In Therapy (2005–…): Season 1, Episode 12 - Episode #1.12 - full transcript
The One-Ton Pilot,
sound familiar?
Ramallah, a bomb weighing a ton,
12 bodies, children, one wanted...
...man with a minor injury. Well
that's me. The One-Ton Pilot.
Your coffee is attempted murder.
- I think you want me
to know that you have a...
...kind of resistance to
this whole therapy thing.
That anything you don't
like, you'll spit out.
- Look, there's this
thing with my wife.
I sat on the couch beside
her and asked myself:
Who the hell is this
woman who's sleeping here...
...in front of the TV. What
does she know about me?
What does she think
she knows about me?
All this only strengthens my
resolve to leave the house.
- Why can't you
treat me, exactly?
Because maybe you love me too?
- You don't want me to
treat you as a psychologist...
...but rather as someone
who's in love with you.
But this requirement destroys
any chance of therapy.
- It's for Reuven?
- Yes.
- He's gone.
- No, no, he's got an
appointment with me.
- Are you a patient of his?
- Yes, you too?
- Yes, me too.
- Wait, fuck, what day is today?
- Sunday.
- I got confused on the day.
I'm going to the
center, you want a ride?
Howdy.
- It's for you.
- What is it?
- For coffee.
Espresso maker with
preparation for two cups.
- For me?
- Totally for you, with importer
warranty for three years.
- Is this some kind of clue to
the trauma you had here last week?
- Not a clue, It's a statement.
The coffee here is poop.
And poop is an understatement, because
still, you are my psychologist.
But if you were my friend, I would tell you
exactly what your coffee says about you.
- Well, what does
it say about me?
- That might come out later.
What do you think about it?
- I'm sorry, but
I can't accept it.
- Come on. What, you work
on a government grant?
It's a great deal
from an auction.
From what?
- An online auction.
Whenever there's an
attack, everyone clings...
...to the TV like morons,
and prices on internet...
...auctions drop by 70-80 percent.
Remember "Moment Cafe" bombing?
Just as the reports started on
TV, I snagged a home theater...
...system, 8 speakers and a receiver,
for 3,800 Shekels, you get it?
In the store is costs 14,000.
Thursday was what was
on the Temple Mount...
...I thought of you.
I went straight...
...online to buy you this thing.
- Turn it off, Yadin.
- What?
- I want you to turn off the
maker and put it back in the box.
- What scares you so much?
- Why are you
making such a fuss?
- Listen, I am very
grateful to you for this...
...gesture, but you need
to try to understand...
...that life is not
a one-way thing.
- I don't get it, why wouldn't you
upgrade your drink situation here?
I get that you only drink tea, but
don't your patients deserve better?
- You don't feel that there's something
aggressive about what you did?
You're not asking me if it suits me,
if I want something like this here.
- Okay. All right, all right.
- What a fuss from
some coffee maker, God.
- I'm still trying to figure out
what you wanted to tell me here.
- You think me bringing you this
coffee maker means that I bought you?
- I don't know.
- Why is it important
to you that I have it?
- Maybe because it
makes decent coffee?
You're my psychologist,
and I come here once...
...a week, for now, and
this is where I need...
...coffee more than anywhere else.
You know, to open
up and all that.
And your coffee is a disgrace.
Sorry, just a disgrace!
So I brought the maker with me.
Oh, and six types of coffee.
It starts completely
bitter, Guatemala, and...
...ends up with the kind
that postal pilots drink.
Hunchy Crunchy they call
it. Sweet and kind of gross.
- And I assume you
drink Guatemala.
- How do you know?
- I guessed.
- You know what, I have an idea.
Deduct it from my
weekly session.
- I don't think so. I'm sorry.
- Say, could you possibly be
mad at me for other things?
- What, for example?
- Could it be because I'm
seeing a patient of yours?
- Wait, today you met
a patient of mine?
- No, I brought it by
yesterday, the espresso maker.
- I got confused on the day
and met Na'ama by mistake.
Based to your silence, I see it's a
little touchy when your patients meet, eh?
- What kind of touchiness do
you think this could have?
- I don't know, but I thought maybe
you had some kind of ethics code.
Say, like you knowing intimate
details about her from me, things...
...that she might not want her
therapist to know about, you know.
And at the same time, I
get out of here, and she...
...comes in and you get
details like that about me.
I don't know, it seems like something that
you people might consider an ethical issue?
- I don't think
there's an issue here.
I can't talk to you about other patients,
but you can say that is, you can bring...
...up what is happening, or not happening
between you and Na'ama like anything else.
- Yes, okay. But what happened between me
and Na'ama would not have happened if we...
...had not been both your patients.
We met down the stairs.
Chances are, it wouldn't
have happened anywhere else.
- That means you think
there's a special...
...significance to the fact
you've met a patient of...
...mine. What do you
think it means?
- I'm asking you.
- Ok.
Then I think we
started the therapy.
- What?
- I think you want to show me
that you're came here for therapy.
You brought a coffee maker here
because you want to feel at home here.
And you feel like you're going to
come here a several more times...
...and through Na'ama you're trying
to give me the same message.
She's a patient of yours, and
I'm also your patient of yours.
You've come for therapy.
- Listen, about the maker
Let's close it like this.
It stays here for the time
being, on loan. Agreed?
While I come here, I don't know how long
it this whole issue will take, it stays.
When this is over, I'll
take it back. Agreed?
- I think so.
I want to think about
it more, but I think so.
- Think of it positively.
- I'm now remembering
that your wife won't let...
...you drink coffee, so here
then is a place of refuge?
- Oh, no. That
matter is resolved.
Because of you, too.
I left home.
And you actually helped me
out at the last meeting.
By showing me that leaving the
house was my inner interest.
It really helped
me to actualize it.
What?
You really helped me out.
I left here much
more determined.
As determined as a targeting cone,
to pursue this disengagement.
I went straight home after the therapy,
and told her I wanted to leave the house.
More or less in the
same way as saying:
Michaela, I'm getting out early
tomorrow to take the car in.
- Is that what you felt at that
moment? That it's something so trivial?
- Totally, totally.
Really, totally what
I felt. To the end.
Understand the situation.
I think that Michaela
just made Goulash.
Yes, Wednesday, Wednesday
is always Goulash.
And I told her I wanted
to leave the house. Ok?
Listen, she didn't even
lift her head from the pot.
She just said, "I
could have guessed it."
"You never manage to
surprise me, Dini."
"Not even now."
- Insulting.
- But she didn't try to insult
me, you know? That's how she is.
Look, I may have wronged her here last
week, in the way I chose to introduce...
...her, but you need to understand that she
is one classy lady, super intelligent.
This woman, at the age of 22,
was already on a scholarship...
...for a doctorate in Oxford
with a promise for tenure.
And if she said that she was
expecting it, I believe she actually...
...saw it coming since the bombing,
and the attack and the suspension.
She saw much more than
I was willing to show...
...and she realized that it
might end in a breakup.
- You're talking about her today
in almost mythological terms.
As a superwoman who can
anticipate ten moves in advance.
- In terms of intelligence,
there is no doubt.
Say whatever you want
about her, but she has the...
...brain of a Manhattan
Project rocket scientist.
- Still, there was something
disappointing for you in her response, no?
You come home, throw a bomb, and the
other side is indifferent to you.
Sometimes people might start
breaking the dishes, or make similar...
...responses, just to prove to themselves
that they are still in love.
- But that's not the case.
We're not one of those
couples who produce...
...drama, threats, departures
Quite the opposite.
We are those couples who had the potential
to drag it for years, just for the good of...
...the kids, you know, as they say.
- Have you told the kids?
- No, not yet.
My eldest, Roee, is already locked-up,
for several days in his room. He's in...
...some world chess championship, and my
daughter Noa is on her annual school trip.
- But at some point
you'll have to tell them.
- All right, all right.
They will need to one day appreciate
that dad left for a new life.
They can't understand
it at their age.
- Does it bother you whether
they understand or not?
- Roee will understand me.
He's a very special kid, he'll understand
me. He's got a he has an inner truth.
You know, he he's 11 years old, and
he almost never leaves the house.
Just sits in front of the
computer and plays chess.
No friends, no girlfriends,
no soccer, no Scouts.
At first I It drove me crazy.
He seemed miserable to me, alone,
you know, without friends.
What didn't I do, I arranged
for kids' tours at the
Air Force museum, to sit in
the cockpit of a Phantom.
Play the simulators.
Nothing helped.
He would wander those
tours all alone.
No one approached him,
like some You know.
Like some ugly Chickenpox
kid that kids are afraid of.
- Yeah.
It's hard to see
sometimes, right?
- Yeah.
- Sometimes it's harder
for us as parents to...
...see our child alone, than
to the child himself.
- Well done.
It took me a long time
to figure that out.
Until I realized that I
was the one with the issue.
That I can't accept the fact
that the boy is not popular.
That he's an outsider, and that
it's okay, it's his personality.
For 3 years I dug into
his and Michaela's life...
...set up meetings with
the teacher, counselor.
You know, they all said
there was no problem...
...that the boy is at
peace with himself.
That he's just like that.
And you had trouble
accepting it.
Yes.
But you know, today
I even envy him.
He doesn't need anyone,
he's got a whole...
...world, books, movies
computer games, chess, all...
...in a room of two
by three meters.
I tried to organize a
ping-pong tournament...
...for his class in our
backyard. He said to me:
"Dad, is it worth it?"
"One will win, probably Evyatar,
all the rest will be miserable...
...in front of the girls for
several months. Is it worth it? "
You get it? That's how the
kid was born, not competitive.
Just constantly
thinking about others.
I don't know where he got those
genes, probably not from me.
- No, of course not.
He's too good to be
tied to your genes.
- Are you making fun of me?
- No. I just want you to pay
attention to what your own opinion is.
- There is a child here
who is your own flesh.
A boy you love so much
and feel proud of all...
...his beautiful qualities,
and in your eyes...
...he is the perfect
opposite to you.
All the good in him,
can't be connected to you.
- Please, don't go
into that again, okay?
It's a completely genetic thing.
It's just most likely that he received his
feminine genes from my mom and Michaela.
My mom was like that too.
She had peace in
everything she did.
You should know that,
like Michaela, she never...
...felt like she was missing
something elsewhere else.
It also never interested
her whether she was...
...fullfilling herself or
not, and all that junk.
There was something
pure about her. Clean.
Like Roee. He got it from her.
- Meaning that the women
in your family are...
...pure and clean and
complete with themselves.
And the men are what, actually?
- Dirty and at odds
with themselves?
- Not a bad
description of my dad.
A dumbass.
Falling in love with every other
woman in the office, having affairs.
What was so bad?
He had a woman at home
who cared for him.
Let him have a career,
without asking questions.
Cared for the kids Made sure that the whole
family thing would actually take place.
He's riding on the
ticket of the holocaust...
...survivor the kid who came
out naked from the camps.
On that he build his life, according
to the morality he created for himself.
What? Who can really tell him
anything, he stepped out of the camps!
- She wasn't in the
camps? Your mother?
- No.
She's from a different
camp, Mahane [camp] Yehuda.
Seventh generation in Jerusalem.
A true Middle-Eastern Jew.
But, a cultured one.
She was the hope of
her family, you know?
Pianist.
She studied at the Academy for
Music. She was considered a prodigy.
She could play Liszt in her
sleep. Do you know Liszt?
Only Liszt was
able to play Liszt.
She was something.
Pure.
You've never felt any bitterness from her,
about the whole music thing not realizing.
- You miss her.
- Of course.
And get this part.
She saved his life.
You probably think he came from Europe
with his PhD and everything, and she's...
...some alley kid from Jerusalem.
That's where you're wrong.
They met in the war.
The Independence War.
When he barely knew
Hebrew, a new immigrant.
He was lonely like a
dog, and she was the...
...only person who could
talk to him about music.
On the first reprieve
he went home with her.
Heard her play and fainted.
You see, he saw her family in
Jerusalem, and he cried like a madman.
He was caught by it,
got addicted to it.
Brothers, sisters, 127
cousins. Think what that...
...is for an orphan boy who
came from the holocaust.
- And still he cheated on her.
- Without end, the guy
just wanted more and more.
- But he didn't leave her.
- Are you insane?
That he'd leave her?
He truly loved her.
- You're sure he did?
He may have greatly appreciated
her, that he was thankful for...
...everything she had given him.
But maybe he never really
actually loved her?
- What, are you, like,
trying to justify him?
If he didn't, then
he could have left.
- Why make life miserable?
- Okay.
And you, unlike him, are
trying to act more correctly?
You leave the house at once,
and don't drag things as it did.
- All right. All right.
I suppose it works for you, this idea of a
correction to what our parents messed up.
- Correction?
No, I'm not sure it's
really a correction.
I think it's more what
we call a "pattern."
You're actually repeating the same
behavior pattern that you grew up with.
- You just said I was
amending what my father did.
- No, I think you're comfortable
presenting it that way. But in a deeper way...
...there may be a lot more similarities
between your perception and your father's.
It looks like you both got married
to a woman you really appreciate...
...almost admire, but maybe also
someone you don't love so much.
- Listen. You know what, I'm not so sure
I'm okay being compared to my dad. Okay?
-Let's get back to you.
Maybe you never loved
Michaela, because you...
...worshiped her so much,
because she was so perfect?
- I don't understand why we're
talking so much about Michaela.
It's over, this story. Enough.
- Because I'm not sure
that you leaving her is...
...really a solution to what
you feel about yourself.
You left her, and yet you feel
like she's a perfect person.
A superwoman, like your mother.
That there's not even a chance your child
has your genes because he's a good person...
...and you're a shit
person, aren't you?
- Listen, I want to get
back to Na'ama again.
- What is it so important for
you to get back to Na'ama?
Maybe because you want me to
also think you're a shit person?
Maybe you want to constantly
defy me, to spite me.
Until I finally think of you
what you think of yourself?
- Wait, wait, wait,
what's the story?
What's wrong with me
talking about her? Why...
...would it make me a
shit person in your eyes?
What does it bother you
that I'm meeting her?
You won't believe it
how much it cost me.
4,000 Shekels, can
you believe it?
Too bad they
don't auction houses.
Now that I left the house,
a massive attack could...
...probably land me a house
in Afeka for $200,000.
Know that you made the
deal of your life here.
You got a package here that someone
who wouldn't have thought about...
...auctions during terrorist attacks
would have paid 8,000, cash.
And if we say it's going to be here
for a year, that means you're actually...
...renting it for 100
Shekels a week.
What do you say? You
want some Hunchy Crunchy?
- I suggest we continue.
- Know that Na'ama
was in shock from it.
I showed her the maker afterwards,
she couldn't believe it.
She was so excited she could finally
have a drink here Like a human being.
Ah This is something.
- Do you want to tell me how
Under what circumstances you met?
- What happened is, I just
kind of mixed up the time.
I just moved in with my gay friend Daniel,
and his partner. I told you about them.
And you could say that they were you
know, celebrating that I left home.
Bringing friends to meet me, really turned
me into some kind of news of the town.
So I went with them on this,
you know dinners, alcohol.
I even went with
them to a gay club.
They told me it was hot and that girls were
coming to these clubs to make out, and they...
...weren't gay, so I
could catch one.
It didn't do anything
for me, at all.
The only thing it did for me
was make me lose my time frame.
And yesterday I was
sure it was Monday.
So I came here.
And as I arrive, I see
Na'ama coming out of here.
I approached her and asked
her if everything was okay.
She told me that everything was not
okay, that she almost hit a dog earlier.
Her story made it obvious that it
was an Airedale Terrier. Purebred.
By the way, that breed is the only dog ever
who was given knighthood by the king of...
...england for
excellence in battle.
Did you hear about that?
No. I didn't get the update.
It happened. Huge story.
Maybe next time, no matter
In short, I asked her...
...if she had left a session
with you, and she got...
...scared, big deal, you
know, that a psychologist...
...is some sort of discreet
matter or some nonsense.
I calmed her by telling
her I'm also your patient.
And then all of a sudden I
realize I'm early by a day.
You get it?
She just burst with laughter, how a person
could get confused on the day of therapy.
- What exactly made her laugh?
- Don't know She was in some
weird mood, I don't know.
And the whole time, I
you know, with that...
...coffee maker on me,
it must have been funny.
- Don't you think?
- Uh yeah, yeah.
In short, I told her I That I won't
That I'm not going accept that poop...
...coffee you have here, and she laughed
even harder. You know what she said?
That you can even ruin
simple Wysotsky tea.
- You commiserated.
- Absolutely.
No matter. In short, we went into my car,
drove to the accident area, of course...
...there was no sign of the dog.
So we sat down for coffee and I
sketched the area for her on a napkin.
- At her house?
- How did you get that, eh?
- Just some coffee shop.
- Yes.
She just told me she
lives in Brandis.
And I've already sketched her a
bird's-eye view. I'm brilliant at that.
With courtyards
and green fields.
Where a dog like
that might be hiding.
A real military operation.
Yeah, right?
Actually, I've really missed it.
You know, reducing a space on a map,
using 3-month old intelligence to find a...
...wanted man from the sky.
- You found him in the end?
- The dog? No.
Likely went to die in some hole.
But it still, you could
say It had a happy ending.
Say, are we out of time?
We have five more minutes.
- Because I want to consult with
you for a little bit about her.
Look, chance in a
million, it's her.
Sorry, I didn't know it was on,
we just made plans can I quickly...
...answer? You don't care, right?
What, yes? What's happening?
No, no. No, not yet.
No, I think by Reuven's face, another
minute, maybe two, he's kicking me out.
Okay, well, all right, I
all right, I'll call you.
I'll call you No. when
I'm done. Bye, bye.
What... What do you
say? Should I go for her
About Na'ama. What do you say?
I mean, should I?
Reuven, come on, I know it's against your
code, but you're also my psychologist.
This is the first girl I've
dated in almost 15 years.
And I don't feel like having
a hell of an experience here.
- I'm sorry, I can't
give you advice like that.
- I think she's one of those who's
going to drive me crazy, huh?
You wouldn't get into
someone like that, right?
- Yadin - Reuven, come
on. Give me a little tip.
This could affect my
whole life from here on.
- I can't give you a tip!
That's enough.
- Alright.
Okay.
All right, I got you.
I'm used to you not giving
me advice. It's fine.
In the end you always help me.
Oh, and when she
comes to therapy...
...try to pull the lever of the Espresso
fast. She likes it with a lot of foam.
sound familiar?
Ramallah, a bomb weighing a ton,
12 bodies, children, one wanted...
...man with a minor injury. Well
that's me. The One-Ton Pilot.
Your coffee is attempted murder.
- I think you want me
to know that you have a...
...kind of resistance to
this whole therapy thing.
That anything you don't
like, you'll spit out.
- Look, there's this
thing with my wife.
I sat on the couch beside
her and asked myself:
Who the hell is this
woman who's sleeping here...
...in front of the TV. What
does she know about me?
What does she think
she knows about me?
All this only strengthens my
resolve to leave the house.
- Why can't you
treat me, exactly?
Because maybe you love me too?
- You don't want me to
treat you as a psychologist...
...but rather as someone
who's in love with you.
But this requirement destroys
any chance of therapy.
- It's for Reuven?
- Yes.
- He's gone.
- No, no, he's got an
appointment with me.
- Are you a patient of his?
- Yes, you too?
- Yes, me too.
- Wait, fuck, what day is today?
- Sunday.
- I got confused on the day.
I'm going to the
center, you want a ride?
Howdy.
- It's for you.
- What is it?
- For coffee.
Espresso maker with
preparation for two cups.
- For me?
- Totally for you, with importer
warranty for three years.
- Is this some kind of clue to
the trauma you had here last week?
- Not a clue, It's a statement.
The coffee here is poop.
And poop is an understatement, because
still, you are my psychologist.
But if you were my friend, I would tell you
exactly what your coffee says about you.
- Well, what does
it say about me?
- That might come out later.
What do you think about it?
- I'm sorry, but
I can't accept it.
- Come on. What, you work
on a government grant?
It's a great deal
from an auction.
From what?
- An online auction.
Whenever there's an
attack, everyone clings...
...to the TV like morons,
and prices on internet...
...auctions drop by 70-80 percent.
Remember "Moment Cafe" bombing?
Just as the reports started on
TV, I snagged a home theater...
...system, 8 speakers and a receiver,
for 3,800 Shekels, you get it?
In the store is costs 14,000.
Thursday was what was
on the Temple Mount...
...I thought of you.
I went straight...
...online to buy you this thing.
- Turn it off, Yadin.
- What?
- I want you to turn off the
maker and put it back in the box.
- What scares you so much?
- Why are you
making such a fuss?
- Listen, I am very
grateful to you for this...
...gesture, but you need
to try to understand...
...that life is not
a one-way thing.
- I don't get it, why wouldn't you
upgrade your drink situation here?
I get that you only drink tea, but
don't your patients deserve better?
- You don't feel that there's something
aggressive about what you did?
You're not asking me if it suits me,
if I want something like this here.
- Okay. All right, all right.
- What a fuss from
some coffee maker, God.
- I'm still trying to figure out
what you wanted to tell me here.
- You think me bringing you this
coffee maker means that I bought you?
- I don't know.
- Why is it important
to you that I have it?
- Maybe because it
makes decent coffee?
You're my psychologist,
and I come here once...
...a week, for now, and
this is where I need...
...coffee more than anywhere else.
You know, to open
up and all that.
And your coffee is a disgrace.
Sorry, just a disgrace!
So I brought the maker with me.
Oh, and six types of coffee.
It starts completely
bitter, Guatemala, and...
...ends up with the kind
that postal pilots drink.
Hunchy Crunchy they call
it. Sweet and kind of gross.
- And I assume you
drink Guatemala.
- How do you know?
- I guessed.
- You know what, I have an idea.
Deduct it from my
weekly session.
- I don't think so. I'm sorry.
- Say, could you possibly be
mad at me for other things?
- What, for example?
- Could it be because I'm
seeing a patient of yours?
- Wait, today you met
a patient of mine?
- No, I brought it by
yesterday, the espresso maker.
- I got confused on the day
and met Na'ama by mistake.
Based to your silence, I see it's a
little touchy when your patients meet, eh?
- What kind of touchiness do
you think this could have?
- I don't know, but I thought maybe
you had some kind of ethics code.
Say, like you knowing intimate
details about her from me, things...
...that she might not want her
therapist to know about, you know.
And at the same time, I
get out of here, and she...
...comes in and you get
details like that about me.
I don't know, it seems like something that
you people might consider an ethical issue?
- I don't think
there's an issue here.
I can't talk to you about other patients,
but you can say that is, you can bring...
...up what is happening, or not happening
between you and Na'ama like anything else.
- Yes, okay. But what happened between me
and Na'ama would not have happened if we...
...had not been both your patients.
We met down the stairs.
Chances are, it wouldn't
have happened anywhere else.
- That means you think
there's a special...
...significance to the fact
you've met a patient of...
...mine. What do you
think it means?
- I'm asking you.
- Ok.
Then I think we
started the therapy.
- What?
- I think you want to show me
that you're came here for therapy.
You brought a coffee maker here
because you want to feel at home here.
And you feel like you're going to
come here a several more times...
...and through Na'ama you're trying
to give me the same message.
She's a patient of yours, and
I'm also your patient of yours.
You've come for therapy.
- Listen, about the maker
Let's close it like this.
It stays here for the time
being, on loan. Agreed?
While I come here, I don't know how long
it this whole issue will take, it stays.
When this is over, I'll
take it back. Agreed?
- I think so.
I want to think about
it more, but I think so.
- Think of it positively.
- I'm now remembering
that your wife won't let...
...you drink coffee, so here
then is a place of refuge?
- Oh, no. That
matter is resolved.
Because of you, too.
I left home.
And you actually helped me
out at the last meeting.
By showing me that leaving the
house was my inner interest.
It really helped
me to actualize it.
What?
You really helped me out.
I left here much
more determined.
As determined as a targeting cone,
to pursue this disengagement.
I went straight home after the therapy,
and told her I wanted to leave the house.
More or less in the
same way as saying:
Michaela, I'm getting out early
tomorrow to take the car in.
- Is that what you felt at that
moment? That it's something so trivial?
- Totally, totally.
Really, totally what
I felt. To the end.
Understand the situation.
I think that Michaela
just made Goulash.
Yes, Wednesday, Wednesday
is always Goulash.
And I told her I wanted
to leave the house. Ok?
Listen, she didn't even
lift her head from the pot.
She just said, "I
could have guessed it."
"You never manage to
surprise me, Dini."
"Not even now."
- Insulting.
- But she didn't try to insult
me, you know? That's how she is.
Look, I may have wronged her here last
week, in the way I chose to introduce...
...her, but you need to understand that she
is one classy lady, super intelligent.
This woman, at the age of 22,
was already on a scholarship...
...for a doctorate in Oxford
with a promise for tenure.
And if she said that she was
expecting it, I believe she actually...
...saw it coming since the bombing,
and the attack and the suspension.
She saw much more than
I was willing to show...
...and she realized that it
might end in a breakup.
- You're talking about her today
in almost mythological terms.
As a superwoman who can
anticipate ten moves in advance.
- In terms of intelligence,
there is no doubt.
Say whatever you want
about her, but she has the...
...brain of a Manhattan
Project rocket scientist.
- Still, there was something
disappointing for you in her response, no?
You come home, throw a bomb, and the
other side is indifferent to you.
Sometimes people might start
breaking the dishes, or make similar...
...responses, just to prove to themselves
that they are still in love.
- But that's not the case.
We're not one of those
couples who produce...
...drama, threats, departures
Quite the opposite.
We are those couples who had the potential
to drag it for years, just for the good of...
...the kids, you know, as they say.
- Have you told the kids?
- No, not yet.
My eldest, Roee, is already locked-up,
for several days in his room. He's in...
...some world chess championship, and my
daughter Noa is on her annual school trip.
- But at some point
you'll have to tell them.
- All right, all right.
They will need to one day appreciate
that dad left for a new life.
They can't understand
it at their age.
- Does it bother you whether
they understand or not?
- Roee will understand me.
He's a very special kid, he'll understand
me. He's got a he has an inner truth.
You know, he he's 11 years old, and
he almost never leaves the house.
Just sits in front of the
computer and plays chess.
No friends, no girlfriends,
no soccer, no Scouts.
At first I It drove me crazy.
He seemed miserable to me, alone,
you know, without friends.
What didn't I do, I arranged
for kids' tours at the
Air Force museum, to sit in
the cockpit of a Phantom.
Play the simulators.
Nothing helped.
He would wander those
tours all alone.
No one approached him,
like some You know.
Like some ugly Chickenpox
kid that kids are afraid of.
- Yeah.
It's hard to see
sometimes, right?
- Yeah.
- Sometimes it's harder
for us as parents to...
...see our child alone, than
to the child himself.
- Well done.
It took me a long time
to figure that out.
Until I realized that I
was the one with the issue.
That I can't accept the fact
that the boy is not popular.
That he's an outsider, and that
it's okay, it's his personality.
For 3 years I dug into
his and Michaela's life...
...set up meetings with
the teacher, counselor.
You know, they all said
there was no problem...
...that the boy is at
peace with himself.
That he's just like that.
And you had trouble
accepting it.
Yes.
But you know, today
I even envy him.
He doesn't need anyone,
he's got a whole...
...world, books, movies
computer games, chess, all...
...in a room of two
by three meters.
I tried to organize a
ping-pong tournament...
...for his class in our
backyard. He said to me:
"Dad, is it worth it?"
"One will win, probably Evyatar,
all the rest will be miserable...
...in front of the girls for
several months. Is it worth it? "
You get it? That's how the
kid was born, not competitive.
Just constantly
thinking about others.
I don't know where he got those
genes, probably not from me.
- No, of course not.
He's too good to be
tied to your genes.
- Are you making fun of me?
- No. I just want you to pay
attention to what your own opinion is.
- There is a child here
who is your own flesh.
A boy you love so much
and feel proud of all...
...his beautiful qualities,
and in your eyes...
...he is the perfect
opposite to you.
All the good in him,
can't be connected to you.
- Please, don't go
into that again, okay?
It's a completely genetic thing.
It's just most likely that he received his
feminine genes from my mom and Michaela.
My mom was like that too.
She had peace in
everything she did.
You should know that,
like Michaela, she never...
...felt like she was missing
something elsewhere else.
It also never interested
her whether she was...
...fullfilling herself or
not, and all that junk.
There was something
pure about her. Clean.
Like Roee. He got it from her.
- Meaning that the women
in your family are...
...pure and clean and
complete with themselves.
And the men are what, actually?
- Dirty and at odds
with themselves?
- Not a bad
description of my dad.
A dumbass.
Falling in love with every other
woman in the office, having affairs.
What was so bad?
He had a woman at home
who cared for him.
Let him have a career,
without asking questions.
Cared for the kids Made sure that the whole
family thing would actually take place.
He's riding on the
ticket of the holocaust...
...survivor the kid who came
out naked from the camps.
On that he build his life, according
to the morality he created for himself.
What? Who can really tell him
anything, he stepped out of the camps!
- She wasn't in the
camps? Your mother?
- No.
She's from a different
camp, Mahane [camp] Yehuda.
Seventh generation in Jerusalem.
A true Middle-Eastern Jew.
But, a cultured one.
She was the hope of
her family, you know?
Pianist.
She studied at the Academy for
Music. She was considered a prodigy.
She could play Liszt in her
sleep. Do you know Liszt?
Only Liszt was
able to play Liszt.
She was something.
Pure.
You've never felt any bitterness from her,
about the whole music thing not realizing.
- You miss her.
- Of course.
And get this part.
She saved his life.
You probably think he came from Europe
with his PhD and everything, and she's...
...some alley kid from Jerusalem.
That's where you're wrong.
They met in the war.
The Independence War.
When he barely knew
Hebrew, a new immigrant.
He was lonely like a
dog, and she was the...
...only person who could
talk to him about music.
On the first reprieve
he went home with her.
Heard her play and fainted.
You see, he saw her family in
Jerusalem, and he cried like a madman.
He was caught by it,
got addicted to it.
Brothers, sisters, 127
cousins. Think what that...
...is for an orphan boy who
came from the holocaust.
- And still he cheated on her.
- Without end, the guy
just wanted more and more.
- But he didn't leave her.
- Are you insane?
That he'd leave her?
He truly loved her.
- You're sure he did?
He may have greatly appreciated
her, that he was thankful for...
...everything she had given him.
But maybe he never really
actually loved her?
- What, are you, like,
trying to justify him?
If he didn't, then
he could have left.
- Why make life miserable?
- Okay.
And you, unlike him, are
trying to act more correctly?
You leave the house at once,
and don't drag things as it did.
- All right. All right.
I suppose it works for you, this idea of a
correction to what our parents messed up.
- Correction?
No, I'm not sure it's
really a correction.
I think it's more what
we call a "pattern."
You're actually repeating the same
behavior pattern that you grew up with.
- You just said I was
amending what my father did.
- No, I think you're comfortable
presenting it that way. But in a deeper way...
...there may be a lot more similarities
between your perception and your father's.
It looks like you both got married
to a woman you really appreciate...
...almost admire, but maybe also
someone you don't love so much.
- Listen. You know what, I'm not so sure
I'm okay being compared to my dad. Okay?
-Let's get back to you.
Maybe you never loved
Michaela, because you...
...worshiped her so much,
because she was so perfect?
- I don't understand why we're
talking so much about Michaela.
It's over, this story. Enough.
- Because I'm not sure
that you leaving her is...
...really a solution to what
you feel about yourself.
You left her, and yet you feel
like she's a perfect person.
A superwoman, like your mother.
That there's not even a chance your child
has your genes because he's a good person...
...and you're a shit
person, aren't you?
- Listen, I want to get
back to Na'ama again.
- What is it so important for
you to get back to Na'ama?
Maybe because you want me to
also think you're a shit person?
Maybe you want to constantly
defy me, to spite me.
Until I finally think of you
what you think of yourself?
- Wait, wait, wait,
what's the story?
What's wrong with me
talking about her? Why...
...would it make me a
shit person in your eyes?
What does it bother you
that I'm meeting her?
You won't believe it
how much it cost me.
4,000 Shekels, can
you believe it?
Too bad they
don't auction houses.
Now that I left the house,
a massive attack could...
...probably land me a house
in Afeka for $200,000.
Know that you made the
deal of your life here.
You got a package here that someone
who wouldn't have thought about...
...auctions during terrorist attacks
would have paid 8,000, cash.
And if we say it's going to be here
for a year, that means you're actually...
...renting it for 100
Shekels a week.
What do you say? You
want some Hunchy Crunchy?
- I suggest we continue.
- Know that Na'ama
was in shock from it.
I showed her the maker afterwards,
she couldn't believe it.
She was so excited she could finally
have a drink here Like a human being.
Ah This is something.
- Do you want to tell me how
Under what circumstances you met?
- What happened is, I just
kind of mixed up the time.
I just moved in with my gay friend Daniel,
and his partner. I told you about them.
And you could say that they were you
know, celebrating that I left home.
Bringing friends to meet me, really turned
me into some kind of news of the town.
So I went with them on this,
you know dinners, alcohol.
I even went with
them to a gay club.
They told me it was hot and that girls were
coming to these clubs to make out, and they...
...weren't gay, so I
could catch one.
It didn't do anything
for me, at all.
The only thing it did for me
was make me lose my time frame.
And yesterday I was
sure it was Monday.
So I came here.
And as I arrive, I see
Na'ama coming out of here.
I approached her and asked
her if everything was okay.
She told me that everything was not
okay, that she almost hit a dog earlier.
Her story made it obvious that it
was an Airedale Terrier. Purebred.
By the way, that breed is the only dog ever
who was given knighthood by the king of...
...england for
excellence in battle.
Did you hear about that?
No. I didn't get the update.
It happened. Huge story.
Maybe next time, no matter
In short, I asked her...
...if she had left a session
with you, and she got...
...scared, big deal, you
know, that a psychologist...
...is some sort of discreet
matter or some nonsense.
I calmed her by telling
her I'm also your patient.
And then all of a sudden I
realize I'm early by a day.
You get it?
She just burst with laughter, how a person
could get confused on the day of therapy.
- What exactly made her laugh?
- Don't know She was in some
weird mood, I don't know.
And the whole time, I
you know, with that...
...coffee maker on me,
it must have been funny.
- Don't you think?
- Uh yeah, yeah.
In short, I told her I That I won't
That I'm not going accept that poop...
...coffee you have here, and she laughed
even harder. You know what she said?
That you can even ruin
simple Wysotsky tea.
- You commiserated.
- Absolutely.
No matter. In short, we went into my car,
drove to the accident area, of course...
...there was no sign of the dog.
So we sat down for coffee and I
sketched the area for her on a napkin.
- At her house?
- How did you get that, eh?
- Just some coffee shop.
- Yes.
She just told me she
lives in Brandis.
And I've already sketched her a
bird's-eye view. I'm brilliant at that.
With courtyards
and green fields.
Where a dog like
that might be hiding.
A real military operation.
Yeah, right?
Actually, I've really missed it.
You know, reducing a space on a map,
using 3-month old intelligence to find a...
...wanted man from the sky.
- You found him in the end?
- The dog? No.
Likely went to die in some hole.
But it still, you could
say It had a happy ending.
Say, are we out of time?
We have five more minutes.
- Because I want to consult with
you for a little bit about her.
Look, chance in a
million, it's her.
Sorry, I didn't know it was on,
we just made plans can I quickly...
...answer? You don't care, right?
What, yes? What's happening?
No, no. No, not yet.
No, I think by Reuven's face, another
minute, maybe two, he's kicking me out.
Okay, well, all right, I
all right, I'll call you.
I'll call you No. when
I'm done. Bye, bye.
What... What do you
say? Should I go for her
About Na'ama. What do you say?
I mean, should I?
Reuven, come on, I know it's against your
code, but you're also my psychologist.
This is the first girl I've
dated in almost 15 years.
And I don't feel like having
a hell of an experience here.
- I'm sorry, I can't
give you advice like that.
- I think she's one of those who's
going to drive me crazy, huh?
You wouldn't get into
someone like that, right?
- Yadin - Reuven, come
on. Give me a little tip.
This could affect my
whole life from here on.
- I can't give you a tip!
That's enough.
- Alright.
Okay.
All right, I got you.
I'm used to you not giving
me advice. It's fine.
In the end you always help me.
Oh, and when she
comes to therapy...
...try to pull the lever of the Espresso
fast. She likes it with a lot of foam.