Family Karma (2020–…): Season 1, Episode 8 - An Engagement to Remember - full transcript

- Previously on

- Previously on
"Family Karma"...

- Our parents basically
founded this community.

They had arranged marriages.
We have arranged friendships.

- Ew!

- Please have a child.

- I've moved home
and regressed 12 years.

- I check all the boxes
for my parents.

But the most important box,
bringing a daughter-in-law--

nope.

Option C, Nicholas.



- I think it would be nice
to be engaged

within the next 12 months.
- Uh...

You know, sometimes you love
the person but you want,

"What else is there?"

Like, "Is there
something else out there?"

- You're not wearing flannel.

- You don't put all of this
in flannel.

- Are you guys getting married?
- Definitely in our future.

- What are you guys
talking about?

- Not you.

- Are you guys dating?
- These past couple months,

I just started looking
at her differently.

Look at this new
and improved Brian.

Are you saying there's no shot?



- I see you as a friend.

- Monica's like the daughter
my mom never had.

She cooks. She's veg.
She doesn't have sex.

I know how to do all those
things--I just don't do them.

- The person to your left--
predict

where they're gonna be
at 2:00 a.m. tonight.

- Monica will be
in Brian's room.

Oh, sh--!

- Right now, Anisha,
I kind of don't like you.

- Good to know.

- Oh, my God.

- Richa is the love of my life.

I want to plan a traditional
engagement ceremony.

- Why don't you call my mom
and ask her first?

- I wish we could just brush
everything underneath the rug.

- I was really taken back
by Lopa.

What was she thinking?

- I have tried my best
to be civil,

but I feel like
she doesn't give a sh--

about what's important
for the kids.

- What do you think I should do

when your mom comes to my house?

- Let your balls drop
and become a man.

- What?

- If I tell you to leave Vishal,

are you gonna leave him?

Marriage means
two families together.

But they try to cut me out.

Two things I don't tolerate--
lies and disrespect.

- I've had it.

- He did nothing but plan
this engagement ceremony.

- One, two.
Wrong foot, left foot. Yeah.

- For your centerpieces,
I would go with hydrangeas.

- Hy--
- Drangea.

- He stopped working.

He could have done many
more deals.

He didn't do it.

He was very focused
on the party.

- One step at a time.

- So this is
the oceanfront deck.

It can feel like
you're really in the ocean.

- That was my one requirement.
Now if she's happy, I'm happy.

I've definitely
taken the wheel in planning.

I'm creating this
as a reflection of myself

and my capabilities.

- Pffft.

- We should do

as much light as possible
all over here.

- They're not best friends.

- This is one of the first
events that you're doing?

- So this is just for
the engagement party.

- Okay.
Did you want the groom's name?

- Sure. I was gonna
do my dog's name.

- That's fine too.

- Cheeni. C-H-E-E-N-I.
- Okay.

- Cheeni Malai Sadana.

I'm mama.
This is boyfriend.

- I'm Cheeni's boyfriend.
She does order me around like,

"Get the ball for me,
boyfriend."

Barks at me to play.

So yeah, I guess,
she's a strong woman too.

- Hi, Rich.
- Hello.

- You're so pretty.
- Are you excited

for the engagement party?

- No.
- No?

- What excited?

I'm not gonna get drunk
like your friends are.

- His whole family's here.
Whoever from our side is here.

So I'm just asking
if you're excited.

- What is that supposed to mean?

I'm not a child.

- There's still ups
and downs there.

I don't want
that friction anymore.

But at the same time,
when I'm here,

I don't want them to treat me
like a piece of crap.

What is Vishal doing today?

- Finishing up everything.
He put in a lot of effort.

He did most of the planning.
Almost all of it.

What's that face for?

- You should be nervous
about it.

You should be--you're getting
into a new life, I'm not.

- You're the one that said
engagement parties

are when
the families join together, no?

- We'll see what happens.

- I'm very happy--Vishal asked
me to be part of the dance.

And what a chance for Monica
to shine, you know?

Is this where we're going?

- Hey.
- Hey. How are you?

- Thanks for organizing this.
- Of course.

- Hey.
- Hi.

- No.
The last time we spoke,

you said you didn't like me.

- I kind of don't like you.

Like I kind of--
- Okay, good to know.

But I'm going to be
a team player.

Vishal is getting engaged,

and I just want
to be there for him.

- What up, guys?
- Brought wine.

- I brought whisky.
- Vishal brought whisky.

- Wait, wait, wait. No, no, no.
Practice, practice.

- Seven drinks later
and I'll be ready.

- We're all like sloshed.

- That's the least
of my concerns.

- You said it's the least
of your worries.

What are the most
of the worries?

- Yeah, what's going on
right now, 'cause, you know,

Indian weddings
come with a lot of drama.

- It's not a wedding.
It's my engagement party.

- Do we have to do a different
dance for your wedding?

- Like, three dances
at my wedding.

During a wedding
or an engagement ceremony,

the girl's side
and the boy's the side,

they always do dances.

And it's just a way of
showing love and appreciation.

Initially, Monica's gonna
teach me a solo dance.

- You're gonna do a solo dance?
- Get her turned on.

Maybe make it a little excited

for what's gonna happen
afterwards.

Besides being
a stripper/pole dancer...

- Look at the form.
- Oh, my God.

- I can pull off some other
dance moves.

- Okay, ready?
- Let's go, from the top.

- One, two.
One, two.

One, two.
And one, two, three. Vishal.

- Yeah, I got it.
- One, two, three.

All right, ready?
Fingers together.

And one, two, one, two.
Now one, two. One, two.

One, two. One, two.

And jump.
And one, two, three, four.

- One, two, one...

- Forget it.
- Left first.

- Guys, you got to make me
look good in front of

my future family-in-laws.
- Yeah.

- Family.
- My future family.

- Your fam.
- You're supposed to refer to

Richa's mom as Mom from now on.

- Mom.
- Mom.

- Do you want all your fingers?
- I just want simple, like,

laced-looking fingers.

Like, if I can do too much here,

then I won't be able
to function, so--

- Remember when Vishal asked
you if he could get engaged?

I think he pooped his pants
like 10 times.

He told me that after.

I didn't know that
he was asking you that day.

- He was nervous--
I could see he was, like,

little stammering.
- I wanted to ask for your

blessings that we can have
the engagement ceremony.

- Right.

- Is that a yes?

- He's like, "I literally
cannot breathe without her."

- All right, let's chill.
- Wine break.

- So... nervous, excited?

- Honestly, dude.
I've been stressed

out of my mind
like the past month

trying to arrange
like every little thing

to prove to Richa,
to prove to her mom--

- But more so Mom-in-law.
- More so Mom-in-law.

- 'Cause you've already
got Richa on your hands.

- I haven't got Richa
on my hands.

I'm surprised, honestly,
like, she's with me.

- As a parent, I need to know
how much he makes

or how is he gonna keep you
and all that stuff.

I still do not know the answers.

Reshma does not even like
my asking how much he makes.

Guess what her answer was.

"Oh, even I don't know
what he makes."

She writes the check for him
because he works for her.

And she tells me,
"I don't know what he makes.

I never bothered to ask."

So that's a big lie.

- Don't completely put yourself
down like that.

- No, but she has like
her sh-- together,

And I'm like--I'm a **** up.

- You're not a **** up.

- I see what my fundamental
problem with Lopa Auntie is.

I just need to have
confidence in myself.

- Let your balls drop
and become a man.

- What?

So I'm gonna show her, listen,

"Lopa Auntie,
here are my balls."

- Metaphorically.

- Let's just say,
hypothetically,

he wants to be
a house husband, then what?

That would bother you.

- Yeah.
As a parent point of view--

- And Daddy was technically
a house husband.

- No, he wasn't.
- He was a professor,

but he still
took care of the house.

- He wrote so many books.
And he was a doctor.

- He was simple,
docile type of person.

I always like strong men.

Any time he saw me
making more money,

he was like, "Whatever."

Some men cannot take it
and some men can take it.

Some men love it,
women making more

so they don't have to worry
and they--

they can go enjoy it.

- Vishal, he would love for me

to be like the top of what I do.

In that sense--
- He gets to travel with you.

He's gets to go
everywhere with you.

- But he's one of those, like
in his mind he's like, "I get

the perks of it, so why
wouldn't I want her to be--"

- Yeah. So he gets to go
free travel with her.

- I mean, but it works
in our relationship.

I'm not saying that
that would work

in everyone's relationship.
- I'm not gonna say anything.

Happiness is important.
But that's not everything.

After five years,
those things wither away too.

- We've been dating
for seven years.

- Okay.
- We've been through plenty

of ups and down.
- Okay.

- So you can ignore
all the questions

that you don't have unanswered
and actually just enjoy.

It's the Punjabi blood in us.
- Feisty blood.

- Let me know what I can do,
and we'll make it happen.

You'll make it happen.

- Maybe you can make out
with Lopa Auntie.

- Whoever you need me
to make out with.

You need me to make out
with Lopa Auntie,

I will make out
with Richa's mom.

- Do me a solid, bro.
- Done. Done.

- Coming up....
- Want to double date?

- Yeah, let's do it.

I'm gonna set you up
if you're gonna set me up.

- While I'm alive,
I want to see how much

our child loves her.

- Yesterday.

Hi, Hector.
I gave up everything

for this business to succeed,

but it hasn't happened.

I want to see our new fabrics.
You know how much this is?

- It's expensive.

- I'm going to be 35 this year.

Like, I should be
living on a yacht.

Possibly with a husband

and the one daughter
I'd like to have.

So what the **** am I doing?

- I have no idea.

I don't know
where my life is headed.

- Hope they have a sale
going on.

- Mm-hmm.

- Hi, welcome.
- Hi.

- You need help today?
- Yes.

- Yeah, going to
an engagement party.

- Not too bling-bling.

But something nice.
- Okay.

- I want something bling-bling.
- I like this.

- I love this.
What's that silver one?

It's the same one in silver.

We can be twins.
- I like this.

- I do tag along with my mom
everywhere she goes.

Mom, this has high potential
for camel toe.

- Yeah, I--you actually
look good, Mom.

But it has camel toe potential.

Actually, buying things
is a luxury right now.

- My mom.

- Oh, dear.
See, Anish.

- Oh, I like it on you.
- I love the skirt on you.

- Totally pretty, right?
All right.

Mom, there's a few things
I wanted to talk about.

And I do have a confession
to make.

Kind of embarrassing.
It's been like a month,

but it's weighing on me
that I kind of lied to my dad.

- How do you plan
to get this funding?

- Well, I have most of it.

I got mad at Monica
for being fake.

Yet here I am behaving
like a hypocrite, you know?

I want to get this off my chest.

- I'm getting a little nervous.
What did you do?

- I had a meeting with Dad
about my business.

And I kind of exaggerated

a little
how much I actually have.

- A little?
- I told him I had

close to like $1/2 million.

- Why do you have to say
such dumb sh--?

- It meant a lot when he
told me he was proud of me.

- Your dad is proud of you

irrespective of the--
- I know.

- And we are there to help you.
- I'm not even paying rent.

- No, no, no, no.
I can never dream

of taking rent from any of--
- I know.

- Because I still
live in the hope

that whenever y'all have
your spouses or,

you know, children, that room
is there for you to use.

- There's something else
that's also been

weighing heavily on me.

And that's, you know...

the topic of freezing my eggs.

- No, I'm gonna put my bag there

and talk to you about this.
- Okay.

- This is coming
from a good place.

But I would say to you
just have the child

in the natural way and have fun.

- With who, Mom?
And when and where?

- You know with whom I will say.

So I'm not going
into that subject.

- Yeah. I don't want
a child right now.

- I never thought
in my wildest dream

she'll say she'll freeze
her eggs

because I was so sure
that she would get back

with Vishnu and kind of have
a perfect life.

We cannot push you to the altar.

But my mother helped me so much
when I had children,

I want to do the same for you.
But because I'm getting older,

I don't know if
I'll be able to do that.

And that bothers me.

- While I'm alive, I want to see

how much our child loves her.

She'll be a great mom.

- It's just depressing.

- I know life
is somewhat easier right now

because I do have my parents
and I do have my grandparents.

But when I think of them not
being there, I can't imagine--

- Because I tell her, my father,

he says the only thing
I'm living right now

is to see Anisha married.

- I really don't want
to cry anymore

'cause I know how you feel

and I know everyone
in the community asks you.

- The only reason is
it comes from a good place,

and I care for you.
- I know.

I don't know what I'm gonna do,

whether I'm even gonna
freeze my eggs for sure.

But I don't want to miss
the boat on that experience.

- Yeah.
If that's what you want to do,

I respect your decision in that.

I'm so sorry I upset you
or anything.

Can I give you a hug, darling?

- Sure, Mom.
- I didn't mean to hurt you.

- I love you.
- I'm so sorry.

I'm really sorry.

And I think with the age
and menopause, the tear,

all the waterworks
are turning on faster.

- Oh, this is the spot.
- What can I order?

- I'll go with my mango.
- The reg?

- You get something different
so I get to try it.

We try each other's.
- But what if I don't like mine

then I'm having yours.
Deal?

Brian and I have been through
so much the last few months.

- La-da-da-da.

- You want a drink
of that water.

Like as far as friends,
that's where your head's at?

- Yeah. Where's your head at?
- I think a little more.

So are you saying
there's no shot?

- I feel bad that I don't feel
the same way that you feel.

I don't think
he's my forever person.

But I'm so happy that
whatever was thrown our way--

- Monica will be
in Brian's room.

- Oh, sh--!
- Oh!

- We're like this.

Like, we're not gonna be shaken.

- Oh, that's money.
- Uh-uh.

- What?
- This is strong.

- Oh, yeah.
Whose is whose?

- Are you excited
for the engagement party?

- Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean--
- They make such a cute couple.

- Yeah. I think they're
beautiful together.

So how are things going
with you and Anisha?

- Girls, one, two.

- Yeah.
- No, no, no. After.

Back two, back two.

You know, I taught Anisha
the dance for the party.

So of course, I've had
interactions with her.

But I'm not gonna
force anything, you know?

I don't got time for that.

- Yeah, on top of work
and everything else,

your dance classes and all that.

- I'm 27 years old. Like--
- We're getting there you know?

- Dude, I'm pushing 30.
Like, when did we get here?

- Whoa, whoa, whoa.
Take it easy.

No one's pushing 30.

- I'm really trying to hit
certain goals for myself.

I want the big house.
And hopefully, one day,

I'll start a dance studio
of my own.

- Why are you pausing on that?

- If I could--
- You want me to move out?

- No.
I don't want you to move out.

Just stay, just stay.
I'll take care of the kids.

- I'm glad that things are
moving along in the right path.

Enjoy life.
- I'm glad that you're kind of

dating other girls.

- So what are you looking for?
- Just looking to hang out

with like a pretty girl.

- I think you're so cool.
Like a terrific wonderful guy.

And I'm totally looking
for more friends.

- Yeah, same, same.
But, um... but yeah.

You know, I'm still hesitant
to certain, you know--

- Just don't go
into like nitpicking.

- You want to double date?
- Yeah, let's do it.

I'm gonna set you up
if you're gonna set me up.

- What do you think
is perfect for me?

- Someone Indian.
- Fact.

- You need somebody really
pretty, otherwise

you're super uninterested.
You're really shallow.

- False.
- Fact.

- I'm still gunning
for an Indian girl.

But you control
your own destiny.

- That's right.
- Right-o, right-o, right-o.

- You control your fate.
- Exactly.

- You can't--you know?
- You don't let it come at you.

- One more time.
- You go after it.

- Two times.
Both at the same time.

No, same time.

- Same time, one, two, three.

- One, two--

- What's--what's your--

- Who's my setup?
- Yeah.

- Want me to go down
the checklist?

- Yeah, let's go down
the checklist.

- Stable, successful.
- Okay.

- Someone that can support
and be there you.

- I can support myself.

- Of course.
But you don't have to work.

You don't like working.
No one likes working.

- I like--
- Own your own biz

kind of thing.
- Okay.

- I'm just throwing it
out there, right?

- Uh-huh.
- Possibilities.

And then someone that gets you.

- The type of guy that I would
like Monica to be with,

someone who's got
his act together.

- What if like you just
answered that question

and you're like,
"He rides in on a Harley"?

- No, you're not gonna go
for that anyway.

You're a Bentley type of--
- Oh, my--no I'm not.

- You like nice things.
- Why? Why do you--no, I don't.

- Monica, you like nice things.

- And you're gonna set me up.
- All right, done.

- See, if you get a little
jealous, give me the side-eye.

I don't want to hear it.

- Okay, done.
- I gave you the first shot.

- Coming up...

- Thank you very much

on behalf of my wife and myself.

This is a very special occasion.

Thank you very much--

- Lopa.
- Lopa.

- There's just certain things

- There's just certain things
that she's very strict on.

- Curfews, tattoos,

belly button piercings.

- I'm panicked
about the partying,

and I'm panicked about
like the no sense of, like,

I've got a curfew
and any of that.

Yeah, I'm nervous.

- Look at that.

Oh, my God.

- Hey, Bal.
- Hey, Mommy.

- Dad and I are going out
for dinner.

Where are you
going all dressed up?

- Well, I wanted to talk to you
about something.

- Oh, God, what?
- You know how Anushka

has been
wanting to get a tattoo?

- She had mentioned it once.
I had suggested not to.

- Right.
- Okay.

I'm taking her for one now.

- Oh, God--how big?

- Very small, Mom.

Her and I are just getting
little ones on our pinkies.

Anushka has wanted
matching tattoos with me

ever since I can remember.

Anushka doesn't even know
that we're doing this today.

- Right.
She's been asking for it.

- And I want to do something
fun with her for a change.

- Yeah.
- Like, I'm always the--

- So just do that.

- You want to do one too?
- No.

- On your boob, like that?

That's where
we're gonna get it, Mom.

All right, we're doing it.
I'm extremely strict.

But she really wants it.
And she's almost turning 18.

And so if it's special to her,
I'll draw blood.

- Drive safe.
- Ow!

- What happened?
- The seat is very low.

Your boyfriend is very tall?

- Where are we going?
- I'll give you the address.

Slowly. You're reversing
very fast. I don't--

- We're going 3 miles per hour.

- I look like a hag.

I want to look
very youthful and radiant

at the engagement party
on Saturday.

- I'm gonna wear
the butterfly sari.

I don't know how many years
I have left in me

where I can
wear a blouse like that.

You know what I mean?

- That's how I feel about
the belly button piercing.

- Why does it always
come back to that?

So where is everybody going?
What is everybody deciding?

- For school?
- Hmm.

- Decisions don't come out
till the end of this month.

- Where do you think
that you are geared to?

Maybe even University
of Louisville?

- I would like to go
to Northeastern.

- That makes me sad, Nush.
Ask O'Malley.

- Are you serious?
- Yeah, I get really sad

and I cry about it.

It's very bittersweet for me
because

her going to college
means I start

a new chapter with O'Malley

that I'm really
looking forward to too.

- I'm gonna miss home.
- Your grandparents

will be here,
our home will be here.

- Yeah, but still.
It won't be like,

"Okay, I'm gonna
go visit like Mom at home."

- That's my only concern
about moving to Louisville.

It's gonna be hard.

- Why are we here?

- So we're here to get tattoos.

- You're kidding.
- No.

Do you really want to do it?

- Yeah.
This is so crazy.

- I have an appointment.
Bali.

- Is it for both of you guys?
- Like what we want is

just like a little A
and a little B.

You have finger tattoos too?

- Yes.
- Where is the least painful?

Do you have any input on wrist?

- Yeah, no, I'm not doing wrist.

- I don't want it there.

- I want to do it like on
that left side of my body

'cause that's where my heart is.

So I'll do it--I don't mind
doing it here.

- Do you want to just like
hold off till we research

and like get a better location?

- Come over here and sit down
and talk to me

about
what's going on in your head.

Why are you saying no right now?

Because of the pinky situation

or because you don't want
a tattoo right now?

- I'm scared.

Sorry, Mom.
- Why are you sorry, baby?

You don't have
to apologize to me.

- 'Cause you were like
surprising me and stuff.

- It's okay.
I love you.

If I'm gonna be
completely honest here,

I wish I had a remote control
that would hit rewind.

It's going to be very hard

for me to get used
to living without her.

- We can text every day.
- Text?

- Yeah, we text
every day at home.

- Right. But we're gonna talk.
- Yeah.

- I want to hear
your voice every day.

- Okay.
- "Text"?

- It's go time.

This engagement ceremony
has cost $40,000.

But of course, it's raining.

Outfits, here, okay.

Mm...

- Hey, Julie.
- How are you?

- Oh, stressing.
- Don't worry about it.

I heard you were out
partying last night.

- Yeah. A long night.
- Yeah.

- Last night, me and my family
threw a dinner

because we have so much family
flying into town.

- I don't remember
'cause I was drunk.

- Thank you very much on behalf
of my wife and myself.

This is a very special occasion
for us.

Thank you very much...

- Lopa.
- Lopa, to being

part of our family.

- It was supposed to be,
like, sunny and warm.

- Yeah.
- And we were gonna have it

on the rooftop, and now
it's gonna be rainy and cold.

- And it's never like this
in South Florida.

It might snow later.

- It's Miami.
What the hell!?

I'm no longer gonna be able
to have it on the rooftop.

I had to get heaters
last-minute,

and that's another,
like, $2,000.

And a tent, which is $6,000.
The bills just keep adding up.

- Thank you.
I wish we got nicer weather.

But at least I got you, right?

- Vishal, he's thinking
in his mind

that he's trying to impress me.

But it's funny that
weather not cooperating.

- I like that you think
that that's funny

that our whole plans
have gotten changed.

- No, but I mean--
- I don't find it--

- I wanted your wish
to come true.

- But you're laughing
that yours came true.

So then?

- I didn't mean to.

- Perfect.

And you can check on them,
how the tables are set up

and just make sure
it's the right way, okay?

I am extremely nervous
of what I have to do.

- All right, so what do
we have to do?

- Okay.
- How long do we have to do it?

- I need everything
to go smoothly.

I want everything done
in an hour.

- An hour? Okay.

- Can I pull it off?

- You want me
to carry you, Vish?

- Can you?
- Yeah.

- Should I practice?
I'm Richa right now.

Yay!
Let's go have sex.

We don't have sex
'cause we're Indian.

- I'm so excited.

Come on, babe.

- Take me through the door.
- Babe, you put on some weight

a little bit at that engagement.

Wait, this is what you did
in Key West.

I'm having like PTSD,
'cause we actually did this--

All right, hold on, hold on.

Richa's calling.
Be civilized.

- Okay.
- Hey, babe.

- Are you alive?
- Yeah.

It's coming along well.
What are you doing?

- I'm getting my makeup done
and hair done.

Where are you getting ready,
in the other room?

- Yeah, I'm in the suite.

- They're all scattered
a little bit.

- I know, I keep thinking
they're like cats.

- I think it's bad luck
if I see you before.

- Probably.
I'll go get it.

- I know, but this is
the first step to marriage.

- Okay. So you're not gonna
see me until we get married?

That'll be like
four years from now.

- Love you.
You can say I love you too.

But she hung up.

- How about you and Nicholas?

When's that going to happen?

- I don't know.
I don't know.

It's gonna happen for us.

- Sh--
or get off the pot, right?

- He actually talked to my mom
last night at your dinner.

- Yeah. Was he like,
"Where is the ring?"

- No. No, no, no.

He hates when my mom introduces
him as like a friend.

- Please don't say I'm
his friend 'cause I'm not his--

- I'm not his friend.

- I'm his boyfriend.

- No, no.
- She just can't say it--

- No, Ma. You say it
how you want to say it.

- How did you
introduce him yesterday?

- I just say,
"This is my business partner."

- So why aren't you saying,
"This is my boyfriend.

This is fiancé-to-be."

- They're gonna put two
and two together.

I know what I know inside.

I don't need to say
certain things out loud.

Like,
"Oh, my boyfriend and I."

Yes, yes, we are together
and we kiss all the time."

Tonight, I'll introduce him
as my sexual lover.

Is that okay?

- You have sex?
- Do you have sex?

It's not like
Richa's your friend.

- She's like my friend
with benefits.

- Ish.
- Ish.

- Sometimes she's your friend.
- Sometimes just my friend.

- Sometimes

not even your friend.
- Sometimes no benefit.

- So how do you feel now?

- Pretty relaxed now.
Vishal was stressed.

All he's saying is like,
"I hope your mom is happy

with me and with the party."
- So tell him to respect me.

- But he does.
- So he's gonna come

and touch my feet?
- He would.

If you told him, he'd pai lagu,
he'd do it to you too.

- Pai lagu.
He's gonna do pai lagu?

- He would.
- Okay.

- Vishal wants her to say like,
"Yay. You did good."

- I wish I could tell you
what would impress my mom.

I've been trying to figure
that out for years too.

I don't think she's asking
for the Taj Mahal,

but... she wouldn't mind it
if she got it I guess.

- Yeah.
Coming.

Hey.
- Hey, how is it going?

- Hey, babe.
- How are you?

- Good. You look great.
- Oh, my gosh.

- Let me see.
- Yeah.

- Oh, wow, it fits so well.
I love the vest.

I kind of feel like
I'm getting engaged.

This is the first time
I'm gonna bring Nicholas

to this big Indian
community engagement party

and show the world
that this is my partner.

Not a girl, it's a guy.
And I also want to show him

that I'm not ashamed
of our relationship.

How did you get here?
You took an Uber, right?

- Yeah.
- Okay, good.

How are my parents?
Are they getting ready?

- Yeah.
- 'Cause last night,

I was actually not expecting you

to bring that up last night.

I mean, in an ideal world,
I wish you would have told me

before you talked to her

just so I could have
mentally prepared

that you're gonna have
a conversation with her and--

- Yeah, yeah.
- She did feel blindsided,

especially
at like Vishal's house.

You know, maybe that
would have been better

to like bring up at home.

- Yeah. Okay.
Meaning like maybe

she should have asked me
what she would like

to introduce me as
prior to the engagement?

- It's--it's a sensitive topic.
- Okay.

I knew I was gay
when I was four.

And I'm 35.
And to hear somebody say,

"I'm just going to introduce
you as his friend and just--"

it was not okay.

- You and I, we are accustomed
to this gay life

'cause this is all
we see now, right?

- Yeah.
- But for my mom to see two men

kissing,
even though on the outside,

she's like, "I love my son.
I'll support him forever,"

and I truly think
she believes that...

- Yeah.
- I'm sure she kind of--she

still like shudders inside.

- I mean, I already know
my own parents

have a really difficult time
in accepting it.

My parents
are evangelical Christians

with a very literal
interpretation of the Bible.

They are never rude.
They are never demeaning.

But there are limits.
There are just limits.

And I mean, at a certain point,
I want to get married

and I want
to have kids with you.

And I think it just makes me
put my guard up.

It's not like I carry malice
with me in my heart

towards your parents.
- Yeah.

- They've always been
wonderful to me.

- Yeah.
Just be patient with them.

It's hard for them.

They did not see him
living this life.

- Coming up...

- Make some noise
for Vishal and Richa.

- Whoo!

- Richa, are you ready?
- Almost.

- Richa.

You look very good.

- Thank you.

- Look at you.
- Thank you.

I need to go
and sort of freshen up.

- It's like a stress going down?

- Yeah.
- Go...

- I'm like tired.

You look good.

- She's gorgeous.
But when is she not?

I'm happy that I found a girl

that's like the perfect
combination like of

inner beauty and outer beauty

and just the right amount
of naive to be with me.

- We're late, we're late.
- We're late.

- We're 40 minutes late.

- They've been engaged
for a while now.

And the fact that
we're actually attending

an engagement party
is pretty incredible.

- I thought it would
be a wedding.

But it's one step closer,

I would say,
the engagement party.

- Yeah, we're a step closer now.

- Yes.

- Good.

- Namaskar.

- I will admit, there are very
few Hindi words or Sindhi words

that I do understand.
And I guarantee you,

they're not using words
like fart, come, calm down.

- Come?
- Come, like come here.

- Oh!

- The bar's open.
Oh, my God.

- How are you?
- You're looking very good.

- I need a drink, bro.

What are you having?

- Typical.
I'm stoked for Vishal

for pulling this off.

- Absolutely.
- Planning for next year,

Brian's engagement.

- Whoop-whoop.

I'll do a bourbon
and ginger ale.

- Honestly--
- You know what,

the one thing I'll say is

it will be a hell of a party

'cause I have way
too many family and friends.

And like,
we all actually get along.

- We're ready.
We're ready.

- All right, here we go.

Done, done.
- All right.

Ladies and gentlemen,
your attention please.

Make some noise
for Vishal and Richa.

- Go, Richa!

- I am impressed by the party.

If someone had told him
we could have elephants,

he probably would want
to elephants there too.

It's ridiculous.
- Yeah, I did good.

- Shoes off, right?
- Yeah.

- Can you help me take my shoes
off if you don't mind?

- Hello.
- Hi.

- Please kindly stand up.

- Stand up?
- Yes. And wash your hands.

- The engagement ceremony
is basically our two families

coming together,
and we're doing a puja.

- It's a group of prayers
to please remove

all the obstacle and make more
smooth their life together.

- All together, hold your hands.

Yeah, say with me om.
- Om!

- The girl's parents,
they bless the boy first

and then bring the bring the
fruits basket and the sweets,

and we call it shagun.

- No one pays attention.
First of all,

it's incredibly long,
so you kind of--

- No, don't.
You're not supposed to say--

- Nobody has an attention span.
Well, they are long.

- You're not supposed
to say that.

One more time.

Now you can
exchange your plates.

- My parents and Richa's mom
are exchanging gifts.

It's a big deal.

It's just
the joining of two families.

- Come on.
- I put it on myself?

- Put it on myself?

- Ehh.
Ehh!

Ehh!

Got to make you work
a little bit.

Got to make you
work a little bit.

No, no, no!

- She's like, "No!"

- Oh, he got her a ring.

- Yeah! Yeah.
- Whoo!

- Her saying that she loves me
means the world to me.

She's probably said "I love you"

like four times prior to today.

- It's never now and then.

It's only special occasions,
like every two years.

- Babe, should we just quickly
do an engagement ceremony

real quick?
One more.

- Hey.
- Hey.

- Can I have you for a minute?
- Of course.

- Okay. I wanted to clear
the air after last night.

I walked away from
our conversation

at the sofa
at the Parvanis' house.

- Which conversation was this?
- Where you asked me,

"Nicholas,
how should I introduce you?"

When I said I didn't
want you to introduce me

as Amrit's friend.

- Oh.
- I walked away,

and I went to bed.
I didn't feel good.

There's negative messages
that that brings to the table.

- I didn't know you were
upset at me.

- It's just--it's a source
of anxiety for me.

- I just feel like
how I do I introduce you

to everybody right now?

- Yeah.
- I have to say you're

Amrit's friend.
I cannot like say this is

Amrit, my gay son,
and that's his partner.

- Yeah.
- My mom,

she's still coming to terms.

She's moved maybe 70%
of the way.

But there's still the 30%.

There's still that
a little bit of a hang up.

- It's hard for me to go out
and introduce you as--

- They're hard words to say.
They are.

- Because for me,
I've just accepted

Amrit as it is.
- Yeah.

- As parents,
when you have a gay child,

it's more than accepting it for
yourself and for your child,

it is more for the community.
How do I tell people?

What will they think?
What will they say?

But when you get past
all of that,

beyond all of that,
it really doesn't matter.

Now I come out
and tell everybody,

you know what, my son is gay,
and I'm proud about him.

- I wish I can hear that
from my mom.

- One day, you will.
- Yeah.

- I promise you,
she will come about.

- Yeah.
- You and Uncle Suresh

have always been
utterly wonderful to me.

I mean, you've opened
your hearts to me.

You've opened your home to me.

You've exposed me
to your whole family.

I just know that my mom,
this was not what she expected.

- Should never worry about it.
You know

you'll always have a mom...
- Yes.

- And you'll always have
a dad in us.

- Thank you.
- We do love Nicholas.

Maybe I was a little inhibited
about how do I introduce him,

but I didn't mean
anything badly.

- I do consider him
as part of my family.

My third ace in the hole.

In India,
we consider a son as an ace.

So we have three now,
full flush.

- Aw.
- Aw.

- Did you meet my son?
- Yes, I did meet him.

- Coming up...
- I really love Richa.

I want you to see that
I would do anything for her.

- Wait, what's in your box?
- Oh, these are yummy.

- Oh, they're like
nature bars, right?

- What are they called?
- Nature bars.

Like when you go on hikes.

- Yup, uh-huh,
at a Sindhi engagement.

- Try it. It's yummy. Yummy.
It's like nuts.

- I don't know about the Indian
culture, but I can tell you,

O'Malley definitely doesn't
fit into the Indian clothes.

- He has to have his Indian
outfits custom-made

because Indians just don't
make sizes like that.

- They didn't believe me when I
sent his measurements to India.

They're like, "What have
you done? This is not right."

The other day, Anushka told me
that she's scared to leave.

- Of course.
- Now that she's scared,

it makes me sad for her.

It would suck saying bye,
knowing she's excited.

But to know that
she's gonna be in pain--

I just want Anushka to be okay.

- I love you.
- Like that first month

when she's gone
and she wants to come home

'cause she's homesick.
- Right.

- I want her to like
know home is home.

- Right.

- What if I postponed
for like a month or two?

I also don't want
to move to Louisville

when I'm like sobbing about her.

- Baby, our plan
has always been,

when you're ready to move, move.

The time period doesn't affect
how much I love you.

It'll take however
long it takes.

When it's right, it's right.

And that's when
you'll move to Louisville.

- And you're okay with that?

- I love you more than
I've ever loved you.

- Do you like the party?
- More than I've ever had.

It's great.
- I know.

I can't wait for Monica
and Brian get engaged.

So cute.
Let's go.

- Two, two, two, two, ha!

Ready?
- No, no, no.

I didn't know you could kick.

- Why didn't I do this earlier?

- Are you gonna jump with it?
Are you gonna jump with it?

- At this point in time
right now, do I see it?

No. She's on her ship.
I'm on my ship.

If our ships intersect
in some way in the future,

you know,
I can't predict the future.

This time, she'd have to
come to me though.

I'm not going to her.
That's for sure.

- My God. Your earrings
are so pretty.

- Thank you.
They're from my father.

They're from the man who
buys me diamonds, my father.

- How's the collection going?

Were you--
- I'll have coke and whisky.

I can't even move forward in
my life right now emotionally.

And I have so much going on.

- party.
What are we drinking, shots?

- What's next for me?
I'm really excited

And hopefully, I can move out
and begin my new chapter

and find a boyfriend, yeah.

- Oh, hi, Vishal.
- Auntie! How are you?

- Everything good, man.

Everything turning
out good though, isn't it?

- How are you
enjoying the night?

- Pretty good, it was fun.
It was fun.

- I wanted to say thank you.

Like, having Richa,
you, my mom, and me,

and my dad all together,
it made me emotional.

And I really, really love Richa.

And I want you to see that
I will do anything for her.

- I know that.
I want her to be happy

because
she's my--my youngest baby.

- But after today, how do you
feel like everything is--

- Everything is moving
on pretty good.

- I want us to be like
one big family.

And like after
the engagement ceremony,

when we were passing
the gifts to each other,

I got teary-eyed.

- I'm tearing now.

- I want you to be happy.
- You too.

- I really--I felt amazing.
And...

Richa's mom likes me.

- Cheers to our good future.

- The best part of it all,
I'm engaged.

- Ladies and gentlemen,
please put your hands together

for all of Vishal's friends.

That's right, put your hands
together, ladies and gentlemen,

come on.

Put your hands together.
Come on.

- I dropped my balls.
I let them hang loose.

Like, this could not be
going any better.

Yeah!

- Well done.

- I'm really, really happy
how everything went today.

I'm really, really grateful
for this union.

- Everything is great.
I think it went pretty well.

- It went very well.
I think it went well.

It was well, extremely well.

I am extremely proud of him.

- Thank you guys for everything.

You guys totally
didn't hesitate for a minute

when we decided
that we were doing the party.

We love you both.
Thank you so much.

- We love you.
- Yeah.

- And we love you.
- You want to?

- Yeah.
- Okay, he wants to give

Vishal a kiss.

You got lipstick.

- You don't get mine.
- Yeah, thank you.

- Thank you.

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