'll pass.

I promise.

Good, so call me if you need me.

Bye.

Poor thing.

Who's that?

A patient Rosie's age.
She thinks she's a freak.

Now she's got a rash all
over her body to prove it.

Is that that sweet girl that
I helped into the dry clothes?

Yes.

Where are my keys?

God, do you remember when
Ian used to get those rashes

every time he got the flu? So scary.

It didn't help that I put the
wrong cream on him that time.

Do you remember?

The spider awaits. Let's go.

S01E35: Paul and Gina, Week Seven

So, uh, Rosie knows.

She asked if, uh, Paul and I
were fighting, and, uh...

I started off into this, uh,
rather clich?d speech

about, you know, "When two
people have been together

as long as your father and I have,

it's not some romantic movie where
everybody lives happily ever after"...

Whatever, whatever. Um...

As if that's what she thought to begin with,

like she's some little girl.

What did she say?

Typical Rosie. She cut right to the chase

and she asked me if I was
sleeping with somebody.

Why would she suspect that?

When I was in Rome, uh,

she called me, and...

and she heard Edward in the background.

Of course, she doesn't
tell me this, though,

so, uh... I got defensive,

and I got kinda vague, and...

I said, you know, "What makes you
think that I'm seeing somebody?"

I almost said, "Why me?
Why not your father?"

But thank God I didn't.

And, um...

Finally she told me that she knew.

What about the boys?

I spoke to Ian. Not, not about Kate's...

Kate's affair but, um...

just about the tension... in the house.

Why didn't you tell me about that?

Well, I'm telling you now.

Why can we not talk about this at home?

I don't understand that, what...

- What did you say to him?
- I said we were working

through some disagreements.

He asked me if I was
interested in anybody else,

and I -- said that I had

feelings for somebody else...

but that nothing had happened.

Well, that's great. That's just really great.

Did you think for a minute that, maybe,

that was something
we could've handled together?

I've just spoken to Rosie. She said to me,
"Why are you allowing your wife

to go to Rome with somebody else, dad?"

"Fix it, dad." That's what she said.

Like it was all up to me... Again.

And just after that, Ian came in, so...

I don't know, I just felt
like I wanted to come clean.

How do you think he took that,

you having feelings for someone else?

Well, I think it, uh... it hit him hard,

but, you know, he toughed it out.

"It's okay, dad, it's cool."
That kind of thing.

Well, that's no surprise.

Ian's always been on --
Paul's side of the argument, always.

- That's not true.
- Yes, it is true.

You're always the poor, innocent lamb,

and I'm always the monster. It is true.

When, in fact, you're blameless,
is that what you're trying to say?

No, that's not what I'm saying.

You know you've never once -- once! --
taken responsibility for what you did?

You've been sitting here for three weeks,

and you never once said,
"I'm sorry, I made a mistake."

Really, I've never said that?

- I've heard her say that.
- When?

I've heard her say that
a number of times, here.

Actually, one time she said
it was a stupid mistake.

- I didn't hear that.
- 'Cause you don't wanna hear it.

What do you mean by that, Kate?

If he'd heard it, it would
force him into deciding

whether he's willing to forgive me or not,

and he's obviously not willing to forgive me,

because he hasn't made up his mind
about this other woman yet.

Wow.

Wow. Anything else I should know about me?

By the way, another thing
we haven't talked about...

You keep saying that,
that I haven't been around,

that I don't see my kids, that I don't see,

that I don't give,
that I only focus on, uh, on myself.

Can we talk about what kind
of mother you've been?

Can we talk about that?

Yeah. Sure. Okay.

Let's talk about that.

Okay.

Impatient, nagging...
Just ask them, they'll tell you.

Anything they do isn't good enough for you.

Okay.

You should really be quiet right now,

'cause you're sort of embarrassing yourself.

Where the hell have you
been for the past year?

Past year -- what about the past decade?

You don't know a thing about your children.

Ian, maybe, a little bit.

Max? Rosie? Jesus.

You don't know, you don't know
who she's hanging out with,

what she does, you don't have a clue.

Well, he, he still thinks that she's
this virginal, little thing

who doesn't go off with her
friends and party or try drugs,

- that she's just this... "daddy's little girl".
- What drugs?

Come on, I'm, I'm --
I'm asking you: what drugs?

Look, she goes to concerts with her friends,

and she smokes pot,

but, you know, I guess
because she's your daughter

you think, she doesn't do that sort of thing.

Did she, did she, did she tell you that?
That she smokes pot?

Who else can she tell?

- She could've told me.
- Really?

So, what did you say to her?

I told her that, if she did it once,
that it's not a big deal,

that one joint is certainly
not gonna make you a junkie.

So, basically you said it's okay if she, uh...

if she gets high and smokes pot.

Come on, all of her friends smoke,

- that's what they do.
- So?

She tried some, she wanted to talk about it.

"All her friends smoke". Do you buy into that?

You know what? I'm really happy that she feels

that she can come to me
and talk to me about it.

I feel really -- good about that.

So, is this how she got involved
with this Noah guy?

Noah is Rosie's boyfriend.

No, she's into Noah because he's a boy.

It's got nothing to do with drugs whatsoever.

Are they sleeping with each other?

Yes or no?

Rosie's on the pill.

But, I mean, you're so close to her,
you must know that, right?

How did you find this out?

I took her to the gynecologist myself,

- about three months ago.
- Why... wouldn't you tell me that?

Because she asked me not to.

So?

Well, it's, it's between her and me, Paul.

Wow. Sex and drugs. Nice.

They're not in the same category.

Do you know how often she smokes?

Do you know what she smokes?

Do you know what they put in this shit now?

Is she keeping you up to date on that?

She's not a drug addict,
so why don't you just relax?

I'm not gonna relax because this isn't about

whether Rosie smokes pot or not.

It's about you keeping it from me.

That's the issue.

You took her to a gynecologist
without telling me.

- She's a child.
- She's not a child.

She's our child, ours.

Well... I guess, you kind of
enjoyed keeping it from me,

gives you some kind of control, does it?

Got such a kick out of your little conspiracy,

you forgot to be concerned about Rosie.

Not everything I do is for your benefit.

- Does Ian smoke pot?
- Oh, for Christ's sake.

In college? I certainly hope not.

Well, it appears I live in some kind
of a, an alternate reality.

If one of her teachers kept that kind
of information from me, it would be bad.

But you're her mother. It's worse.

It makes it a hundred times worse.

Paul... let's look at how you're reacting.

Now... Kate was saying

that this is why she's afraid
to tell you things,

- Rosie, too.
- Who wouldn't be pissed off

if their wife didn't tell them,

if their wife didn't include them?

There are reasons to be angry.

But can you look beyond that for a minute?

Kate's trying to tell you
something about Rosie,

about her relationship with Rosie.
You're not hearing it.

- I think I am.
- No, you're not.

No, the way you're looking at it,
they're excluding you,

but Kate's talking about
their own relationship,

their intimacy, their trust.

You know, last week, uh... when you were here,

you had a legitimate concern

about Rosie when she disappeared for a day.

We're back here again, today,

and -- we're still talking about Rosie.

Now a lot of these things are important.

They absolutely should be addressed, but

I'm wondering if we don't keep on...

talking about Rosie, because we're avoiding
the issues that brought you here.

Okay.

Let's try Imago.

What does that mean?

Come on, Gina, you're kidding.

Paul, I'm trying to get a dialogue started.

Wait. Hello, what's "imago"?

It's this... pop... psychology

from, from the '80s.
The most earnest kind of bullshit.

Paul.

It's a type of couples therapy

where you reflect each other's feelings.

When I used to work with you,
you used to laugh at it.

There's a lot of it that's... bullshit.

Yeah.

But... it can be useful
to get a dialogue going.

You know, we can do it for a little while,
and then we'll drop it.

So, I, I don't understand.
When you say "reflect" --

Gina, please don't make us do this.

Can I at least understand what it is
before we make that decision?

Okay. Um...

What Paul said was right.
It's about reflection.

One person begins, and the other person...

answers.

So Paul... will say, uh...

"I'm upset about what you did last night."

And you respond, "I hear that you're upset

about my behavior last night."

And Paul will confirm or he'll correct you

if you left something out.

We do that -- for a while,

and then the listening person
summarizes what they heard.

Those of us who can still hear.

You know, the more you bitch about this,
the more I wanna do it,

- so just --
- Of course.

How do we start, Gina?

Okay, so turn so you're facing each other.

Oh, Gina.

Well, we're definitely doing it now, so...

Okay, face each other. Paul, would you --

Okay, fine, fine, fine.

We'll do an imago.

Okay, move in a little closer.

Who wants to go first?

Me, I will.

Okay.

Oh, um...

He only repeats, right? That's it.

That's right, nothing else,

no comments, no reactions, no analysis.

Okay.

Liking this already. Um...

During these sessions with Gina,

I've... started to learn a lot about myself...

and about you.

Paul?

Yeah, I... um...

I hear you say...

since we've been seeing Gina,

you've started to understand a lot about...

yourself.

And about you.

And about me.

Um...

Yeah, in my heart of hearts,

I really did not want to come here, but...

I realized that... I was willing

to do whatever it took because...

I cannot get through to you at home.

And I thought, at least...

in this setting, you might
just have to listen to me.

So you, so you didn't want to come here,

but you thought this was a place you...

might get me to, uh, to listen.

Yeah?

Yeah.

But having Gina here

has helped me to realize
that many of my feelings...

are in fact legitimate.

Um.. So, you think that having Gina here

to listen to us... squabble --

Paul.

Being here with Gina

helps you realize that your...

feelings are... legitimate.

Yeah.

And I also -- have begun
to understand that my...

involvement with Edward...

was, uh... most likely some...

kind of reaction to...

things I've been carrying with me

for many, many years.

You think that cheating on me with Edward

was a reaction to something
from your childhood?

No. Paul, come on.

Okay.

Your, uh... relationship...

with Edward...

was a reaction to...

something that you've been
carrying around for years?

Yeah?

Yeah.

A reaction to what, exactly?

Don't ask questions. Just listen to her.

Imago. Jesus Christ, Gina.
What's happened to you?

Okay. Okay, okay, okay.

What else?

I think Gina's... also right that...

your thing with Laura...

that's, um...

That's a reaction to things
that you've been carrying around.

Paul.

Um, can I...?

What I'm trying to say is that...

I get that it's not all your fault.

I get that I have done... my part, and, uh...

You know, I've been so busy

trying to be...
always your girlfriend,

your wife, the mother, and...

I've never...

That I just never allowed myself to

be Kate... really,

and how can that possibly be your fault?

So, what you're saying is

that you let yourself
get locked into a kind of...

I don't know, dependent, maternal role?

It's just how I saw myself, really,
I never questioned it.

You know, all this... caretaking and...

pleasing other people, it's, uh...

you know, only feeling safe as
one half of something,

and even looking at the gas bill:
"Mrs. Dr. Paul Weston."

I guess, it never even occurred to me

that I had the strength
to do things on my own.

But Kate, you run a shelter
for battered women,

you, you work with codependents,
alcoholics, kids at risk.

Your work has such a positive effect on,

on so many people's lives.

But that's...

Paul?

Could you reflect?

Do -- do we switch around now?

Yeah.

Okay.

Um... I want to say that I was...

listening to you...

and that, um...

I hear you.

It hurts me to realize that I...

that I've been married
to you for all this time

and I didn't know that you felt this way.

I should have.

And I'm... I'm angry at myself for that.

Um...

I, I hear you saying that you
didn't know that I felt this way.

Okay?

Yeah.

I'm scared.

I'm frightened.

I've had so many patients
who were in this situation,

it's almost like...

It's like... d?j? vu.

And where these couples end up...

with one person leaving to find themselves...

I hear you saying that...

you're afraid that I'll leave you.

No, I didn't say...

"leave me."

Is that what you want?

Gina, you said that, um...

that I might've pushed...

Kate into her... uh, affair

because of my... my feelings for Laura.

Maybe it's the other way around.

My feelings for Laura were the, uh...

the reaction to what...

Kate's been going through...

herself.

Well... you're both going through something.

She's struggling with the dynamic

that existed before you met:

well, to... to cater to others,

to please, to adapt to others.

And your past informs the way, uh...

you act with Laura.

You're looking for that younger woman

that you can nurture, who looks up to you

the way Kate used to.

But that also makes you confront
the situation with your father...

which is frightening.

You were 14 when he left?

- 15.
- 15.

Your mother had a nervous breakdown.

You had to take care of her.

She was giving you nothing in return.

Maybe you were trying to address that

in your relationship with Kate,

looking for the mothering,

that... you didn't get.

At the same time,

you need to protect yourself

from needing it so much,

because there's always the risk of losing it.

And so you pull away, you
bury yourself in your work.

You want Kate there,
you always want her there,

but you want her at arm's length.

So... maybe,

now, we have some idea of...

what's been happening between you.

Maybe, now we can just begin

to steer the ship -- back on course?

I don't know.

- Mm-hmm.
- I honestly don't know.

I just feel that...

we've been going in the
same direction for so long...

Maybe the best thing would be
for me to just get off this ship.

What are you saying?

Are you saying that you want to leave?

I'm not sure, Paul.

Yeah, I, I just want to say,

and I, I don't mean this
in a -- patronizing way, but...

It's not uncommon for couples
your age to... be at this crossroads.

That doesn't mean that
what you're going through isn't

complicated and painful.

And, like Paul said, it does
sometimes end with

someone leaving.

But -- no one has left here yet.

And, though it may not seem so,
right now at this moment,

I don't think anybody's quite ready to leave.

Okay, well... um,

give me a call, and, uh...

let me know about next Friday.

Okay.

Thanks, Gina.

Bye, dear.

Hello?

Yes, this is he.

Mm-hmm.