House of Ho (2020–2022): Season 1, Episode 4 - Ho-listic - full transcript
As Judy and her father clash over her new relationship, Washington seeks marital help from his own relationship guru - his mother.
[music]
SINGER: ♪ Can't nobody
hold me down ♪
♪ I'm steady walking
like I got ♪
♪ Three commas
in my bank account ♪
♪ Living loud,
So get your cameras out ♪
♪ I probably do the same thing
if I was you ♪
♪ Looking at me now, now ♪
♪ Hmm, put up your lights ♪
♪ And keep them flashin' ♪
♪ Don't ever put them
down, down, down ♪
♪ Look at me now ♪
[music]
SINGER: ♪ I'm just focused
on me ♪
♪ I'm just focused on me ♪
♪ I got it, I got it ♪
JUDY HO: It's crazy.
I feel like
I'm in my own
romantic comedy.
LESLEY HO: Are you
in love with him?
- Yeah. We're in love.
- Okay.
We're in that
honeymoon phase right now
where it's super fun,
and everything he says
is like the greatest thing
I've ever heard.
And you laugh
at every little thing...
- Yeah.
- ...even his nerdy jokes?
It's just like a total change
from like what it was like
being married. Because when
you're in marriage
and you're unhappy and you're
like, "What the fuck."
"Is this gonna be
the rest of my life?"
Uh-hmm. When Judy told us
she was getting divorced
I was completely dumbfounded
because as women
in the Vietnamese culture
we're supposed to be the person
that keeps the family together.
And I feel like we both
got out of that headspace
and now we're like,
we still have that giddiness,
you know, that you have
when in your first love.
- First day?
- Yeah.
LESLEY: But I've never seen
Judy glow like this.
She's like a little
teenaged girl.
And she's put herself
as a priority
where she hasn't done so
in the past.
- We're totally compatible.
- I just never see you
- with an, a nerdy guy.
- Why is that?
I feel like you always date
like the kind of cool,
- Fonzie type guys.
- Fonzie?
- Yeah.
- What's Fonzie?
Like where they walk
in their own they're like hey.
I don't even know
what that means.
- You've never watched...
- No.
- Happy Days?
- No.
- You're deprived.
- He kind of reminds me
of Ross from Friends,
your favorite show.
- Oh, I love Ross.
- Okay.
- He reminds me of that.
- Have you told Wash?
- No.
- He's gonna die
- when he finds out.
- Oh, he'll be fine.
Washington is so nosy,
he's always been involved
in my dating life.
He thinks everyone needs
either his permission
or it should be someone
he approves of,
- like he's the gatekeeper.
- All right. So tell me,
what's the next
serious step, then?
The next serious step
will be talking about,
like, if we were able to,
like, move in together
or even get married, like,
we've talked about that.
- Really?
- Yeah.
- I didn't know that.
- Yeah.
Like, I feel like
it's a second chance at love.
- Yeah.
- And a second chance at life
where anything is possible.
I love that.
- Sounds good, right?
- Sounds good.
You want some?
[laughs]
[music]
Do we have one
like that already?
- Yeah. Mango.
- We can do mango margarita.
That's a Vietnamese.
TINA: It's good, too.
I love go to Asian's Market
because it has all the candy,
food, flower,
the old traditional
Vietnamese style.
They make me feel like
I'm in Vietnam again.
You should pick good one.
That means you're lucky.
Oh, really?
I'm lucky.
I have both worlds.
When I arrived to United States,
my name is Thienhuong.
What are we here for, anyway?
- I have to buy some catfish.
With my friend at school
they cannot pronounce,
they said Thien...
Thienhuong?
Thien, ah, Thien what?
We're gonna get something
to drink, too, right?
Some alcohol, tequila.
So I said, "Fuck it.
My name is Tina."
So, what kind of fish
we're gonna get?
- Catfish? Ew.
- Uh-huh.
- The live one or the dead one?
- Get the live one.
There's a live one.
- Look at that one.
- TINA: Whew. Thanks.
- HUE: That one.
TINA: Let's go
get some crab.
They have live crab,
live fish. Everything live.
Even the escargot.
Come on, baby, let's go,
you got to go.
I pick all the big ones...
...and it's all boy, no girl.
- Ow, woo.
- HUE: Here, here.
TINA: Ow, ow.
That's why you don't get a girl!
Girls are mean!
- Are you okay?
- It's okay.
- I think about Vietnam a lot.
Very beautiful.
- Yes.
- You got a Band-Aid?
- I have a bandage.
- Come on, let's go
get some wine.
Forget about fish.
- I would like to
move to Vietnam.
to stay like, 3 or 4 months,
then come back here
and come back there, like that.
Woo, finally,
oh my God. Thank God.
- HUE: It make you happy, huh?
- Yeah.
- But I worry about my kids.
I'm gonna get drunk
after all this.
- If they still need a lot of
help I have to stay here.
Perfect. Let's go.
You're out of here.
- Fish.
LESLEY: Nika, what is that?
- Fish?
TINA: Hold on,
this way. You see it?
- One, two, and three that's it.
- JUDY: I got it.
TINA: - of it.
- JUDY: I got it.
- LESLEY: You got it?
JUDY: When it comes
to east meets west,
I feel like I definitely
lean more towards west.
I think that's a huge reason
why me and my mom
can't confide in each other.
- Is that enough or more, Mom?
- More.
More?
She feels eastern values
where the women defer
to the men in the family.
Time to put it in the oven.
And I, on the other hand,
just don't agree with everything
she's trying to teach me.
WASHINGTON HO: This is the best
way to start Sunday fun day.
Dad, you want
the first piece of the fish?
- Yes, please.
- JUDY: Would you like to taste
- my masterpiece?
- Am I gonna get sick?
JUDY: No, you will not.
- TINA: My God.
- WASHINGTON: Because it's her,
I don't wanna walk back here,
like, every two seconds.
SAMMY:
Tina's my mom's younger sister.
I'm gonna make
a toast for you.
I feel like of all
of the brothers and sisters,
she's more Americanized.
You're married, staying married,
have kids,
I never think
you get this far.
Cheers.
I feel the cousins feel
SAMMY: Because of that
more comfortable around her.
She doesn't judge you.
All right, guys.
I got a few gifts
for some of y'all and this is
just a token of my appreciation.
- Judy, I'll go with you first.
- JUDY: Oh.
WASHINGTON: The way I express
my love is just by sharing
the things that I can afford
with my friends or my wife,
or my family.
TINA:
I wonder what it is.
Oh, thank you.
Growing up, it's just
what my dad taught me.
- JUDY: It's a bracelet.
- TINA: Oh, awesome.
- So pretty.
- WASHINGTON: Dad.
I wanna make you the man.
LESLEY: Oh, my gosh.
Just put them on, Dad.
- Y'all look cool.
- JUDY: Oh, my gosh.
- Yeah.
- No, let me take
a picture of this.
- BINH: Look like Blader, huh?
- [laughs]
You know
all the females are like.
You know what they're
thinking, right, Dad?
- JUDY: What are they thinking?
- LESLEY: Tell me
- what I'm thinking.
- Where did that money
come from?
This is for the lady
that stands by me.
- TINA: Believe in you.
- Just something for you.
- LESLEY: Thank you.
- TINA: Yay.
You really didn't
have to, honey.
I know I didn't have to,
but I wanted to.
LESLEY: It's the last thing
that Washington needs
to be doing right now.
Buying expensive gifts
for everyone to for
no reason at all.
- TINA: Another diamond.
- You like it?
TINA: You wanna put it on
for her?
LESLEY: The pressure
that his father put on me,
of whipping Washington
into shape,
I feel like I fail because
if he was accountable,
my father-in-law could retire.
I already have a necklace
though, honey.
I love this necklace.
- WASHINGTON: What?
- I love this necklace.
This is what you gave me
for our wedding.
So you don't want this?
LESLEY: I think
it's nice but, you know,
I think we could have spent
that money somewhere else.
Really? So I can return this?
JUDY: Oh,
I'm gonna keep eating.
- HUE: There's a lot of food.
- LESLEY: If you...well,
I'm just saying you could have
just spent that money
- somewhere else.
- It makes me feel bad.
And that's why
I don't ever buy her gifts.
You know what?
I put it in my pocket,
go to the store,
get my cash back,
I'mma go party with it.
[music]
[crickets chirping]
MCKINLEY HO: Ma, I got it.
JUDY: Okay. That's dirty,
then don't eat that one.
MCKINLEY: No. I got it,
not another one.
JUDY: Thank you for asking
so nicely, McKinley.
- I'm not nicely.
JUDY: You're not being nice,
I know.
I'm so happy
to be in my new house,
and out of Washington
and Lesley's.
You got to save some
for Grandpa and Grandma.
I made this for them.
I feel like this is a new Judy,
like I'm ready to move on.
The house is so beautiful,
and it symbolizes the next
chapter of my life.
HUE: Hello, Judy.
- Hi.
- JUDY: Hi, Mom.
- You got a new house.
- No house is complete
without this.
Oh, look who's here.
- Congratulations.
- JUDY: Oh, thank you.
Such a classy gift
from Washington as always.
- SAMMY: Hey, Judy.
- JUDY: Welcome, welcome,
oh, thank you.
I love orchids.
- Oh, I like it.
- TINA: Let's party.
- WASHINGTON: All right. Judy.
- JUDY: Yay.
- WASHINGTON: Congratulations.
- JUDY: Thank you.
WASHINGTON: Welcome
to the neighborhood, Judy.
JUDY: Better life.
A toast to Mom and Dad,
I wouldn't be here today
without them.
Well, we wish you
good luck in your new ventures.
- JUDY: Thank you.
- To see you happy
for the house
and with your kids.
- JUDY: Thank you.
- For the new chapter in life.
- Cheers to that.
- And I want you to move on
and have most happy
and no matter what.
You're the best.
- I love you.
- Let's party.
I can't wait for you
to host Thanksgiving
- and Christmas this year.
- You guys are welcome here
24/7, come anytime.
[music]
WASHINGTON:
The soup is good, Mom.
- HUE: Yeah?
- WASHINGTON: Yeah.
Mom, what do you think about,
you know,
when Dad used to buy you gifts?
I feel he love me,
he think about me.
- Right.
- Uh-huh.
Did you care, you know,
what kind of gift that was
- or how much it cost or...
- Why?
- Lesley got all mad at me.
- Yes.
And I don't know
how to talk to her.
- You spend a lot.
- But I don't just
buy to buy it, you know.
Sometimes I feel like,
you know,
I need to remind my wife
that I love her.
- Right.
- In a romantic way.
Oh, she a good wife.
Right.
She worries about the
budget, and the family.
She always worries
about the budget.
Yes.
And that's why, you know,
when you told me
to marry Lesley
I know I can be successful
but it's not always easy.
You want me to help?
- I'll talk to her.
- Yeah.
- I will try.
- Yeah.
This fruit is good, Mom,
but do you have that Vietnamese
cookie that I really love?
- Oh, yes. Uh-huh.
- You do?
My mother giving me
the ultimatum
or the thought that
if I married Lesley
I wouldn't have to worry
about anything
for the rest of my life,
it's gonna take some time
until we know
that decision's correct
because who knows
what Lesley's up to?
We've seen what happened
to Judy, right?
So, you know,
we're in America,
American wives are different
from the old-fashioned
Asian wives,
they don't put up with shit.
Got a beautiful wife,
- you know, she works.
- Uh-huh.
A little mean, but it's okay.
I very love you.
- I love you, too.
- Listen to me, okay?
I'll help to keep your
marriage good.
I don't want to see,
like, your sister.
- Okay?
- All right.
Uh-hmm.
Okay.
[music]
JUDY: It's Washington's
favorite restaurant.
Me too. We've been
here many times.
Even though I left
Washington's house,
he still comes by every day,
he just walks over.
That's Washington
is Washington.
- I know.
- He act like he don't care
but he really a family man,
love, wife, kid,
brother, sister, parents.
Do you feel like, um,
maybe he is the way he is
because you raised me
differently from him.
No, I'm not.
I'm not really aware
with everything,
the same thing,
same style, same love.
Uh, I'm not saying
that you love him more than me,
I'm just saying
that when we're younger,
I feel like you treated me
like there's a hard line,
like I had to follow the rules,
you were a lot more strict on me
than you were with
Washington and Reagan.
Me and Wash have
a younger brother named Reagan.
Reagan doesn't drink
the same Kool-Aid
that that the rest of us drink.
Because of that,
we don't see him as often.
He has an opinion and
he's not afraid to express it.
I felt like
if they made a mistake,
you would try to help them,
but at the same time
if I'd made a mistake, you know,
there was a lot more punishment
and there was a lot more,
like, disappointment
that you showed
than when the boys did
something.
Let me tell you
that our Asian culture.
Uh-hmm.
In our Asian culture
the older sister
Yes. [speaks Vietnamese]
- is like a second mother.
- That's how I feel.
- Yes, that it is.
- That's how I feel.
- You are the second mother.
- That's why the older sister
always try to protect
the young brother.
Yes.
- And the young brother fee
like, "Oh, new I want, like, my
second mother
- Uh-hmm.
- so anything I need she will
take care of for me."
I'm the first person,
if they don't know what to do.
- I know.
- If they get in trouble,
- they call me.
- I thank you very much,
I appreciate you very much
but that it is.
[music]
SINGER: ♪ We don't need
a lot of money ♪
♪ I am richer with you ♪
- Hey, Ma.
- My girl. Uh-huh.
What are you doing?
Oh, I bring the Mary
to bless your house.
- My house?
- Yes.
- Why, what did I do?
- Because of...here,
right here, okay?
Beautiful.
I'm used to my mother-in-law
showing up at my house
with Virgin Marys.
It's just what she does.
One more to put in here.
You have another one?
Yeah. Small one.
LESLEY HO: The point
of the Virgin Marys
is to remind me and Washington
to pray.
There must be like a Costco
for Virgin Marys or something,
she buys it in bulk.
So you bring me Maries
and you want to talk to me?
- Yes. Uh-huh.
- Am I in trouble?
No, Washington, uh,
ask me come to talk to you,
to help you.
- To help me?
- Uh-huh.
- Lesley.
- Uh-huh.
I'm appreciate
and I do love you.
- I love you, too.
- You know that.
- I know you do.
- Yeah. Yeah. That's why I...
I worry about you
and Washington.
I want Vergin Mary help
Washington and Lesley
anytime they fight.
Tell her what's wrong
and what's right
and you believe, she can
help you help your family.
I want to take you
to the herb place.
- The herb place?
- Yeah.
- To find...
- Like tea.
- To make me relax?
- Yes.
You need to relax
and you need to have
a friend to talk.
- Uh-huh.
- You want me to talk
- to the Marys?
- Mom come to help her.
- Oh, okay.
- You know.
- Uh-huh.
- That's why I come.
All right.
[music]
JUDY: I wanted to host
like a housewarming party
but then combine it
with the Lunar New Year.
- Uh-hmm.
- So have a Lunar New Year party
with my friends
and, like, family
so everyone can see the house
and we can celebrate
- the new together.
- Okay.
- What do you think?
- That's good.
- That's New Year lucky day.
- Yeah.
I feel like
with this new year,
I just wanna start, like, fresh
and start like being more open
with our family,
but I feel like
our family right now
is like a lot of things
are going on
so it's hard to talk.
Well, you can talk to me,
I can help you
but you never tell me.
Now it's just me
and the three kids
but also I've been spending
more time with someone
and I have a boyfriend
and I know that it's hard
for you to hear,
but it's just something
that I wanna let you know.
To me, I need somebody
and I want somebody
love my grandbaby,
- that important.
- Yes.
So I need to talk to them,
you need to meet with them
and say
do you love my grandbaby?
Can you care for my grandbaby?
That more important
than for you.
But even if you either
yes or no,
you have to know that
now that I'm 39 years old,
my life is gonna continue
on no matter what.
Do you think I'm reasonable
when I ask that?
- Yeah, that's very reasonable.
- Oh, cool.
So if I'm reasonable,
you should be go along with me.
I do go along with you, Dad.
- I'm just saying that...
- Okay.
...I'm a big girl now.
I wanna meet
and talk to the guy,
make sure he love
and care for my grandbaby,
that my number one objection,
right there.
But if he don't wanna meet me,
he don't wanna do...
and you decide you marry him,
everything you wanna do,
you can do your own,
I cannot stop you.
Uh, yeah.
But at that time,
I tell you one thing,
you broken my heart
and broken relationship
between me and you.
Uh-hmm. I understand that.
[music]
SINGER ♪ I am alive ♪
- Hi.
- WOMAN: Hi.
- How are you?
- Hi.
I need a medicine to help her.
WOMAN: Yeah. So Dr. Grayson,
she'll diagnose
- and ask you, like, questions.
- LESLEY: Uh-hmm.
Um, you guys can come with me.
- Okay.
LESLEY: I went through 10 years
of school
learning about medications.
Somehow, I don't think
Virgin Marys and herbalists
are the answers to my problems.
I'm Lesley, nice to meet you.
But what choice do I have?
I have to be respectful.
- Yes.
- How can I help you today?
HUE HO: I bring her
here help...to help her relax.
- Slow now and she, uh...
- DR. GRAYSON: Okay.
...she talk a lot, too.
Her husband is same thing,
that's why they fight,
they crazy.
I'm not crazy.
I'm a mother, and I'm a wife,
and a daughter-in-law,
I'm working a lot, too,
and I have a fulltime job,
it's a lot, you know.
- Talk a lot...real crazy!
That why I bring her
come over here.
Uh-huh.
How's your period now?
- My period?
- Uh-huh.
Normal, I guess.
- Let me see your tongue.
- My what?
- Your tongue.
- My tongue?
- Yes. Uh-huh.
Stick out.
- Lesley, she's the
good wife, good mother,
everything is good but one
thing, she's hard-headed.
Okay.
I think it's like a imbalance.
Your liver qi is too much.
- Oh, my qi is too much?
- Yeah,
and you need reduce some.
- Okay.
- DOCTOR: Yeah.
And you also
maybe you work too much.
- HUE: Yes.
- DOCTOR: Too much stress.
- Imbalance.
- You're right.
- DOCTOR: Yeah.
- LESLEY: Right.
Try to use some herb.
- To help my qi?
- DOCTOR: Yes.
- Okay.
- DOCTOR: Uh-hmm.
So I can write prescription
for you, get some herbs.
I hope it works.
[music]
LESLEY: So your mom took me
to an herbal place today.
She thinks my qi is off.
- Who thinks like that?
- My parents.
Why do you think
I am the way I am?
- Do you want a DP?
- Yeah.
It's gonna be one
of those nights, Lesley?
Yes.
What you've been up to?
I just did a few things,
you know, like I was...
double-checking with the florist
that you had talked to,
about your dad's retirement
party.
- Oh, okay.
- Anyways, do you have a straw?
- Yes, I do.
- Thank you.
JUDY: So what's going on
with the retirement party?
So I took him
to go look at a venue.
- All right.
- We show up there
and he basically...
was telling me how...
- he's not ready to retire.
- What?
That's what he flat out told me,
that he's not ready to retire.
- Why?
- Because his kids aren't ready.
How so?
You're divorced with three kids,
and your life
is kind of unstable.
Reagan's not married.
Okay. As if getting married
is all of a sudden
gonna make any different.
- Next?
- With Washington,
he says he has to grow up
a little bit more.
[scoffs]
First of all, he told you
but not me and Washington?
Washington's family
is really wearing me out.
My mother-in-law thinks
that herbs
are gonna fix everything,
my father-in-law
can't trust his kids,
and I'm stuck in the middle.
When he looks
at the three of us,
it's just disappointment
in his eyes, you know.
That's how we grew up, Lesley.
And when Washington
finds out what his dad said...
it's just gonna crush him.
We're never enough,
and to grow up that way,
it's hard.
[sighs]
[music]
SINGER: ♪ Jump ♪
♪ Jump, jump like a lion,
tangles in my hair ♪
♪ Do what I want
like a millionaire, jump ♪
JUDY: When I spend time
with my family, I feel worried,
I feel like I should be
doing something more.
SINGER: ♪ I'm living
my best life ♪
- Cheers, babe.
- JUDY: Cheers baby.
And that really makes me
appreciate my time with Nate
because that's when I feel free.
You look amazingly babe.
NATE: You look fantastic.
JUDY: You really made
an effort today.
Really?
Unlike the other day?
Well, I mean,
not like when I first met you,
you look like college kid
and like...
I did look bad
- when I first met you.
- I wasn't as impressed
then as I am now.
But yeah, back then, I didn't
think we would ever date.
- Yeah?
- You were so dismissive.
What happened?
Remind me.
- Uh, we came back from golf...
- Oh.
- ...and...yeah.
- I remember this story.
- Yeah, I see Franklin...
- Okay.
...your cousin, I was like,
"Hey, Judy, this is Nate.
"He's in pre-med,
he's gonna be a doctor."
And you looked at me,
you rolled your eyes, and said,
"So what? I'm a lawyer."
I'm so embarrassed.
And then I didn't see you
again for five years.
- Yeah?
- So good first impression.
But I'm so embarrassed
that I was acting that way,
that's so snooty of me.
I don't think you're acting,
I think that was you.
- [laughs]
- Like, that was just you.
- Oh, I'm sorry.
- Just kidding.
- You weren't like that...
- I feel bad.
...the last five years,
you were better.
Thank you.
I feel like back then,
I was attracted to...
- the bad boy type, you know.
- Hmm.
There's something about them.
I felt like I could change them
or something,
you know what I mean?
Is that what
you're thinking now?
- What would change about me?
- No.
I would change nothing
about you.
- You're like the opposite...
- Uh-hmm.
...of what I used to be
attracted to.
You're stable, very thoughtful
and very considerate,
and you just make my life
easier.
- Okay.
- As complicated as it is
and dealing with kids
and my family,
and trying to get back on track
with my life,
I feel like you're there
to support me.
And you're like the one person
in my life
who doesn't ask anything
of me, you know.
- Right.
- I feel like everyone else
needs something from me
or I have to, like, live up
to their expectations
and make sure
that they're happy, you know?
It's hard being that
to everyone else.
But with you, I feel like
you don't require that of me.
You just made my life
so much better,
and I, I don't even know
how I'd be living
through everything right now
without you.
I feel like I'm
proposing to you.
I know. I was like, "Why aren't
you going to your knee?" Like...
I feel...I feel like I should
hand you a rose.
A rose?
- Like The Bachelor?
- Yeah.
You're turning 40.
What are you gonna
do for your birthday?
[sighs]
- What I want for my birthday?
- That, plus what do you do...
I would love to walk
into a room...
with you...
And to see all my family
and, like, 10 of
my closest friends,
and for everyone to be...
loving and accepting
of our relationship.
All of them? All 10
friends and your parents?
- Yeah.
- Okay.
- Because I feel like...
- Wow. That's a tall order.
...I would love to start
my 40th year, you know,
like, with all their love
and support behind us.
- Right.
- Because I feel like
I'm gonna be with you
and I want everyone
to be on board with that.
I wish I could clone myself
so that I could be like,
the perfect mother
for my children,
the perfect girlfriend for you,
and the perfect daughter
for my parents.
You need all three of those
to be the one person?
Do you know how hard that is?
Like, it's draining.
Like, at the end of the day,
I'm just like,
once I give everything
I can to my kids,
- there's nothing left for me.
- Uh-hmm.
And I'm just literally
just trying to survive,
and that's just not enough
for me anymore.
I remember
when we first started talking.
- Yeah.
- You were so different.
- You know, like, we were just...
- What do you mean?
We were just friends
in public, right?
You put up this front.
Because I feel
like this...my whole life,
like, I just have to put up
a front
and make sure that,
you know,
that my family
is taken care of
and that we look good
and that...
that everything looks good
for me outside.
But the inside is just so hard
- to keep up with that.
- I know.
Babe, I know
it's been hard for you though.
- I know.
- You know that?
At the same time,
I feel like, you know,
my life has been so good
that I shouldn't feel
what I feel.
- That's bull shit.
- I feel...I feel guilty
- for feeling what I feel.
- [sighs]
Everybody in their own
social situation
has their own problems.
I know. But I have it so good.
I see so many people struggling
and I feel like
if they had what I had,
that I feel like I
shouldn't complain.
I don't think that's
true, though.
- Really?
- Yeah.
Because I really feel like
you're gonna have
your own problems
no matter what level
of financial status you're at.
I've seen people
who make a tenth of what we make
be happy with their
husbands and wives
and families, and whatever not.
Even without all that stuff,
we'd be happy.
- We would be happy.
- [chuckles]
Like you always say,
it's just money.
[laughs]
That's why I love you,
you know that?
I really feel that, you know.
Yeah. I feel that way, too.
[music]
Babe.
WASHINGTON: Huh?
LESLEY: What are you doing?
Getting sexy.
What are you wearing?
You look like you're...
like, strip tease
or something.
- I'm getting ready for tonight.
What is tonight?
What do you mean, babe?
It's your favorite outfit.
What?
I'm getting laid tonight,
I don't know about you.
Well, uh, if you're getting
laid, I hope that I'm there.
We're gonna make love, right?
- Okay.
- Yeah.
Why are you wearing shoes
in the house?
To make you feel
like 15 years ago.
What's 15 years ago?
I used to wear these...
- so that...
- To give you confidence?
...when I dated white girls
and they'd be think I'm tall.
And then after I leave
in the morning,
they're like,
"What the fuck?"
Yeah.
It just opened up
the whole market for me.
Now, what are you drinking?
Chinese herbs?
We went, uh, herbal shopping
to see a doctor,
and she prescribed some herbs
that's supposed
to increase my qi.
Your qi?
- Because of the stress...
- Yeah, yours is off, I agree.
I don't think your qi's
on balance, either.
Dude.
I definitely think you need
a big pot of this.
It's never on balance, it's me.
I know.
So you want me to be balanced.
I want you to drink some tea.
Yeah. Bring it to me.
I'll do anything
to make you happy.
You gonna sit right here.
I'm good.
Why can't you sit next to me?
I'm okay,
I wanna talk to you.
You spend a lot of money
buying like, such lavish gifts
that I...
don't necessarily need.
Sometimes I feel
like a little insecure
about our relationship,
so sometimes, you know,
I'm at the store
or just think about how
I can make my wife happy.
But as, uh, a mother
and as a wife,
it's not wrong
to have extra money
for security purposes, right,
- in case something goes wrong.
- Okay.
Well, I won't buy
any more gifts.
Washington has no idea
that his father came to me
and basically said
that he's irresponsible.
- And with my son looks
like he's immature.
I gave him the chance to
handle some business
but i don't see any good yet.
So, I don't think
he's ready yet.
And at moments like these...
I can't argue with him.
Materialistic things
- don't make me happy.
- I know. I know.
You know, it's like, it's...
you're taking accountability,
you communicating with me,
from your mom.
and I don't have to hear things
Okay.
Um, I just think that,
you know, the issues
that we have,
you don't have to call
and talk to her all the time.
Okay.
Every time I have an issue
with you,
I talk to you about it.
You don't...you don't always
talk to me about it.
If you would talk to me,
I wouldn't have to go to my mom.
I have to talk to somebody.
I'm just saying, like,
your mother is trying to help
our marriage again.
I'm just asking you to talk
to me first if we have issues
and not go running
to your mother.
Look, I'm her son,
you have a son.
One day when they're older,
then you can talk.
Yeah, I've made some mistakes
with us
or with my mom
or whatever,
but you still have to
forgive me.
Lesley, what does Washington
need forgiveness for?
[sighs]
When we started this project,
we had a secret
in our marriage.
I was scared of it coming out
because it was so raw
and so new,
and it's, um, something that
we're still...
dealing with.
I haven't even quite told
my mom,
because I don't want her
to worry.
You know, I think
another issue is, like,
all I have here
is your family.
- I don't have friends...
- Lesley...
- I need to have people
that are not just your friends
and your family,
- that's mine.
- Lesley.
You could do whatever you want,
you can have as many friends
as you want, okay?
I'm not from here.
I don't have anybody,
I moved here for you.
You know, so it gets lonely
sometimes,
and you don't get that.
Why do you always feel lonely
when my family is here?
They're your family,
they're not my family,
and it's different.
You know, we're going through
a tough time.
I think I'm more aware of it
than he is.
I mean, is this my role now?
Am I supposed to, as a wife,
just be quiet and deal
with all of this silently?
It's just too much.
My greatest fear is that
it's gonna tear
my marriage apart.
[sighs]
But I love you and our kids.
I know.
I hope it's not too late
to make amends with you.
SINGER: ♪ Oh ♪
♪ Make it rain, make it rain ♪
♪ I don't care
'cause it's all the same ♪
♪ I'mma make the best
of any situation ♪
♪ Make it rain, make it rain ♪
♪ I don't care, I'mma be happy ♪
♪ No, you can never rain on me ♪
[music]
SINGER: ♪ Can't nobody
hold me down ♪
♪ I'm steady walking
like I got ♪
♪ Three commas
in my bank account ♪
♪ Living loud,
So get your cameras out ♪
♪ I probably do the same thing
if I was you ♪
♪ Looking at me now, now ♪
♪ Hmm, put up your lights ♪
♪ And keep them flashin' ♪
♪ Don't ever put them
down, down, down ♪
♪ Look at me now ♪
[music]
SINGER: ♪ I'm just focused
on me ♪
♪ I'm just focused on me ♪
♪ I got it, I got it ♪
JUDY HO: It's crazy.
I feel like
I'm in my own
romantic comedy.
LESLEY HO: Are you
in love with him?
- Yeah. We're in love.
- Okay.
We're in that
honeymoon phase right now
where it's super fun,
and everything he says
is like the greatest thing
I've ever heard.
And you laugh
at every little thing...
- Yeah.
- ...even his nerdy jokes?
It's just like a total change
from like what it was like
being married. Because when
you're in marriage
and you're unhappy and you're
like, "What the fuck."
"Is this gonna be
the rest of my life?"
Uh-hmm. When Judy told us
she was getting divorced
I was completely dumbfounded
because as women
in the Vietnamese culture
we're supposed to be the person
that keeps the family together.
And I feel like we both
got out of that headspace
and now we're like,
we still have that giddiness,
you know, that you have
when in your first love.
- First day?
- Yeah.
LESLEY: But I've never seen
Judy glow like this.
She's like a little
teenaged girl.
And she's put herself
as a priority
where she hasn't done so
in the past.
- We're totally compatible.
- I just never see you
- with an, a nerdy guy.
- Why is that?
I feel like you always date
like the kind of cool,
- Fonzie type guys.
- Fonzie?
- Yeah.
- What's Fonzie?
Like where they walk
in their own they're like hey.
I don't even know
what that means.
- You've never watched...
- No.
- Happy Days?
- No.
- You're deprived.
- He kind of reminds me
of Ross from Friends,
your favorite show.
- Oh, I love Ross.
- Okay.
- He reminds me of that.
- Have you told Wash?
- No.
- He's gonna die
- when he finds out.
- Oh, he'll be fine.
Washington is so nosy,
he's always been involved
in my dating life.
He thinks everyone needs
either his permission
or it should be someone
he approves of,
- like he's the gatekeeper.
- All right. So tell me,
what's the next
serious step, then?
The next serious step
will be talking about,
like, if we were able to,
like, move in together
or even get married, like,
we've talked about that.
- Really?
- Yeah.
- I didn't know that.
- Yeah.
Like, I feel like
it's a second chance at love.
- Yeah.
- And a second chance at life
where anything is possible.
I love that.
- Sounds good, right?
- Sounds good.
You want some?
[laughs]
[music]
Do we have one
like that already?
- Yeah. Mango.
- We can do mango margarita.
That's a Vietnamese.
TINA: It's good, too.
I love go to Asian's Market
because it has all the candy,
food, flower,
the old traditional
Vietnamese style.
They make me feel like
I'm in Vietnam again.
You should pick good one.
That means you're lucky.
Oh, really?
I'm lucky.
I have both worlds.
When I arrived to United States,
my name is Thienhuong.
What are we here for, anyway?
- I have to buy some catfish.
With my friend at school
they cannot pronounce,
they said Thien...
Thienhuong?
Thien, ah, Thien what?
We're gonna get something
to drink, too, right?
Some alcohol, tequila.
So I said, "Fuck it.
My name is Tina."
So, what kind of fish
we're gonna get?
- Catfish? Ew.
- Uh-huh.
- The live one or the dead one?
- Get the live one.
There's a live one.
- Look at that one.
- TINA: Whew. Thanks.
- HUE: That one.
TINA: Let's go
get some crab.
They have live crab,
live fish. Everything live.
Even the escargot.
Come on, baby, let's go,
you got to go.
I pick all the big ones...
...and it's all boy, no girl.
- Ow, woo.
- HUE: Here, here.
TINA: Ow, ow.
That's why you don't get a girl!
Girls are mean!
- Are you okay?
- It's okay.
- I think about Vietnam a lot.
Very beautiful.
- Yes.
- You got a Band-Aid?
- I have a bandage.
- Come on, let's go
get some wine.
Forget about fish.
- I would like to
move to Vietnam.
to stay like, 3 or 4 months,
then come back here
and come back there, like that.
Woo, finally,
oh my God. Thank God.
- HUE: It make you happy, huh?
- Yeah.
- But I worry about my kids.
I'm gonna get drunk
after all this.
- If they still need a lot of
help I have to stay here.
Perfect. Let's go.
You're out of here.
- Fish.
LESLEY: Nika, what is that?
- Fish?
TINA: Hold on,
this way. You see it?
- One, two, and three that's it.
- JUDY: I got it.
TINA: - of it.
- JUDY: I got it.
- LESLEY: You got it?
JUDY: When it comes
to east meets west,
I feel like I definitely
lean more towards west.
I think that's a huge reason
why me and my mom
can't confide in each other.
- Is that enough or more, Mom?
- More.
More?
She feels eastern values
where the women defer
to the men in the family.
Time to put it in the oven.
And I, on the other hand,
just don't agree with everything
she's trying to teach me.
WASHINGTON HO: This is the best
way to start Sunday fun day.
Dad, you want
the first piece of the fish?
- Yes, please.
- JUDY: Would you like to taste
- my masterpiece?
- Am I gonna get sick?
JUDY: No, you will not.
- TINA: My God.
- WASHINGTON: Because it's her,
I don't wanna walk back here,
like, every two seconds.
SAMMY:
Tina's my mom's younger sister.
I'm gonna make
a toast for you.
I feel like of all
of the brothers and sisters,
she's more Americanized.
You're married, staying married,
have kids,
I never think
you get this far.
Cheers.
I feel the cousins feel
SAMMY: Because of that
more comfortable around her.
She doesn't judge you.
All right, guys.
I got a few gifts
for some of y'all and this is
just a token of my appreciation.
- Judy, I'll go with you first.
- JUDY: Oh.
WASHINGTON: The way I express
my love is just by sharing
the things that I can afford
with my friends or my wife,
or my family.
TINA:
I wonder what it is.
Oh, thank you.
Growing up, it's just
what my dad taught me.
- JUDY: It's a bracelet.
- TINA: Oh, awesome.
- So pretty.
- WASHINGTON: Dad.
I wanna make you the man.
LESLEY: Oh, my gosh.
Just put them on, Dad.
- Y'all look cool.
- JUDY: Oh, my gosh.
- Yeah.
- No, let me take
a picture of this.
- BINH: Look like Blader, huh?
- [laughs]
You know
all the females are like.
You know what they're
thinking, right, Dad?
- JUDY: What are they thinking?
- LESLEY: Tell me
- what I'm thinking.
- Where did that money
come from?
This is for the lady
that stands by me.
- TINA: Believe in you.
- Just something for you.
- LESLEY: Thank you.
- TINA: Yay.
You really didn't
have to, honey.
I know I didn't have to,
but I wanted to.
LESLEY: It's the last thing
that Washington needs
to be doing right now.
Buying expensive gifts
for everyone to for
no reason at all.
- TINA: Another diamond.
- You like it?
TINA: You wanna put it on
for her?
LESLEY: The pressure
that his father put on me,
of whipping Washington
into shape,
I feel like I fail because
if he was accountable,
my father-in-law could retire.
I already have a necklace
though, honey.
I love this necklace.
- WASHINGTON: What?
- I love this necklace.
This is what you gave me
for our wedding.
So you don't want this?
LESLEY: I think
it's nice but, you know,
I think we could have spent
that money somewhere else.
Really? So I can return this?
JUDY: Oh,
I'm gonna keep eating.
- HUE: There's a lot of food.
- LESLEY: If you...well,
I'm just saying you could have
just spent that money
- somewhere else.
- It makes me feel bad.
And that's why
I don't ever buy her gifts.
You know what?
I put it in my pocket,
go to the store,
get my cash back,
I'mma go party with it.
[music]
[crickets chirping]
MCKINLEY HO: Ma, I got it.
JUDY: Okay. That's dirty,
then don't eat that one.
MCKINLEY: No. I got it,
not another one.
JUDY: Thank you for asking
so nicely, McKinley.
- I'm not nicely.
JUDY: You're not being nice,
I know.
I'm so happy
to be in my new house,
and out of Washington
and Lesley's.
You got to save some
for Grandpa and Grandma.
I made this for them.
I feel like this is a new Judy,
like I'm ready to move on.
The house is so beautiful,
and it symbolizes the next
chapter of my life.
HUE: Hello, Judy.
- Hi.
- JUDY: Hi, Mom.
- You got a new house.
- No house is complete
without this.
Oh, look who's here.
- Congratulations.
- JUDY: Oh, thank you.
Such a classy gift
from Washington as always.
- SAMMY: Hey, Judy.
- JUDY: Welcome, welcome,
oh, thank you.
I love orchids.
- Oh, I like it.
- TINA: Let's party.
- WASHINGTON: All right. Judy.
- JUDY: Yay.
- WASHINGTON: Congratulations.
- JUDY: Thank you.
WASHINGTON: Welcome
to the neighborhood, Judy.
JUDY: Better life.
A toast to Mom and Dad,
I wouldn't be here today
without them.
Well, we wish you
good luck in your new ventures.
- JUDY: Thank you.
- To see you happy
for the house
and with your kids.
- JUDY: Thank you.
- For the new chapter in life.
- Cheers to that.
- And I want you to move on
and have most happy
and no matter what.
You're the best.
- I love you.
- Let's party.
I can't wait for you
to host Thanksgiving
- and Christmas this year.
- You guys are welcome here
24/7, come anytime.
[music]
WASHINGTON:
The soup is good, Mom.
- HUE: Yeah?
- WASHINGTON: Yeah.
Mom, what do you think about,
you know,
when Dad used to buy you gifts?
I feel he love me,
he think about me.
- Right.
- Uh-huh.
Did you care, you know,
what kind of gift that was
- or how much it cost or...
- Why?
- Lesley got all mad at me.
- Yes.
And I don't know
how to talk to her.
- You spend a lot.
- But I don't just
buy to buy it, you know.
Sometimes I feel like,
you know,
I need to remind my wife
that I love her.
- Right.
- In a romantic way.
Oh, she a good wife.
Right.
She worries about the
budget, and the family.
She always worries
about the budget.
Yes.
And that's why, you know,
when you told me
to marry Lesley
I know I can be successful
but it's not always easy.
You want me to help?
- I'll talk to her.
- Yeah.
- I will try.
- Yeah.
This fruit is good, Mom,
but do you have that Vietnamese
cookie that I really love?
- Oh, yes. Uh-huh.
- You do?
My mother giving me
the ultimatum
or the thought that
if I married Lesley
I wouldn't have to worry
about anything
for the rest of my life,
it's gonna take some time
until we know
that decision's correct
because who knows
what Lesley's up to?
We've seen what happened
to Judy, right?
So, you know,
we're in America,
American wives are different
from the old-fashioned
Asian wives,
they don't put up with shit.
Got a beautiful wife,
- you know, she works.
- Uh-huh.
A little mean, but it's okay.
I very love you.
- I love you, too.
- Listen to me, okay?
I'll help to keep your
marriage good.
I don't want to see,
like, your sister.
- Okay?
- All right.
Uh-hmm.
Okay.
[music]
JUDY: It's Washington's
favorite restaurant.
Me too. We've been
here many times.
Even though I left
Washington's house,
he still comes by every day,
he just walks over.
That's Washington
is Washington.
- I know.
- He act like he don't care
but he really a family man,
love, wife, kid,
brother, sister, parents.
Do you feel like, um,
maybe he is the way he is
because you raised me
differently from him.
No, I'm not.
I'm not really aware
with everything,
the same thing,
same style, same love.
Uh, I'm not saying
that you love him more than me,
I'm just saying
that when we're younger,
I feel like you treated me
like there's a hard line,
like I had to follow the rules,
you were a lot more strict on me
than you were with
Washington and Reagan.
Me and Wash have
a younger brother named Reagan.
Reagan doesn't drink
the same Kool-Aid
that that the rest of us drink.
Because of that,
we don't see him as often.
He has an opinion and
he's not afraid to express it.
I felt like
if they made a mistake,
you would try to help them,
but at the same time
if I'd made a mistake, you know,
there was a lot more punishment
and there was a lot more,
like, disappointment
that you showed
than when the boys did
something.
Let me tell you
that our Asian culture.
Uh-hmm.
In our Asian culture
the older sister
Yes. [speaks Vietnamese]
- is like a second mother.
- That's how I feel.
- Yes, that it is.
- That's how I feel.
- You are the second mother.
- That's why the older sister
always try to protect
the young brother.
Yes.
- And the young brother fee
like, "Oh, new I want, like, my
second mother
- Uh-hmm.
- so anything I need she will
take care of for me."
I'm the first person,
if they don't know what to do.
- I know.
- If they get in trouble,
- they call me.
- I thank you very much,
I appreciate you very much
but that it is.
[music]
SINGER: ♪ We don't need
a lot of money ♪
♪ I am richer with you ♪
- Hey, Ma.
- My girl. Uh-huh.
What are you doing?
Oh, I bring the Mary
to bless your house.
- My house?
- Yes.
- Why, what did I do?
- Because of...here,
right here, okay?
Beautiful.
I'm used to my mother-in-law
showing up at my house
with Virgin Marys.
It's just what she does.
One more to put in here.
You have another one?
Yeah. Small one.
LESLEY HO: The point
of the Virgin Marys
is to remind me and Washington
to pray.
There must be like a Costco
for Virgin Marys or something,
she buys it in bulk.
So you bring me Maries
and you want to talk to me?
- Yes. Uh-huh.
- Am I in trouble?
No, Washington, uh,
ask me come to talk to you,
to help you.
- To help me?
- Uh-huh.
- Lesley.
- Uh-huh.
I'm appreciate
and I do love you.
- I love you, too.
- You know that.
- I know you do.
- Yeah. Yeah. That's why I...
I worry about you
and Washington.
I want Vergin Mary help
Washington and Lesley
anytime they fight.
Tell her what's wrong
and what's right
and you believe, she can
help you help your family.
I want to take you
to the herb place.
- The herb place?
- Yeah.
- To find...
- Like tea.
- To make me relax?
- Yes.
You need to relax
and you need to have
a friend to talk.
- Uh-huh.
- You want me to talk
- to the Marys?
- Mom come to help her.
- Oh, okay.
- You know.
- Uh-huh.
- That's why I come.
All right.
[music]
JUDY: I wanted to host
like a housewarming party
but then combine it
with the Lunar New Year.
- Uh-hmm.
- So have a Lunar New Year party
with my friends
and, like, family
so everyone can see the house
and we can celebrate
- the new together.
- Okay.
- What do you think?
- That's good.
- That's New Year lucky day.
- Yeah.
I feel like
with this new year,
I just wanna start, like, fresh
and start like being more open
with our family,
but I feel like
our family right now
is like a lot of things
are going on
so it's hard to talk.
Well, you can talk to me,
I can help you
but you never tell me.
Now it's just me
and the three kids
but also I've been spending
more time with someone
and I have a boyfriend
and I know that it's hard
for you to hear,
but it's just something
that I wanna let you know.
To me, I need somebody
and I want somebody
love my grandbaby,
- that important.
- Yes.
So I need to talk to them,
you need to meet with them
and say
do you love my grandbaby?
Can you care for my grandbaby?
That more important
than for you.
But even if you either
yes or no,
you have to know that
now that I'm 39 years old,
my life is gonna continue
on no matter what.
Do you think I'm reasonable
when I ask that?
- Yeah, that's very reasonable.
- Oh, cool.
So if I'm reasonable,
you should be go along with me.
I do go along with you, Dad.
- I'm just saying that...
- Okay.
...I'm a big girl now.
I wanna meet
and talk to the guy,
make sure he love
and care for my grandbaby,
that my number one objection,
right there.
But if he don't wanna meet me,
he don't wanna do...
and you decide you marry him,
everything you wanna do,
you can do your own,
I cannot stop you.
Uh, yeah.
But at that time,
I tell you one thing,
you broken my heart
and broken relationship
between me and you.
Uh-hmm. I understand that.
[music]
SINGER ♪ I am alive ♪
- Hi.
- WOMAN: Hi.
- How are you?
- Hi.
I need a medicine to help her.
WOMAN: Yeah. So Dr. Grayson,
she'll diagnose
- and ask you, like, questions.
- LESLEY: Uh-hmm.
Um, you guys can come with me.
- Okay.
LESLEY: I went through 10 years
of school
learning about medications.
Somehow, I don't think
Virgin Marys and herbalists
are the answers to my problems.
I'm Lesley, nice to meet you.
But what choice do I have?
I have to be respectful.
- Yes.
- How can I help you today?
HUE HO: I bring her
here help...to help her relax.
- Slow now and she, uh...
- DR. GRAYSON: Okay.
...she talk a lot, too.
Her husband is same thing,
that's why they fight,
they crazy.
I'm not crazy.
I'm a mother, and I'm a wife,
and a daughter-in-law,
I'm working a lot, too,
and I have a fulltime job,
it's a lot, you know.
- Talk a lot...real crazy!
That why I bring her
come over here.
Uh-huh.
How's your period now?
- My period?
- Uh-huh.
Normal, I guess.
- Let me see your tongue.
- My what?
- Your tongue.
- My tongue?
- Yes. Uh-huh.
Stick out.
- Lesley, she's the
good wife, good mother,
everything is good but one
thing, she's hard-headed.
Okay.
I think it's like a imbalance.
Your liver qi is too much.
- Oh, my qi is too much?
- Yeah,
and you need reduce some.
- Okay.
- DOCTOR: Yeah.
And you also
maybe you work too much.
- HUE: Yes.
- DOCTOR: Too much stress.
- Imbalance.
- You're right.
- DOCTOR: Yeah.
- LESLEY: Right.
Try to use some herb.
- To help my qi?
- DOCTOR: Yes.
- Okay.
- DOCTOR: Uh-hmm.
So I can write prescription
for you, get some herbs.
I hope it works.
[music]
LESLEY: So your mom took me
to an herbal place today.
She thinks my qi is off.
- Who thinks like that?
- My parents.
Why do you think
I am the way I am?
- Do you want a DP?
- Yeah.
It's gonna be one
of those nights, Lesley?
Yes.
What you've been up to?
I just did a few things,
you know, like I was...
double-checking with the florist
that you had talked to,
about your dad's retirement
party.
- Oh, okay.
- Anyways, do you have a straw?
- Yes, I do.
- Thank you.
JUDY: So what's going on
with the retirement party?
So I took him
to go look at a venue.
- All right.
- We show up there
and he basically...
was telling me how...
- he's not ready to retire.
- What?
That's what he flat out told me,
that he's not ready to retire.
- Why?
- Because his kids aren't ready.
How so?
You're divorced with three kids,
and your life
is kind of unstable.
Reagan's not married.
Okay. As if getting married
is all of a sudden
gonna make any different.
- Next?
- With Washington,
he says he has to grow up
a little bit more.
[scoffs]
First of all, he told you
but not me and Washington?
Washington's family
is really wearing me out.
My mother-in-law thinks
that herbs
are gonna fix everything,
my father-in-law
can't trust his kids,
and I'm stuck in the middle.
When he looks
at the three of us,
it's just disappointment
in his eyes, you know.
That's how we grew up, Lesley.
And when Washington
finds out what his dad said...
it's just gonna crush him.
We're never enough,
and to grow up that way,
it's hard.
[sighs]
[music]
SINGER: ♪ Jump ♪
♪ Jump, jump like a lion,
tangles in my hair ♪
♪ Do what I want
like a millionaire, jump ♪
JUDY: When I spend time
with my family, I feel worried,
I feel like I should be
doing something more.
SINGER: ♪ I'm living
my best life ♪
- Cheers, babe.
- JUDY: Cheers baby.
And that really makes me
appreciate my time with Nate
because that's when I feel free.
You look amazingly babe.
NATE: You look fantastic.
JUDY: You really made
an effort today.
Really?
Unlike the other day?
Well, I mean,
not like when I first met you,
you look like college kid
and like...
I did look bad
- when I first met you.
- I wasn't as impressed
then as I am now.
But yeah, back then, I didn't
think we would ever date.
- Yeah?
- You were so dismissive.
What happened?
Remind me.
- Uh, we came back from golf...
- Oh.
- ...and...yeah.
- I remember this story.
- Yeah, I see Franklin...
- Okay.
...your cousin, I was like,
"Hey, Judy, this is Nate.
"He's in pre-med,
he's gonna be a doctor."
And you looked at me,
you rolled your eyes, and said,
"So what? I'm a lawyer."
I'm so embarrassed.
And then I didn't see you
again for five years.
- Yeah?
- So good first impression.
But I'm so embarrassed
that I was acting that way,
that's so snooty of me.
I don't think you're acting,
I think that was you.
- [laughs]
- Like, that was just you.
- Oh, I'm sorry.
- Just kidding.
- You weren't like that...
- I feel bad.
...the last five years,
you were better.
Thank you.
I feel like back then,
I was attracted to...
- the bad boy type, you know.
- Hmm.
There's something about them.
I felt like I could change them
or something,
you know what I mean?
Is that what
you're thinking now?
- What would change about me?
- No.
I would change nothing
about you.
- You're like the opposite...
- Uh-hmm.
...of what I used to be
attracted to.
You're stable, very thoughtful
and very considerate,
and you just make my life
easier.
- Okay.
- As complicated as it is
and dealing with kids
and my family,
and trying to get back on track
with my life,
I feel like you're there
to support me.
And you're like the one person
in my life
who doesn't ask anything
of me, you know.
- Right.
- I feel like everyone else
needs something from me
or I have to, like, live up
to their expectations
and make sure
that they're happy, you know?
It's hard being that
to everyone else.
But with you, I feel like
you don't require that of me.
You just made my life
so much better,
and I, I don't even know
how I'd be living
through everything right now
without you.
I feel like I'm
proposing to you.
I know. I was like, "Why aren't
you going to your knee?" Like...
I feel...I feel like I should
hand you a rose.
A rose?
- Like The Bachelor?
- Yeah.
You're turning 40.
What are you gonna
do for your birthday?
[sighs]
- What I want for my birthday?
- That, plus what do you do...
I would love to walk
into a room...
with you...
And to see all my family
and, like, 10 of
my closest friends,
and for everyone to be...
loving and accepting
of our relationship.
All of them? All 10
friends and your parents?
- Yeah.
- Okay.
- Because I feel like...
- Wow. That's a tall order.
...I would love to start
my 40th year, you know,
like, with all their love
and support behind us.
- Right.
- Because I feel like
I'm gonna be with you
and I want everyone
to be on board with that.
I wish I could clone myself
so that I could be like,
the perfect mother
for my children,
the perfect girlfriend for you,
and the perfect daughter
for my parents.
You need all three of those
to be the one person?
Do you know how hard that is?
Like, it's draining.
Like, at the end of the day,
I'm just like,
once I give everything
I can to my kids,
- there's nothing left for me.
- Uh-hmm.
And I'm just literally
just trying to survive,
and that's just not enough
for me anymore.
I remember
when we first started talking.
- Yeah.
- You were so different.
- You know, like, we were just...
- What do you mean?
We were just friends
in public, right?
You put up this front.
Because I feel
like this...my whole life,
like, I just have to put up
a front
and make sure that,
you know,
that my family
is taken care of
and that we look good
and that...
that everything looks good
for me outside.
But the inside is just so hard
- to keep up with that.
- I know.
Babe, I know
it's been hard for you though.
- I know.
- You know that?
At the same time,
I feel like, you know,
my life has been so good
that I shouldn't feel
what I feel.
- That's bull shit.
- I feel...I feel guilty
- for feeling what I feel.
- [sighs]
Everybody in their own
social situation
has their own problems.
I know. But I have it so good.
I see so many people struggling
and I feel like
if they had what I had,
that I feel like I
shouldn't complain.
I don't think that's
true, though.
- Really?
- Yeah.
Because I really feel like
you're gonna have
your own problems
no matter what level
of financial status you're at.
I've seen people
who make a tenth of what we make
be happy with their
husbands and wives
and families, and whatever not.
Even without all that stuff,
we'd be happy.
- We would be happy.
- [chuckles]
Like you always say,
it's just money.
[laughs]
That's why I love you,
you know that?
I really feel that, you know.
Yeah. I feel that way, too.
[music]
Babe.
WASHINGTON: Huh?
LESLEY: What are you doing?
Getting sexy.
What are you wearing?
You look like you're...
like, strip tease
or something.
- I'm getting ready for tonight.
What is tonight?
What do you mean, babe?
It's your favorite outfit.
What?
I'm getting laid tonight,
I don't know about you.
Well, uh, if you're getting
laid, I hope that I'm there.
We're gonna make love, right?
- Okay.
- Yeah.
Why are you wearing shoes
in the house?
To make you feel
like 15 years ago.
What's 15 years ago?
I used to wear these...
- so that...
- To give you confidence?
...when I dated white girls
and they'd be think I'm tall.
And then after I leave
in the morning,
they're like,
"What the fuck?"
Yeah.
It just opened up
the whole market for me.
Now, what are you drinking?
Chinese herbs?
We went, uh, herbal shopping
to see a doctor,
and she prescribed some herbs
that's supposed
to increase my qi.
Your qi?
- Because of the stress...
- Yeah, yours is off, I agree.
I don't think your qi's
on balance, either.
Dude.
I definitely think you need
a big pot of this.
It's never on balance, it's me.
I know.
So you want me to be balanced.
I want you to drink some tea.
Yeah. Bring it to me.
I'll do anything
to make you happy.
You gonna sit right here.
I'm good.
Why can't you sit next to me?
I'm okay,
I wanna talk to you.
You spend a lot of money
buying like, such lavish gifts
that I...
don't necessarily need.
Sometimes I feel
like a little insecure
about our relationship,
so sometimes, you know,
I'm at the store
or just think about how
I can make my wife happy.
But as, uh, a mother
and as a wife,
it's not wrong
to have extra money
for security purposes, right,
- in case something goes wrong.
- Okay.
Well, I won't buy
any more gifts.
Washington has no idea
that his father came to me
and basically said
that he's irresponsible.
- And with my son looks
like he's immature.
I gave him the chance to
handle some business
but i don't see any good yet.
So, I don't think
he's ready yet.
And at moments like these...
I can't argue with him.
Materialistic things
- don't make me happy.
- I know. I know.
You know, it's like, it's...
you're taking accountability,
you communicating with me,
from your mom.
and I don't have to hear things
Okay.
Um, I just think that,
you know, the issues
that we have,
you don't have to call
and talk to her all the time.
Okay.
Every time I have an issue
with you,
I talk to you about it.
You don't...you don't always
talk to me about it.
If you would talk to me,
I wouldn't have to go to my mom.
I have to talk to somebody.
I'm just saying, like,
your mother is trying to help
our marriage again.
I'm just asking you to talk
to me first if we have issues
and not go running
to your mother.
Look, I'm her son,
you have a son.
One day when they're older,
then you can talk.
Yeah, I've made some mistakes
with us
or with my mom
or whatever,
but you still have to
forgive me.
Lesley, what does Washington
need forgiveness for?
[sighs]
When we started this project,
we had a secret
in our marriage.
I was scared of it coming out
because it was so raw
and so new,
and it's, um, something that
we're still...
dealing with.
I haven't even quite told
my mom,
because I don't want her
to worry.
You know, I think
another issue is, like,
all I have here
is your family.
- I don't have friends...
- Lesley...
- I need to have people
that are not just your friends
and your family,
- that's mine.
- Lesley.
You could do whatever you want,
you can have as many friends
as you want, okay?
I'm not from here.
I don't have anybody,
I moved here for you.
You know, so it gets lonely
sometimes,
and you don't get that.
Why do you always feel lonely
when my family is here?
They're your family,
they're not my family,
and it's different.
You know, we're going through
a tough time.
I think I'm more aware of it
than he is.
I mean, is this my role now?
Am I supposed to, as a wife,
just be quiet and deal
with all of this silently?
It's just too much.
My greatest fear is that
it's gonna tear
my marriage apart.
[sighs]
But I love you and our kids.
I know.
I hope it's not too late
to make amends with you.
SINGER: ♪ Oh ♪
♪ Make it rain, make it rain ♪
♪ I don't care
'cause it's all the same ♪
♪ I'mma make the best
of any situation ♪
♪ Make it rain, make it rain ♪
♪ I don't care, I'mma be happy ♪
♪ No, you can never rain on me ♪
[music]