eMANNzipation (2011) - full transcript

Thanks.

So, you like it?

Yes, sure.

If you don't like my food
then give it back - No

I can make you muesli - No,
it's alright, thanks again.

Good morning, Dominik - Morning Sven.

Well, I guess I'm gonna get ready.

Hey Dominik, everything good?
- Yeah, great.

Well, that's nice

Denise is not really in her best mood.

Is this my...
I mean, it s been awhile since I...



No, this has nothing to do with you.

This is so salty. How can you eat this?

It's not that bad.

You're right.

This is uneatable.

It's a salty disaster.

A total horror for tongue and palate.

Now be gone, you terrorist of taste.

Oh, what joy.

Well, the thing is...

I... I mean we

there is not much space... here...

for the three of us.

Do you... is it better...



Do you want me to move out?

I am not against you staying here.

But Denise is?

For her it's stressful.

It was only meant for a few days.

So?

Would you prefer if I move out?

Yeah.

No... well...

if it's up to me then No.

This is unbelievable.

I am not his maid.

Rubber!

Horst.

HORST!

Rubber does NOT go in the organic waste bin.

Hey Sven, it's Dominik.

There is no sign here.

You are NOT organizing
the kitchen well enough.

Okay

I will ask for Holger

thanks again.

Excuse me.

Do you know where... Is this the...

Is this 10 Altenburger Allee?

So, here should be...

You had problems with your wife, right?

And now you don't know where to
stay, do you?

And you want to talk to Holger.

Right?

Yeah.

No, no, I'm not Holger.

I am Horst.

Sounds similar, eh?

But I'm very different from Holger.

Holger is going to law school.

That man in the yard, wanted to tell you

that rubber does not go in the organic bin.

Yeah, that's Gregor, he is

very particular.

You can't take him too seriously.

What happened to your eye?

I had some bad luck there.

Nice, eh?

Well, it's okay.

Here in this 'Shelter for Men'
everyone has to do their part

I often cook

and I believe they all like my cooking

Horst!

Yes.

Hello

Gregor sends his regards.

Well, isn't that nice.

And he wants me to tell you,
not to put plastic in the organic bin.

Are you moving in?

Uhm, I think...

possibly

I'm Lukas

Dominik Liebmann.

You should definitely talk to
Holger, he just got in.

Holger!

You must have so many questions.

Hello, I'm the Holger

Gregor told me we got a newcomer.

So nice you found your way here.

And you are the...?

The Dominik.

Swell, I suggest we'll have a
chat and a cup of tea in my office.

Yeah, sure.

By the way, Horst, we'll need to
talk about the way you separate trash.

But not now.

There is this acquaintance,
he's actually more a co-worker

well, I am currently out of work

but he owes me a good amount of
money, that I could

it's quite a bit of money

decent sum of money.

I thought I could use that to...

I know, it's not easy for anyone
to apply for social welfare.

But it's something you really have to do.

It would be only a few weeks that I...

Our Shelter for Men is to help men
in emotional and financial need.

However while Women's Shelters
constantly receive public grants

aren't we supported at
all with public payments.

Abused men are still a
taboo issue in our society.

I wouldn't say that I was abused.

I just had a lot.

I had quite a lot of bad luck recently.

I know.

Can you assure me to apply
for welfare this week?

This is really important, okay?

Yes, okay, if it is that important.

Super, Dominik.

Back to the issue of group therapy

if you do not want to participate,
then this would be okay.

But it would be cool if
you could check it out

maybe just once with no obligations.

Then you can still decide.

Okay?

What do you say?

Could you for once in
your life be punctual?

Yes, sorry.

Great!

Great. Now we are complete.

But before our new member
will introduce himself

we will do our breathing exercise.

Okay, if you want to introduce yourself now.

Hello, I am, uh... Dominik.

Hello, 'Uh-Dominik'

Hello.

I have been...

I am here because I have...

So, last year I have had quite...

If you prefer, someone else can go first.

Yes, thank you.

All right.

Then who wants to go first?

I am here because my wife
abused me emotionally

and when I was on my
weakest she kicked me out.

She dropped me like a hot potato.

Like a hot potato.

Thank you, Horst.

I'm Lukas

I was physically abused my wife.

After the divorce I had my coming-out.

But the abuse and beatings
recurred when I was with Mike.

Now I am learning to set
boundaries and take responsibility.

Great, Lukas

I'm an alcoholic.

My name is Andreas.

Also, I am a banker.

Gregor.

Well, if it is imperatively necessary.

Well.

The meanest, cruelest cunt in the world

lied to me,
stole from me and manipulated me.

And as if that wasn't enough perfidy

she also got me institutionalized.

Say.

Have you heard of the
novel 'A Victors Murder'?

Of course.

I wrote that.

It was 19 weeks on the bestsellers list.

Two weeks it was number one.

None of the money is left.

Not one cent.

She stole all of it.

And then this evil, rotten cunt...-

Thank you, Gregor, that will do for now.

And Dominik, what about now?

Yeah, okay.

I am Dominik

I work for the Berlin Tech University

in the math department.

Well, not anymore.

And I also had

a very difficult time.

I even say I had an
unusual amount of bad luck.

I lost my job and my apartment.

And unfortunately my wife
left me and took our son.

You got a son? How old is he?

Dylan is six now

Dylan?

What kind of name is that?

It's even worse than Kevin or Marvin

Dylan.

My wife liked the name.

It's someone's name on Beverly Hills 9010.

It's 90210.

I personally preferred the name Torben.

Torben?

Well I think it's great that you have a son.

Children are just wonderful.

Do you have children?

Me? Oh no, for heaven's sake, NO!

Oh, Horst come on!

Okay, continue.

Continue?

That's it.

And I don't know where to stay.

Okay, Dominik.

So that's all?

What happened to your eye?

I was in a bar and there
was some sort of mix-up.

A brawl?

Yes, why?

Come on people, don't you see
that this guy is full of shit.

Hold on, what do you mean, full of shit?

As if you pansy have ever been in any fight.

I don't understand. I thought...

Oh, I had such bad luck,
I lost my job and my house

and my wife and my child.
Oh, I lost everything.

Such a bullshit.

Don't try to bullshit me.

Do you admit that you are full of shit?

I don't think

this is the right thing for me

Dominik, wait.

That guy was never ever in any fight

Gregor, you are so over-intrusive, really.

Hey, man - Hey.

Gregor is really a jerk.

You're doing the right thing.

Fresh air helps to calm down the anger

I'm not angry.

No?

No, not at all.

But Gregor was such a...
Why did you walk out then?

I don't see any advantages
in this group therapy.

But just talking about
yourself can be very liberating.

That may be so

for some people.

But not for me.

Okay.

Come on, let's have a drink.

Well, I am a little short on cash.

No Problem. I got money. Come on.

Well, come on!

No, that's silly.

It doesn't have to be a long sentence.

Let's see, how about the sentence.

'I love you'

Well that one is easy

in Swedish Jag Älskar Dig

in Russian Ya Lyubyu Tebya

Turkish Seni Seviorum

in Hebrew Anee Ohev Otakh

then Je t'aime and I love you.

That's amazing

you speak five languages

six with german.

Ah yes, lk hou van jou,
but I don't speak Dutch very well

I can only speak German.

You are a genius.

Not at all. I just learn languages easily.

I grew up bilingually, German-Swedish.

My mother was half Swedish.

Yeah, my father was always half drunk.
Cheers.

Here's to better times.

To the good times.

Probably not that long ago.

Six years it has been.

I was on vacation in Northern Hessia.

It is so beautiful there.

You were on vacation by yourself?

No, there were three of us.

My friend Sven and his
new girlfriend Denise.

Both of them madly in love.

Somehow Sven decided I had to
get out and enjoy a vacation.

Those two just couldn't keep
their hand off each other.

I had time to read and to
enjoy some hiking on my own.

Sounds to me you were the
fifth wheel on the wagon.

I guess I was.

That's why Denise had the brilliant
idea to set me up with someone.

What about her?

Denise, I know you mean well but...

I think there is something about her.

I will ask her.

Man, this is not going to work.

Sorry to bother you,
but my boyfriend's buddy really likes you

but he's extremely shy. Maybe you'd like to.

Which one? The one with the basecap?

No, the other one.

If you like him maybe
you could dance with him.

What do you think?

I don't know.

Maybe later. Whatever you feel like.

In my experience nothing comes
of this except an awkward moment

but suddenly she was there and
pulled me to the dancefloor.

While dancing she looked
me directly in the eyes

I tried to return the look but

it's not easy to look into someone's
eyes more than a few seconds.

And yet she was so beautiful.

And didn't you talk at all?

No, we were just dancing.

And suddenly she said:

It's stuffy in here.
I gotta get out of here.

We strolled and talked.

She was 20 and planned
to do an apprenticeship.

You really live in Berlin?

She couldn't believe that I live in Berlin

and thought that was so cool.

Unbelievable

that is so cool.

Well, for some 20-year old cowtown girl

Berlin is certainly the greatest.

Yeah, Berlin is special

like the number Pi by the way.

What?

And she had such a fresh
and infectious laugh.

You think so?

Many say I laugh too loud.

We kept on talking and

it was incredibly romantic.

And then you kissed, right?

Well

not really

but kind of.

Well, did you?

She kissed me

in a way.

I haven't been kissed before.

Never mind.

The following days were truly amazing.

You don't like thunderstorms?

No, not really.

Why not, thunderstorms are cool.

I find thunderstorms annoying, loud

and invasive.

Invasive?

Yes, and really rude.

You're crazy.

After a proper thunderstorm

everything is so lucid and the air is clean.

That may be so.

Let's go for a swim.

Here?

Now?

Sure. It will be great.

No, I don't know.

Come on. It'll be fun.

We have no swimming gear with us.

Domi, Domi.

Come on, come on, come on!

It's so nice

and the water is so warm, come in.

Just be spontaneous for once.

Actually, I'm not really spontaneous

I find it better to think matters over.

Let's go.

Don't act so shy.

You know what?

Let's do it at the window.

Okay.

This time was incredible.

Best time of my life.

It never lasts, believe me

I know

the time was gone so fast.

Tomorrow already?

Tomorrow.

Will you miss me?

More than I would like to.

Berlin is far.

Yeah.

I'm sure it's nice there

I've never been there.

You could...

Would you like to visit me sometimes?

Then I can see how it is when you're there.

Maybe you don't like me there.

Are you different there?

No, but

then you see my apartment, and my chaos.

Actually that's not true

in fact I am very neat.

Shortly after that she came to Berlin.

And that was nice too

but somehow

it wasn't as good as the
days in Northern Hessia.

Again the time was over too quickly.

At the bus station we hugged

and she whispered in my ear

I am pregnant.

What, really?

Let's get married, yes?

Angela.

Would you like to marry me?

So much for never being spontaneous.

Well

generally.

But you just spontaneously

talked about yourself

and that was all right, wasn't it?

I wasn't on a vacation for years.

So, my buddy Sven

wanted to visit Hessia with his new flame.

It's really nice there.

And then there was this wonderful girl.

She smiled at me

and pulled me just like
that to the dancefloor.

Just like that?

Just like that.

Usually nothing come from it but

suddenly there was this wonderful girl.

She smiled at me

and pulled me to the dancefloor
without saying anything.

Customer Service!

Uh, so then we danced.

YES!

It's not easy to look someone in
the eyes for more than a few seconds

yet she was so beautiful to watch.

So we were just dancing.

And then she said...

Why do I sort the spices alphabetically

when Horst always messes them up again?

Sorry, I thought.

What?

Okay Dominik, let's stay calm now

I'll make us some tea

I don't want any tea.

Thank you though.

According to the youth welfare office
they brought Dylan in a children's home.

You got this today?

Yes.

I'm still registered at Sven's place

the letter got there awhile ago.

The youth welfare office
withdrew child custody

from your wife and from you.

Do you have alcohol or drug problems?

No!

I mean Angela is a merry person and

and she likes to party,
sometimes with alcohol as well.

What should I do now?

If you want custody back
we have to file a petition.

Okay. Let's do that.

When I see Dylan I can tell him...

I would refrain from visiting Dylan

at least until the
custody matter is resolved.

And...

likely they want interview you
for a psychological opinion.

Sure, let's do that.

That's no big deal, right?

Yeah, well.

Would you reconsider coming
to our group therapy?

It doesn't have to be in a group

maybe with a single therapist.

I am not crazy.

I didn't mean to imply that.

My wife and I just separated.

If everyone who got separated is a psycho

then we would have more loony
bins Germany than churches.

Maybe so.

Maybe it will be just good for you?

But if you think this is
nothing for you, then okay.

But I feel you could make
better use of your time.

Sports or a Hobby?

I already do have a hobby.

I read gladly, and with much enthusiasm.

Reading is great

but it's not very sociable.

Reading is great

but too much reading can
actually seclude oneself.

Handball, football,
martial arts or volleyball

I really don't care for ballgames.

I like to roam.

To roam?

That's hiking.

Well, hiking by yourself
is not very sociable either.

It wouldn't have to be sports.

How about a dance class?

Angela always wanted to take a dance class.

Yeah good.

And could you maybe try
this with an open mind?

I don't know

Dominik.

It's important allowing
things to happen, okay?

Now, let's see that again.

And please.

Oh sorry.

You are the man, so start leading.

I am leading.

You'd have to lead a bit stronger.

You should lead gently but firmly.

I'm sorry.

Don't tense up.

Stay relaxed.

And stay with the rhythm.

Don't pull so rough.

Softly and gently.

And stay with the rhythm.

Now lead her into a turn

with a gentle, grand, rotating movement.

Oh sorry!

You have to look where you
are leading the lady to.

I'm sorry but

but dancing is really not my thing.

Well, I think dancing
is really not his thing.

You know,
maybe he is just simply too nervous.

I'm not nervous.

Listen!

An interview for a psychological opinion

is nothing to be scared of

it's just a routine procedure.

There is no reason to be nervous.

I am really not nervous.

Okay, I just thought that.

If someone would do the
interview being overly nervous

then that would be a disadvantage.

Yes, sure.

What bothers me...

The thing is this

they are looking for any
meaningless, trivial details

which they interpret into anything.

So, I have to watch out for
even the smallest details.

Mister Liebmann, you can come in now.

Hello Mr. Liebman, my name is Witthoff.

Have a seat.

Where should I...

sit down?

Doesn't matter. Whereever you like.

Please!

I think.

Where were we?

This is Ms Fottener and to my right...

Can I sit here as well?

Would it be okay if I sit here?

Yes it's alright, but please sit down now.

So we can continue.

Yeah good.

Where were we?

You were about to introduce Mr Bohr.

Yes of course.

Mr Bohr and Ms Fottener is transcribing.

Well, Mr. Liebmann.

You have applied to change the finding
of the family court Berlin toward

obtaining child custody of your
son, Dylan Liebmann.

Custody has been revoked from
you and your spouse Angela.

The child is currently held in the
juvenile home at 17 Eschenstrasse.

You hereby requisition child
custody for your son Dylan.

About the proceeding.

We will ask a few questions.

Mr Bohr is Psychologist and will begin.

Mr. Liebmann, first of all it's
nice that you are here today

ls there maybe something
you'd like to ask me?

No? Then we'll just go ahead.

Mr Liebmann you have...

I... I would... uh... sitting...

So, I would say... let's start, right?

Hello. Can I help you with something?

I wanted to enroll for
the beginners karate class.

Holger recommended that...

Holger Schramm?

Now I'm waiting for... whoever sits here

I guess Mandy disappeared again.

Then just join us.

I got no sports gear with me.

We got karate suits for guests. No problem.

Shouldn't we ask the coach?

No we don't, because I am the coach

I'm René, hi

Dominik. – Just come along Dominik!

We're a mixed group.

White, yellow and green belts.

Hello Belinda. - Rene.

Hello!

Here are the locker rooms. I get your suit.

Training will start right away.

Do you take Dominik Liebmann to
be your lawfully wedded husband.

I do.

You have both confirmed.

I hereby declare you husband and wife.

Congratulations, you may now kiss the bride.

I don't understand.

What does that mean?

It means your requisition
for custody has been denied.

What?

But I...

But how is that possible?

This psychological opinion
is not really in your favor.

It says you are emotionally
immature and indecisive.

It says. '...makes an abulic impression...'

'...doesn't seem adequate
to raise a child, and...'

Well, they recommend psychological
care or at least therapy.

Can't I just repeat the test?

It is not really a test in that sense.

But we can requisition for another opinion.

Okay.

But they surely want you to
comply with their recommendation.

What recommendation?

Therapy.

Why don't you join our group talks.

Then I can write that you
participate in group therapy.

I don't know.

Otherwise your chance to get
custody for Dylan is really bad.

Okay Dominik, whenever you are ready

please.

I was on vacation with my
friend and his new girlfriend

and his girlfriend wanted
to set me up with someone.

Is this supposed to be a joke?

What?

This is not a knitting circle here

where one chatters with
misty-eyed look on his face:

'Oh, it was so much nicer
and better in the past!'

You already told us how you met your wife.

Many times. Sorry

I'm in no mood to get
bullshitted by this cyclops

Dominik doesn't want to bullshit you.

He doesn't mean it the way you think.

If he doesn't work properly he can leave.

Sure, I can leave.

Go ahead, leave!

Just stop blabbering all this bullcrap

Gregor!

Sit down, now!

Even if I don't like Gregor's
manners, he kind of got a point here.

If it everything was so great,
you wouldn't be here now.

Maybe you talk about the
times that were not that easy.

What about my apprenticeship?

Okay?

So you would like to be an apprentice?

I think that could be good for you.

But if not it's okay as well.

What kind of profession
would you be interested in?

Profession?

Well, one becomes an apprentice
to learn a profession.

I don't give a shit what one does.

We planned that I'd be an
apprentice when I'm in Berlin.

That was the plan.

You are so stupid!

After Dylan turned two she
seemed somewhat imbalanced.

Maybe she was overburdened with Dylan.

Where was Dylan at that time?
In a playschool?

In kindergarten.
Otherwise things would've been even worse.

And how long was Angela,
as you said, imbalanced?

About a year.

I am going next door to Roberta.

And then?

Then it got worse.

Hey - Hello Darling.

Listen.

Now that Dylan is getting
on so well in kindergarten

maybe I could start working.

Do you want to work?

Should I work?

Do you want me to work?

I want you to be happy.

Yeah great.

Shit, man!

What is the matter?

I got a job and nothing is the matter.

You make me so sick.

You got a job?

Fuck you!

Did she really have a job?

Yeah.

She was promoting magazine
subscriptions in a mall.

What a fantastic career move.

No real job,
just selling magazines in a mall.

But she enjoyed doing that.

But these promotion
chicks are really annoying.

But promotion has its place as well.

You can't go anywhere without being hassled

I just wanted her to be happy.

Three steps forward with Oi-sookee Yodan.

Third one with Kyai

(counts japanese)

Thank you, once more.

This time just you, Benedict.

It's Dominik.

Yeah yeah, and hadsh-me.

The technique isn't so bad.

But Dominik, we're doing martial arts here

and not dancing arts.

Give me some power -
an Oi-sookee with gusto.

And you forgot the Kyai.

One Oi-sookee with Kyai.

I didn't hear anything.

Did you guys? - No.

The Kyai can let all you aggression out

with full energy from your center.

Should be no problem for a pirate like you.

Yeah very funny.

Come on, give me a pirate yell.

Okay back in the row, Benedict.

Okay, onward with San Bon Sookee.

Don't mind Rene.

At first everyone has their difficulties.

Really? With the Kyai as well?

No, but everyone has an
area that they're slower in.

Some take longer with the foot work.

Or with the Kyai?

Or with the Kyai!

I'm Belinda.

Hi Belinda, I'm...

Dominik, I know, and not Benedict.

Exactly.

Hey Belinda, will you be at Canards later?

Sure.

We're all going for a drink.

Maybe you'd wanna join us?

Okay.

You know, it's more likely to
be killed by a large hailstone

then to win the lottery.

Mathematically speaking.

But 67 Million Euro.

Think of what you could do with that.

With a huge jackpot it's
even less likely to win

because so many play the lottery.

Are you a teacher?

No, not directly.

So, what do you do?

I'm currently.

I'm a mathematician.

And you?

What are you?

What I am?

Well, let's see, what am I?

I am a woman

mother

attorney at law

karate student

and a Libra that doesn't
believe in astrology.

Really? Me neither.

I think it's all rubbish.

People just see in their zodiac
signs just what they want to see.

And what's your sign?

Cancer.

That's so typical cancer,
they just don't believe in astrology.

Cheers - cheers.

We had such a great talk

and made plans for a date.

I think she's really nice.

We will meet this...

Dominik, sorry to interrupt you there.

Well, it's about time.

It's great that you met someone nice

but I think you should continue
where you left off last time.

Great, again at the computer.

Hey sweetie.

I got a lot work to catch up

Dylan is finally asleep.

I need a few more minutes?

A few minutes?

Sure.

More like a few hours.

I had to leave work early to
pick up Dylan from kindergarten

because you were out with Roberta.

You stupid asshole

how can you say I'm a bad mother

I didn't say that

let's keep it quiet, not to wake Dylan.

You fucking prick.

Calm down. I don't understand what...

You sit there at your
computer all high and mighty.

You better come down from your high horse.

In these situation it's better
to de-escalate the situation.

I'm almost home.

I will email you the file right away.

Alright, till then Nina.

So are will you meet that Nina-slut?

You know that Nina is a colleague of mine.

There's no reason to get steamed up about.

I'm not steamed up.

I don't care if she steams
you or you steam her.

But you know what.

Go fuck your whore.

Fuck her and fuck yourself as well.

Let's go upstairs, okay?

I'd have told that lady she
should pull herself together.

What could I have done?

Scream back

and make it even more emotional.

What kind of role model
are you for your son?

You're such a total wimp.

I'm a wimp?

I fathered a son.

I provide for my family
by working very hard.

I'm a caring father who
makes time for his son.

Now I'm a wimp,
because I don't beat my wife?

This is absurd.

But just walking away didn't
solve the problem either.

Besides, it was really difficult for Angela.

Being so far from her hometown,
her friends, her entire family

and becoming a mother being so young

I think most men would
have felt overburdened.

Sure, of the three billion
women on this planet

she's surely the only
one that casts a young.

We are really getting to
the root of the problem here.

I'm not sure what he wants from me.

Yeah hello?

Hello Belinda, this is Dominik

Dominik? Who is Dominik?

I was in the karate class

we had a drink.

And we wanted to

you gave me your number.

Of course I know who you are.

How could I forget you.

Ah well, okay then.

What about tomorrow?

A trip to the countryside?

Yeah great!

Shall we take your car or mine?

My car is in the...

shop right now.

No problem

I'll pick you up at eleven.

Where do you live?

I won't be home then.

I will be at a friend's.

Okay

I'll be at Akazienstraße at 11.

Okay, see you tomorrow then

Dylan will be six.

And how old are your girls?

Emma is seven and Leoni is five.

Ah okay.

So what kind of work do you do?

I know you're a mathematician but

how can I picture your work?

Well, I am...

Would it be okay if we
don't talk about my work?

Sure.

Look, here it's beautiful

wouldn't that be a good
place for our picnic?

Yeah, super.

So I gave him an ultimatum

well, and then he moved out.

But he sees the kids on a regular basis.

With him it's all about competing.

He always has to prove himself.

Must show he is better than others.

That he is better than me.

He's always confrontational.

I just found it so grueling.

Sorry - No problem.

There's some left.

Good, but stand lower in the Senku Sudatshi.

Stand really low.

Better, thank you.

Okay, Benedict.

But this time I want to hear the Kyai.

Footwork was okay, but that was no Kyai.

I started just a few weeks ago.

Doesn't matter, let your aggression out.

And once again.

Hannah, one Kyai please.

So Benedict, she can do a Kyai

Hannah, a petite woman with a white belt.

That's the power I want.

Come on and give me a real pirate yell.

And hadsh-me.

No, you sound too wussy.

Kyai, now!

Not so wimpy, Kyai.

There's no point in this

I'm sorry.

Okay then, next is Mae Geiri.

It's lovely see you play
with the two of them

Emma and especially Leoni are
usually much more reserved.

You gotta real knack for kids.

Thanks.

Cheers.

Don't you miss Dylan?

Yes of course.

I could see you being a great dad.

Thanks, Belinda.

I am sorry.

It's okay.

Maybe