Seeking Sister Wife (2018) - full transcript

Previously on
"seeking sister wife"...

Okay, keep the kids out
from underneath in case

I accidentally drop the sign
or something, or myself.

We are officially courting
another potential sister wife.

We met Jennifer online, and she
lives up by Niagara Falls.

Maybe we could,
you know, meet with you.

[ Screams ]

Bernie: Paige and I
have been married

for going on 16 years now.

But we are looking to add
a sister wife.

Bernie: I know last time
we were courting,



you got a little jealous.

Paige: I do really want
to live this lifestyle,

but watching my children
get close to another woman

could possibly be very hard
for me to do.

That's Sophie.

Both of our communities,
polygamy is frowned upon.

But I want to claim my husband
out in the community

and not having our relationship
confined to my home.

I don't have to be
a closet wife.

I have to find an opportunity
for our family

to be out in the public
and show people who we are.

It's a small town.
News travels fast.

This is a big deal.
Mm-hmm.

We have a girlfriend.



Her name is Vanessa.
She's from Seattle.

And she's 34.
She's never been married.

She doesn't have
any children.

Hi.

But it will be her first time
meeting the babies.

And it will also be her first
time staying at our house.

Getting excited
about getting here.

I want to make sure
that I don't do a thing

that could [bleep] this up.

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♪♪

-She's here. Wow.
-I know.

Vanessa:
[ Laughs ] I'm back.

So, good flight?

Vanessa: Good flight.
Good food.

Had a nice little nap,
and yeah.

Just, it's good.

Ashley:
Yeah, well, you're here.

-I know.
-And it's real.

-Yeah.
-It's real.

Ashley:
Vanessa's visiting us here
in Atlanta for her second time.

This could be the determining
factor

whether it makes
or breaks the relationship

because if we don't gel
as a family,

then that's a big deal,

and we would love for this
to be, like --

mm-hmm.

But, you know,
we just don't know,

so now we're getting ready
to find out.

Vanessa: Can I hold
little nari now?

Oh, it's nice
to see you.

-Whoa.
-Hi.

Hi, angel.

You're so sweet.

Yeah, this feels good.

Ashley: I am blown away by
the baby's reception of Vanessa.

She doesn't always take
to new people very quickly,

so this is definitely
a great sign.

But we still have to get
to know Vanessa better

before we can say
she's actually the one.

-Wow.
-I know.

It's just different
because we don't --

like, we typically abstain from,
you know,

introducing our children,
or we wait.

-Wait a little bit.
-Yeah.

-Okay.
-Right.

Do you need anything?

Would you like something
to drink, or --

some water
would be wonderful.

-Okay.
-I'm a little parched.

Yeah.

Vanessa: All my friends
and family know

that I am here pursuing
a plural relationship,

and people were pretty
supportive for the most part,

but I know behind my back

that they're all thinking
and saying, what is she doing?

Has she lost her mind?

But in the meantime,
I want to make sure

that everything goes smoothly
with Dimitri and Ashley.

Dimitri:
So, obviously, you weren't
a polygamist before now.

-No.
-Or even thinking about it.

No.

What the hell makes
this different?

What is it --
I'm still curious about that.

Why is this okay?
[ Laughing ]

I mean,
that's a great question.

I am a big advocate
for people

doing whatever it is
that they want to do.

Living their life however
they want to do

as long as it's authentic,
and they're not hurting anybody,

and they're happy,
you know.

And I love men.

But when I live with my female
friends, it's so fun, you know.

I was beginning to think the guy
I settled down with

is gonna have to be
really freakin' cool

to compete with how much fun I
have living with my girlfriends.

So, it never
occurred to me

that I could have an awesome
best friend to share motherhood,

sisterhood with, and have
potentially a beautiful,

amazing husband,
too, you know.

Baby, you play me.

Play me as you want.

I felt like things are going
really well with Vanessa.

I think so, too.

I mean, there's a lot
of good chemistry

between Vanessa and I
and the family.

Definitely.

I mean, she already knows
what went down

with Joselyn last year.

I'm, like, mesmerized
by you right now.

[ Giggles ]

Did anything happen?

We -- yeah,
we were intimate.

We were intimate.

Okay.

So, I think it's important
for us

to kind of
get clear with Vanessa

on what our ground
rules are.

Right.
So that we can move forward

and have a very nice,
seamless transition.

Absolutely.

You know, we have experienced
dating before,

and for us, I think it's gonna
be very important

that when it comes to intimacy
that we are all in agreement

that this is a good time
and space.

Like, we're all comfortable
with where things are going

before we engage.

And I mean,
before you guys engage.

Oh, yeah. Of course.
To be clear.

-To be clear.
-You're my sister.

Yeah, yeah.

Absolutely.

Vanessa is too important
to this family for me

to risk being with her,
and I don't want to mess it up.

But yeah, there's temptation,
of course.

I mean,
this woman is in my home.

We're sharing a space.

So, at the end of the day,
still gonna be hiding.

Though only you and I are
going to be intimate.

My relationship with you,
my friendship, sisterhood,

is just
as important to me.

Yeah.
We're choosing to be a family.

We're choosing --
-together.

Yeah.

Whatever happens from this point
on, like, we're in it together.

And then when you guys
are feeling froggy,

check in to make sure this is
still what we're all choosing.

-Sure.
-Yes.

It sounds like we're all
on the same page

as far as intimacy
and sisterhood

and family
wherever it goes.

But everyone is typically
on their best behavior

when you first
kind of interact.

And you know,
we've been here before,

and we didn't give enough time
towards building a relationship.

So it'll be interesting to see
how things play out.

Well, I'm good.
You good?

I'm good.
You good?

-[ Laughs ] I'm good.
-We know you're good.

You better be good,
you lucky dog.

I am very good.
I am very, very good.

♪♪

Got some food.

-Yay.
-Yay.

Who ordered the monkey?

-I like monkeys.
-Monkey for the monkey?

-Cinnamon rolls.
-Thank you.

And cookies.

We've been looking
for a sister wife now off and on

for about five years.

Bernie: But our house
burned down last year,

and it really threw
a monkey wrench on plans.

We had to start over
from everything,

so we took some time off
from dating.

But now we're ready.

[ Laughs ]

So how are you feeling,
Kyle?

Good.

Especially
now that I got some food.

-So your allergies are okay?
-Yes, ma'am.

Bernie and I want to talk
to the boys

about pursuing
a sister wife again,

but I'm a little nervous
to see how they're gonna react.

In the past when we've courted
and it didn't work out,

the boys were very much
heartbroken, just as we were,

so I do have worries
about them getting hurt again.

-It's honey.
-It's honey.

What's all
that gross stuff?

John: It's honey
and peanut butter

and banana on toast.

Bernie: Oh, that's good.

So, today is our sabbath.

What do you feel about the fact
that we're not

at the synagogue right now?

I'm just kind of really upset
how everything happened.

Me, too.

We went to a local congregation
for about three years.

Loved those people to death.

Paige: We were very open
and honest with them

that we were polygamists,

and that we were looking
into plural marriage.

We were very much welcome
with it at first,

and then recently,
they got together.

Called in a special meeting,

had the whole congregation there
on a Sunday.

And big trial,
and asked us to leave.

Said if we wanted to repent
of our sin,

then we could come back.

That is not gonna happen.

Let me ask y'all something.

[ Indistinct conversations ]

We've been open and honest
with you guys.

We think
it's time to go ahead

and start looking again
for a new sister wife.

Are you okay with us
starting again?

Because dad and I are ready.

How do you feel about that?

Johnny, I know
it's kind of hard on you.

I'm fine with anything.

John's normally a very honest,
open boy,

but sometimes
he'll kind of hold back

to keep from hurting
people's feelings.

So I am a little scared
that John may be not telling me

exactly how he
fully feels about it,

which I hope
that's not the case.

Do you think if you told
a couple of your other friends,

do you think your friends
would still be your friends

and would handle it okay?

Some of them, maybe,
more than one.

One of my biggest concerns
with searching again

for a sister wife
with the boys,

them getting ostracized
or losing friends

because it's happened
before.

Have you told any of your
friends that we are polygamists?

Just the one friend?

She doesn't agree with it, but
she's not gonna ignore somebody

because they believe
something different.

I do worry sometimes about
how people will react to me

telling them this, but I mean,
it's maybe kinda weird.

It's -- I don't view it as bad.

Are y'all excited about
the potential

of having a second mom,

a second person
married to your dad?

I wouldn't really
call her a mom, per se, but --

we're excited, but --

-you're not?
-Hold up.

Let's --
let's start over.

You're not excited?

That's not
what I said at all.

I said I don't really think that
would be called a mom, per se.

I don't really know.

Oh. I misunderstood
what you said.

In a plural relationship,
children are very much

just as involved as the parents,
and that is my big concern.

I want to make sure
that my children are protected

and taken care of.

I know none of this
has been easy on y'all.

I love you boys.
I'll do anything I can.

♪♪

So I notice that you guys
eat mostly a plant-based diet.

I am not a vegetarian
or a vegan.

I like a steak and burger.

No pork or beef.
We don't cook it.

We don't buy it.

I don't know if that's gonna be
a problem for you.

Jeff: I never really thought
that I would be coming

to Niagara Falls.

-To meet somebody.
-To meet somebody.

It really wasn't too long ago
that we were waiting

for somebody to come
visit us that we had met.

The wait part
is nerve-wracking.

Which means if she doesn't
show up,

it'll be
that much harder.

-Yes.
-[ Laughs ]

♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh oh
oh, oh ♪

♪ oh whoa, whoa, whoa ♪

Tami: Broccoli's good.

Hooray.

You're gonna eat it?

Hey, you!

[ Gasps ] Who's here?

Baby, who's here?

Yay.

Colton: My two wives live
in two separate homes

and two separate towns,

and I split my time
between them every other night,

and last night was my night
to spend with Sophie.

We've come over today
to tami's house

to spend some time
all together as a family.

Are you sure?

I can.
I'm gonna get you.

Ahh!

[ Laughter ]

That was exciting.

Sadie's 3rd birthday
is coming up,

and last year, we met
Sophie on social media

and married her
a few months later.

And so, we're still learning

about each other
as a plural family,

but she is a second mom
to Sadie.

So, we think it's really
important that

Sophie is involved
not only in the party itself,

but also in planning it.

Should we have
a birthday party?

-Yeah.
-Yeah.

What are we gonna do
for her birthday party?

That would be fun.
[ Laughs ]

I've kind of been thinking that
we really haven't had

any opportunities to go out
in public as a family very much.

I think maybe Sadie's birthday
would be

a good opportunity
to do that.

Even though we're new
in our plural family,

we're ready to take
on another sister wife.

But we still have
not introduced

Sophie to the community
as my second wife.

And that's mainly because
plural marriage

is frowned
on in Southern Utah.

I know that it's been
really hard for Sophie

because she's felt
like a closet wife.

Ultimately, that's been hard
for me, as well,

and for all of us.

It's nerve-wracking 'cause we
have been private for so long.

Polygamy is illegal in Utah,
so what that means

is that the legal wife
would not be prosecuted,

but both the husband
of a plural family

and the plural wives
are at risk for prosecution,

and that's a very
real fear for us.

So, what do you two think about
making Sadie's birthday

sort of our first public
outing together?

I definitely think it's time
to just, like,

rip off the band-aid.

I think that it'll be, like,
freeing.

That we can just be who we are
and do what we're doing.

We're celebrating Sadie's
birthday, and it'll be good.

It's definitely sucky being
a plural wife

and feeling like you
have to be a closet wife.

We have not gone out
in the public at all.

-Not as a family.
-Not as a family.

I mean, we've never gone
to the movie or gone out

to eat or anything.

All of the time that we've spent
together is just in our homes,

and I love being a part
of this family,

and I think that what we have
is really great,

and I don't want
to hide it anymore.

I've kind of gotten to the point
where I'm tired

of being
stressed about it.

Yeah.

I just want it to be
the way it is.

Yeah.

I know that before we can add
another wife to the family,

we need to go public with
Sophie first, but by nature,

I am a very
introverted person,

and this is definitely
out of my comfort zone,

and it makes me
really nervous.

I think we've lived with enough
stress the last year.

Yeah, definitely.

At least we're getting out
of the house.

For Sadie's party, we are
going to go to the park,

just the four of us,
and we're really crowded

where everybody can see us.

And I think it'll be
the perfect location for us

to come out
as a plural family.

It's something
that we have to do.

Are you sure you want to have
your party at a playground

and not at the farm?

[ Laughter ]

-Okay.
-Okay.

Daddy's just teasing you,
honey.

Daddy's just teasing you.

[ Laughter ]

I love it when she gets
in that voice.

♪♪

Okay, guys.

[ Grunts ]

Hey, bud.

Gonna miss you, son.

For a couple months now,
we've been courting

this woman named Jennifer.

I get along with her great.

Vanessa gets along
with her great,

and Jeff gets along
with her great,

and the kids
really like her.

You want to say hi?
-Hi.

She's really fun, bubbly,
energetic person.

And it looks like she could
potentially be

a really good fit
for our family.

Things have been
going so well

that we finally asked her
to meet us in person.

We were hoping to find a time
and a place

where maybe
we could meet with you.

Whoa.

You are stronger than you know,
little pumpkin.

Jennifer lives up
by Niagara Falls,

and she's a nail
technician by day,

and a bartender at night.

Yep. Mama's gonna go bye bye
in the blue car.

So, it's hard for her to get
off time to visit with us.

So we're gonna take the trip
out to her and go see her.

Bye, baby.
I love you.

We've got some friends of ours
coming and staying at our home.

They'll watch the kids
while we're in niagara.

So, here we go,
off to the airport.

Here, wait.
Daddy gets a hug goodbye.

We have all these emotions
going on.

Yeah.

We're leaving our children
for the first time, ever,

and we're going to meet
somebody we've never met before.

You guys gonna try
and stow away?

I don't think you'll get
very far.

You get all those butterflies,

and you wonder,
is this gonna work?

Is it not gonna work?

Is she person I think she is?

It can be a risk,
and that's a big deal.

-Wave.
-Want to blow kisses?

I love you.
Bye bye.

Vanessa:
Getting this chance to meet
Jennifer makes the relationship

so much more real
and more scary

because if it works out, gosh,
we might have a new sister wife.

It's a big deal.

Sharis: This is the make it
or break it time.

We're gonna see
what direction

this relationship
is gonna head in.

Even though we've been
burned in the past,

I think we're all looking
forward to this meeting

with Jennifer, and we're hopeful
that it's gonna work out.

But you never know.

-Bye bye.
-Bye, guys.

Love you!

How do you feel about me
talking to another woman again?

It's really important
that I know that John's with us.

But if everybody else
is pushing for it,

and just one person
says no,

then what is that person
supposed to change?

♪♪

Ashley:
All right, so you're gonna
have to give me help

'cause I know about poke.

Don't worry.
I'll set you up.

Woman: Hi, welcome
to poke Hawaiian.

-Hi.
-Hi.

In a polygamist family,

it's very important
for the husband

and the wife to have a very
strong connection and bond,

but it's as equally important
as the sister wives

to have a strong bond,
as well.

And we've not had the best
of luck

finding someone who truly values
me as a sister wife.

As was the case when Joselyn
slept with Dimitri

ahead of schedule.

So what else happened
on the date?

Umm -- we had some
really good food.

The fried rice
was really good.

I gave her quite a few
opportunities to say

something,
and she didn't.

At this point,
I don't feel like

she has enough respect
for me as a person.

So I'm really hoping
that Vanessa is someone

that I can trust
as a sister wife.

First,
a toast to sisterhood.

-Cheers.
-Salut.

Do you want some wasabi?

Yes,
I'll take a little bit.

So, how are you feeling
being here, meeting the babies?

Well, it was wonderful
to meet them.

I think they were excited.

I think they liked me,
but then they were, like,

"okay."
-we're done.

We'll see ya.

No, they're so cute.

Vanessa: I'm really excited
that Ashley and I

get to know each other better,
but I am new to this lifestyle,

new to their family
at this point.

I'm really curious to see
what her expectations

are for a potential sister wife
coming in to the family.

What is she looking for?

What are her boundaries
she wants to set?

So, I have a lot
of questions.

So, I notice that you guys
eat very healthily,

and mostly plant-based diet,
right?

Yeah.

If we had to put a label on it,
we'd be closest to pescatarian,

but we don't consume dairy.

So, if I were to come
and join the family,

would the expectation be that --
'cause right now, I eat --

I like a steak and burger
for dinner.

Yeah. Yeah.

So, what would that
look like?

Umm --

Dimitri is very adamant
about no pork or beef.

We don't cook it.
We don't buy it.

We don't eat it when we go out,
like, none of that stuff.

So, I don't know if that's gonna
be a problem for you.

I am not a vegetarian or vegan,

but I hope that there's
a bit of wiggle room

if I do want
a steak or cheeseburger

every once in a while,
so we'll have to see about that.

That might be interesting.

We'll see.

How do you feel about that?

Would you be able to adapt
to that type of --

yeah, I mean,
I'm a very adaptable person.

I'm always trying
to eat healthy.

I'm a pisces, so I will try to
get away with whatever I can.

So if I'm left to my own
devices, like I said,

I'll eat pizza every night
and burgers and stuff.

Wow. If I'm left
to my own devices,

I might eat cupcakes
for the rest of my life, so.

Ashley: Vanessa seems
like a fun person,

but if I have any concern,
it would be the diet.

She really enjoys the way
that she has been eating.

But it's something
that we take very seriously.

So, we just really have to kind
of work through and understand

better to know if,
at the end of the day,

this is going to be
a viable relationship.

Thanks for this
lovely lunch.

You bought it, honey.
Thank you.

Thanks for coming
with me.

I'm teasing.

I really like Vanessa,
but she's never been

in a polygamist
relationship before,

and I'm not really sure she
understands what that entails.

Dimitri and Vanessa have
their solo date coming up,

and I hope that goes great
without any setbacks,

but it'll be a trust test
because if they don't connect,

this relationship's
gonna be over

before it even gets started.

Thank you
for bringing me.

I've had poke before, so --
-oh. I'm glad you like it

maybe I'll whip it up for us
one day at home if I come home.

Hey.
Cheers to that.

Cheers to that.

[ Laughing ]

♪♪

Bernie:
Paige and I took our sons
out to lunch one day

to tell them
that we are searching

for a second wife again.

Can't stress how important it is

that we're all
in the same accord.

Whether that be in our faith,
courting, moving forward.

We are family.
We have to move as one unit,

so it's really important that
I know that John's with us.

Bernie: Tell you what.

Let's go take a walk
down there by the water.

He might be holding
some things in.

I'm just hoping he trusts me
enough to talk to me about 'em.

So, what'd you need?

Just want to chit-chat
with you for a little bit.

About what?

[ Whispers ]
About a lot of things.

[ Normal voice ]
Please don't do this thing
where you bottle it up

and shell it up.

Talk to me, son.

John:
I don't feel like I could tell
him just anything, everything.

I feel like some things have --

should have a meaning
of them being said.

And that's when
they should be said.

[ Sighs ]

How do you feel about me
talking to another woman again?

I guess, you know, okay.

What if everybody else
is pushing for it,

and just one person
says no,

then what is that person
supposed to change?

Oh.

That's a pretty
deep question.

I don't really know
how to answer that.

But you've never really
pushed against it before.

I never do.
No, and you never do.

I'm saying it doesn't
really matter, so.

I'm being as honest
as I can be now.

What questions do you
have about it?

How many wives
would you want?

You know,
how many is too many?

How many is enough?

I think three is
a real good number.

I think three,
I can balance time better.

Yeah, how would you do that,
though?

Balance time?
Yeah.

Well, I'm gonna have to have
to sleep at night, right?

Right now, I sleep at night in
the same bed with your mother.

If I have two wives, I'll have
to rotate nights between them.

What?

You know, everybody has
their own room,

definitely
has their own room.

What were you meaning?

I was meaning, like, you --
never mind.

I don't think you got at all
what I was talking about.

I guess I didn't.

If you'd expunge on it a little
bit, I would probably get it.

So we have, like,
one house or something?

We all are still together,
intermingled?

Yes, definitely.

But you --
what are you talking about,

spending different days --

might be a little bit
too much information for you.

[ Sighs ]

Anyways.

Your mother and I, we care a lot
about you and Kyle.

Y'all are my world.

I want to do this
because I want a big family.

I want a strong family.

It was good to have
a heart-to-heart with John.

I never really had to do before
when he was younger.

It's kind of awkward now
that he's a little older.

I hate to see him hurt
or confused.

I'm just gonna have
to handle it with care.

All right, we're going forward
from here,

and if questions
and concerns do arise,

just talk to me.

Deal?
Deal.

Deal.
You can do better than that.

There we go.
Deal.

How are you feeling?
Um...

I just feel a little bit awkward
because I've never been

in a situation like this,

going out on a date
with someone else's husband.

How are you feeling about,
you know.

♪♪

♪♪

You got the keys, right?

-Yeah, I do.
-Okay.

I'll just come check out
your room first,

and then I'll go get settled
afterwards.

-Yeah.
-We've just got to buffalo.

Vanessa: We're super excited.

We're in a hotel now,
getting settled.

Yeah.

And before too long,
we're gonna meet Jennifer.

That's right.

Oh.

So much for a nicely
made bed.

Yeah, we can sleep here.
Mm.

This is the first time
we've ever traveled anywhere

to meet a potential
sister wife.

Generally speaking,
they either come to visit us,

or we live pretty close.
-We live in the same community.

Yeah, so this is a first
for us.

-It's a big deal.
-Pretty big step.

Do you know if your room's
on the same floor?

I think so.
I think it's just down the hall.

That's cool.

When we travel,
we get two rooms.

That way it's just like home.

Tonight, I'm gonna be
with sharis,

and tomorrow night,
I'll be with Vanessa.

And we'll just keep on
with our schedule.

It makes things real easy and
gives the ladies some privacy,

and it works.

Win-win.

Win-win-win.

Win-win-win.

So, what's the game plan
for when Jennifer gets here?

Yes.

Do we want to do just,
like, picnic at the park?

Really just kind of casual?

Yeah, I'd prefer
a more casual setting

and not in a restaurant
where there's so many people,

and it's hard to hear.

I'd like to be out in the open
and just take it easy.

It's kind of romantic,
being right there by the falls.

Maybe she'll "fall" for us.

So anyway, well, why don't we
go get settled in my room?

Okay, that sounds good.

-No problem.
-It's not long now.

-Yes.
-It's kind of exciting.

We get to find out what kind
of person she is,

meet her in person.

So there's a mixture
of excitement and nervousness.

I got butterflies.

All right.
See you in a minute.

Vanessa: We're putting a lot
on the line right now

to leave the kids behind,
come out and meet

Jennifer,
so we're really hopeful

that it will be
something good.

See you guys
in a little bit.

♪♪

♪♪

[ Blows ]

Tonight, Dimitri and I
have our first solo date.

I love spending time with Ashley
and the kids,

but at the end of the day,

I am only gonna be
dating Dimitri,

and he's potentially hopefully
gonna be my husband.

So it's gonna be nice to have
just some one-on-one time.

I just feel a little bit awkward

because I've never been
in a situation like this,

going out on a date
with someone else's husband.

-Hey, hey, hey.
-Hey.

-Getting all glam?
-Yes.

I came in
to check on you.

-Ohh.
-How are you feeling?

Um...

Nervous.

How are you feeling,
like, about,

you know, us going out?

I mean, obviously, you and I
get on so well and everything.

It's great, but I guess

I just don't want to,
like, check in with you

and see how you're feeling
about all of this.

I'm good.
I'm doing great.

I mean, so far, everything
is just kind of flowing.

Ashley: I know that most people
probably think

that I'm crazy going
through this again,

but I'm doing
what I believe in.

Anything in life
that's worth having

is gonna take some effort.

Do you feel some type of way
about, you know,

does this make you feel
weird or awkward that --

you know, I --

I don't know.

I mean, I feel like, as long
as you're feeling good,

then I'm feeling good.
Oh, yeah.

I just want to check in
with you.

Yeah. Well, thank you.
Yeah.

I mean, if I didn't,
you would probably know

before I even
open my mouth.

Vanessa: Knowing that Ashley
is totally cool with me

going on a date
with her husband

makes all this seem
a lot more normal now.

And I love Ashley and Dimitri,

so now I just want
to go have a good time

and hopefully not do anything
to screw up this date.

Thank you.
I'm excited.

I'll let you finish.
Okay.

I'll show you the final magic
that I'm gonna try to do here.

All right.
Thanks, Ashley.

Mm-hmm.

Ashley: I am really excited
for Dimitri and Vanessa

because I feel like this
is the time

that they need to
really see if they connect.

I know that mistakes
have happened in the past,

but I'm not nervous
about it.

I think that we've definitely
covered enough

of the ground rules

that I can sit back
and kind of just let them

do their thing.

Dimitri: [ Clears throat ]

Is it okay?

Is it okay?

I love the combination
of colors.

Thank you.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Very nice.

How you feeling?
Ready?

I'm hungry, actually.

Ah, yes.
Hungry.

I'm excited for you guys.
You're excited?

Yes.
This is gonna be great.

Hey.

♪♪

-Yeah, there she is.
-Look at you.

-[ Laughs ]
-Beautiful.

-Oh, thank you.
-It's nice and flowy.

It's hot outside,
you know.

It is hot. It is.
It is.

When I saw Vanessa
walk down the steps,

I was feeling --
feeling tingly.

You know. [ Laughs ]

I don't think I have the words
to really wrap around

that right now.

Other than it was just
pretty intense.

Well, you kids have fun.

[ Laughter ]

What time to be home?

Before the clock
strikes 12:00.

-Okay.
-And I will be calling you.

You'll be calling?
Okay.

Ashley: I want to make sure that
they have an awesome time,

and that they, you know,
make it home before midnight.

My alarm's set to 9:30.

Yes, and that they go
from the restaurant.

Straight back home.
To the car.

To home.
To the house.

Done.
And that's it.

9:30.
[ Laughs ]

♪♪

All right.

This is gonna be our first
time introducing

Sophie as my second wife
to the community.

This is the perfect park.

Tami: Running into people
just makes me really nervous.

We're hoping
that it'll go okay.

♪♪

Sophie:
What a fun little place.

Today is a big day.

We are having Sadie's birthday,

and we are throwing her
a little party in the park,

just the four of us.

Colton: This is gonna be
our first time introducing

Sophie as my second wife
to the community.

We chose a kind
of popular park,

and we didn't invite
any of the immediate family

because we didn't really want
to be in a situation

where we could just kind of hide
in that safety net.

We know that it's going
to rock the boat,

but it's something
that we just have to do

because ultimately,
we don't want to feel like

we've got to live our lives
in the shadows,

and we don't want to bring
another life into the family

if she's going to have
to feel that way.

-All right.
-Do you want to take two trips?

Coming out with all of us
as a family has been a big step,

and choosing to go out to a park
where it is very public

and running into people
just makes me really nervous,

but we're hoping that
even if we do, it'll go okay.

Is this the perfect park?

-Yeah.
-Mm-hmm.

-Should we find some ducks?
-Yeah.

Colton: It's a nice day.

♪♪

As we're walking up, and we're
trying to figure out

where we're gonna land,

we're noticing that there's
not really anybody here.

Want to tie it
on that one there?

-Corner to corner?
-Yeah.

[ Ducks quacking ]

Colton:
We're excited for all of us
to be here together as a family

and put ourselves out
in the public, you know.

But as it turns out,
there is no one here.

[ Duck quacks ]

Have fun!
Stay where I can see you!

She needs some siblings
to play with.

Colton: Maybe by next year,
she'll have some.

Yeah.
Just quiet.

Did we knew it'd be that way
and subconsciously chose

to come to this park on Sunday
'cause it'd be quiet?

Right.

Kind of expect it
on a Sunday morning, so --

most of them
are probably in church.

Mm-hmm.

Even though we identify
as mormons,

we are not affiliated with
the official mainstream church.

In their eyes,
we are apostates,

but we probably should have
thought that in a town

that's heavily as lds is,

our town is, most people will be
in church on a Sunday morning.

There are a lot of ducks,
though.

[ Laughing ]

This big one.

Oh. Okay.

[ Duck quacks ]
Oh, careful.

[ Laughter ]

Sophie: I'm a little scared
of the big ones.

I'm not gonna lie.

[ Duck quacks loudly ]

Whoa, okay.
[ Laughs ]

A swarm of ducks.

A swarm of ducks.

Whoa.

It's kind of just been
really nice to just come out

with just us
and not have to pretend

that we're not
what we are.

Not have to feel like
we have to hide.

Yeah.
It's been nice.

I mean, granted, there's not
a lot of people here.

Colton: We're ready to take
on another wife.

So, it's discouraging thought.

We really didn't get
to accomplish our goal

of being out
in the public

and trying to be open
about our family.

-Okay, ready?
-Yeah.

Sophie:
It's disappointing because
it's a little hard to try

and claim my sister wife
and my husband and my daughter

if nobody's there
to witness it.

And I don't think we'll even
be ready to court a third wife

until we are able
to overcome this hurdle.

I hope that god will give us
the faith

and the strength we need
to make that happen.

Has this been a fun
little party?

-Yeah!
-Yeah?

♪♪

Jeff: Man, that's beautiful.

I never really thought
that I would be coming

to Niagara Falls.

-To meet somebody.
-To meet somebody.

We're finally in Niagara Falls.

We flew across the country
for the first time,

and now we're meeting
Jennifer for the first time.

We're really excited,
but it's just a lot to take in.

I can't believe
we're right here.

To find Jennifer
this far away from us,

and to think that it
might be a fit, you know.

To come all this way
just to meet.

It's pretty crazy, actually.

It is.
It is very crazy.

I never would have
pictured it.

Vanessa: Last year, I was just
in a different head space

because of my pregnancy.

But this year, I'm feeling

much more present
in the relationship.

But I'm also nervous to see
how it plays out

because the last time we were
in a courtship with malena,

and she didn't show up
at the airport.

That was really hard for us
because, you know,

who wants to feel
that rejection?

So waiting for Jennifer
to show up,

it brings up similar feelings,
like, will she show up?

I guess we're gonna find out.

[ Bell dinging ]

[ Bird chirping ]

It's nerve-wracking.
-It is nerve-wracking.

The waiting part
is nerve-wracking.

I wish I could skip this part
and just jump

right into the middle,
you know?

Yeah.

You know, it really wasn't
too long ago

that we were kind
of sitting in an airport,

waiting for somebody to come
visit us that we had met.

I think this time's gonna be
a lot different with Jennifer.

I think she's gonna show up.

Sharis: Yeah.
I think so, too.

I think so, too.

Which means if she doesn't
show up,

it'll be that much harder.

Yeah.

Car just pulled up over there,
and I'm wondering if that's her.

[ Bell dinging ]

Not yet.
Too tall.

I guess that raises
the question,

how long would we wait?

I don't know.

[ Laughing ]
I don't know, either.

Vanessa: I think rejection
is always hard,

so if it happens again,
you know, I don't want that.

Jeff: We can only handle
so much rejection.

♪♪

Next on
"seeking sister wife"...

I will have
the butcher's cut.

Yeah.
-Are you serious?

I'm getting ready to fall out
of my chair.

In our home,
we don't eat any red meat.

It's almost like a violation.

This is painful.

Mm-mm! [ Laughs ]

Kyle:
Is it crowded in there?

Dude, you see me?
I can't move.

We're back in the hunt
for a second wife.

Kind of hard to bring
one home to a camper.

It makes intimacy
a little bit harder.

Look, guys.

I found a rental house
that I really like,

and it is perfect for us.

I do not want
to share a room.

Sophie:
We're at the farmer's market,
and we are going to try again

to come out into public
together as a plural family.

Colton: Polygamy is against
the law in this state,

so we really have no idea

how people are going
to respond to us.

I'm actually my husband's
second wife.