Balls Deep (2016–…): Season 1, Episode 6 - Orgasmic Meditators - full transcript
Thomas joins an enclave of new age seekers in So Cal in an effort to put his finger on the pulse of femininity.
[ Woman moans ]
[ Inhales deeply ]
WOMAN: Exhale redefine,
and then push your hands down
and lift up to plank.
Whoosh!
Like a beast.
Yeah. Oh yeah!
And start to just stir it up.
You're gonna feel it a lot...
- Yes.
- ...right there.
Oh yeah.
Namaste.
Namaste.
**
I'm not the world's
most masculine guy,
but I know what I am
and what I am is a man
with all the social hullabaloo
that goes along with it.
Like many men before me,
I've longed for that ultimate
pearl of knowledge,
which is to step
outside the male mind
and experience firsthand the
inner workings of the female.
While my own male conditioning
and East Coast upbringing
have taught me
to look askant at anything
that calls itself enlightenment
or spiritual awakening,
at least without
the use of drugs,
I realized I'm never going
to pierce the veil of womandom
until I give it
the old college girl try.
So, I've come to America's
feminine side, the West Coast,
to see if I can blow
my male mind wide open...
man.
Hi.
- Hello, Thomas.
- How's it going?
- Good. Come on in.
All right.
- How are you? I'm Thomas.
You brought your hiking boots.
Yeah, I didn't know what kind
of hike it was.
If it was sneaker hike or...
- You're ready -- yeah, well...
- ...or a real hike.
Definitely not those.
It's definitely a real hike.
It's California.
- Okay.
Angela is kind of big
into a bunch
of the spiritual scenes
out here.
She sort of your classic,
you know,
SoCal New Age seeker type.
We gonna go hiking today,
which, uh, I don't know,
I never really thought
of as spiritual,
but maybe it is.
**
Like spending time
in nature to me is like,
it teaches me things Okay.
Like, there's the natural world
and I just feel like
all of the lessons
are, like, right here.
Was your family super
spiritual growing up or...?
I would say my family was
super religious...
- Oh.
- ...growing up.
I was raised Christian
and in those teachings
and I still love those
teachings, but it was different.
Now, I just have a much more
sort of expanded awareness
and understanding
part of spirituality.
For me is like -- it's like
seeing God in everything.
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
Which is not exactly --
Which is not the teaching
that I grew up with.
No, okay.
Me neither.
It was very like,
bearded guy in clouds.
Right?
In clouds.
Like, imagine as
an African-American woman, like,
thinking that
the overall authority figure
in all of life
is a white guy with the beard.
Right.
What do your spiritual...
- Yeah. -...practices
encompass these days?
Yeah, well,
one really big practice
that I have now is,
um, OM-ing, which is uh,
orgasmic meditation.
- Oh, really?
I've been practicing that
for about a year and half now.
Oh, okay.
Orgasmic meditation
is a pretty recent attempt at,
uh, unlocking female energies
that, uh, started
as many as these things
seem to do in San Francisco.
A woman named Nicole Daedone
developed it.
And I felt
like I had tasted a truth
that was so undeniable
I had to bring it to the world.
Angela: OM-ing is a 15 minute
partnered practice
where the stroker, um,
strokes the upper
left-hand quadrant
of a woman's
clitoris with, uh, no agenda.
So it's not about, like, let me,
like, climax her or let me,
you know, whatever.
The only point of it is to feel,
is to bring
all of your full attention,
both peoples full attention
to that point of contact
and feel.
Well, I first found out about it
three years ago,
and then I was like,
this is really, really weird.
One of the practitioners there
was just like,
"Try it, see if you like it,
and then you'll just know."
I think one of
the most important things
that happened for me was, um,
like, God and orgasm actually
came together on the mat for me.
- Hmm.
- Which sounds a little abstract,
but it's like it's the feeling
that I feel when I pray
and I felt it in my OM's.
- Oh.
- Except that it was like,
in the body bringing
all your attention
to one part a clitoris,
which is small already,
that has, like,
over 10,000 nerve endings
and seeking to stay conscious
at that point of contact.
- Yeah.
- Whoa.
- Hello.
- Hi, Eli.
- How's it going?
- Hi.
- Good.
- Good to see you.
Thomas:
Since orgasmic meditation
is not just
the most interesting sounding
of Angela spiritual practices,
obviously,
but also the most woman-centric,
I was curious if there's any way
that I could participate in it.
So Angela invited over an
OM-ing instructor for dinner,
who weirdly enough turned out
to be guy,
a former Apple Genius Bar Genius
named Eli.
No, OneTaste is, um --
That's the organization that --
Yeah. OneTaste is the
organization that teaches OM.
So it's like there's Apple,
which has the iPod
where at OneTaste,
we have orgasmic meditation.
Here in Los Angeles we have a --
a large community people
who practice, and we have
classes about twice a month.
Cool.
We have practice sessions
a few times a week.
People want this. People
are really hungry for this.
We're doing something
very new here,
which is that we have,
um, organized practice
with community
involving genitals,
and there's not a lot
of positive context
for that in the world.
It's not common.
No.
**
Breath normally, naturally,
and you can place your attention
on the breath
if you mind begins to wander.
Just always bring it back
to the breath,
watching the inhalations
and the exhalations.
Sh-sh-should I have my eyes
closed, or --
- Oh, yeah. Sorry.
- Okay. That's okay.
Yeah.
So with the eyes closed,
you just let go of everything
and there's nowhere to go
and there's nothing to do.
Let go of anything
that's coming later.
Just for this moment,
we're present and we're here.
**
[ Bell dings ]
How was that for you?
- It was good.
It was, it was tricky
not to get frustrated
when my mind's wandering.
I remember
when I first started meditating,
I was like great,
this is the perfect time
for me to go through
all my to-do lists.
Because I'm a visual person,
I'll mind-map it out,
like, my talks and stuff
that I do.
Mind-mapping is fun.
It's hella, hella,
hella, hella fun.
We start out with a core idea.
- Mm-hmm.
Will be a topic
that you would want?
Um, I guess, like, women.
I like to draw shapes
just to like, do that.
I'm gonna give you the marker.
- Okay.
What is it that you want to know
about women?
Uh...
**
So this is really
interesting cause what --
For me, what, what
this is starting to look like...
Oh, it started with women,
but it's actually,
maybe actually it's orgasm.
Oh.
This is a great way to see like,
a cohesion in things
that don't always
immediately seem cohesive.
- Yeah.
Or immediately seem
like they have threads.
Cool.
I feel good starting this.
- Yeah.
- Okay.
Maybe I should take it
with me and...
Yeah.
**
So I've been reading, uh,
Angela's Slow Sex Guide,
which includes
rudimentary instructions
on OM-ing, orgasm mediation,
but, um, Eli,
who works for OneTaste,
which is the organization
that does orgasmic meditation
is coming by
this Airbnb I've rented...
[ Engine revs ]
...to basically do like,
home instruction, I guess.
Hey.
- Yeah.
Hey. You can -- Sorry.
Door's open. You can come in.
- Hey, how's it going?
- Good. How are you?
Good. Nice place.
Thank you. It's a rental.
Wherever. I don't know where --
where's good to, um, to do it.
You can -- I can show you
the rest of the house, too.
Yeah, let's just have
a look around.
This couch feels kind of junky.
We can move the pillows around.
Sorry I've been --
Here we go.
Oh.
Have a seat.
Okay.
So we -- we'll talk little bit
about the practice
before we, uh,
actually dive into, like,
the actual nest
and all those pieces.
This is intense.
This is.
This is intimate.
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
So, um...
[ Sighs ]
...how about we start here?
As men, we are never taught
that we have to learn
the feminine language.
That's like the best medium fit
I think of ever seen
in my entire life.
- Like a glove.
Which is not
just a spoken language,
though it's a big part of it,
but it's largely unspoken.
You're doing great so far.
- Thanks.
- Yeah.
So it's intuition-based,
it's feeling-based.
Not just I feel happy or sad,
but I'm feeling something
in connection
with what you're feeling.
This washcloth is here just to,
at the end of the OM,
you collect any excess lube.
- Oh, okay.
- Okay?
- Okay. For drips.
- Yeah.
So you're learning
how to just connect inside
of this 15 minute thing
with no goal,
which also means you're not
trying to make her climax.
So, this is the basic position
your hand is going to be in,
but you're going
to turn downwards.
You're not trying to produce any
particular result in her body.
This thumb is going
to be pulling the hood
of clitoris back,
clitorises have hoods.
- Yep.
- You're not trying to,
um, dictate what's going to
happen in this situation at all
other than following
the electricity,
which happens
at the connection point
between your finger
and her clit.
There is a way that you're going
to be so tuned in
to what's happening in her pussy
that no matter
what else is happening with her,
your sense of what's true
is going to be so unequivocal
that it's gonna
change your life.
That's what
this practice offers.
And the fact that
stroking pussy just feels good.
Thomas: Right.
Thomas:
So, while orgasmic meditation
is a very, like,
specific practice.
You know, it's that time frame
and very precise rules.
Um, it's part
of a greater program.
Uh, there's, first of all,
there's a movement
called the Slow Sex movement.
This is like its central text.
It lends itself towards
a, you know,
kind of holistic model
of living,
which I always wrote of
as just hippie speak, la, la,
like organic or all-natural,
but it means like you don't,
you know,
just do OM-ing
and then go back to your life
as a shithead lawyer
screaming in traffic.
You're supposed to live
according to what, you know,
you learn from the consciousness
expansion of OM-ing.
Ultimately, I think
it is just, you know,
being mindful of your body
and your sanity.
So a lot of the OneTaste people
do, like, really intensive yoga
and they're very into
fancy juices.
I don't think it necessarily,
like, needs to be that,
like, SoCal granola.
I think just getting
a little bit of exercise
and not working yourself
to death is really what,
uh, the maxim is.
Yo.
- Hey. What's up, man?
- Morning. How are you?
- How's it going?
- It's going.
- A little uh...
- Hi.
- Hey. Good morning.
- How you doing?
- A little work break.
Cool.
- Hey, this is my friend Marcus.
- How you doing?
- Hey.
- Thomas.
- Thomas, good to meet you.
- We run, we're,
we're half of OneTaste
to Los Angeles.
Cool.
Good to meet you.
Yeah.
**
Oops. Oh.
OM-OM-ing
does not add to athleticism.
- Right.
- No?
- There are a lot of benefits --
- But that's not one of them.
- Athleticism isn't one of them.
- I don't know about that.
- Okay.
- I think I got something.
What are -- What are the --
the non--
like, nonsexual benefits?
There's benefits
from your yoga practice
that influence
your reading practice
that influence how you eat.
- Oh! Shit! Sorry.
You know.
It just so
happens that there is,
uh, a specific context
that OM happens inside of
that make it potentially
more conducive
for the "sexual benefits."
- Yeah. -How did you
get involved Marcus?
Well, how I heard about
OM was, uh,
my ex-girlfriend, uh,
told me about it.
And -- And her and I --
[ Laughs ]
we had -- I mean, we just had --
we had terrible sex, you know.
And that, that was really like my...
- Whoop!
...my pain that brought me
to the practice.
My pride didn't want to --
didn't want to admit that.
I-I needed practice in --
in -- or I needed a practice
in how to stroke a woman's
pussy or --
or know a woman's pussy
or that stroking it at all
would bring my benefits.
Let's go, you ball.
Ooh. That thing's sharp.
Well, gentlemen. That might be
the game right there.
It's fine.
**
I love coming here.
I spend hours in here.
Thomas: What are you looking
at mostly? Do you --
It kinda depends on
what I'm working with.
You know, all of these are,
like, they're tools.
- Yeah.
- You know, they're tools
for exploring the consciousness.
Talismans.
What's this guy? Have you seen
one of those? It says...
- It's like a --
- ...mineral science technology.
Yeah, like it has minerals
in there
and then you wear it.
- Oh, you wear it.
Etheric flow, inspiration,
meditation, contemplation.
Intuition.
I need to give this guy a whirl.
Mm-hmm.
That's a good one.
**
So, tonight is the big
orgasmic meditation turn on,
which, uh, is where I'm going
to meet my OM-ing partner.
It's basically been described
to me as what sounds like
a cross between a freshmen mixer
at a small college,
maybe a youth group.
I've absorbed all Eli's lessons,
I've practiced, uh,
the propositions he taught me.
I don't know if I should still
be as nervous as I am,
but I guess that's
the inquisitive mind and me.
Kind of hasn't died yet.
Hi, do you want to OM?
Do you fancy an OM?
Hey, do you want to OM?
If you want to -- Do you ever
think of OM-ing maybe?
Do you want to, like, OM?
That's it.
Mya: Hello, everybody.
[ Cheers and applause ]
I'm Mya.
- And I'm Eli.
And whose very first time is it
tonight to turn on?
Eli: Oh, wow.
Okay. We're gonna play
three games tonight
that are all communication games
and each of them is designed
to, um, give you a flavor
of a part of the orgasmic
meditation experience.
We'll just go around
the circle like this
and you just say
the first thing comes to mind.
I came here tonight for...
- Connection.
- Fun.
Connection.
- Energy.
- Sex.
To br -- To meet new people.
A desire I have is...
Uh, to have my heart penetrated.
Inhabit female thinking.
Farrah.
I am bright, shiny,
bitch, devil, lover,
orgasmic beast,
whore, awesome,
amazing, magical badass, bitch.
[ Laughter, cheers ]
Um, in the middle of the night,
um, having, uh, fucking without
moving was like --
Oh, my God.
So everybody put your attention
on Thomas
and questions for Thomas.
Let's begin.
Um, I discovered
I'm a lot more like,
sexually hung up
than I kind of realized.
Suzanne.
A stream of profanity.
What your favorite way
to be loved?
Um...
Very physically.
I'll say that.
[ Applause ]
All right.
So the last and final e--
game of the evening
is called intimacies.
You're going to pick one person
and you're going to say an --
a vulnerable truth
you wouldn't normally say.
Thomas, when we were
talking earlier about yoga,
um, I felt, uh, the
vulnerability in your expressing
how difficult it was for you
in your yoga --
in the yoga class.
- Thank you.
Nancy, when you were
describing motionless sex
I felt that was extremely hot.
Nancy: Thank you.
[ Applause ]
That was good.
[ Indistinct conversations ]
Find an OM partner right now.
**
I do need to find
an OM partner. Yeah.
Hi, how are you?
Kianga.
Bian-- Kianga.
You were right behind me.
- Yeah. -I never got
a chance to see you.
- Nice to meet you.
- Good to meet you.
We do have the matching, uh,
medallions did you know?
We do. We do.
Your name is Nancy too, right?
Or...
- I'm actually Suzanne.
- Suzanne! I'm sorry.
I've got flow and you've got,
uh, was it grounding?
Yeah.
You don't need an OM-ing
partner do you?
Um, have you learned how?
No, I'm learning tomorrow,
but...
Oh cool! Great!
You're gonna have a great time. Okay.
I'm not sure.
Um, would you like to OM?
- I'd love to.
- Okay.
So, today, I'll be doing
my second OM-ing lesson,
so the practical OM.
I'm doing it with, uh,
Heather my OM-ing partner
I met last night.
-Hi. -Hi. -Hello.
So, uh, yeah, I think you need
to put your stuff down here.
- Okay.
- And then, um,
just, like,
thanks for being here.
Yeah.
Thank you.
- Yeah.
- It's great to have you.
Any last questions
before we have the OM?
- No.
- Okay.
Let's OM.
- Let's OM.
What you're going to do is
what's called the noticing step.
- Mm-hmm.
- Okay?
So the noticing step is
you're going
to put your full attention
on her genitals.
You're going to look
at her genitals
and you're going to describe
one or two simple things
you see in terms of color,
shape, texture, or location.
Okay. Your...
Your clit is --
is slightly wet and a dark --
a darker red with a little cleft
right above it.
That's perfect.
- That all right?
- Thank you.
So the next thing
you're going to do,
is you're going to give her
the second safeport,
which is, "I'm going
to touch your pussy now."
I'm going
to touch your pussy now.
**
That's it.
Nice and light.
A nice, light, tight stroke
right over that spot.
Beautiful.
That's a great stroke.
- Thank you.
- Yeah.
Good. You're going
to switch back to upstrokes.
Good. Can you get the hood
open a little bit more?
I know it's a little tricky.
There you go.
That's it.
That's her clit.
Just stroke that thing.
You're -- it's almost like
you're playing the bass line
a little bit ahead of the drum.
Does that make sense?
- Yeah.
Three times as much pressure.
- Even more.
- Four times as much pressure.
Go as hard as you can.
- Okay.
- It's gonna go like this.
Use -- Use -- Yeah.
Yeah. Slower and firmer.
That's like, your most
dialed-in stroke right there.
That's beautiful.
Good Thomas.
That's great.
[ Exhales deeply ]
Eli:
All right. That's it.
Thanks, Heather.
- Thank you, Heather.
Like, see this is where you get
to feel your way through.
It's like, do we shake hands,
do we hug,
like, you get to feel it
instead of there being
a formula or a template.
Okay.
Thank you.
[ Laughter ]
Have a good one.
- All right. Let's chat.
- Oh. [ Chuckles lightly ]
Eli: After the OM, you're just
gonna kind of want to sit in it.
Uh, that sense of feeling,
that sort of extra feeling
you have in your body.
Thomas: Yeah.
It melts into intuition,
it melts into, um --
So this is ladydom.
This is ladydom.
Welcome to feminine.
- Wow.
- You got it man.
You came for a little
bit more feminine experience
and this is the feeling of
actually having been connected
to another human being
at a deep visceral level.
This is inhabiting
the feminine spirit.
- Yes!
- Yeah.
**
Thomas: Well, I'm not sure
what I was expecting to feel,
but it wasn't this.
This is definitely
a distinctive sensation.
Um, it wasn't, uh, arousal.
It wasn't the opposite
of arousal either though,
it wasn't anywhere
near either of those.
It just kind of,
occupies its own weird,
physical sphere
in part of the body.
It's weird that all the --
all the stuff
I used to consider hokey
about, like, women
started to make sort of sense.
It's not only not embarrassing,
it's actually kind of worked.
Like, the mind map's helped me
connect a bunch of threads
in pursuing the story.
The medallion led me directly
to my OM-ing partner,
so that proof's in the pudding.
I guess it's not necessarily
a matter of knowing
that it works,
it just king of feels
that it works
and, and that's femaleness.
I mean, I'll never really
know if, um,
what I'm experiencing right now
is what women experience
as a guy who was raised a guy
and will always be a guy,
but if this is it,
it's pretty good.
Namaste.
[ Inhales deeply ]
WOMAN: Exhale redefine,
and then push your hands down
and lift up to plank.
Whoosh!
Like a beast.
Yeah. Oh yeah!
And start to just stir it up.
You're gonna feel it a lot...
- Yes.
- ...right there.
Oh yeah.
Namaste.
Namaste.
**
I'm not the world's
most masculine guy,
but I know what I am
and what I am is a man
with all the social hullabaloo
that goes along with it.
Like many men before me,
I've longed for that ultimate
pearl of knowledge,
which is to step
outside the male mind
and experience firsthand the
inner workings of the female.
While my own male conditioning
and East Coast upbringing
have taught me
to look askant at anything
that calls itself enlightenment
or spiritual awakening,
at least without
the use of drugs,
I realized I'm never going
to pierce the veil of womandom
until I give it
the old college girl try.
So, I've come to America's
feminine side, the West Coast,
to see if I can blow
my male mind wide open...
man.
Hi.
- Hello, Thomas.
- How's it going?
- Good. Come on in.
All right.
- How are you? I'm Thomas.
You brought your hiking boots.
Yeah, I didn't know what kind
of hike it was.
If it was sneaker hike or...
- You're ready -- yeah, well...
- ...or a real hike.
Definitely not those.
It's definitely a real hike.
It's California.
- Okay.
Angela is kind of big
into a bunch
of the spiritual scenes
out here.
She sort of your classic,
you know,
SoCal New Age seeker type.
We gonna go hiking today,
which, uh, I don't know,
I never really thought
of as spiritual,
but maybe it is.
**
Like spending time
in nature to me is like,
it teaches me things Okay.
Like, there's the natural world
and I just feel like
all of the lessons
are, like, right here.
Was your family super
spiritual growing up or...?
I would say my family was
super religious...
- Oh.
- ...growing up.
I was raised Christian
and in those teachings
and I still love those
teachings, but it was different.
Now, I just have a much more
sort of expanded awareness
and understanding
part of spirituality.
For me is like -- it's like
seeing God in everything.
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
Which is not exactly --
Which is not the teaching
that I grew up with.
No, okay.
Me neither.
It was very like,
bearded guy in clouds.
Right?
In clouds.
Like, imagine as
an African-American woman, like,
thinking that
the overall authority figure
in all of life
is a white guy with the beard.
Right.
What do your spiritual...
- Yeah. -...practices
encompass these days?
Yeah, well,
one really big practice
that I have now is,
um, OM-ing, which is uh,
orgasmic meditation.
- Oh, really?
I've been practicing that
for about a year and half now.
Oh, okay.
Orgasmic meditation
is a pretty recent attempt at,
uh, unlocking female energies
that, uh, started
as many as these things
seem to do in San Francisco.
A woman named Nicole Daedone
developed it.
And I felt
like I had tasted a truth
that was so undeniable
I had to bring it to the world.
Angela: OM-ing is a 15 minute
partnered practice
where the stroker, um,
strokes the upper
left-hand quadrant
of a woman's
clitoris with, uh, no agenda.
So it's not about, like, let me,
like, climax her or let me,
you know, whatever.
The only point of it is to feel,
is to bring
all of your full attention,
both peoples full attention
to that point of contact
and feel.
Well, I first found out about it
three years ago,
and then I was like,
this is really, really weird.
One of the practitioners there
was just like,
"Try it, see if you like it,
and then you'll just know."
I think one of
the most important things
that happened for me was, um,
like, God and orgasm actually
came together on the mat for me.
- Hmm.
- Which sounds a little abstract,
but it's like it's the feeling
that I feel when I pray
and I felt it in my OM's.
- Oh.
- Except that it was like,
in the body bringing
all your attention
to one part a clitoris,
which is small already,
that has, like,
over 10,000 nerve endings
and seeking to stay conscious
at that point of contact.
- Yeah.
- Whoa.
- Hello.
- Hi, Eli.
- How's it going?
- Hi.
- Good.
- Good to see you.
Thomas:
Since orgasmic meditation
is not just
the most interesting sounding
of Angela spiritual practices,
obviously,
but also the most woman-centric,
I was curious if there's any way
that I could participate in it.
So Angela invited over an
OM-ing instructor for dinner,
who weirdly enough turned out
to be guy,
a former Apple Genius Bar Genius
named Eli.
No, OneTaste is, um --
That's the organization that --
Yeah. OneTaste is the
organization that teaches OM.
So it's like there's Apple,
which has the iPod
where at OneTaste,
we have orgasmic meditation.
Here in Los Angeles we have a --
a large community people
who practice, and we have
classes about twice a month.
Cool.
We have practice sessions
a few times a week.
People want this. People
are really hungry for this.
We're doing something
very new here,
which is that we have,
um, organized practice
with community
involving genitals,
and there's not a lot
of positive context
for that in the world.
It's not common.
No.
**
Breath normally, naturally,
and you can place your attention
on the breath
if you mind begins to wander.
Just always bring it back
to the breath,
watching the inhalations
and the exhalations.
Sh-sh-should I have my eyes
closed, or --
- Oh, yeah. Sorry.
- Okay. That's okay.
Yeah.
So with the eyes closed,
you just let go of everything
and there's nowhere to go
and there's nothing to do.
Let go of anything
that's coming later.
Just for this moment,
we're present and we're here.
**
[ Bell dings ]
How was that for you?
- It was good.
It was, it was tricky
not to get frustrated
when my mind's wandering.
I remember
when I first started meditating,
I was like great,
this is the perfect time
for me to go through
all my to-do lists.
Because I'm a visual person,
I'll mind-map it out,
like, my talks and stuff
that I do.
Mind-mapping is fun.
It's hella, hella,
hella, hella fun.
We start out with a core idea.
- Mm-hmm.
Will be a topic
that you would want?
Um, I guess, like, women.
I like to draw shapes
just to like, do that.
I'm gonna give you the marker.
- Okay.
What is it that you want to know
about women?
Uh...
**
So this is really
interesting cause what --
For me, what, what
this is starting to look like...
Oh, it started with women,
but it's actually,
maybe actually it's orgasm.
Oh.
This is a great way to see like,
a cohesion in things
that don't always
immediately seem cohesive.
- Yeah.
Or immediately seem
like they have threads.
Cool.
I feel good starting this.
- Yeah.
- Okay.
Maybe I should take it
with me and...
Yeah.
**
So I've been reading, uh,
Angela's Slow Sex Guide,
which includes
rudimentary instructions
on OM-ing, orgasm mediation,
but, um, Eli,
who works for OneTaste,
which is the organization
that does orgasmic meditation
is coming by
this Airbnb I've rented...
[ Engine revs ]
...to basically do like,
home instruction, I guess.
Hey.
- Yeah.
Hey. You can -- Sorry.
Door's open. You can come in.
- Hey, how's it going?
- Good. How are you?
Good. Nice place.
Thank you. It's a rental.
Wherever. I don't know where --
where's good to, um, to do it.
You can -- I can show you
the rest of the house, too.
Yeah, let's just have
a look around.
This couch feels kind of junky.
We can move the pillows around.
Sorry I've been --
Here we go.
Oh.
Have a seat.
Okay.
So we -- we'll talk little bit
about the practice
before we, uh,
actually dive into, like,
the actual nest
and all those pieces.
This is intense.
This is.
This is intimate.
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
So, um...
[ Sighs ]
...how about we start here?
As men, we are never taught
that we have to learn
the feminine language.
That's like the best medium fit
I think of ever seen
in my entire life.
- Like a glove.
Which is not
just a spoken language,
though it's a big part of it,
but it's largely unspoken.
You're doing great so far.
- Thanks.
- Yeah.
So it's intuition-based,
it's feeling-based.
Not just I feel happy or sad,
but I'm feeling something
in connection
with what you're feeling.
This washcloth is here just to,
at the end of the OM,
you collect any excess lube.
- Oh, okay.
- Okay?
- Okay. For drips.
- Yeah.
So you're learning
how to just connect inside
of this 15 minute thing
with no goal,
which also means you're not
trying to make her climax.
So, this is the basic position
your hand is going to be in,
but you're going
to turn downwards.
You're not trying to produce any
particular result in her body.
This thumb is going
to be pulling the hood
of clitoris back,
clitorises have hoods.
- Yep.
- You're not trying to,
um, dictate what's going to
happen in this situation at all
other than following
the electricity,
which happens
at the connection point
between your finger
and her clit.
There is a way that you're going
to be so tuned in
to what's happening in her pussy
that no matter
what else is happening with her,
your sense of what's true
is going to be so unequivocal
that it's gonna
change your life.
That's what
this practice offers.
And the fact that
stroking pussy just feels good.
Thomas: Right.
Thomas:
So, while orgasmic meditation
is a very, like,
specific practice.
You know, it's that time frame
and very precise rules.
Um, it's part
of a greater program.
Uh, there's, first of all,
there's a movement
called the Slow Sex movement.
This is like its central text.
It lends itself towards
a, you know,
kind of holistic model
of living,
which I always wrote of
as just hippie speak, la, la,
like organic or all-natural,
but it means like you don't,
you know,
just do OM-ing
and then go back to your life
as a shithead lawyer
screaming in traffic.
You're supposed to live
according to what, you know,
you learn from the consciousness
expansion of OM-ing.
Ultimately, I think
it is just, you know,
being mindful of your body
and your sanity.
So a lot of the OneTaste people
do, like, really intensive yoga
and they're very into
fancy juices.
I don't think it necessarily,
like, needs to be that,
like, SoCal granola.
I think just getting
a little bit of exercise
and not working yourself
to death is really what,
uh, the maxim is.
Yo.
- Hey. What's up, man?
- Morning. How are you?
- How's it going?
- It's going.
- A little uh...
- Hi.
- Hey. Good morning.
- How you doing?
- A little work break.
Cool.
- Hey, this is my friend Marcus.
- How you doing?
- Hey.
- Thomas.
- Thomas, good to meet you.
- We run, we're,
we're half of OneTaste
to Los Angeles.
Cool.
Good to meet you.
Yeah.
**
Oops. Oh.
OM-OM-ing
does not add to athleticism.
- Right.
- No?
- There are a lot of benefits --
- But that's not one of them.
- Athleticism isn't one of them.
- I don't know about that.
- Okay.
- I think I got something.
What are -- What are the --
the non--
like, nonsexual benefits?
There's benefits
from your yoga practice
that influence
your reading practice
that influence how you eat.
- Oh! Shit! Sorry.
You know.
It just so
happens that there is,
uh, a specific context
that OM happens inside of
that make it potentially
more conducive
for the "sexual benefits."
- Yeah. -How did you
get involved Marcus?
Well, how I heard about
OM was, uh,
my ex-girlfriend, uh,
told me about it.
And -- And her and I --
[ Laughs ]
we had -- I mean, we just had --
we had terrible sex, you know.
And that, that was really like my...
- Whoop!
...my pain that brought me
to the practice.
My pride didn't want to --
didn't want to admit that.
I-I needed practice in --
in -- or I needed a practice
in how to stroke a woman's
pussy or --
or know a woman's pussy
or that stroking it at all
would bring my benefits.
Let's go, you ball.
Ooh. That thing's sharp.
Well, gentlemen. That might be
the game right there.
It's fine.
**
I love coming here.
I spend hours in here.
Thomas: What are you looking
at mostly? Do you --
It kinda depends on
what I'm working with.
You know, all of these are,
like, they're tools.
- Yeah.
- You know, they're tools
for exploring the consciousness.
Talismans.
What's this guy? Have you seen
one of those? It says...
- It's like a --
- ...mineral science technology.
Yeah, like it has minerals
in there
and then you wear it.
- Oh, you wear it.
Etheric flow, inspiration,
meditation, contemplation.
Intuition.
I need to give this guy a whirl.
Mm-hmm.
That's a good one.
**
So, tonight is the big
orgasmic meditation turn on,
which, uh, is where I'm going
to meet my OM-ing partner.
It's basically been described
to me as what sounds like
a cross between a freshmen mixer
at a small college,
maybe a youth group.
I've absorbed all Eli's lessons,
I've practiced, uh,
the propositions he taught me.
I don't know if I should still
be as nervous as I am,
but I guess that's
the inquisitive mind and me.
Kind of hasn't died yet.
Hi, do you want to OM?
Do you fancy an OM?
Hey, do you want to OM?
If you want to -- Do you ever
think of OM-ing maybe?
Do you want to, like, OM?
That's it.
Mya: Hello, everybody.
[ Cheers and applause ]
I'm Mya.
- And I'm Eli.
And whose very first time is it
tonight to turn on?
Eli: Oh, wow.
Okay. We're gonna play
three games tonight
that are all communication games
and each of them is designed
to, um, give you a flavor
of a part of the orgasmic
meditation experience.
We'll just go around
the circle like this
and you just say
the first thing comes to mind.
I came here tonight for...
- Connection.
- Fun.
Connection.
- Energy.
- Sex.
To br -- To meet new people.
A desire I have is...
Uh, to have my heart penetrated.
Inhabit female thinking.
Farrah.
I am bright, shiny,
bitch, devil, lover,
orgasmic beast,
whore, awesome,
amazing, magical badass, bitch.
[ Laughter, cheers ]
Um, in the middle of the night,
um, having, uh, fucking without
moving was like --
Oh, my God.
So everybody put your attention
on Thomas
and questions for Thomas.
Let's begin.
Um, I discovered
I'm a lot more like,
sexually hung up
than I kind of realized.
Suzanne.
A stream of profanity.
What your favorite way
to be loved?
Um...
Very physically.
I'll say that.
[ Applause ]
All right.
So the last and final e--
game of the evening
is called intimacies.
You're going to pick one person
and you're going to say an --
a vulnerable truth
you wouldn't normally say.
Thomas, when we were
talking earlier about yoga,
um, I felt, uh, the
vulnerability in your expressing
how difficult it was for you
in your yoga --
in the yoga class.
- Thank you.
Nancy, when you were
describing motionless sex
I felt that was extremely hot.
Nancy: Thank you.
[ Applause ]
That was good.
[ Indistinct conversations ]
Find an OM partner right now.
**
I do need to find
an OM partner. Yeah.
Hi, how are you?
Kianga.
Bian-- Kianga.
You were right behind me.
- Yeah. -I never got
a chance to see you.
- Nice to meet you.
- Good to meet you.
We do have the matching, uh,
medallions did you know?
We do. We do.
Your name is Nancy too, right?
Or...
- I'm actually Suzanne.
- Suzanne! I'm sorry.
I've got flow and you've got,
uh, was it grounding?
Yeah.
You don't need an OM-ing
partner do you?
Um, have you learned how?
No, I'm learning tomorrow,
but...
Oh cool! Great!
You're gonna have a great time. Okay.
I'm not sure.
Um, would you like to OM?
- I'd love to.
- Okay.
So, today, I'll be doing
my second OM-ing lesson,
so the practical OM.
I'm doing it with, uh,
Heather my OM-ing partner
I met last night.
-Hi. -Hi. -Hello.
So, uh, yeah, I think you need
to put your stuff down here.
- Okay.
- And then, um,
just, like,
thanks for being here.
Yeah.
Thank you.
- Yeah.
- It's great to have you.
Any last questions
before we have the OM?
- No.
- Okay.
Let's OM.
- Let's OM.
What you're going to do is
what's called the noticing step.
- Mm-hmm.
- Okay?
So the noticing step is
you're going
to put your full attention
on her genitals.
You're going to look
at her genitals
and you're going to describe
one or two simple things
you see in terms of color,
shape, texture, or location.
Okay. Your...
Your clit is --
is slightly wet and a dark --
a darker red with a little cleft
right above it.
That's perfect.
- That all right?
- Thank you.
So the next thing
you're going to do,
is you're going to give her
the second safeport,
which is, "I'm going
to touch your pussy now."
I'm going
to touch your pussy now.
**
That's it.
Nice and light.
A nice, light, tight stroke
right over that spot.
Beautiful.
That's a great stroke.
- Thank you.
- Yeah.
Good. You're going
to switch back to upstrokes.
Good. Can you get the hood
open a little bit more?
I know it's a little tricky.
There you go.
That's it.
That's her clit.
Just stroke that thing.
You're -- it's almost like
you're playing the bass line
a little bit ahead of the drum.
Does that make sense?
- Yeah.
Three times as much pressure.
- Even more.
- Four times as much pressure.
Go as hard as you can.
- Okay.
- It's gonna go like this.
Use -- Use -- Yeah.
Yeah. Slower and firmer.
That's like, your most
dialed-in stroke right there.
That's beautiful.
Good Thomas.
That's great.
[ Exhales deeply ]
Eli:
All right. That's it.
Thanks, Heather.
- Thank you, Heather.
Like, see this is where you get
to feel your way through.
It's like, do we shake hands,
do we hug,
like, you get to feel it
instead of there being
a formula or a template.
Okay.
Thank you.
[ Laughter ]
Have a good one.
- All right. Let's chat.
- Oh. [ Chuckles lightly ]
Eli: After the OM, you're just
gonna kind of want to sit in it.
Uh, that sense of feeling,
that sort of extra feeling
you have in your body.
Thomas: Yeah.
It melts into intuition,
it melts into, um --
So this is ladydom.
This is ladydom.
Welcome to feminine.
- Wow.
- You got it man.
You came for a little
bit more feminine experience
and this is the feeling of
actually having been connected
to another human being
at a deep visceral level.
This is inhabiting
the feminine spirit.
- Yes!
- Yeah.
**
Thomas: Well, I'm not sure
what I was expecting to feel,
but it wasn't this.
This is definitely
a distinctive sensation.
Um, it wasn't, uh, arousal.
It wasn't the opposite
of arousal either though,
it wasn't anywhere
near either of those.
It just kind of,
occupies its own weird,
physical sphere
in part of the body.
It's weird that all the --
all the stuff
I used to consider hokey
about, like, women
started to make sort of sense.
It's not only not embarrassing,
it's actually kind of worked.
Like, the mind map's helped me
connect a bunch of threads
in pursuing the story.
The medallion led me directly
to my OM-ing partner,
so that proof's in the pudding.
I guess it's not necessarily
a matter of knowing
that it works,
it just king of feels
that it works
and, and that's femaleness.
I mean, I'll never really
know if, um,
what I'm experiencing right now
is what women experience
as a guy who was raised a guy
and will always be a guy,
but if this is it,
it's pretty good.
Namaste.