90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days (2017–…): Season 3, Episode 11 - Hard to Say I'm Sorry - full transcript

PREVIOUSLY ON
"BEFORE THE 90 DAYS"...

I'M VERY PROTECTIVE
AROUND THE...

I'D BE VERY SURPRISED
IF THIS WAS THE LAST WOMAN

THAT THOMAS WAS WITH.

WE NEED TO TO GET
CLOSER, DEFINITELY.

VERONICA IN THIS MOMENT IS TOO
CLOSE, AND I DON'T LIKE THAT.

YOU'RE WORRIED THAT
I ACTUALLY HAVE PICTURES

THAT I'M LOOKING AT
AT MY EX.

YES.

ZIED'S JEALOUSY HAS NOW
COME OUT OF NOWHERE.

WE'RE GOING TO BE APART
FOR A LONG TIME.



DO YOU HAVE ANY EMOTIONS
RIGHT NOW?

YOU DON'T EVEN SEEM LIKE IT.

HE CARES A LOT ABOUT THE VISA,

BUT HE WASN'T VERY EMOTIONAL
ABOUT ME LEAVING.

SO NOT JUST ENGAGED?

THAT'S A HUGE COMMITMENT.

I DON'T KNOW
WHAT I'M GOING TO DO.

I GOT 14 HOURS TO DECIDE.

A REAL MAN WOULD HAVE TOLD HIM
TURN HIS ASS AROUND

AND GO THE HOME.

IT'S NONE OF YOUR
BUSINESS.

HOLD ON, HOLD ON.

IS THAT FUNNY?

THIS IS CRAZY.



LET HIM GO, PLEASE.

AND COMING UP...

THERE'S NOT A WHOLE LOT
WE CAN DO TO HELP YOU

IF YOU GO TO SYRIA
BY YOURSELF.

WHAT IF YOU DID GET
PREGNANT OVER THERE?

YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE
A BABY IN SYRIA?

THEY CAN'T CONVINCE ME
TO STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND.

WHAT'S WRONG, BENJAMIN?

I'M JUST SCARED.

WHY?

BECAUSE I WANT TO MAKE SURE
THAT WE WORK.

YOU MAKE ME FEEL
LIKE A PRINCESS.

BUT, BABY, I AM START THINKING
THAT MAYBE YOU'RE GAY.

I'M GONNA BE YOUR WIFE.

I NEED TO KNOW
THAT I HAVE YOU THERE

NO MATTER WHAT, MICHAEL.

THAT'S WHY I'M HERE.

HE'S NOT A KEPT MAN.
HE NEVER WILL BE.

TECHNICALLY
I'M STILL MARRIED.

MARRIED?

YES.

ME NOT ACCEPT THIS.

ZIED?

CAPTIONS PAID FOR BY
DISCOVERY COMMUNICATIONS

I'VE BEEN IN COLOMBIA
FOR ALMOST TWO WEEKS,

AND I'M FEELING GOOD, AND I FEEL
LIKE JENIFFER IS FEELING GOOD.

YESTERDAY, JENIFFER GOT TO MEET
MY EX VERONICA OVER SKYPE.

THE CALL WAS VERY AWKWARD
FOR ME AND SUPER TENSE.

BUT JENIFFER'S ACCEPTED
THE FACT

THAT VERONICA AND CHLOE
AREN'T GOING ANYWHERE.

AT THIS POINT, I SEE
SO MANY POSITIVE THINGS

ABOUT JENIFFER
AND I'S RELATIONSHIP,

BUT AT THE SAME TIME,
I STILL DON'T KNOW

IF I'M READY TO GET ENGAGED.

AND I'M RUNNING OUT OF TIME.

I NEED SOME ADVICE,
AND VERONICA'S THE BEST PERSON

FOR ME TO TALK TO.

SHE'S MY BEST FRIEND.

HEY, WHAT'S GOING ON?

SORRY TO BOTHER YOU.
I KNOW YOU'RE BUSY, BUT...

THAT'S OKAY.

WELL, YOU KNOW, MY TRIP
IS COMING TO AN END,

AND I THINK TODAY IS THE DAY
THAT I'M GOING TO

MAKE THE DECISION
WHETHER OR NOT

I'M GOING TO PROPOSE TO HER
OR PUT THINGS OFF.

SO I'M SCARED.

YOUR OPINION IS REALLY
WHAT MATTERS MOST TO ME.

WELL, AT THIS POINT,
WE'VE HAD ABOUT

AS MANY GOOD DAYS AS BAD.

I MEAN, WHAT WOULD YOU DO
IF YOU WERE ME?

NO.

How does...

I DON'T KNOW WHY THAT
MATTERS. I MEAN, LIKE...

ARE YOU AGAINST
IT, REALLY,

BECAUSE I'M SURPRISED
RIGHT NOW.

NOW YOU'RE ME UP
BECAUSE I THOUGHT

YOU WERE GOING TO
BE SUPPORTIVE.

YEAH.

I'M ABOUT TO HIT 39,
YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN,

IN A COUPLE OF MONTHS.

I GET IT.

I'M GETTING FRUSTRATED BECAUSE
THIS IS NOT THE DIRECTION

THAT I THOUGHT THIS CONVERSATION
WAS GOING TO GO IN,

AND NOW YOU'RE MAKING ME
SECOND GUESS

MY ALREADY
SECOND GUESSING.

I DON'T THINK JENIFFER'S GOING
TO BE COOL WITH ME

JUST LEAVING AND SAYING,
"YOU KNOW WHAT? I'M NOT READY.

OKAY, WE'LL JUST KEEP DATING.
WE'LL KEEP THINGS THE SAME."

IT'S EITHER WE NEED
TO MOVE FORWARD

OR IT NEEDS TO BE DONE.

IT'S TOUGH.

ALL RIGHT.

I GOT TO GO.

LOVE YOU.

I'M FEELING THE PRESSURE.
TIME HAS RUN OUT.

I'M NOT READY
TO MAKE A DECISION.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO,
AND THIS IS SOMETHING

THAT'S GOING TO AFFECT
THE REST OF MY LIFE.

COME ON.

IT'S BEEN ALMOST
THREE WEEKS SINCE TOM AND I HAVE

BEEN TOGETHER, AND NOW
THAT WE'RE IN NOTTINGHAM,

TOM LET HIS GUARD DOWN.

YEAH, I, YOU KNOW,
LIKE TO SHINE. WHY NOT?

BUT HE STILL HASN'T TOLD ME
HE LOVES ME.

YOU KNOW, IT'S A SPECIAL
THING TO SAY,

AND I THINK HE'S JUST WAITING
FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT.

SO WE'RE MEETING EMMA.

I AM HAPPY TO BE WELCOMED
INTO YOUR WORLD.

LAST NIGHT, TOM INTRODUCED ME
TO HIS SISTER EMMA

AND HER PARTNER RICARDO.

BUT I'M WORRIED ABOUT
WHAT EMMA THINKS OF ME.

SHE'S CONCERNED
ABOUT THE LOGISTICS

OF A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

BUT TONIGHT, TOM AND I
ARE MEETING UP

WITH EMMA AND RICARDO AGAIN
TO GO SALSA DANCING.

I WANT HER TO SEE HOW TOM
AND I HAVE AN AMAZING BOND

AND CONNECTION WITH EACH OTHER

AND THAT THIS IS
A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP.

HEY!

- EMMA!
- HEY, BABY. HOW ARE YOU?

- I'M DOING GOOD, I'M GOOD.
- WHO IS THIS SEXY LADY HERE?

GOOD?

YEAH, YEAH, YEAH, YEAH, YEAH.

OH! SHAKE IT.

OH, BOY, OH, BOY.
SALUD!

LOVE LIFE,
SUCCESS, HAPPINESS.

YEE-HAW!

I WANTED TO TAKE DARCEY
SALSA DANCING.

IT'S SOMETHING BOTH MYSELF

AND MY SISTER HAVE DONE
FOR OVER 20 YEARS.

IT HAS BEEN THE LOVE
OF MY LIFE.

I WANT TO SHARE THAT LOVE
AND PASSION WITH HER.

YES, YES, YES!

OH!

IT'S BEAUTIFUL
TO WATCH THEM.

IN SALSA DANCING, YOU DO DANCE
WITH NUMEROUS PEOPLE.

IF YOU'RE A GUY,
YOU DANCE WITH MAYBE

20, 30 WOMEN IN ONE NIGHT.

IT'S, LIKE, PART OF MY LIFE.

I FEEL A LOT FREER
WITH THE MUSIC PLAYING

AND MY HIPS SWAYING,
AND I'M QUITE EXCITED

ABOUT SHARING
THIS EXPERIENCE WITH HER.

YOU WANT TO DANCE?
OH.

YOU WANT TO DANCE?
OKAY.

WE CAN DANCE.

YOU BETTER WATCH OUT.

I LOVE THE ENERGY
AND GETTING PASSIONATE

ON THE DANCE FLOOR WITH HIM.

I FEEL LIKE IT'S BRINGING US
CLOSER TOGETHER.

AND WHILE IT DOES BOTHER ME
TOM STILL HASN'T SAID

"I LOVE YOU"...

I SEE IT IN HIS EYES.

THAT WAS AWESOME, BABY.

DARCEY DOESN'T KNOW
HOW TO DANCE SALSA.

SHE ENJOYS TO DANCE,

BUT SHE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND
THE FOOT WORK.

SHE JUST WANTS TO BE
CLOSE AND ROMANTIC.

I THINK WHEN
IT COMES TO SALSA,

I'D PROBABLY PREFER TO STICK
WITH MY REGULAR PARTNERS.

BECAUSE I'VE DONE IT SO LONG,
DANCING WITH A NEWBIE

IS JUST NOT AS MUCH FUN.

OH, MY GOD!
HOW ARE YOU?

YEAH, THAT'S
THE DANCING CULTURE.

WHY NOT.

BUT I KIND OF FEEL LIKE
I'M BETTER THAN HER.

I SEE TOM DANCING
WITH BEAUTIFUL, SEXY WOMEN,

CUTTING IT
ON THE DANCE FLOOR.

IT'S LIKE... AWKWARD.

SORRY.

I DON'T KNOW, I FEEL A LITTLE
IGNORED TO BE HONEST WITH YOU.

I GOT A LITTLE MINUTE DANCE
WITH HIM,

AND I KIND OF FEEL
PUSHED TO THE SIDE.

I WANT HIM TO GIVE ME
THE ATTENTION THAT I DESERVE.

I'M LEAVING HIM,

AND I HAVE NO CONTROL
OVER WHAT HAPPENS NEXT.

IT'S HARD.

THERE'S A CHANCE
I'LL NEVER SEEN HIM AGAIN.

I'M SCARED.
WHY?

I WANTED TO MAKE SURE
THAT WE WORK.

WE AREWORKING.

I HAVE BEEN HERE IN
KENYA FOR JUST A WEEK WITH PLANS

TO GET ENGAGED
TO MY GIRLFRIEND, AKINYI.

BUT AKINYI TOLD ME THAT
IF HER FATHER AND I AGREE

ON THE BRIDE PRICE TOMORROW,

WE ARE CONSIDERED
MARRIED IN KENYA.

I DIDN'T EXPECT THIS.

I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT
I'M GOING TO DO TOMORROW,

BUT I HAVE TO MAKE A DECISION.

I'M VERY TORN, YOU KNOW?

I...

I HAVE A SON TO KEEP IN MIND.

BENJAMIN?

YEAH?

I LOVE AKINYI, BUT HOW COULD
I MEET SOMEBODY FOR

THE FIRST TIME AND IN LESS
THAN TWO WEEKS,

GET MARRIED TO THEM?

IT'S A DIFFICULT CONUNDRUM.

WHAT?

HOW YOU DOING?

GOOD.

TALK TO ME.

ABOUT WHAT?

WHAT'S WRONG, BENJAMIN?

I'M JUST SCARED
ABOUT TOMORROW, I GUESS.

I LOVE YOU.

I LOVE YOU A LOT.

OH, BABY.

OH, I LOVE YOU, TOO.

ARE YOU BAD SCARED?

I AM.

WHY?

BECAUSE I WANT TO MAKE SURE
THAT WE WORK.

WE AREWORKING.

I CAME HERE TO GET TO KNOW YOU,
AND YOU'RE AMAZING.

I JUST...

ARE WE MAKING THE RIGHT
DECISION TOMORROW?

ARE YOU HAVING
SECOND THOUGHTS?

HONESTLY, I DO HAVE
A LITTLE BIT OF DOUBT.

WHY?
YOU'RE SCARING ME.

I DON'T WANT TO SCARE YOU-

BUT YOU ARE.

THIS IS PART OF MY HONEST
COMMUNICATION WITH YOU.

AND IF WE'RE GOING
TO BE TOGETHER,

WE HAVE TO BE ABLE
TO TALK, RIGHT?

OKAY, TELL ME.
WHAT ARE YOU DOUBTING?

HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT
WE'LL GET ALONG WITH GRAYSON?

I DON'T, BUT I WILL
LOVE HIM REGARDLESS

OF WHETHER
HE LOVES ME OR NOT

OR WHETHER
HE APPROVES OF ME OR NOT.

I HAVE TOLD BENJAMIN THAT
I AM WORRIED ABOUT

BEING A STEP-MOM, BUT...

SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY,
I'LL HAVE TO GET USED TO IT

BECAUSE BENJAMIN'S SON IS THE
MOST IMPORTANT PERSON TO HIM.

HIM AND HIS SON
COME AS A PACKAGE,

SO I'LL TAKE THAT PACKAGE
BECAUSE I LOVE HIM.

YOU'RE READY TO BE
MARRIED TO ME?

MM-HMM.

ARE YOU NOT SURE?

I WANT TO MAKE
SURE THAT WE'RE

BOTH ON THE SAME PAGE,
110%.

HAVE I SHOWN YOU ANYTHING
DIFFERENT THAN 110%?

NO.

THEN WHAT
ARE YOU SAYING?

I JUST...

THEN LET'S...

LET'S GO TOGETHER,

AND WE'LL DO THIS
TOMORROW.

MM-HMM.

OKAY?

EVEN THOUGH
I'M NOT SURE WHETHER OR NOT

I'M MAKING THE RIGHT DECISION,

I COULD LOSE
THE LOVE OF MY LIFE.

I GUESS
I JUST GOT SCARED.

SO I'M GOING THROUGH WITH IT.

I JUST HOPE I'M NOT GETTING
MARRIED TO THE WRONG PERSON.

OKAY.

THANK YOU.
THOSE MUST BE SO HEAVY.

OMAR AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER
FOR 10 DAYS NOW,

AND WE JUST GOT
MARRIED HERE IN LEBANON.

BUT MY HONEYMOON IS OVER.

NOW I HAVE TO HOP BACK
ON A FLIGHT TO THE U.S.

I'M GOING
TO I MISS YOU, OKAY?

I THINK IT'S GOING TO BE REALLY
HARD FOR OUR RELATIONSHIP

TO SURVIVE THE TIME
AND DISTANCE,

BUT THE PLAN IS FROM ME
WHEN I GET BACK TO THE STATES

AS TO APPLY FOR A SPOUSAL VISA.

AND THEN A FEW MONTHS
LATER MOVE TO SYRIA

SO WE DON'T HAVE TO BE APART

WHILE WE'RE WAITING
ON THE APPROVAL.

IT'S GOING TO BE
REALLY HARD

WHEN I GET
TO THE AIRPORT, AND...

YOU KNOW, I HAVE
TO WALK THROUGH

SECURITY
AND THEN WALK AWAY.

IT'S GOING TO BE SO HARD
TO LEAVE YOU BEHIND.

HE LIVES IN A PLACE OF WAR,

AND I KNOW
THERE'S JEOPARDY OVER THERE.

THE LAST THING I WOULD WANT IS
FOR SOMETHING TO HAPPEN TO HIM.

I KNOW.

I'M NOT CHECKING IN YET.
WE HAVE A LITTLE BIT OF TIME.

I LOVE YOU.

WHO'S GOING TO PLAY
WITH YOUR BEARD NOW?

READY?

OKAY.

NO, WILL YOU
COME UP WITH ME?

WILL YOU WALK WITH ME?

IT'S HARD.

I CAME HERE TO MEET
THE LOVE OF MY LIFE

AND TO GET MARRIED TO HIM.

YOU KNOW, I WISH WE COULD
HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED

AND THEN STAYED TOGETHER,
BUT, YOU KNOW,

GOD HAS DIFFERENT PLANS FOR US,

AND I WILL REMEMBER
THIS TIME FOR THE...

PLEASE.

OKAY, LET ME GIVE YOU
A KISS ON YOUR HAND?

YEAH?

OKAY, ON MY HEAD.

COME ON.

OKAY.

I LOVE YOU.
GO.

I WILL CHERISH THESE MOMENTS,
AND, YOU KNOW, I'LL REMEMBER

THIS TRIP FOR
THE REST OF MY LIFE.

EVERY SECOND I HAD WITH OMAR,
I'M GRATEFUL FOR.

I HOPE AND I PRAY I GET MORE.

I'M GOING TO MISS YOU.

I'LL SEE YOU, OKAY?

ALL RIGHT, I LOVE YOU.

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH.

TAKE CARE, BYE.

I WILL.

BUT...

YEAH, SHE KNOWS THIS.

YOU KNOW...

I HAVE A 30-HOUR FLIGHT
I'M NOT EXCITED FOR.

I'M LEAVING HIM, AND I HAVE NO
CONTROL OVER WHAT HAPPENS NEXT.

WHAT'S HARDER TO THINK ABOUT
IS THERE IS A CHANCE

I'LL NEVER SEE HIM AGAIN.

AND ALL I CAN DO IS PRAY
AND HOPE FOR HIS SAFETY

AND THAT WE CAN HAVE
A FUTURE TOGETHER

BECAUSE THAT'S ALL I WANT.

I NEED TO TALK TO YOU
ABOUT SOMETHING.

UM...

I'M PRETTY NERVOUS ABOUT WHAT

HIS REACTION IS GOING TO BE.

I CAN'T IMAGINE LOSING ZIED.

I DON'T KNOW IF THE SHOES
WERE THE RIGHT CHOICE.

I'VE BEEN IN TUNISIA
FOR TWO WEEKS,

AND MY TIME HERE
IS COMING TO AN END.

ESPECIALLY WHEN THE HEATER
STOPS WORKING.

YES.

WE'VE BEEN SPINNING
OUR LAST FEW DAYS

TOGETHER HERE IN THE SAHARA.

BUT THINGS HAVE BEEN
KIND OF TENSE

SINCE WE'VE HAD
OUR FIGHT YESTERDAY.

AS JEALOUS AS ZIED
IS ABOUT MY MOROCCAN EX,

I AM VERY WORRIED ABOUT
HOW HE'S GOING TO RESPOND

WHEN HE FINDS OUT THAT I'M STILL
TECHNICALLY MARRIED TO HIM.

I KNOW THAT I NEED TO COME CLEAN
WITH HIM BEFORE I LEAVE,

BUT FOR NOW, I'M JUST TRYING
TO ENJOY THE TIME

THAT WE HAVE LEFT TOGETHER.

OH, I HEAR THEM.

OH.

AS EXCITED AS ZIED SEEMS

TO GET OUT THERE
AND RIDE THE ATVs...

WHAT ARE YOU DOING?

I THINK MAYBE
HE UNDERESTIMATES

HOW DIFFICULT IT CAN BE.

- ZIED.
- WHOO!

BABY, STOP GOING SO FAST.

WHOO-HOO!

AH!

YOU OKAY?

THERE'S NOTHING LIKE A NICE
ATV RIDE THROUGH THE SAHARA

TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
STRONGER.

WHOO!

WHOO!

I LOVE YOU.

THIS PLACE IS AMAZING.

OH, WOW, BABY.

SO BEAUTIFUL.

YEAH.

OH, MY GOD.

I LOVE THIS PLACE.

THIS PLACE AS AMAZING.

YES.

LIKE, I WAS LOOKING FORWARD
TO COMING HERE,

BUT YOU HAVE BEEN
SO MUCH MORE THAN I THOUGHT.

YOU KNOW?

I LOVE YOU.

I'M NOT PERFECT.

I'VE NEVER BEEN
THIS IN LOVE WITH ANYONE,

AND I'VE NEVER FELT THAT SOMEONE
LOVED ME AS MUCH AS ZIED DOES.

IT'S MINE AND ZIED'S LAST DAY
IN THE DESERT TOGETHER,

AND I'VE GOT
TO COME CLEAN TO HIM.

YES.

I'M PRETTY NERVOUS ABOUT WHAT
HIS REACTION'S GOING TO BE.

AND...

I CAN'T IMAGINE LOSING ZIED.

THIS HAS BEEN SO BEAUTIFUL
TODAY, BABY.

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH.

UM...

I NEED TO TALK TO YOU
ABOUT SOMETHING.

THERE'S SOMETHING I NEED
TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT.

UM...

MY DIVORCE PAPERS,

THEY ARE NOT FINAL YET.

SO TECHNICALLY
RIGHT THIS MINUTE,

I'M STILL MARRIED.

STILL MARRIED RIGHT NOW.

THIS IS LIKE THE LAST SHOT.

I MEAN, I GOT TO MAKE
A DECISION. I'M LEAVING.

THIS IS
SO BEAUTIFUL, BABY.

I DON'T WANT
TO MAKE A MISTAKE,

BUT I ALSO DON'T WANT
TO RISK LOSING HER.

THERE'S NOT A WHOLE LOT
WE CAN DO TO HELP YOU

WHEN YOU GO TO SYRIA
BY YOURSELF.

WHAT IF YOU GET PREGNANT
OVER THERE?

ARE YOU GOING TO HAVE
A BABY IN SYRIA?

THEY CAN'T CONVINCE ME
TO STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND.

I'VE BEEN HERE IN
NIGERIA WITH MY FIANCé, MICHAEL,

A LITTLE OVER A WEEK NOW.

AND LAST NIGHT MICHAEL AND I
WENT OUT WITH MICHAEL'S FRIENDS,

I CALL THEM "THE GOOFBALLS".

HERE GOES THESE
PLASTIC CHAIRS AGAIN.

I DON'T LIKE THESE SO CALLED
FRIENDS OF MICHAEL'S.

AND LAST NIGHT, WE GOT
IN A PRETTY BIG FIGHT

AND HIS FRIENDS
STORMED OFF ONE BY ONE.

MICHAEL WAS PRETTY UPSET ABOUT
THE SITUATION, AND HONESTLY,

I DON'T KNOW
WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT.

YOU KNOW,
WHEN I WAS SITTING ACROSS

FROM THE GOOFBALLS,
ESPECIALLY THE MIDDLE ONE

KEPT SNICKERING
AND LAUGHING.

I DON'T LIKE
TO BE LAUGHED AT.

I WAS TRYING TO TALK
AND GET MY POINT ACROSS.

BUT DO YOU REALLY REALIZE
WHY I GOT SO MAD?

WHAT YOUDID
WHEN THEY WERE THERE.

THE FIGHT WAS MAINLY
ABOUT THIS ONE NIGHT

WHEN MICHAEL WENT OUT
WITH HIS FRIENDS,

BUT I WAS SICK AT HOME,
AND ALL I NEEDED

WAS MICHAEL'S
EMOTIONAL SUPPORT.

TO ME, I FELT LIKE MICHAEL
DIDN'T CARE ABOUT ME.

I WAS HURT.

I NEVER WOULD'VE THOUGHT
IN A MILLION YEARS,

ESPECIALLY ME BEING SICK,

THAT YOU WOULD'VE
DONE ME LIKE THAT.

I FELT LIKE YOU KICKED ME
WHEN I WAS DOWN,

AND THEN THAT WAS THE BIGGEST
TRUST YOU EVER BROKE.

AND I HELD THAT IN...

I DON'T KNOW HOW LONG.

I'M REALIZING THAT ALL THE ANGER
I'VE HAD BOTTLED UP

WAS REALLY DIRECTED
TOWARD MICHAEL.

THAT INCIDENT,
IT PAINED ME DEEP,

AND I COULD NOT LET IT GO.

NOW DO YOU SEE
WHY I'M SO ANGRY?

JUST HEARING US
TALK ABOUT IT,

BECAUSE WE'VE NEVER REALLY
TALKED, TALKED, TALKED

ABOUT THE WHOLE THING.

I THINK I CAN FORGIVE
YOU NOW, MICHAEL.

I DON'T THINK
I COULD BEFORE.

BUT I WANT TO TELL YOU
SOMETHING ELSE.

I'M GOING
TO BE YOUR WIFE.

AND I KNOW AT TIMES
I AM NOT RIGHT HOW I ACT,

BUT DON'T PUT
NO ONE BEFORE ME BUT GOD

AND OF COURSE YOUR MOM.

I NEED TO KNOW THAT NO MATTER
WHAT CONDITION I'M IN,

THAT I HAVE YOU THERE
NO MATTER WHAT, MICHAEL.

THAT'S WHY I'M HERE.

I JUST WANT TO LET YOU KNOW,
I WANT TO APOLOGIZE

BECAUSE I WAS WRONG
THE WAY I HANDLED IT.

I WANT YOU TO CALL
THE GOOFBALLS.

I WANT TO SEE THEM.

AND I WANT TO APOLOGIZE,
AS BEING YOUR FIANCéE,

FOR THE WAY I ACTED
BUT NOT FOR WHAT I SAID,

'CAUSE I MEANT
WHAT I SAID.

I COME ACROSS PRETTY HARSH
BECAUSE I WAS HURT,

BUT NOW I'VE EMBARRASSED
MICHAEL.

APOLOGIZING TO THE GOOFBALLS
IS GOING TO BE HARD,

BUT I KNOW IT'S THE RIGHT THING
TO DO FOR MICHAEL AND I

AND TO SHOW HIM
THAT I LOVE HIM.

THANK YOU.

FOR ANGELA TO APOLOGIZE...

IN A FEW DAYS,
I'M LEAVING COLOMBIA,

AND I REALLY THOUGHT
THAT VERONICA WAS GOING TO BE

THE CALL I NEEDED
TO FINALLY MAKE A DECISION

ABOUT PROPOSING TO JENIFFER.

BUT SHE SAID EVERYTHING OPPOSITE
OF WHAT I WAS EXPECTING,

AND THAT JUST CONFUSED ME
EVEN FURTHER.

BUT THIS IS LIKE
THE LAST SHOT,

I MEAN I'VE GOT TO MAKE
A DECISION.

I'M LEAVING.

THE STORY WITH THIS RING
IS AT THE GOING AWAY PARTY

IN CHARLOTTE, MY EX-FIANCéE
VERONICA PULLED ME TO THE SIDE

AND SHE GAVE ME THIS RING.

REMEMBER THIS?

IS THIS THE ONE
I PROPOSED WITH?

THAT'S THE ONE YOU
PROPOSED WITH.

I FIGURED MAYBE
IT WOULD HAVE

A BETTER USE
IN YOUR HANDS.

I WANT TO TAKE EVERY LAST SECOND
AVAILABLE TO MAKE THIS DECISION,

BUT I KNOW MY HEART WILL TELL ME
WHAT THE RIGHT THING TO DO IS.

OKAY, BABY,
WHERE ARE YOU TAKING ME?

WELL,
IT'S A SURPRISE.

- YEAH? COOL.
- ARE YOU EXCITED?

I'M EXCITED.

JENIFFER AND I ONLY
HAVE A FEW DAYS

LEFT TOGETHER IN COLOMBIA.

I REALLY JUST WANT TO SPEND
SOME SPECIAL TIME TOGETHER.

I WANT IT TO BE BEAUTIFUL,
I WANT IT TO BE ROMANTIC,

AND I WANTED HER
TO BE HAPPY.

OH, MY GOD.

BABY!

I SHOULD HAVE PUT
A BLINDFOLD ON YOU.

I CAN SEE THAT TIM
IS PUTTING IN A LOT OF EFFORT

IN EVERYTHING WITH ME.

HE HAS JUST THIS PICNIC BASKET
AND JUST LIKE,

LET'S HAVE A RIDE.

I LOVE IT.

I LOVE IT, AND I LOVE
TO SHARE GOOD MOMENTS WITH HIM.

AND THAT MAKES
MY LOVE GROW FOR HIM.

OKAY, ARE YOU READY
TO BE SURPRISED?

IN OUR LATIN CULTURE,
ROMANTICISM IS VERY IMPORTANT.

THAT MAKES ME FEEL SECURE.

OH, MY GOD.

THANK YOU.

SO I'M... OH.

SO HOW ARE YOU FEELING
ABOUT THE TRIP NOW THAT

IT'S COMING
TOWARDS AN END?

WE'RE DOING BETTER, BABY.

I'M REALLY HAPPY
THESE DAYS WITH YOU.

I MEAN, I KNOW WE'RE COMING
OFF A FEW GOOD DAYS,

BUT ME AND YOU HAVE HAD
SOME REALLY BIG FIGHTS.

I KNOW.

I MEAN, WE ARE
NOT EASY, OBVIOUSLY.

BUT YOU'RE RESPONSIBLE,
YOU HAVE A GOOD HEART,

YOU MAKE ME FEEL
LIKE A PRINCESS.

BUT, BABY, YOU KNOW,
I'VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT

THE FACT THAT YOU ACTUALLY
DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH ME.

I DON'T WANT TO PUSH YOU,
BUT WHY HAVEN'T YOU DO IT?

LIKE, I AM START THINKING
THAT MAYBE

YOU'RE GAY OR SOMETHING.

IT'S NOT THAT I'M GAY.

IT'S JUST THAT, YOU KNOW,
WE'VE HAD A LOT GOING ON,

AND I JUST DIDN'T EVER FEEL
LIKE THE TIME WAS RIGHT.

AND THEN THE ONE TIME
THAT WE ALMOST DID,

OBVIOUSLY I KIND OF
FREAKED OUT.

ABSOLUTELY.

I MEAN, IT WAS
A LITTLE BIT HARD

TO UNDERSTAND
ALL THE TIME,

BUT NOW I THINK
WE CAN MAKE IT.

SO, YOU WANT
TO GO FOR A WALK?

OKAY, LET'S GO.

I'M STILL BACK AND FORTH
WITH WHETHER OR NOT

I THINK WE'RE READY TO BE
ENGAGED AND TO START

PLANNING A WEDDING.

I DON'T WANT TO MAKE A MISTAKE,

BUT I ALSO DON'T WANT TO RISK
LOSING HER

IF I LEAVE COLOMBIA
WITHOUT GIVING HER A RING.

THIS IS
SO BEAUTIFUL, BABY.

YEAH, THE VIEW
IS REALLY BEAUTIFUL,

BUT I ALSO THINK OUR
RELATIONSHIP IS VERY BEAUTIFUL.

WE HAVE A VERY UNIQUE STORY.
YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?

THE ENTIRE TIME I'M HERE,
I'VE THOUGHT ABOUT THE BADS,

I'VE THOUGHT
ABOUT THE GOODS.

AND WHAT I DO KNOW
IS THAT I REALLY LOVE YOU.

AND I BROUGHT YOU A RING.

WHAT I DO KNOW
IS THAT I REALLY LOVE YOU.

AND I BROUGHT YOU A RING.

BUT I WANT TO...

I WANT TO GIVE IT TO YOU...

AS A PROMISE RING.

SO THIS IS NOT
AN ENGAGEMENT RING?

UM...

I WANT YOU TO TAKE IT
AS A PROMISE RING

SO THAT WE'LL CONTINUE TO
WORK ON OUR RELATIONSHIP.

I CAME HERE TO GET A WIFE,
BUT I WANT TO BE SMART.

SO, WHERE DOES IT GO?

I DON'T KNOW WHAT FINGER
IT GOES ON.

MAYBE THIS ONE.

SO, IT'S A PROMISE RING?

EXACTLY.

I NEVER HEARD ABOUT
A PROMISE RING BEFORE.

I DIDN'T EVEN KNEW
THAT THAT EXISTS.

BUT IN THE DEEP OF MY HEART,

I FEEL THIS
IS THE BEST DECISION

BECAUSE I DON'T THINK WE'RE
READY FOR ENGAGEMENT YET.

WE NEED TO LIVE
A LOT MORE TOGETHER FIRST.

THIS IS A BEGINNING.

YOU'RE OKAY WITH THAT? IT'S BEAUTIFUL.

NO, ARE YOU
OKAY WITH THAT?

A PROMISE RING?
YES.

IT'S SOMETHING.

MAYBE IT'S TOO RUSHED
TO GET ENGAGED.

WE'RE NOT IN A RUSH.

YES.
AND IT'LL BE FUN.

AND WE HAVEN'T HAD
SEX YET, TOO.

WELL...

YES.

I WANT TO BE WITH YOU.

I LOVE YOU.I LOVE YOU, TOO, REALLY.

IT'S SO BEAUTIFUL, BABY.

IT'S BEAUTIFUL.

I'M ABOUT TO HOP
ON MY SECOND PLANE.

I'M EXHAUSTED, BUT I'M
JUST READY TO GO HOME NOW.

YOU KNOW,
I SAID GOODBYE TO OMAR,

AND I THINK MY HEART
FINALLY ACCEPTED IT.

I ALMOST GOT OFF THE PLANE
ON THE FIRST ONE.

I WAS REALLY THINKING ABOUT
JUST STAYING IN BEIRUT.

I'M ON MY WAY BACK FROM LEBANON,

WHERE I JUST SPENT 10 DAYS
WITH MY NEW SYRIAN HUSBAND.

I DIDN'T PICTURE
EVER BEING MARRIED TO SOMEONE

THAT I COULDN'T SEE EVERY DAY.

I DIDN'T EXPECT IT
TO BE, YOU KNOW, THIS HARD.

DO YOU WANT
TO DRAW YOUR NAME FOR ME?

I MADE AN "A."

YOU DID MAKE AN "A."
VERY GOOD, ARES.

ARE YOU EXCITED TO GO GET
AVERY TONIGHT?

YOU WANT TO SEE
AVERY WHEN SHE COMES HOME?

- YEAH.
- YEAH?

I'VE BEEN BACK IN UNITED STATES
FOR A WEEK NOW.

AVERY IS COMING HOME TONIGHT,

AND IT'S BEEN A LONG,
HARD TRIP FOR HER,

SO I'M JUST HAPPY
TO BE GETTING HER TONIGHT

AND GETTING HER HOME.

HEY.
YOU READY TO GO?

YES.

THE LAST NIGHT
THAT I WAS IN BEIRUT,

AVERY AND OMAR HAD TOLD ME THAT
AVERY WAS THINKING

ABOUT RETURNING TO SYRIA
TO BE WITH OMAR

UNTIL HE GETS APPROVED
TO COME TO THE UNITED STATES.

YOU'RE GOING TO LIVE IN SYRIA,
LIKE YOU'RE MOVING THERE?

UNTIL HIS VISA
GETS APPROVED.

THERE IS WAR THERE.

I DON'T WANT HER
TO BE CAUGHT UP IN ALL THAT.

I DON'T REALLY
KNOW WHAT TO SAY.

WHAT TIME
DOES SHE LAND?

ANY MINUTE.
OKAY.

SYRIA IS WAR-TORN,

AND I KNOW AVERY WOULDN'T
DO VERY WELL THERE,

AND I'M WORRIED
ABOUT HER SAFETY,

SO I'M GOING TO BE TRYING
TO STOP HER EVERY WAY.

SHE'S NOT GOING TO LIVE
WITH HIM OVER THERE IN SYRIA.

COMING BACK FROM BEIRUT,

IT'S BEEN A LITTLE OVER
50 HOURS.

THE FIRST 24 HOURS TRAVELING,
ALL I DID WAS CRY,

BUT I'M SO EXCITED
TO FINALLY BE IN COLUMBUS

AND GET TO SEE MY FAMILY.

THE LAST DAY SHE WAS THERE,
MY MOM FOUND OUT

I WAS MOVING TO SYRIA, AND
SHE WAS TELLING ME NOT TO GO,

BUT I WANT TO BE
BY MY HUSBAND.

AND TYPICALLY IT TAKES
NINE MONTHS

TO THREE YEARS FOR A VISA.

SO IF THAT MEANS I HAVE TO GO
AND MOVE TO A COUNTRY

THAT HAS A WAR GOING ON
RIGHT NOW FOR US TO BE TOGETHER

UNTIL HE GETS HIS VISA,
THAT'S WHAT I'LL DO.

HEY.

OH MY GOSH, FINALLY.

IT'S BEEN A ROUGH TRIP.

WELCOME BACK, BABY.

OH, THANKS DAD.

THAT ABOUT SUMS
OF THE WHOLE TRIP UP.

I MISSED YOU, DAD.I MISSED YOU, HONEY.

OH, THANK YOU.
WELCOME.

I'M VERY EXCITED
FOR AVERY TO COME HOME,

BUT THERE'S A LOT
I NEED TO CATCH UP ON

SINCE I DIDN'T GET TO
GO ON THIS TRIP.

SO, HOW HARD WAS IT
LEAVING OMAR?

THE HARDEST THING EVER.

I CRIED THE WHOLE DAY,
YEAH.

MY BIGGEST CONCERN IS
AVERY GOING TO SYRIA.

I GUESS IF IT WAS ME,

I'D WANT TO SPEND TIME
WITH MY SPOUSE,

BUT AT THE SAME TIME,
IT'S MY DAUGHTER.

I'M KIND OF WORRIED
THAT SHE'S SAFE.

GOOD LORD.

DID YOU BRING OMAR BACK
IN THIS BAG?

HOLY COW.

I HEARD YOU DROPPED
A LITTLE BOMBSHELL ON YOUR MOM

RIGHT BEFORE SHE LEFT.

YOU DIDN'T BOTHER TO TELL US
THAT YOU WERE JUST GOING TO GO

RIGHT BACK TO SYRIA
AND STAY THERE FOR AWHILE.

I'M AT LEAST GOING FOR A MONTH,
BUT MOST LIKELY...

YOU'LL LOSE YOUR JOB.

MY JOB ALREADY KNOWS.
I TOLD THEM AND...

YOU TOLD THEM
BEFORE YOU TOLD ME?

YEAH, YEAH, THEY WOULDN'T
FREAK OUT LIKE YOU.

YEAH, THEY WEREN'T GOING TO CRY
AND THEN STORM OUT.

BUT THEY'RE ALSO
NOT YOUR PARENT.

THERE'S NOT A WHOLE LOT
WE CAN DO TO HELP YOU WHEN

YOU GO TO SYRIA BY YOURSELF.I
KNOW, BUT I WANT TO...

YOU'RE CLOSED OFF
FROM ALL OF US AT THAT POINT.

BUT MY BIGGEST PRIORITY
IS KEEPING HIM SAFE.

WHAT IF YOU DID GET PREGNANT
OVER THERE?

YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE
A BABY IN SYRIA?

I WOULD FLIP OUT, FLIP OUT.
THAT WOULD BE IT.

YOU CANNOT DO THAT.

AND I DON'T REALLY THINK
YOU'LL BE VERY HAPPY.

I DO. I PERSONALLY THINK
I WILL BE HAPPY.

I WANT TO BE
WHEREVER HE IS.

I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO CHOOSE
MY FAMILY OR OMAR.

I LOVE BOTH OF THEM,
AND I DON'T WANT TO.

DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT,
MOM.

BECAUSE WHEN I SAY
I'M GOING TO DO SOMETHING,

I'M GOING TO DO IT.

YOU'RE IN THE UNITED STATES
NOW.

BUT MY FAMILY NEEDS
TO START ACCEPTING

THAT THEY CAN'T CONVINCE ME
TO STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND.

I'M GOING, AND I'M NOT COMING
BACK UNTIL HE COMES WITH ME.

I DON'T WANT TO HURT THEM,
BUT IT'S SOMETHING I GOT TO DO.

80,000 SHILLINGS.

IT'S $800.

I DON'T THINK
THAT'S ENOUGH.

HE'S NOT A KEPT MAN.

HE'S A SUCCESSFUL,
VERY SELF-ASSURED MAN.

IF YOU STOP HIM FROM BEING HIM,
HE WON'T LIKE THAT.

WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

WHERE'D THE OTHER ONE GO, THAT
WE USUALLY BOIL THE WATER IN?

IT'S THERE.

YESTERDAY WAS
A BIT CHALLENGING.

AKINYI TOLD ME THAT
WE'RE GOING TO BE MARRIED

IF HER FATHER ACCEPTS MY OFFER
AT THE BRIDE PRICE CEREMONY,

WHICH IS HAPPENING TODAY.

I THINK
THE SAUSAGE IS DONE.

IN AN IDEAL WORLD, I'D HAVE
MORE TIME TO THINK THINGS OVER.

IN THIS WORLD,
I'M GETTING MARRIED TODAY.

AND THEN, WE'RE SUPPOSED
TO GET THERE AT 11:00, RIGHT?

YEAH.

I'M WORRIED BECAUSE I'VE NEVER
GOTTEN THE COMPLETE PIECE

OF THE BRIDE PRICE PUZZLE,

EXCEPT THAT AKINYI TOLD ME
AS PART OF THE BRIDE PRICE,

I AM EXPECTED TO BRING
CERTAIN GROCERIES TO THE HOUSE.

YEAH.

MY MAIN CONCERN IS
THAT I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY

TO HONOR HER PARENTS.

I'M JUST HOPING THAT
THIS WILL IMPRESS THE FAMILY.

DO YOU HAVE
EVERYTHING READY?

I HAVE TO GO TAKE MY LAST
WITHDRAWAL FROM THE BANK,

AND THEN I WILL HAVE
EVERYTHING READY,

AS READY AS
I'M GOING TO BE.

LIKE IN TOTAL,
IN TOTAL?

IN TOTAL, IN TOTAL,
I THINK I HAVE 80,000 SHILLINGS.

80,000?
80,000.

OH, THAT SHOULD
BE INTERESTING.

I'LL TELL YOU THIS,
I DON'T THINK THAT'S ENOUGH.

SO WHAT DO YOU THINK
ENOUGH WOULD BE?

I'M NOT SURE WHAT MY DAD
WOULD ASK FOR THE BRIDE PRICE

BECAUSE IT'S A NEGOTIATION,

BUT THEY START FROM
MAYBE $3,000.

BENJAMIN SAYS HE HAS
80,000 KENYAN SHILLINGS.

IT'S $800.

THAT'S VERY INSULTING BECAUSE
THE BRIDE PRICE IS SOMETHING

THAT MAKES YOU FEEL PROUD
OF THE MAN WHO'S MARRYING YOU.

EVEN MEN WHO ARE NOT RICH
IN KENYA GET TO $3,000 AND MORE,

SO I DON'T THINK
HE HAS ANY EXCUSE.

THEY'RE GOING TO ASK
MORE QUESTIONS, AGAIN?

NOT QUESTIONS,
JUST IF YOU DON'T HAVE ENOUGH,

THERE'LL BE
QUESTIONS WHY.

AND THAT'S WHEN
I ACTUALLY EXPLAIN,

LIKE, EVERYTHING
I PAID TO COME HERE?

BUT, YOU KNOW,
IF IT'S NOT ENOUGH,

YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT ENOUGH.

YOU'RE TOO NERVOUS,
NOW?

MM-HMM.

SO IF YOU'RE FEELING LIKE THAT,

IMAGINE HOW I FEEL,

BECAUSE
I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING.

I DON'T EXACTLY KNOW
WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN

IF I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY.

AKINYI MIGHT JUST DISAPPEAR,

AND I'LL BE LEAVING
WITHOUT SEEING HER.

WITH EVERYTHING THAT I'VE WENT
THROUGH, IT WOULD BE DEVASTATING

BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH
WE'VE HAD SOME ISSUES,

I FIGURED OUT THAT AKINYI

IS WHO I WANT TO SPEND
THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH.

ARE YOU GOING TO THE BANK
RIGHT NOW?

WHAT'S THAT?

YOU'RE GOING TO THE BANK
RIGHT NOW?

I HAVE TO GO TO THE BANK,
YEAH.

BUT THERE'S ONE LAST THING
THAT HAS TO HAPPEN.

MM-HMM.

OH, MY GOD.

WILL YOU MARRY ME?

OH, GET ON YOUR KNEE.

YOU'RE NOT
DOING IT RIGHT.

WILL YOU MARRY ME?

YEAH?

LET'S SEE
IF I DID GOOD ON...

OH, IS IT GOING TO FIT?

OH, NO.

OH, NO. NO!

THEY'LL RESIZE IT, SO...

BUT DO YOU LIKE IT?

I THOUGHT I WOULD CRY.

WHY AM I NOT CRYING?

THAT'S WEIRD.

OH, MY GOD.

I'M HAPPY RIGHT NOW.

SHE SAID YES,
BUT AT THE SAME TIME,

DEPENDING ON HOW THINGS GO
WITH AKINYI'S FATHER,

AN ENGAGEMENT RING
AND A PROPOSAL,

IT MIGHT NOT MATTER.

IT'S KIND OF LIKE
A MARATHON.

YOU TURN AROUND
THAT LAST CORNER,

I CAN SEE THE GOAL,

I JUST DON'T KNOW
WHETHER I'LL HIT IT.

GOD,
I'M GETTING MARRIED.

I'M APOLOGIZING
FOR MY BEHAVIOR,

BUT NO WAY AM I SORRY
FOR WHAT I SAID.

ARE THEY GOING TO TALK HIM
OUT OF MARRYING ME?

I DON'T WANT THE RING.

I'LL LEAVE IT HERE.

IT WAS FOR ANOTHER WOMAN.

OH, LORD, HERE WE GO.

TODAY, MICHAEL AND I ARE MEETING
UP WITH THE GOOFBALLS, AGAIN,

BECAUSE I WANT TO APOLOGIZE
FOR HOW I ACTED,

BUT I MIGHT GET FIRED UP AGAIN
IF IT'S JUST ME AND MICHAEL.

SO MICHAEL'S FRIEND BODIE
IS HERE TO MEDIATE.

BODIE'S
ONE OF MICHAEL'S FRIENDS

THAT I MET OVER THE PHONE,

AND THERE'S SOMETHING
ABOUT BODIE THAT I TRUST.

AND HE CARES ABOUT
MICHAEL AND I'S RELATIONSHIP.

I DON'T KNOW.

BUT I COULD'VE
HANDLED IT DIFFERENT.

I'M APOLOGIZING
FOR MY BEHAVIOR,

BUT NO WAY AM I SORRY
FOR WHAT I SAID.

HEY, GUYS.

HI.

MIKE.

HAVE A SEAT, PLEASE.

THE LAST TIME WE MET,

ADI WAS TALKING BACK
TO MY FIANCéE,

WHICH I DIDN'T APPRECIATE THAT.

YES, THEY ARE, BODIE.

AND I DO THANK Y'ALL
FOR COMING,

AND I WANT TO
MAKE IT CLEAR,

I'M HERE TO APOLOGIZE
HOW I ACTED.

THAT BEING SAID,
I WILL NOT FORGET,

AND I WILL NOT
BE YOUR FRIENDS.

Y'ALL HURT ME DEEPLY
BECAUSE OF THAT INCIDENT.

WHEN I MET YOU GUYS,

I THOUGHT I WAS A PART
OF Y'ALL'S FAMILY

BECAUSE MICHAEL IS.

SO OF COURSE
I COME OUT OF ANGRY AS HELL

BECAUSE WHEN PEOPLE HURT ME
THAT I LOVE I

I'M FULL FORCE,
YOU UNDERSTAND ME?

THAT'S NOT THE KIND OF FAMILY
I WANT IN MY LIFE.

- YEAH, THAT'S TRUE.
- YES.

YEAH, THAT'S TRUE.

YEAH.

MICHAEL AND ANGELA,
WE'RE VERY SORRY.

AND I SINCERELY HOPE
YOU ACCEPT OUR APOLOGY.

I JUST WANT YOU GUYS
TO BE HAPPY.

I ACCEPT YOUR APOLOGY BECAUSE
I MAKE MISTAKES EVERY DAY.

YEAH.

BUT IF YOU REALLY GOT
TO KNOW ME,

I'M NOT AS BAD
AS I PRESENT MYSELF.

I HAVE A BIG HEART.

BUT I WILL NOT LET NO ONE
STOMP ON IT.

AND I'M TEARING UP.

IT'S OKAY.

I FEEL SAD
BECAUSE IN A MARRIAGE,

YOU HAVE TO HAVE FRIENDS
THAT RESPECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP,

AND I DON'T FEEL LIKE
MICHAEL'S FRIENDS

EVER GAVE ME A CHANCE
FROM THE BEGINNING.

BECAUSE I'M NOT NIGERIAN
AND I'M MUCH OLDER.

I'VE LOVED WHAT YOU'VE DONE.
I LIKE WHEN PEOPLE MAKE PEACE.

I KNOW MICHAEL LOVES ME,
BUT SAY I CAN'T LIVE UP

TO HIS CULTURAL EXPECTATIONS
OF HAVING A BABY.

ARE THEY GOING TO TALK HIM
OUT OF BEING WITH ME

AND MARRYING ME?

BON APPéTIT.

THANK YOU.

I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU FELL ASLEEP
SO QUICKLY LAST NIGHT.

I WAS HOPING
SOMETHING ELSE COULD HAPPEN.

NO, ME TOO, BUT, I MEAN,
WE HAD A VERY LONG DAY,

YOU KNOW, REALLY
JUST I'M TIRED.

OKAY.

LAST NIGHT WE GOT BACK
FROM ME GIVING JENNIFER THE RING

AND WE WERE GOING
TO GET DOWN TO BUSINESS,

AND THEN I PASSED OUT.

I'M SURE AT SOME POINT
IN OUR RELATIONSHIP

YOU'LL TELL ME
YOU'RE TOO TIRED.

I'M NOT
THAT KIND OF GIRL.

I DON'T WANT JENIFFER
TO THINK THAT, LIKE,

I'M JUST SOME, LIKE, WEIRD GUY
THAT DOESN'T ENJOY SEX,

BUT I THINK IT WAS
JUST MY EMOTIONS RUNNING

AND JUST ALL THE THINGS
THAT WE WENT THROUGH.

I WAS JUST EXHAUSTED.

SO I LET HER DOWN
ONCE AGAIN.

BABY, IT'S IMPORTANT.
I AM A GROWN WOMAN.

AT THE BEGINNING I WAS LIKE,
NO, BECAUSE WE NEEDED TIME,

BUT I HAVEN'T HAVE SEX
IN A LONG TIME

SO I WAS EXPECTING
THAT WE COULD DO IT.

WE LAY IN THE BED,
AND WHEN I SAW HIM,

HE WAS
LIKE FIVE MINUTES LATER.

IT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE,
AREN'T I PRETTY FOR YOU?

WHAT'S GOING ON?
I DIDN'T EXPECT THAT.

LIKE,
I DON'T UNDERSTAND REALLY.

YOU ARE DIFFERENT. I DON'T KNOW
HOW YOUR BRAIN WORKS.

NOW YOU'RE MAKING ME
FEEL BAD.

I FEEL LIKE THE GIRL.

YOU ARE THE GIRL
IN THIS RELATIONSHIP.

APPARENTLY.

THIS IS LIKE
THE BEST HOTEL HERE.

JENNIFER WAS GIVING ME A HARD
TIME ABOUT FALLING ASLEEP ON HER

AND NOT DELIVERING
THE "D" ONCE AGAIN.

SO I DECIDED I WAS GOING TO
TAKE HER TO A SPA TODAY

AND LET SOMEBODY ELSE KIND OF
HELP HER RELEASE SOME TENSION.

I LOVE
GETTING PAMPERED.

OH, OKAY.

TIM AND I ARE HAVING
A ROMANTIC SPA DAY TOGETHER

AFTER HE GAVE ME
THIS BEAUTIFUL PROMISE RING.

WE ARE ENJOYING OUR COMPANY,

AND I'M FEELING POSITIVE
AND OPTIMISTIC.

OH, IT'S HOT,
HOT, HOT, HOT.

JUST ABOUT
GETTING USED TO THIS.

WOW.

YEAH.
BABY, THIS RING IS BEAUTIFUL.

WHERE DID YOU GET IT?

WHAT?

WHERE DID YOU GET IT?

WELL,
THAT'S A LONG STORY.

I FEEL LIKE THERE'S SOMETHING
I SHOULD PROBABLY TELL YOU

JUST SO YOU DON'T FIND OUT
IN THE FUTURE.

ABOUT THE RING?

YEAH.

THAT RING,

I'VE ACTUALLY HAD IT
FOR 10 YEARS.

AND I ACTUALLY BOUGHT
THE RING FOR VERONICA.

RIGHT BEFORE I LEFT,

WHEN SHE THREW ME THE PARTY
TO BE NICE,

SHE SAID, "TAKE THIS RING
AND GIVE IT TO HER."

YOU'RE GIVING ME
A RING OF YOUR EX?

WHEN HE SAID IT WAS
VERONICA'S RING,

I FEEL REALLY SAD
AND DISAPPOINTED AND ANGRY.

IT LOST THE SPECIAL SPICE
THAT IT HAD BEFORE.

IT'S A PROMISE RING.

IT'S JUST TO SHOW YOU
THAT I'M SERIOUS.

IT'S STILL A NICE RING,
BUT...

BUT IT'S LIKE VERONICA
GAVE IT TO ME, NOT YOU.

I THINK
YOU'RE OVERTHINKING IT.

WHATEVER.

IT'S NOT HER TRASH.

IT WAS FOR ANOTHER WOMAN.

IT WASN'T BUY FOR ME.

SO IT'S

WELL, I'M SORRY
YOU FEEL THAT WAY.

IN MY DEFENSE,
I DIDN'T KNOW YOU THEN.

WHATEVER.

I MESSED UP.

SHE WAS SO EXCITED
ABOUT THAT RING,

AND I THINK THAT
IT REALLY DID SOME DAMAGE.

I WON'T WEAR THAT.

I LOVE HIM.

IT HURTS TO SEE THAT.

HE'S NOT A KEPT MAN.
HE NEVER WILL BE.

OH, IT'S CHILLY OUT HERE.

TONIGHT. TOM TOOK ME SALSA
DANCING WITH HIS SISTER, EMMA.

HOW NICE IS THIS?

THIS IS GOOD.

SEEING HIM DANCE WITH
OTHER BEAUTIFUL, SEXY WOMEN,

IT JUST MADE ME FEEL IGNORED.

I HAVE VERY LITTLE TIME LEFT
WITH TOM IN PERSON.

I WOULD LIKE A LITTLE BIT
MORE ATTENTION.

OH, HOW DO YOU
LIKE DANCING?

'CAUSE YOU'VE BEEN A LITTLE BIT,
WE SAY IN SPANISH

I DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT
MEANS.A LITTLE BIT, LIKE, WARY

AND A LITTLE BIT JEALOUS
OF HIM WITH THE OTHER GIRL.

I DON'T KNOW.
OBVIOUSLY HE'S VERY POPULAR.

THAT'S SALSA, THOUGH.

YOU DANCE WITH
EVERYBODY.

I WANT HIM TO HAVE FUN.

I DON'T WANT TO BE
THAT JEALOUS GIRLFRIEND.

YEAH,
BECAUSE HE LOVES TO PARTY,

HE LOVES TO GO OUT
AND HAVE A GOOD TIME.

THAT'S FINE. I KNOW HOW TO
HAVE A GOOD TIME TOO.

BECAUSE WHEN HE DANCED WITH ME,
YOU DIDN'T HAVE AN ISSUE.

NO.BUT IT'S JUST WHEN HE DANCES

WITH THE OTHER GIRLS,
IT'S THE SAME THING.

BUT HE DIDN'T GO UP TO HER,
SHE CAME FOR HIM.

YEAH. THAT'S WHAT WE DO.
THAT'S WHAT WE DO.

THAT'S WHAT HAPPENS IN SALSA.
SO WHAT'S IT GOING TO BE LIKE

WHEN HE CALLS YOU
ON A SKYPE CHAT

AND THERE'S LOTS OF GIRLS
BEHIND HIM?

THEY'RE ALL DANCING
AND DRINKING.

LIKE HE'S DOING
RIGHT NOW?

YEAH.
YEAH.

DARCEY, BLESS HER,
I THINK SHE'S QUITE NAIVE

IF SHE THINKS SHE'S NOT
THE JEALOUS TYPE.

I DON'T THINK SHE KNOWS
HOW TO DEAL

WITH HOW SHE'S FEELING
ABOUT MY BROTHER

BECAUSE SHE'S IN LOVE WITH HIM.
IT'S VERY OBVIOUS.

AND I THINK
IF SHE'S NOT QUITE SURE

WHETHER MY BROTHER
WANTS TO BE WITH HER OR NOT,

THEN I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT
THAT MIGHT UPSET HER.

HE'S NOT A KEPT MAN.
HE NEVER WILL BE.

HE'S ALWAYS BEEN
A FREE SPIRIT.

BUT IF YOU STOP HIM FROM
BEING HIM, HE WON'T LIKE THAT.

HERE I GO.

THAT'S OKAY.
IT'S ALL RIGHT.

I LOVE HIM.
YEAH.

IT HURTS TO SEE THAT.

YOU'VE KNOWN EACH OTHER
AWHILE NOW. DO YOU THINK...

FOUR YEARS.
AND MAYBE THAT'S WHAT IT IS.

I HAVE A FANTASY
OF YOUR BROTHER.

I NEED TO PUT
REALITY INTO IT.

YEAH.

HE'S A SUCCESSFUL,
VERY SELF-ASSURED MAN.

HE WON'T WANT A WOMAN WHO IS
POSSESSIVE OR JEALOUS OR...

I DON'T WANT TO EVER
BE THAT WITH HIM.

EMOTIONAL OR NEEDY,
HE WON'T WANT ANY OF THAT.

I DON'T WANT TO BE THAT.

I DON'T WANT TO
BE THAT.

WELL, YOU WILL, IF YOU ACT
THE WAY YOU'VE ACTED JUST NOW.

I DO HAVE INSECURITIES
THAT I HAVE TO WORK THROUGH.

BUT AT THE SAME TIME,
IT'S HARD NOT TO FEEL THAT WAY

WHEN I DON'T HAVE
THE REASSURANCE OF A COMMITMENT

FROM TOM.

ARE YOU EXCLUSIVE,
THEN, BOTH OF YOU?

HAVE YOU HAD
THAT CONVERSATION?

I AM. I AM.
I DON'T KNOW.

I'M NOT GOING TO
ASK HIM THAT.

DON'T YOU THINK THAT'D BE
A GOOD QUESTION TO ASK?

ABSOLUTELY.

YOU FIND OUT
WHERE HIS HEAD'S AT.

HOW WOULD I SAY IT?

YOU JUST NEED TO SAY TO HIM,
"I FEEL A LITTLE NEEDY.

I NEED YOU TO KNOW
THAT WE ARE EXCLUSIVE.

BECAUSE THEN THAT'LL GIVE ME
THE REASSURANCE

WHEN I GO HOME
THAT THIS IS SOMETHING

I PUT MY HEART INTO."

YOU JUST HAVE TO BE HONEST.

I'M SCARED.

OF WHAT?
THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN,

HE SAYS, "NO, I'M SLEEPING
WITH LOTS OF OTHER WOMEN."

THEN AT LEAST
YOU KNOW.

TRUE.

I DON'T THINK HE WOULD HAVE
INTRODUCED YOU TO ME

IF HE DIDN'T FEEL
THAT IT WAS...

IT MEANS TO LOT TO HIM
THAT I LIKE WHO HE'S WITH.

YOU KNOW,
"SHE'S NOT RIGHT FOR YOU."

I THINK YOU'RE LOVELY.
I THINK YOU'RE REALLY SWEET.

THANK YOU.
THAT'S OKAY, BABY.

I DON'T KNOW
HOW I'M GOING TO DO IT,

BUT I KNOW SHE'S RIGHT.

I NEED TO KNOW.

HEY,
HERE'S YOUR LOVELY LADY.

DID YOU HAVE FUN? I DID HAVE FUN.

ASK HIM THE QUESTION.

WHAT QUESTION?

WHAT'S THE QUESTION?

WHAT'S THE QUESTION?

IT'S A LITTLE DIFFICULT
FOR ME TO ASK,

BUT I NEED TO KIND OF
KNOW SOMETHING.

ARE WE EXCLUSIVE?

IS THAT
AN AMERICAN THING?

DO YOU THINK BECAUSE I'M DANCING
AROUND THE DANCE FLOOR

WITH, LIKE, EVERY WOMAN
IN THE PLACE THAT WE'RE NOT?

IF YOU NEED CLARIFICATION,
THEN YES, WE ARE EXCLUSIVE.

YAY.

IT'S JUST ME AND YOU.

IT MAKES ME FEEL GOOD THAT HE'S
READY TO BE EXCLUSIVE WITH ME.

IT'S MORE OF
A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP.

TOM'S MY MAN AND I'M HIS WOMAN,
AND I'M LOVING IT.

YOU'RE HAPPY?

MM-HMM.
YEAH.

EVEN THOUGH WE ONLY HAVE
TWO DAYS LEFT

BEFORE I HAVE TO HEAD BACK
TO THE STATES,

I FEEL LIKE WE'RE INCHING
OUR WAY TO A POSSIBLE PROPOSAL.

I'M GOING TO HUG YOU.

I PRESENT THIS FOR YOU.

HOW DO WE CONTINUE
TO MOVE FORWARD?

I'M NOT QUITE SURE
WHAT'S GOING ON.

I'VE MADE A MISTAKE.

TECHNICALLY,
I'M STILL MARRIED.

AKINYI, WE HAVE TO LEAVE.

YEAH.
IT'S 11:00.

LOOK AT YOU.

STOP.
TAKE ALL THIS.

I'M ABOUT TO GO
DO THE BRIDE PRICE.

AND IF ALL WORKS OUT,

I'LL BE MARRIED TO AKINYI
IN KENYA.

YAY, WE'RE GOING
TO GET MARRIED.

I MADE THE DECISION
THAT I WANTED TO MARRY AKINYI

IF ALL GOES WELL TODAY.

BUT I'M AFRAID THAT IF I DON'T
HAVE ENOUGH FOR THE BRIDE PRICE.

WE'RE RUNNING OUT OF TIME.

WE'RE ALREADY LATE.

OKAY.

LET ME SEND YOUR BROTHER
A MESSAGE

AND TELL HIM
THAT WE'RE ON HIS WAY.

HOW ARE YOU FEELING?

WELL,
MY STOMACH'S STILL UPSET.

I DON'T KNOW WHETHER
IT'S FROM FOOD OR...

IT'S JUST THE DAY.

EVERYTHING, BUT TODAY
IT FEELS LIKE THROWING UP.

OKAY, I WILL SEE YOU
WHEN I SEE YOU.

YOU WILL SEE ME
WHEN YOU SEE ME.

WELL, I DON'T KNOW WHEN
I'M GOING TO SEE YOU AGAIN.

I LOVE YOU.
I LOVE YOU.

AKINYI'S TOLD ME THE ENTIRE DAY
I WOULDN'T SEE HER

AS SHE'D BE
EITHER IN THE KITCHEN

OR IN ANOTHER PART
OF THE HOUSE

UNTIL HER FATHER MAKES
THAT FINAL DECISION.

SO I'M ON MY OWN.

BUT IF AKINYI'S FATHER
DOESN'T ACCEPT MY OFFER,

THERE COULD BE A CHANCE THAT
IT'S GOING TO BE THE LAST TIME

I SEE AKINYI.

I JUST DON'T KNOW
WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN.

- OH, HELLO, BENJAMIN.
- HELLO.

I CAN TAKE THIS.

ARE YOU OKAY WITH THAT?

YEP.
OKAY.

I'M SO NERVOUS RIGHT NOW.

I'M JUST HOPING
THAT THE GROCERIES

I BOUGHT WILL
IMPRESS THE FAMILY.

WE HAVE BEEN WAITING
FOR YOU TO COME

BECAUSE WE WERE
EXPECTING YOU FROM 11:00.

AT AROUND 7:00 A.M...

I THINK THAT I'M GETTING OFF TO
A WRONG START BY BEING LATE.

I WISH AKINYI WAS HERE.

RIGHT NOW,
I AM A FISH OUT OF WATER,

AND I'M FLOPPING AROUND.

UM...

THIS IS JUST A SMALL
TOKEN OF MY APPRECIATION.

I PRESENT THIS FOR YOU

AND THEN ASK HOW DO WE
CONTINUE TO MOVE FORWARD?

MM-HMM.

I'M NOT SUPPOSED TO SEE AKINYI

UNTIL THE NEGOTIATION
IS FINISHED.

SO I'M NOT QUITE SURE
WHAT'S GOING ON.

I'M SCARED AND CONFUSED
IF I'VE MADE A MISTAKE.

I NEED TO TALK TO YOU
ABOUT SOMETHING.

I ONLY HAVE A FEW DAYS
LEFT HERE WITH ZIED IN TUNISIA,

BUT THERE'S STILL A BIG SECRET
THAT HE DOES NOT KNOW ABOUT ME.

MY DIVORCE PAPERS,

THEY ARE NOT FINAL YET.

SO TECHNICALLY,
RIGHT THIS MINUTE,

I'M STILL MARRIED.

STILL MARRIED
RIGHT NOW.

BEFORE I CAME HERE,

I FILED THE PAPERS WITH COURT,
OKAY?

AND WHAT?

SO WHEN I GO BACK TO AMERICA... YES.

I HAVE TO GO BACK TO COURT
ONE MORE TIME.

YEAH.

I'M SORRY.

WHAT?

WHY YOU NOT
TELL ME THIS BEFORE?

I DON'T KNOW.

WE BOTH
SIGNED THE PAPERS.

ME NOT ACCEPT THIS.

NO.
NO, WE BOTH SIGNED THE PAPERS.

NO, WE BOTH
SIGNED THE PAPERS.

ZIED.

WHAT?

I'M SORRY.

WHAT?
NO... DON'T...

WHY?

GO, GO.

EVERY FIGHT THAT WE'VE EVER HAD,

WE'VE ALWAYS BEEN ABLE
TO TALK THINGS OUT,

BUT I'VE NEVER SEEN HIM
THIS ANGRY.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.

WHAT'S HE DOING?

WHERE'S HE GOING?

ZIED!

I WANT TO THROW UP.

I'VE NEVER FELT
THIS BAD IN MY LIFE.

I HOPE HE COMES BACK.

I DON'T KNOW WHERE HE'S GOING,

BUT IF HE REFUSES
TO TALK TO ME AGAIN,

THAT'S IT, I'M DONE.

I'LL NEVER FIND ANYBODY
LIKE HIM AGAIN.

THAT WOULD BE IT.

NEXT TIME ON
"BEFORE THE 90 DAYS"...

THAT'S

I STARTED TALKING TO MARIA ABOUT
A WEEK AFTER I LEFT MEXICO.

UH...

WE HAVE NEWS
TO TELL YOU.

I'M GOING TO GO VISIT
AN IMMIGRATION LAWYER

TO SEE HOW LONG
IT'LL BE UNTIL OMAR CAN COME.

THE THING IS,
HE'S SYRIAN.

LESS THAN 5%
OF THE TRAVEL BAN CASES

ARE ACTUALLY APPROVED.

IT'S REALLY UNKNOWN
HOW LONG IT WOULD TAKE

AND IF IT WOULD
WORK AT ALL.

MM.

UM...

IF THEY TELL ME THAT
HE CANNOT BE MY HUSBAND,

I WILL NEVER SEE
BENJAMIN AGAIN.

CHEERS TO THE MOST BEAUTIFUL
WOMAN I'VE EVER MET.

I DO FINALLY KNOW
THAT I LOVE HER.